The "I wish to receive Pm's" (twist on the how many)

[UnashamedVoyeur]

I'd like more PMs

I'd like to get more PMs. When I say more, I really mean some. When I say some, I really mean any. My total PM count stands at a whopping zero!

To be fair though, I'm a guy, and I should be making the effort. Regardless of what the feminist ideal says, the way of the world is that guys have to be the instigators and girls the reluctantly pursued. I've just never been at all comfortable chatting up 20 girls to be rejected by 19 of them.

 

[Mindfondler]

I've just never been at all comfortable chatting up 20 girls to be rejected by 19 of them.

I was never able to play that "numbers game". Actually, I was never any good at chatting up girls. I'd happily talk to women, and I'd make a lot of friends that way, including some very good ones, but there was never any extra chemistry there. Fortunately, things were different with a very special young lady who is now my wife, but she was never just another number in a statistical game.

Similarly, with PMs, I'd suggest that quality is much more important than quantity.

 

[Noor]

I was never able to play that "numbers game". Actually, I was never any good at chatting up girls. I'd happily talk to women, and I'd make a lot of friends that way, including some very good ones, but there was never any extra chemistry there. Fortunately, things were different with a very special young lady who is now my wife, but she was never just another number in a statistical game.

Similarly, with PMs, I'd suggest that quality is much more important than quantity.

The advantage of talking to a lot of women is that you get to know how women think in a nonsexualized environment. Also you get better at just talking. Women friends can also be quite good at helping to fix you up.

 

[Lance_GoodThrus]

Hi everyone

Hi all. I'm just surfing through some threads today and bouncing a few comments back and forth through them. I'd welcome any PMs from any ladies who may care to chat.

 

[rayhorndog802]

Hey I am Ray I am 25 white and a fun guy looking for women. I want to receive more pm's.

 

[Mindfondler]

The advantage of talking to a lot of women is that you get to know how women think in a nonsexualized environment. Also you get better at just talking. Women friends can also be quite good at helping to fix you up.

I've just realised that what I wrote above was ambiguous! What I intended to say was:

I was never any good at chatting up girls. I happily talked to women [during my dating days], and I made a lot of friends that way, including some very good ones, but there was never any extra chemistry there. Fortunately, things were different with a very special young lady who is now my wife, but she was never just another number in a statistical game.
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I completely agree with you that female friends are a great asset for a man to have. I have many, including several from before I was married, and I'm lucky enough to have a wife who understands this, allows me plenty of space, and isn't jealous at all. Indeed, my friends have become our friends over the years.

Anyway, I'm getting a bit off-topic here. My original point was more of a rant against the "numbers game" as an assumed institution in dating. I hope that it didn't sound as if I was criticising UnashamedVoyeur, as that wasn't my intention at all. My apologies go to him if it seemed to come across that way.

 

[JaggyMcSporran]

It's not something we've had experience of before but myself and my wife would like a PM; see where it would take us.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am sure that for men it is much harder to get good replies after throwing yourself out there. I do hope that this thread has helped for many to see that reactions come more easily if you offer up some info.
I still see "hi, so and so, age, pm me" -- that can't really work.

offer up something about yourself, your interests, things you like to talk about. Anything besides your age and gender.

 

[malinko]

It makes my day feel great when I have a pm. I get one every once in a blue moon but more would cheer up the day more often.

 

[skittishwind]

I would also love to recieve and send PM's...meet new ppl,share my thoughts and feelings with them...alas i dont recieve any PM's

 

[Pondlife]

Not having a go just find it odd that two on this page expect to have had messages when they've posted less than a couple of dozen times, in one case less than one post a day. How many women's profiles have you really taken note of with the same sort of statistics, guessing none as you'll notice those who are more active.

Coupled with there likely to be fewer women than guys on here in the first place, some of those not actually looking to pm people and those that are likely receiving messages anyway, so not really having to go out of their way to seek more.

Seems almost tantamount to going to a heavy metal concert standing at the back whispering the chorus to one song then leaving and wondering why you aren't getting a record contract....

 

[Suburbia]

Stay at home Dad who would love to receive PMs from stay at home Mom

 

[JHat]

Not having a go just find it odd that two on this page expect to have had messages when they've posted less than a couple of dozen times, in one case less than one post a day. How many women's profiles have you really taken note of with the same sort of statistics, guessing none as you'll notice those who are more active.

Coupled with there likely to be fewer women than guys on here in the first place, some of those not actually looking to pm people and those that are likely receiving messages anyway, so not really having to go out of their way to seek more.

Seems almost tantamount to going to a heavy metal concert standing at the back whispering the chorus to one song then leaving and wondering why you aren't getting a record contract....

Does it?

Does it seem "tantamount" to that?

Douche.

 

[SassySheDevil]

JHat, do you just need a hug or something? What has crawled up your ass??

 

[JHat]

Are you offering an e-hug?

Or a proctological exam?

Either way, I'm good. Thanks.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Are you offering an e-hug?

Or a proctological exam?

Either way, I'm good. Thanks.

Well if you need something up your ass to calm you down, I'm sure that could be arranged.

 

[JHat]

Ooooo

That is so sassy

What does sassy even mean, really?

 

[SassySheDevil]

Ooooo

That is so sassy

What does sassy even mean, really?

And here I had pegged you as smart.. Jackass who needs love or something. but smart..

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sassy

 

[JHat]

I'm just struggling with the terminology

"She" I get. "Devil" I can draw some inferences from

But sassy? It's like a shampoo commercial.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm just struggling with the terminology

"She" I get. "Devil" I can draw some inferences from

But sassy? It's like a shampoo commercial.

I'm sorry that it's too tough for you.

Anyway, I was just trying to offer you a reason to calm down and stop being a dick. Thought maybe my offer of the E- hug and boobies against you might relax you, but I can see the object up your ass was more appealing.

Enjoy your day.

 

[JHat]

Ok sassytude

Ill take the boobie hug.

Where do I collect?

 

[SassySheDevil]

haha see boobs even calm down the dick heads!!

You gotta relax and stop being an ass though.

Think you can handle that??

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

I like all pms from both women and men. Why not? That's what literotica's for, right?

 

[UnashamedVoyeur]

Not having a go just find it odd that two on this page expect to have had messages when they've posted less than a couple of dozen times, in one case less than one post a day. How many women's profiles have you really taken note of with the same sort of statistics, guessing none as you'll notice those who are more active.

Coupled with there likely to be fewer women than guys on here in the first place, some of those not actually looking to pm people and those that are likely receiving messages anyway, so not really having to go out of their way to seek more.

Seems almost tantamount to going to a heavy metal concert standing at the back whispering the chorus to one song then leaving and wondering why you aren't getting a record contract....

You've just made exactly the same point as me, you've just used different words to illustrate it.

Essentially what you're saying is that, as a guy, you have to put yourself out there. I agree with that, but it doesn't make it any easier for those of us who are naturally quiet. Your reference to "less than one post per day" is actually my point of frustration (in life, generally) - people who talk more (even if what they say is utter codswallop) are more often that not socially more popular.

 

[malinko]

I'm looking for a good pm that can go on for a while.