The New Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[the captians wench]

I get it, partially.

The only correct answer to I am looking for some serious/commit/repeat whatever implies more than one off , if you are, can only be ....with the right person, I think. So if they 'poof' ( which means something also different ) it might be that they would but your answer IS wrong, but for them, which doesn't make it wrong for you, which makes it all still legitimate on both sides. You do what's right for you, they do what's right for them.

Its very unfair not to be listened to for your truth. But its partly because there is a world of people not telling these truths and asking and answering ' what are you looking for' truthfully I think. People like to answer with what they think is correct for other so as not to be alone, or to get some action, not to answer their truth. It confuses the hell out of everyone, including ourselves! If you are meeting somewhere where "messaging" is the approach can you be balder about what you seek in some place before they approach you? In a profile?

That would be great if anyone actually read a profile before messaging.

Like, I have no issues if that's what they are looking for, and I am secure enough in myself that I don't "feel bad" or what ever because of what I want. I just wish people would be honest about it. I never have been good at "the game" I don't know what it is that I'm "supposed to" say. I know that there is this thing where girls aren't supposed to say what they mean, and boys are supposed to say that they want long term even if they just want sex, and now there is the whole "netflix and chill?" or "wanna hang out?" which is code for hook ups, but I just can't get into that.

Things would be so much more simple if people just said what the fuck they mean rather than talking in code. I don't have time for that shit.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Things would be so much more simple if people just said what the fuck they mean rather than talking in code. I don't have time for that shit.

And then they get angry when you don't read their minds...

 

[the captians wench]

This!

And then they get angry when you don't read their minds...

EXACTLY!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BiBunny]

I SERIOUSLY HATE when some one on a dating site/app asks "so what are you looking for?" I never seem to be able to answer it correctly.

In truth, I just want some one that I can blow and fuck and then have a beer with and talk about life before we fuck some more. That's what I'm looking for.

What I get are guys who want to cyber, or want one and go, or mostly want a serious relationship from the first conversation. A serious monogamous relationship. What is with that? Like the majority of them already have kids and/or are divorced and they want to jump right into another marriage? Dude, I'm not sure I want more than one conversation yet, I'm not ready for your level of seriousness.

But every fucking guy asks "so what are you looking for?"

TBH, I think it's just a dude thing. Most of them either want a fuck buddy who's at their beck and call at all times, or they want to get married and have you cater to their every stupid whim. Either one is a totally narcissistic position to take, given how the woman's agency is never taken into account. You must always be around to attend to them, but how dare you have wants or needs of your own?

Please note, this only applies to maybe...99% of men. There are, in fact, some who can manage the "friends with benefits" thing without catching feelings (God forbid) or just ignoring the "friends" part altogether. They can be difficult to find--and are more or less nonexistent on dating sites--but they're worth collecting, I assure you. Not that I have any experience with harem-collecting, of course.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[the captians wench]

TBH, I think it's just a dude thing. Most of them either want a fuck buddy who's at their beck and call at all times, or they want to get married and have you cater to their every stupid whim. Either one is a totally narcissistic position to take, given how the woman's agency is never taken into account. You must always be around to attend to them, but how dare you have wants or needs of your own?

Please note, this only applies to maybe...99% of men. There are, in fact, some who can manage the "friends with benefits" thing without catching feelings (God forbid) or just ignoring the "friends" part altogether. They can be difficult to find--and are more or less nonexistent on dating sites--but they're worth collecting, I assure you. Not that I have any experience with harem-collecting, of course.

That seems to be my experience. Like the ones who ask that question are either on one end of the spectrum or the other.

Like, I'm not totally closed off to "developing feelings" because emotions are one of those variables that are hard to predict with any sort of accuracy. I am just not into setting out to look for my next marriage. 1) I have a tendency to compare every potential to the compatibility that Jounar and I have, which is near impossible to match and 2) Even though I've been divorced before, I take marriage rather seriously, and it's not something I can even consider with a person who I just browsed their profile.

God don't I know it! I've had trouble with them escaping lately. I used to have a nice rotation that kept me very happy. Hard to find top types who are so willing to share and still like to hear about your shitty day, or at least pretend to.

I feel especially privileged with most of the men I have known now!

I had better luck when I was a bright shiny new 25 year old submissive. Now if I date the same age group I was then, they are looking for a 20 something to make them feel young, and if I keep up the 10-15 year age difference they are looking to marry on the first date.

