The NEW UK Kink Thread

[Malich]

I am glad your cat is happy. Is he a very sensible cat with a name like Johann?
I hope you settle in quickly and your back recovers soon.
Look forward to meeting you one of these days.

I think I can safely say the answer to that first question is.... not really

And yes, I am sure we'll bump into each other at some point. So many folks on various sites I know are in London and I hope to see most of the at some point.

 

[StrangeView]

Good to hear you're settling in ok Mal, will this be the last move for a while?

 

[Mindfondler]

Just wondering whether anyone who has met my wife and me would like to do us a small favour.

Mrs MF and I have just posted a BDSM personals advert (see the link in my signature or here). We've done our best to be open and accurate about ourselves, our wishes and our motivations.

If anyone here who knows us wishes to add a short reply in our advert thread to offer their honest appraisal of us, then we'd be very grateful. It's possible that this could make the difference to a jaded, nervous or cynical female Litster between venturing a reply or not.

Thanks in advance!

MF (and Mrs MF)
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[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[LucyBee01]

Just wondering whether anyone who has met my wife and me would like to do us a small favour.

Mrs MF and I have just posted a BDSM personals advert (see the link in my signature or here). We've done our best to be open and accurate about ourselves, our wishes and our motivations.

If anyone here who knows us wishes to add a short reply in our advert thread to offer their honest appraisal of us, then we'd be very grateful. It's possible that this could make the difference to a jaded, nervous or cynical female Litster between venturing a reply or not.

Thanks in advance!

MF (and Mrs MF)
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Done

 

[LucyBee01]

Would someone please tell these pesky young pigeons on the balcony how to fly? They can't quite manage it yet and they are making such a mess!
I keep flitting between 'aaww, cute chicks' to 'filthy pesky pigeons!'

 

[Mindfondler]

Done

Thanks very much, LucyBee01 and also to Consilience for your warm and sincere words under my personals advert (as per my earlier posting above). Much appreciated by Mrs MF and me!
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[Mindfondler]

My wife and I had a fantastic time yesterday at an outdoor kinky play party on a hot and sunny English afternoon. It was a fitting celebration to mark our first year together in the kink community, as we met there around forty friends that we've made on our various travels during that time (it gave us a warm feeling to introduce some of them to each other!).

It was good to say Hi again to LucyBee01 and her Master, and to Sweetdaisymae. We hope that you enjoyed youselves as much as we did!
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[LucyBee01]

My wife and I had a fantastic time yesterday at an outdoor kinky play party on a hot and sunny English afternoon. It was a fitting celebration to mark our first year together in the kink community, as we met there around forty friends that we've made on our various travels during that time (it gave us a warm feeling to introduce some of them to each other!).

It was good to say Hi again to LucyBee01 and her Master, and to Sweetdaisymae. We hope that you enjoyed youselves as much as we did!
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Haha, yes, definitely. Sorry we didn't get to talk more; whenever we saw you you looked rather occupied

Happy kinkversary

We had a fun and naughty day. The weather was perfect for the outdoor pool and just being able to play outside in pretty green surroundings was a treat. Didn't really explore the indoors!

 

[Mindfondler]

Haha, yes, definitely. Sorry we didn't get to talk more; whenever we saw you you looked rather occupied

I did have a lot on my hands -- not least a squirmy bottom who managed to break a cuff during an unsuccessful escape attempt.

Happy kinkversary

Thank you! Can it really just be a year since we started?

We had a fun and naughty day. The weather was perfect for the outdoor pool and just being able to play outside in pretty green surroundings was a treat. Didn't really explore the indoors!

My wife and I didn't venture near the pool, but we certainly took advantage of the pretty green surroundings. Glad to hear that the two of you had a happily naughty day as well.
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[Mindfondler]

Thanks very much, LucyBee01 and also to Consilience for your warm and sincere words under my personals advert (as per my earlier posting above). Much appreciated by Mrs MF and me!

Thanks also to Elle (Gianbattista) for your shout-out this morning under our personals advert.
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[Steamrunner]

Hi Everyone,

New guy here (hi, hey, how you doing) - near Watford.

Looking to see what's going on. This thread sounded interesting; whilst I am not involved in any dom/sub relationship (my wife is strictly vanilla), various exes and online partners seem to start calling me "Sir", "Master" or "Daddy" pretty quickly, and asking me to tell them what to do etc and how to please me. Whilst I've never deliberatly intended to be dominant, and I try to be "a nice guy", I must admit that there are many occasions where, looking back, the behaviour was quite Dominant. Not in abusive way - never abusive - but in being firm (I'm not ready for you to cum yet), or instructive (taking women shopping for toys and explaining how they will be used), or loving (punishment for masturbating when I'm not there, or being cheeky or teasing me). Always within boundaries, always consensual.

So, I'm wondering what I can learn - should I be doing more to cater for their needs? To allow them the have a better experience "with" me?
I know that there's a difference between calling someone "daddy" for play or 'cos it's cute, and calling them"Daddy" or "Master" because you need to.

I'm also aware that, as a married man, there may be limits to what I can do.

So - all pointers appreciated. I'm not looking to get my kicks of having power of women; far from it. It just seems like women want something from me that I'm not 100% how to give them just yet...

Hope that makes sense! And of course, if this is the wrong place, please point me in the right direction.

EDIT: I came here from the normal UK thread; I'll post in the "Hello" section as well.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Steamrunner]

Thank you, that's very kind of you! I've read the stories on Lit for ages, finally got around to signing up - I really only came to find people to chat with, but suddenly this whole new thing has opened up...

