The NEW UK Kink Thread

[EnglishChap6687]

Afternoon Quiet indeed!!!

 

[LucyBee01]

Survived first day back in the office and the fierce air-con. There was me optimistically wearing a summer dress and gradually freezing, making many cups of tea to hold onto a warm mug!!

 

[EnglishChap6687]

Survived first day back in the office and the fierce air-con. There was me optimistically wearing a summer dress and gradually freezing, making many cups of tea to hold onto a warm mug!!

I'm glad you survived your first day back and sorry you were frozen by the air-con!!

Hope your second day back is even better

 

[Malich]

Afternoon all.

Back from london and getting stuck into the paperwork before Air Tattoo this weekend. Just hope the weather is nice! Forecast says yes but who trusts those?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[LucyBee01]

I have ups and downs but I am getting there. Was well armed against air con with lots of layers

Could have done without the minor dramas today such as getting my foot trodden on on the tube making me wince and my nice white shoe rather grubby looking.

Or the bathroom sink tap getting stuck so it wouldn't turn off!! Frantic minutes later I managed to turn it off, vowing not to go near it again until my landlord fixes it...

And then - and I can laugh about it now - a nice lady driving past me as I was airily walking to the station, stopping to tell me that my skirt was caught up at the back. Omg, could have sunk into the pavement!! Well, hope the street enjoyed the show

Hope you are having a good week xx

 

[StrangeView]

Morning Campers!! Bright and shiny here, if a bit cool.

End of your first week back now in sight, LucyBee, hope it's gone well for you

Hi Malich, hope the weather holds for you this weekend, I haven't been to an air show for ages. Used to do Duxford regularly, but got out of the habit in recent years. Must get around to taking the little fella soon, he'd love it.

Daisy, how's the full time business set up going, all falling into place yet?

Hugs and commiserations to Lally stuck on rubbish hours. Soon be back to civilisation!!

Waves and hugs to everyone else

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[StrangeView]

Ooh, a bath during the day, and hopefully nobody to bother you either, nice

 

[StrangeView]

I'd been wondering who was going to hit post #2000, just realised it was me

 

[LucyBee01]

Lol!

Thank you StrangeView. Yes, the week has been busy, but people have generally been patient given I have been off for quite a while. And my team and manager doubly so as they know my circumstances.

One more day before I can escape for the weekend and get up to all kinds of naughtiness

 

[LucyBee01]

Um, can anyone point me to a sticky or thread that tells you how to quote part of someone's message, or highlight bits of it. Couldn't see it in the general forum faqs...
Thanks.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[LucyBee01]

To quote part of someone's post, quote it all and then delete the bits you don't want.

Does that help?

Well, here is one way to find out Thank you....

 

[Mindfondler]

Hi everybody! I've been away from Lit for a while, but some of you may still remember me.

I have some great news -- and a question.

I've just "come out" fully with my wife about my kinky tendencies after more than 20 years of marriage. I was very anxious about her reaction, which is why I've been so reluctant to mention it previously. My deep fear was that my wife would think that I had turned into some kind of monster and was no longer the man that she had married.

As it turned out, my wife reacted in exactly the way that I hoped. She's not sure of the extent to which she shares my newly-declared "interests", but she's keen to explore them gently with me so that she can learn more about the corners of my mind that she hasn't seen illuminated before.

I've been wondering whether there's anything that we could do out-and-about together (we're in SE London) as a sort of declaration of the start of our new journey together as a couple. I don't want to scare her by, say, taking her to an exhibition of extreme kink and fetishes, but I imagine that we could benefit greatly from chatting in a relaxed way with "normal" people who are into the lifestyle.

Any suggestions gratefully received!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[ceris01]

Hello mindfondler, I understand your position, I too was wondering how to broach this subject with my wife. I 'accidentally' sent her some links to gifs on here, turns out she had been looking at similar stuff, and well the last week has just been mind blowing.

I don't know if that approach would help you but wow some of those gifs would give a nun a hard time. Perhaps a nice easy yet subtle way to show what you would like, also a good way to gauge her reaction to some of the more extreme kinks.

Good luck and I hope you and your wife find a good balance!

 

[Mindfondler]

How do you do mind fondler

Pleased to meet you, Elle! Many thanks for your helpful thoughts.

Personally I cannot see think G and I going to anything social, ( though I would love to meet some kinky friends for normal socialising). But munches might seem ideal from what I have read for introducing your wife to the idea?

That sounds promising. I think we're both in the mood to make a quiet but visible declaration of our interest and our desire to learn more together, but without feeling under pressure to conform to any particular aspect of the lifestyle.

