Topping/ bottoming outside of orientation

[Stegral]

my 2 cents..

I am heterosexual but could be bi curious for the right gal.
I identify as a switch that prefers to bottom.
I have bottomed for a female when my "usual" Male Top was at sea for far too long.
The sensations were there but the feeling behind the toys were not.
She is an awesome friend & I trusted her fully but it didn't feel right.
I have requested play by another Male Top & it felt soooo good.
I have not Topped a female, not sure if I could.
I am a sensory type of player. I enjoy touch, not pain.
When I bottom or Top I am extremely sexual yet have never incorporated sex into a scene.
My Top sends me home dripping wet & horny as hell... bugger...
Sex has never been negotiated as he has a G/F he goes home to.
(You can play but no sex I think is the deal as she isn't into the kink)
When I Top I go home wet & horny as hell... but so does he

Topping anyone is different, he feels (as do others ) that I could top someone, and I have little doubt that I could. However, I don't like inflicting physical pain on other people and the issue would be whether I would enjoy topping someone in a scene..

I started my exploration as a submissive...
the Dominants in the play group egged out the switch.
They have been great mentors
Maybe you should try some of the "light stuff" if he really wants to encourage this.

When I top I do not flog, whip or paddle, but if I am in a mood I CAN cane & crop. I normally only use what I have felt. One of my bottoms requested I try different "percussion" toys & I learned I can't flog (I actually feel queasy) but I like the cane. I think it is because in my own head I think the flogger tails are uncontrolable & my fear of hitting wrong is amplified, the cane & crop I know EXACTLY where it is going. Mind you the afore mentioned Domme has a denim flogger I was comfy using & made one for myself as it is soft & light.

That is my input...
I prefer the opposite sex to Top or Bottom...

 

[Homburg]

Not topped a male, but have tied one. It started out just a little weird, but wound up as a normal tie. I consider myself to be comfortable with my own sexuality though, so I don't sweat these things so much.

I do know msubs that would be great to top. It comes down to the two reasons why I top a given person. I will likely want to top someone if I am physically attracted to that person, and that goes without saying, I think. The other reason that I will top someone is simply if I like them. Their personality and energy as just so good that I don't really care about anything else about them. I just know that whatever scene or tie that will happen will be a good one simply because this person is so very damned cool.

Some of the people I've tied have been like that. The msub I worked with was that way. No interest in him sexually, but he's a great guy, so I was happy to work on him. TH in my ropeworks thread is along those lines as well. In her case, I would not care what how attractive I found her. She's such an awesome person, and so much fun to be around, that I would happily scene with her.

Some people are just so worthwhile that their pink bits just don't matter. I want to work with them because they kick ass as a person.

 

[Netzach]

Not topped a male, but have tied one. It started out just a little weird, but wound up as a normal tie. I consider myself to be comfortable with my own sexuality though, so I don't sweat these things so much.

I do know msubs that would be great to top. It comes down to the two reasons why I top a given person. I will likely want to top someone if I am physically attracted to that person, and that goes without saying, I think. The other reason that I will top someone is simply if I like them. Their personality and energy as just so good that I don't really care about anything else about them. I just know that whatever scene or tie that will happen will be a good one simply because this person is so very damned cool.

Some of the people I've tied have been like that. The msub I worked with was that way. No interest in him sexually, but he's a great guy, so I was happy to work on him. TH in my ropeworks thread is along those lines as well. In her case, I would not care what how attractive I found her. She's such an awesome person, and so much fun to be around, that I would happily scene with her.

Some people are just so worthwhile that their pink bits just don't matter. I want to work with them because they kick ass as a person.

Question, not just for Homburg but in general, esp. to the Sadists out there:

have you ever been working someone who's not especially hot to you when you look at them across a crowded room or in a photo, someone you *really* can't imagine waking up in bed with, and when you are actually playing ---schwing.

And so you just HAVE to tie them up harder and get yourself off, or stuff your cock in their mouth, or your sexual boundaries just change and you actually *see* them as hot when they're suffering for you like an MF?

Or you know, whatever really gets to you.