 

[LucyBee01]

Thank you, that's very kind of you! I've read the stories on Lit for ages, finally got around to signing up - I really only came to find people to chat with, but suddenly this whole new thing has opened up...

Welcome Steamrunner
Welcome to the bdsm threads! Sure you will find lots of interest. This UkKink thread meanders all over the place, from talking about sexy and kinky stuff through to the weather and bacon (did someone mention bacon?)rolls

Ah, be careful my friend. I think opening up this sweetie jar is a bit like Alice falling down the rabbit hole. You might never want to leave...

 

[LucyBee01]

Hi Everyone,

New guy here (hi, hey, how you doing) - near Watford.

Looking to see what's going on. This thread sounded interesting; whilst I am not involved in any dom/sub relationship (my wife is strictly vanilla), various exes and online partners seem to start calling me "Sir", "Master" or "Daddy" pretty quickly, and asking me to tell them what to do etc and how to please me. Whilst I've never deliberatly intended to be dominant, and I try to be "a nice guy", I must admit that there are many occasions where, looking back, the behaviour was quite Dominant. Not in abusive way - never abusive - but in being firm (I'm not ready for you to cum yet), or instructive (taking women shopping for toys and explaining how they will be used), or loving (punishment for masturbating when I'm not there, or being cheeky or teasing me). Always within boundaries, always consensual.

So, I'm wondering what I can learn - should I be doing more to cater for their needs? To allow them the have a better experience "with" me?
I know that there's a difference between calling someone "daddy" for play or 'cos it's cute, and calling them"Daddy" or "Master" because you need to.

I'm also aware that, as a married man, there may be limits to what I can do.

So - all pointers appreciated. I'm not looking to get my kicks of having power of women; far from it. It just seems like women want something from me that I'm not 100% how to give them just yet...

Hope that makes sense! And of course, if this is the wrong place, please point me in the right direction.

EDIT: I came here from the normal UK thread; I'll post in the "Hello" section as well.

Gosh, it feels like you are a little at sea...
Hmm, well do read other threads. There are a lot wiser heads than mine giving good advice to those new to these kinky shores.

But just to get you started - you will find people give different definitions to the same things, so for example, there is no one true way to be dominant, same goes for being submissive. There is so much variety. For example, some like a Daady/ little girl element, whilst for others, that is just... eeww.

Is your interest because you enjoy controlling what is happening? That would sound like a dominant tendency. Or is it something else that really does it for you?

Re your marriage - does your wife know you have an interest in D/s (Dominance/submission)? Is it something you can explore with her?

 

[Steamrunner]

There is so much variety. For example, some like a Daady/ little girl element, whilst for others, that is just... eeww.

Is your interest because you enjoy controlling what is happening? That would sound like a dominant tendency. Or is it something else that really does it for you?

Re your marriage - does your wife know you have an interest in D/s (Dominance/submission)? Is it something you can explore with her?

I prefer sir/master, if I'm honest, because I have a real little girl so it was a bit weird at first- however I have recently accepted being daddy to a "baby girl" and it's worked out ok.

On reflection, I do enjoy being in control. In chats it's usually me directing the flow; telling them what I'm doing to them, what's happening, what they need to do etc. And apparently this goes down very well indeed, if the pics I get sent are anything to go by. I guess I also enjoy being looked up to and depended upon; I don't look for that sort of woman, but they quickly turn out like that.

With my wife- no. She's not comfortable sexually and had abusive relationships in the past. i love her for many things, but sex is not one of them.

 

[StrangeView]

Hi Steamrunner, welcome aboard!! All this stuff can be quite daunting when you first decide to stick your head into it, but I think Lucy summed up opening the door pretty well. Don't be afraid to ask about anything, there's plenty of us on here, and we'll do our best to give you a meaningful answer . And sometimes, we've even been known to talk sense!!

 

[Steamrunner]

Hi Steamrunner, welcome aboard!! All this stuff can be quite daunting when you first decide to stick your head into it, but I think Lucy summed up opening the door pretty well. Don't be afraid to ask about anything, there's plenty of us on here, and we'll do our best to give you a meaningful answer . And sometimes, we've even been known to talk sense!!

Ha!

Well thank you, I've been looking around and reading and chatting to a few people. I've put up an ad in the personals to see what happens. Need to do a bit more work, then waaaay more reading...

 

[skinnysinner]

Ha!

Well thank you, I've been looking around and reading and chatting to a few people. I've put up an ad in the personals to see what happens. Need to do a bit more work, then waaaay more reading...

Welcome indeed, a fellow explorer who is still working out, as you are, what works. Empathise with your situation, it's mine too, and Lit has been very cathartic and continues to be. As Lucy said, the differences in interpretation and definitions are vast, but labels are just that and it's what you enjoy and how, and who with that is important.

Enjoy Lit, lots of us do in so many ways!

 

[TheSilverLining]

Just poking my head in to say hello. Because I feel that I do a lot of reading, and some lurking, and a lot of random posting. But I never say hello.
So...hiya. <waves>

 

[StrangeView]

Just poking my head in to say hello. Because I feel that I do a lot of reading, and some lurking, and a lot of random posting. But I never say hello.
So...hiya. <waves>

Hi SilverLining *waves back*

 

[TheSilverLining]

Hi SilverLining *waves back*

Hi StrangeView, how goes it?

 

[StrangeView]

Hi StrangeView, how goes it?

Pretty good today, and yourself?

 

[Malich]

Evening all and hello to the new faces

Well, I've survived my first few weeks in the south, the locals have not noticed me as an impostor and with luck I am now safe!

I have, however, just bought the most expensive piece of plastic I have ever owned. £3900 for an annual travel card. I plan to do a lot of journeys by train at the weekends just to get my money's worth out of it!