The politics of pussy eating...

[WriterDom]

I don't see it as submissive. Taking a woman from zero to orgasm in less than a minute. Perhaps telling her "no" a few times when she asks.

But there has to be a certain level of attractiveness for me to do it at all.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

I think you will enjoy the read. I downloaded He Comes Next to my iphone Kindle App. I already love to give oral but it was under 10 bucks and I figured, what the hell? You never know when you can learn something new or gain incite to male sexuality!

A-ha a future present for my good lady. Splendid.

Actually, the last two times I've gone down on her she's come like a bronco, after I've read this book....
she'll probably explode or something.

Su-weeet.

 

[sailorpaul]

....most guys are pretty simple to give the best blowjob ever to, showing up is about the only requirement besides opening your mouth.

....I mean dang giving a blowjob is simple, open mouth, insert dick, bob head fondle balls and moan. I've been proposed to because I was doing that on a guy.

What a load of crap. If a guy proposed because of what you just described, then he is being duped or is stupid.

Yesterday I got asked on a scale of 1 to 5 "...how was that blowjob?" While I had a great time and would do it again, my pet laying there watching from the sideline is the ONLY "5" that I've ever met.

I happen to love eating pussy, and my pet called my mouth "wonderful".
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=31823417&postcount=88

I feel that a guys desire to deliver pleasure gets telegraphed loud and clear to the woman. There was a relevant line in the script of "Dangerous Beauty"... something along the lines of "If you don't love it, they can smell it on you"

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

The book has arrived.
Good old Amazon, that was damned quick!

 

[drinkmeup83]

It has been rare that I have met a guy that wasn’t into pussy eating, which I think is fantastic. Sometimes I wonder if the guy enjoys it more than I do! If I was with a guy that gave me some excuse such as he thought it was gross or it didn’t do anything for him, then I doubt the relationship would last long. This is my body, and if you don’t like it or think some aspect of it is gross, then how am I expected to enjoy getting physical with you? I am all about pleasing my man, and I want him to feel the same way about me.

I was once told by a guy that he would make a deal with me. If I took my pants off, he would go down on me. It didn’t happen. I was young and didn’t know him, but I think that was the moment that I got that guys did that because they loved it too.

As for being a submissive act, I don’t see it that way at all. I actually feel a bit submissive when he is down there because he is in control of one of the most intimate parts of my body. Plus, dominance in my opinion, is more about attitude than a specific act.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

. . . some excuse such as he thought it was gross . . ."

In that case he certainly wouldn't want to put his precious dick in there.

 

[NippleMuncher]

If there were ever two things in this world meant to be eaten, it's nipples and pussy! I can't get enough of either! Hell, half the time I'm just getting to the main course when the GF is making me stop because she's either popped or it's become too sensitive. DAMN the bad luck! I'm still hungry God damn it!

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

I think one of the reasons I like it so much is because (well, I'm told - what do i know I married the second woman I had sex with!) that a lot of women won't let a man do it for them unless they feel totally comfortable with them. So it's like a confirmation of trust in a man to let them do it....

Of course that could be complete bollocks.

 

[sugaredwalls]

If there were ever two things in this world meant to be eaten, it's nipples and pussy! I can't get enough of either! Hell, half the time I'm just getting to the main course when the GF is making me stop because she's either popped or it's become too sensitive. DAMN the bad luck! I'm still hungry God damn it!

Since this is a "how to" forum and all....

Everyone woman is different but it's not uncommon for the clit to be too sensitive after all that stimulation and then orgasm. For me, it feels really good after I come when My S.O. backs off from my clit and sticks to tongue fucking me. It feels utterly delicious and sets off mini second orgasms.

 

[ples]

you think so or know so?

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[NippleMuncher]

Since this is a "how to" forum and all....

I'd be happy to give you a sample.

In all honesty, I know just how hard and fast I can work my magic. If I want things to last, I go slower and don't concentrate on the clit too much. If time is of the essence, let's just say that she doesn't last more than a couple minutes. The important thing is that she usually gets her cookie, then it's my turn.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

I'd be happy to give you a sample.

In all honesty, I know just how hard and fast I can work my magic. If I want things to last, I go slower and don't concentrate on the clit too much. If time is of the essence, let's just say that she doesn't last more than a couple minutes. The important thing is that she usually gets her cookie, then it's my turn.

It's great when things work out that way, and not unusual. However, some women are hard-to-comers, and a few are non-comers.

You may be a good pussy licker, but given the above what you describe depends more on the lady than the pussy licker's expertise - once a reasonable threshold of skill is attained, that is, and assuming a certain level of sensitivity to your partner's signals. And of course continuous improvement is the hallmark of all fine craftsmen (and craftswomen).

 

[NippleMuncher]

You may be a good pussy licker, but given the above what you describe depends more on the lady than the pussy licker's expertise - once a reasonable threshold of skill is attained, that is, and assuming a certain level of sensitivity to your partner's signals. And of course continuous improvement is the hallmark of all fine craftsmen (and craftswomen).

But isn't that always the case? An attentive lover will watch for the cues, as well as initiate out of bedroom conversations about it. While I'm pretty good at what I do, I would never be so presumptuous to say that I am the best or that my techniques work all the time. IMHO, enjoying what you're doing and wanting to please your partner are the major key's to success.