I've been told that my "boy brain" can be intimidating. So there's that too.

Sofa or bed? Bed or sofa?

G is home but has an important work thing in a city he can commute to from here. I am being noisy and am worried about disturbing him (coughing and so on). He says bed.....but he was also out on the town the night before last and looks really tired.

This is where the twenty four idea is difficult for me.....I cannot follow without questioning, nor would I want to. I reserve the right to make my own decisions...( because some of his are silly...he ate liquorice for supper on the train ) . And I find it hard to put his wants before his needs.


I'll make the decision soon....

Night night....

I think the bit in bold would depend a lot on your partner. If I were on the proper side of the world and sat as Jounar's pet 24/7 he would expect me to ask questions when I had them and to pretty much manage myself. And I think I've become a bit too independent to be happy with a PYL who wanted to micro manage me. That used to be my "ideal" now I'm more "fuck that"

Besides, I like a PYL that I can present my point of view to. I don't always expect to have it considered, but I want to at least be heard. And if I can throw in a bit of cheek, all the better.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[the captians wench]

Another item marked off of my to do list. I don't think there is anything more satisfying than wiping a completed task off of my white board.

Dorthy Gail dress being packed and then it's off to my niece in time for Halloween.

Next some finishing on the silk skirt and bustle.

Tomorrow it's post office day and start on the final corset I have on order.

If I'm diligent, I can be back to my own projects by Sunday.


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Oh fudge! Scratch that. I forgot I have homework due tonight. It's a second chance thing so kind of important. push all sewing back 1/2 a day.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Isn't it about time for Meeks to drunk post again?

 

[desertslave]

Isn't it about time for Meeks to drunk post again?

If I had some of that Vodkilla I could volunteer as her stunt double!

I think I'm running on endorphins, giggles from my bro, and good baseball tonight. It's kinda cool! Yesterday I was profoundly low for no sensible reason. I'll blame sunspots.

 

[MeekMe]

Mixed feelings today. :/ I was stressed out and Mister did everything he could, but time was not with us. He's been amazing and did a great job, but I can see he's unhappy with the events of today. I made a little snack for him and I hope he knows he did a good job. I'll tell him later when things are more settled.

 

[MeekMe]

Isn't it about time for Meeks to drunk post again?

Shit... I just noticed this post. Fuck... I can't drunk post I threw up today.

 

[desertslave]

Mixed feelings today. :/ I was stressed out and Mister did everything he could, but time was not with us. He's been amazing and did a great job, but I can see he's unhappy with the events of today. I made a little snack for him and I hope he knows he did a good job. I'll tell him later when things are more settled.

Shit... I just noticed this post. Fuck... I can't drunk post I threw up today.

Gentle hugs for both of those. Hope you're feeling better soonest.

 

[MeekMe]

Gentle hugs for both of those. Hope you're feeling better soonest.

Thank you, I'm actually ok. Just sending out thoughts and truth.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Shit... I just noticed this post. Fuck... I can't drunk post I threw up today.

Dammit! Therefore you should probably procure a stomach fixative of some sort, so that you can remedy this

 

[MeekMe]

Dammit! Therefore you should probably procure a stomach fixative of some sort, so that you can remedy this

Am I this forum's resident drunk?


If so, I need to fix this reputation.

 

[desertslave]

Thank you, I'm actually ok. Just sending out thoughts and truth.

Soooo... in no vino veritas...

or in vo nino noritas...

or vino vito doritos...

wait, still not right...

OH!

Inna gadda da vida!!!!

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Am I this forum's resident drunk?


If so, I need to fix this reputation.

I think you just found salvation in that Oreo between us

 

[starrynightin64]

So glad this freaking week is over.

 

[midwestyankee]

Am I this forum's resident drunk?


If so, I need to fix this reputation.

It's not even close, I'm afraid to say. Here's the list of who's posted to the Anyone for a Nightcap thread.

 

[the captians wench]

Wow, I must be really good at staying away when I'm drunk.

Though at the Burly girl slumber party last weekend they took away my phone because I was very tempted to text a bad situation...

As a result, I only post two drunk photos on Facebook.

 

[the captians wench]

He's found a new game he likes.

And he's found a way to make me really like it.

Fuck I am sore, my ass feels like it's on fire, and my nipples will hurt until morning, but I am so fucking happy right now. *giggles*

I love that fucking bastard.