stickygirl
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Heroic tears, but as I mentioned before, the Mediterranean peoples are far more demonstrative in expressing their feelings. ( Don't get me started on Spanish soccer supremos )https://www.poetryintranslation.com/PITBR/Greek/Iliad24.php
"After the funeral games, the men left the assembly and scattered each to their own ship, ready for supper and then their fill of sweet sleep. But Achilles wept in remembrance of his friend, and sleep that conquers all refused to come. He tossed this way and that, regretting Patroclus' bravery and strength, remembering all they had done together and the hardships they had shared, embroiled in war or on the cruel sea. He shed great tears, thinking of these things, lying now on his side, his back, or on his face. Each night he would stagger to his feet, at last, and wander grieving along the sand."
Later, after he kills Hector in revenge for Patroclus' death, Hector's father Priam comes to beg for the return of his son's body; Achilles is moved to tears again, and after agreeing to Priam's request, encourages him to "grieve for him with a flood of tears".
Even in a much more violent age than our own, the Greeks didn't seem to see anything unmanly in the idea of the greatest warrior of his age weeping profusely over the death of hislovercousin and on other occasions. I'm not by any means suggesting that the ancient Greek model of masculinity was a healthy one, but it's a reminder that "boys don't cry" is not a universal fact of history.
(Odysseus is shown as concealing tears in various places, but then he's defined more by his guile than by his fighting skills.)
It's the northern Europeans with all their Lutheran / Protestant / Victorian suppression that was exported with the pilgrims to the US. Because their culture is based around patriarchy ( sorry, yes that word again ) then the men were held to account but if their chattel wives wept and tore their hair, it didn't really matter.
ETA
There is a BBC radio 4 podcast by Natalie Haynes focusing on the life of Demeter. Witty and very funny but may not be available outside the UK...
'Hades conspires with his siblings Zeus and Gaia to abduct Persephone and force her to live with him in the underworld as his wife. Many versions of this story are sanitized for children but the original is not. It is clear that Persephone is tricked and trafficked, that she hates and fears Hades and never becomes accustomed to life among the dead. And that her mother Demeter is furious and grief-stricken.'
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