The NEW UK Kink Thread

[Malich]

Have you heard of the method of handling dementia that answers a question with a question

I do know that, alas it doesn't work well with him atm. He either gets frustrated that you're not answering him or doesn't understand what you're asking. His mental state flip-flops between former professor who expects to be answered or confused old man who needs to be answered

As it is, it went fairly well today. Only had to tell him about 8 times that he had cancer and what it might entail.`with luck it will sink in just in time for the final diagnosis.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Mindfondler]

Hello and congratulations!

Hi Daisy! It's great to hear from you again. Thanks for your positive wishes!

I would suggest something along the lines of a Munch or a market. Somewhere you can dress nilla, be in safe surroundings, but also begin your journey together in a positive way.

There are lots of things around, avoid play munches for now... unless you want to really jump in the deep end and see full on play.
Let the organiser know that you wish to attend, so there is someone to welcome you and introduce you to other attendees.

If you fancy coming to a market, I am very likely to be there and can point you towards things you may find interesting.

Thanks! I've just created myself a FetLife account so that I can explore the events. As you might expect, my nickname there is "Mindfondler" and you can find my profile at https://fetlife.com/users/4963455.
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[StrangeView]

Morning all, and a big hello to all the recently arrived and recently returned that I've not had chance to catch up with yet. Good to hear that there's people out there who are finally becoming able to be themselves with support from their partners Gives me some hope for the long term.

Malich, that must be hard to deal with. My father-in-law had frontal lobe dementia before he passed away a few years back, and I know how stressful conditions like that can be, without go over and over news like that. And I thought my job was crap at times.

 

[Mindfondler]

Morning all, and a big hello to all the recently arrived and recently returned that I've not had chance to catch up with yet.

Hi StrangeView! Pleased to meet you!

Good to hear that there's people out there who are finally becoming able to be themselves with support from their partners Gives me some hope for the long term.

I assume that's partly aimed at me. Thanks! I hope that things work out for you in due course.

It's very early days as yet on the kinky journey for my partner and me, but I feel that a massive burden has been lifted from me purely by starting to talk openly and getting a non-judgemental reception. I'm already beginning to feel confident in my sexual identity for the first time in many years (if not ever). What I'm looking for now is the support to grow that confidence and increase my understanding.

 

[StrangeView]

I assume that's partly aimed at me. Thanks! I hope that things work out for you in due course.

It's very early days as yet on the kinky journey for my partner and me, but I feel that a massive burden has been lifted from me purely by starting to talk openly and getting a non-judgemental reception. I'm already beginning to feel confident in my sexual identity for the first time in many years (if not ever). What I'm looking for now is the support to grow that confidence and increase my understanding.

Hi Mindfondler, it is indeed. I do know that feeling of liberation once you start to let it out, it happened for me a few years back after I'd gotten myself in a seriously dark place, and found support coming from some very unexpected places, and not from where I'd hoped. I don't want to go into too much detail, but there's a few good friends that helped me talk through things and accept my feelings as being a part of me, and even giving me help and encouragement to explore myself. In a lot of respects, I'm happier now than I've ever been, and hearing that things are working out for you, maybe there's bits of my life I can sort out in time too

 

[Mindfondler]

Hi Mindfondler, it is indeed. I do know that feeling of liberation once you start to let it out, it happened for me a few years back after I'd gotten myself in a seriously dark place, and found support coming from some very unexpected places, and not from where I'd hoped. I don't want to go into too much detail, but there's a few good friends that helped me talk through things and accept my feelings as being a part of me, and even giving me help and encouragement to explore myself. In a lot of respects, I'm happier now than I've ever been, and hearing that things are working out for you, maybe there's bits of my life I can sort out in time too

I wish you all the best! I sincerely hope that we might find ourselves on parallel journeys to greater fulfillment.

 

[StrangeView]

Thanks Mindfondler, and there's certainly a lot of good people around here prepared to offer support along the way

And it's hump day!!! Hooray, weekend here I come!!!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Malich]

Pass. But on the off chance I have pencilled it in as well

 

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[blushrush]

Hello all! Pretty new to the forum but glad to have found a cosy corner for the UK-ers.

Has anyone been to the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar recently? I went many years ago with a friend who had a stall there but haven't been back since I moved out of the area. I'm thinking about going back soon but just wondered what people's opinions of it were. Any good? Worth going?

 

[Malich]

Welcome to the thread

BBB is still a good place to go to brows the pretties and spend far too much money

 

[Malich]

As a side note its looking like August might be good one to go to as a few of us from here might be there.

 

[StrangeView]

Morning all, hi blushrush, welcome aboard Would love to go to BBB (or any market for that matter), but doubt I'll get chance in the foreseeable future But if the opportunity ever does present itself, you guys will be the first to know!!

 

[LucyBee01]

Hi all,
Hope you have all had a good weekend.

Mine was one of arguing, losing, crying, getting disciplined and then lots of making up

A more normal week ahead. Promised myself to go to a dance class. Cha cha cha...

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[LucyBee01]

Oh dear!! Hope your thigh heals quickly!! Burns are nasty things.

Impressed with the DIY. But not with the burning.

 

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[Malich]

D'oh!!

Hope it heals quickly!

 

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[Malich]

I am now on day 3 of trying to get a straight answer to a simple question from someone that one of my clients is working for. I sent in a stack of documentation in a format which has done me in good stead for the last 15 years. However, it got rejected.

That's fine, that happens from time to time.

Problem is no-one can tell me why it was rejected beyond "It doesn't assess the risks adequately".

I've covered everything the client has told me they're doing but so far no-one from the firm they are working for is giving me a hint about what they think is missing and to top things off the person I was talking to has now gone on holiday for a week so I am back to square one with a new person who potentially has no idea what I am talking about.

Joy!

 

[StrangeView]

Morning all, hope the weekend went well

Elle, hope that burn gets better soon, they can be so sore

Hi LucyBee, I haven't had chance to dance since we had the little fella, used to be out 3 nights a week at one time. Loved it!!

Malich, sounds like I'm not the only person who ends up on the wrong side of that sort of stupidity...

And on Sunday, my wife shouted from the bedroom, "Is this strap on ok?" I thought, WOW, now THAT's something I never thought would happen!!! On investigation, it turned out that she was putting the shoulder strap onto her new bag. Oh well, never mind

 

[Malich]

Ah, grammar, punctuation and inflection. The difference between Knowing your shit and knowing, you're shit... or in this case asking "is this strap on ok?" and "Is this strap-on ok?"

 

[StrangeView]

Hmm, yes, it's much easier to tell the difference when it's written down, haha!! Would have saved me a lot of wasted excitement if she'd text me.