Hello mindfondler

Pleased to meet you too! Thanks also for your ideas.

I understand your position, I too was wondering how to broach this subject with my wife. I 'accidentally' sent her some links to gifs on here, turns out she had been looking at similar stuff, and well the last week has just been mind blowing.

As it happens, one of the first things that I shared with my wife after my declaration was a fucking machine video that I found on one of the other BDSM threads. She found it intriguing and not at all alarming, although she's still pondering the extent to which it "works" for her.

 

[LucyBee01]

Any suggestions gratefully received!

Lots of munches are advertised on Fetlife.
They do seem a good place to start. One day when I am up to it I intend to go to one. I just want a space every now and then to chew the cud with folk that I don't feel I have to hide this side of me from.

 

[Mindfondler]

Lots of munches are advertised on Fetlife.
They do seem a good place to start. One day when I am up to it I intend to go to one. I just want a space every now and then to chew the cud with folk that I don't feel I have to hide this side of me from.

Pleased to meet you too, LucyBee!

Is it necessary to have a FetLife account in order to see the event listings? I've been wary of signing up, as I recall hearing that one may receive some odd personal messages as a result. I'll consider it, though, if the potential advantages outweigh the downsides.

Once again, I'd welcome any guidance. (I have a feeling that I'm going to be saying that rather a lot! )

Thanks!

 

[Malich]

Morning all

Wb MF. You do not have to be part of Fet to see the posts about events or to search them. But as a bloke you'd not get many odd messages anyway. That unfortunate side effect is limited to the women on there mostly alas.

You might also want to prod Daisy as shes round that area too and might know of some of the more welcoming events.

Hope everyone else is ok today?

Had a great weekend with my Dad at the airshow but today I have to take a 71 year old dementia patient to hospital to get a scan which will tell him how far his recently diagnosed cancer has spread and how long he might have left. This has the potential to be traumatic for the old duffer for weeks while he forgets and has to be reminded over and over and over... Sigh.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Mindfondler]

I'm pleased to renew acquaintance with you, Malich.

Wb MF. You do not have to be part of Fet to see the posts about events or to search them. But as a bloke you'd not get many odd messages anyway. That unfortunate side effect is limited to the women on there mostly alas.

I'm glad to hear that.

(At first, I was going to make a sarcastic comment about expecting lady subs to be queuing up to send me suggestive messages and to receive my orders. I decided against that, though, in case my attempt at subversive humour might be missed and/or deemed too close to the bone)

You might also want to prod Daisy as shes round that area too and might know of some of the more welcoming events.

I've just dropped Daisy a line -- thanks!

I have been thinking about this and think it depends very much on the woman. I know for a lot of my female friends this would be a real issue. Issues with porn industry, feelings of rejection, etc.

I just told G when I realised where my fantasy was drifting and where I wanted to explore. It was a little embarrassing, but, sex is often undignified and a little embarrassing if one cares to feel that way about it. As a woman who previously had never looked at 'dirty pictures ' before joining lit, G finds it a little amusing that I now study some like instructionals.

I'm lucky that my wife is broad-minded about this. We've watched hardcore porn together before. Unexpectedly, though, it hasn't often turned us on; more frequently, it has reduced us both to hysterical laughter at its cheesiness and artificiality.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Hi everybody! I've been away from Lit for a while, but some of you may still remember me.

I have some great news -- and a question.

I've just "come out" fully with my wife about my kinky tendencies after more than 20 years of marriage. I was very anxious about her reaction, which is why I've been so reluctant to mention it previously. My deep fear was that my wife would think that I had turned into some kind of monster and was no longer the man that she had married.

As it turned out, my wife reacted in exactly the way that I hoped. She's not sure of the extent to which she shares my newly-declared "interests", but she's keen to explore them gently with me so that she can learn more about the corners of my mind that she hasn't seen illuminated before.

I've been wondering whether there's anything that we could do out-and-about together (we're in SE London) as a sort of declaration of the start of our new journey together as a couple. I don't want to scare her by, say, taking her to an exhibition of extreme kink and fetishes, but I imagine that we could benefit greatly from chatting in a relaxed way with "normal" people who are into the lifestyle.

Any suggestions gratefully received!

Hello and congratulations!

I would suggest something along the lines of a Munch or a market. Somewhere you can dress nilla, be in safe surroundings, but also begin your journey together in a positive way.

There are lots of things around, avoid play munches for now... unless you want to really jump in the deep end and see full on play.
Let the organiser know that you wish to attend, so there is someone to welcome you and introduce you to other attendees.

If you fancy coming to a market, I am very likely to be there and can point you towards things you may find interesting.

Really glad she is happy to try xxx