 

[Homburg]

Question, not just for Homburg but in general, esp. to the Sadists out there:

have you ever been working someone who's not especially hot to you when you look at them across a crowded room or in a photo, someone you *really* can't imagine waking up in bed with, and when you are actually playing ---schwing.

And so you just HAVE to tie them up harder and get yourself off, or stuff your cock in their mouth, or your sexual boundaries just change and you actually *see* them as hot when they're suffering for you like an MF?

Or you know, whatever really gets to you.

Yep, been there. Some people react SO damned well to what is being done to them that you can't help but get all sorts of turned on.

Sometimes it is because of established relationships. One girl in particular is like a little sister to me. She's this sweet, funny little thing, and we get along famously. Regardless of how cute she is, I just don't see her in a sexual light.

Then I tied her up. It started as one of those "this person is so very cool that I just want to work with her" and ended up with both of us rather hot and bothered.

NOTE: Nothing came of it. Was not the right place or time for anything beyond tying.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Question, not just for Homburg but in general, esp. to the Sadists out there:

have you ever been working someone who's not especially hot to you when you look at them across a crowded room or in a photo, someone you *really* can't imagine waking up in bed with, and when you are actually playing ---schwing.

And so you just HAVE to tie them up harder and get yourself off, or stuff your cock in their mouth, or your sexual boundaries just change and you actually *see* them as hot when they're suffering for you like an MF?

Or you know, whatever really gets to you.

Yep. Once. With a straight dewd. And not the kind of straight dewd that I would go straight for for a night.

But holy shit, the best feet-slut I've ever encountered in my life. We were at the end of a scene, I was sitting down having him massage my feet and he begged so nicely to kiss and lick them, what's a girl gonna do? He was so fucking good at it, he got me all hot and bothered, and the feet licking ended up pussy licking.

And geez, for a straight guy, he was pretty good at this too.

The funny part is that for a little while afterward, I felt all weird about it. That's when you realize that you're a little out of the norm when after spending three hours hitting on a dewd, pissing on him, and doing all sorts of humiliating stuff to him, what actually weirds you out is that you had him licked your pussy and - OMG - even enjoyed it!

 

[Guest]

Hmm. I'm an opportunistically bi (right guy, right time, right place) collared male submissive, so the possible sexual aspects don't bother me particularly. That said, I have trust issues with most hetero guys, because I seem to have very little in common with most of them. So, bottoming to a guy? In private with the right guy, sure. In public? Would still have to be the right guy.

And while I have topped, it's not something that I'm usually comfortable doing because I'm not much of a physical sadist. Now, if we're talking about topping someone mentally or emotionally, I'm there! Inflicting things like embarassment and mild humiliation can rev my engine considerably... so much so that I'm not sure I completely trust myself.

*sigh*

 

[ammre]

queer sub here.
So long as i respect the person, find them somewhat attractive, and they've got that Dom spark, I could do it. Really the respect is the hardest part, not the genital alignment.

speaking of crossing boundries...
I've been having the weirdset fantasies lately. I've always always always considered myself a sub, and while i consider myself genderqueer, I normally am more towards the femme side (my makeup bag's contents is worth over 400 dollars, psht.). But lately, I've had fantasies where i've been fucking a chick with my "penis". Really, if i try to do something dominant I start giggling. I can't hack it. I hurt someone, I giggle, i apoligize, and i ask if they are ok. I'll be damned though if i don't want to shove my non-existant penis up a girl's bum and ride her hard, and leave hand prints.
Then i'd dismount giggle a bunch and probably wimper my apoligies.
*sigh*
Dear lines,
Please stop blurring, sure it's more fun that way but its also so much more confusing.
Love,
me.

 

[SouthernDom]

I was just wondering what others on here thought about Topping or bottoming outside of their 'normal' orientation.

I could never Top another male. I'm not all icky or homophobic about it, but it would do nothing towards mentally pleasing or sexually exciting me as a Dominant.

I have bottomed once for a partner by allowing myself to be tied up. The actual act of bondage being used on me did'nt excite me in the least. The extended teasing and being denied orgasm was a huge turn on for a while,but near the end I just shut down out of frustration.

I'm much too proactive within scene or sex to leave the decision on when I orgasm to anyone other than myself.