 

[NippleMuncher]

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

I'm half way through the book so far. I would recommend it to all men. True a lot of the book isn't relevant to me as I'm already more than eager! But, the anatomical information has already improved my technique, particularly with respect to the front commisure. It's one thing to have acquired a certain success level (99.9%) through trial and error, but armed with knowledge as I now am, it's not only the extra 0.1% success rate I'm chasing, but the improvement of the quality of my wife's orgasms too. Though I haven't actually got to that bit yet.

Men, buy this book.

 

[sterculius]

This one does - but what he likes even more are detailed, explicit descriptions (illustrated would be nice but don't want to push my luck ) of what really works.

While technique matters, what's most important is enthusiasm. You have to really love doing it. That goes for eating pussy or sucking cock. I'm a very orally oriented person and I have always loved doing both.

 

[daus42]

But isn't that always the case? An attentive lover will watch for the cues, as well as initiate out of bedroom conversations about it. While I'm pretty good at what I do, I would never be so presumptuous to say that I am the best or that my techniques work all the time. IMHO, enjoying what you're doing and wanting to please your partner are the major key's to success.

Practice makes perfect as the saying goes........ paying attention to the clues really is essential. Stay relaxed, be patient and the results will be so satisfying.

 

[collar_corset]

My ex got loads of BJ's and I got very few lickings which really pissed me off, but the one that got away (dammit) loved doing it.

I remember he said just before he went down on me that he loved it and then proceeded! Since I split up with my husband 8 years ago I've gone from being dry to being almost permanently wet, but with this guy I damn near soaked his sheets.

Heaven!

 

[sugaredwalls]

I'm half way through the book so far. I would recommend it to all men. True a lot of the book isn't relevant to me as I'm already more than eager! But, the anatomical information has already improved my technique, particularly with respect to the front commisure. It's one thing to have acquired a certain success level (99.9%) through trial and error, but armed with knowledge as I now am, it's not only the extra 0.1% success rate I'm chasing, but the improvement of the quality of my wife's orgasms too. Though I haven't actually got to that bit yet.

Men, buy this book.

Hey, didn't see your post sooner but that's great, glad you enjoyed the book recommendation. Lol, you can never have too much knowledge, especially about eating pussy huh?

Let us know how it all pans out for you!

 

[kaycee217]

If you like going down on women (and want to keep it that way), never read a book on women's health...ever.

 

[Lappdog]

I have been an ardent fan of performing oral on women since I was very young. It was my first exposure to sexual activity and has always been my strongest desire when making love. I don't feel that it is a submissive act (unless that's the way we are playing it!) at all. I feel that it the most exppressive act of intimacy and that it shows the depth of lust and appreciation that you have for your partner. It is by far my preferred means of pleasuring a woman.

 

[teemeup]

I simply can't get enough of eating my wife's pussy. I wish her sex drive was as high as mine and she would allow me to do it more and longer. My wife's entire personality make up is a very "giving" person, and she's not that good at just relaxing and "recieving" and not just sexually. The best experiences with giving her oral, are when I can get her to just relax and let herself be pleasured and convince her that I only want to give her pleasure and don't want anything in return, and when she is turned on enough that after intercourse and I've cum in her, for her to ASK me to lick her and make her cum. Both are rare with her aforementioned lower sex drive, but I love both when they occur.

 

[peachydreams]

I simply can't get enough of eating my wife's pussy. I wish her sex drive was as high as mine and she would allow me to do it more and longer. My wife's entire personality make up is a very "giving" person, and she's not that good at just relaxing and "recieving" and not just sexually. The best experiences with giving her oral, are when I can get her to just relax and let herself be pleasured and convince her that I only want to give her pleasure and don't want anything in return, and when she is turned on enough that after intercourse and I've cum in her, for her to ASK me to lick her and make her cum. Both are rare with her aforementioned lower sex drive, but I love both when they occur.

Read up on tantric massage.....a great way to get her to relax, so you can enjoy.

 

[kimbernee]

My experience is that most guys are willing to do it but the majority of them are neither particularly good nor particularly enthusiastic and I usually end up dropping it. I recently hooked up with an ex who used to fall into that category and all of a sudden he's over-the-top fantastic and clearly loving it. Wish he'd tell me the story behind it (I asked; he would only say he'd taught himself which seems unlikely). It'd been 20 years since I'd had oral that good (or from someone enjoying it that much). So, 20 years worth of guys I said "no thanks" to. Shows you how rare it's been in my life.

 

[sereneone4u]

My husband and I are both oral enthusiasts.

I was surprised to read that some felt that performing oral on a woman is being submissive. What is submissive on a man's part of having a woman spread wide under him quivering (or one of my favorites, me against a wall with my skirt hiked up and a leg over his shoulder while he eats me, one hand gripping my ass and his other hand massaging my tits, me trembling and weak-kneed), legs shaking, and moaning all over the power of his tongue and perhaps a finger or two? Sounds pretty powerful to me.

Then I thought of when I give head. I prefer to give it on my knees, looking up at my husband while he plays with my hair, his hips moving and his cock thrusting in and out of my mouth, hearing the quickening of his breath...waiting for my reward of when his cock spasms and I get to revel in his release. Part of what makes the act so pleasurable is the submissiveness of it, to me, and I am not a submissive.

I will have to ask my husband later tonight whether he feels dominant or submissive or if he even thinks about it being either at all. I do know that he is a wonderful oral lover and he enjoys it so much he comes from just going down on me...or maybe I am just that sweet.