Twenty Somethings

[BXGemini20]

I think you all are sick...just sick you know that HEHE...and I LIKE IT....LOL. I would provide a picture...but unfortunatly it is something that has to be done with my mouth closed...so you wouldn't see much. Did I mention though that in addition to using my tounge, there is also a liberal amount of tooth action as well...do guys suddenly like the use of teeth in their nether region and I just didn't get the memo??

Remember My. I'm just a virgin and curious that's all. Everyone else just piggybacking me with my curiosity. *sighs* sucks being a 20 year old virgin.

 

[BXGemini20]

Where's is everyone tonight? Might doing one of three things.


1. Out getting laid
2. Study for a big test next week
3. Watching March Madness


Wonder how right I am

 

[My Own Way]

Where's is everyone tonight? Might doing one of three things.


1. Out getting laid
2. Study for a big test next week
3. Watching March Madness


Wonder how right I am

LOL...none of the above....although I wish it was number one. I'm watching TLC and writing a paper....exciting huh??

 

[1stClassNiceGuy]

Life altering circumstances?? Such as???

Well, turning gay for one. Doubt that will happen on a whim, hehe. Oral skills are good to have no matter if yer male or female... but they have their differences =P

 

[BXGemini20]

LOL...none of the above....although I wish it was number one. I'm watching TLC and writing a paper....exciting huh??

If I would add doing schoolwork and watching TV to my list I would have caught you My. I was doing 3 though I ought to do 2. I would love to do 1 and get that virgin stigma off.

 

[HybridCrow]

Remember My. I'm just a virgin and curious that's all. Everyone else just piggybacking me with my curiosity. *sighs* sucks being a 20 year old virgin.

You seriously cannot think I, a 21 year old virgin, would be piggybacking off of you. I guess for starters, I didn't know you was a virgin.

Anyhow, yeah, in a sense, it DOES suck to be a virgin at this age. Wait until we're in our 30's... gawd, that'd be starting a record for ourselves.

Nevertheless, you should think being a virgin is a great thing, I guess because you haven't WASTED something that is a part of your soul on somebody who ends up not being the person you want to spend your life with. I get told lots of times, as I'm sure you have too, that it's a good thing I'm still a virgin. No matter HOW many times it makes me sort of feel bad, I do realize they have a point.

 

[HybridCrow]

I think you all are sick...just sick you know that HEHE...and I LIKE IT....LOL. I would provide a picture...but unfortunatly it is something that has to be done with my mouth closed...so you wouldn't see much. Did I mention though that in addition to using my tounge, there is also a liberal amount of tooth action as well...do guys suddenly like the use of teeth in their nether region and I just didn't get the memo??

Hmm... well, in my opinion, since I've never had sex of any kind, I honestly can't say I would like the use of teeth in my nether region. However, based on the fact that teeth are meant to chew food apart for digestion, it would remind me of anything that can cause bleeding and sharp pain. And I for one NEVER like pain in my nether region.

Also, I don't think it's about the oral sex that we're thinking about... at least not me. I guess there's just something great and erotic about a woman (from a guy's perspective, or lesbians and vice versa for men) who can do such neat things with their body.

Nevertheless, if having feelings for women who can do erotic, great, and pleasureable things is a crime, then I'm guilty as charged.

 

[BXGemini20]

Hmm... well, in my opinion, since I've never had sex of any kind, I honestly can't say I would like the use of teeth in my nether region. However, based on the fact that teeth are meant to chew food apart for digestion, it would remind me of anything that can cause bleeding and sharp pain. And I for one NEVER like pain in my nether region.

Also, I don't think it's about the oral sex that we're thinking about... at least not me. I guess there's just something great and erotic about a woman (from a guy's perspective, or lesbians and vice versa for men) who can do such neat things with their body.

Nevertheless, if having feelings for women who can do erotic, great, and pleasureable things is a crime, then I'm guilty as charged.

All right Hybrid. You got a point there. I thought it was erotic that someone could do that. The jury is still out for me when it comes to oral. I never really saw the point of it personally. Why suck when you can fuck? Jusy my personal opinion. I understand that some girl maybe better at oral then fucking. Maybe some girl would have to show me what the big deal is with oral.

 

[My Own Way]

Alright you two...explain to me what is such a big deal about being over 20 and still a virgin....I'm dying to know...

 

[phdbio]

I am interested to.

 

[HybridCrow]

I'm not trying to make a big deal about being a virgin, HOWEVER, when I constantly have people telling me about their sex lives, even though I never asked, I get the feeling they're rubbing it in my face.

Nevertheless, I AM glad I am still a virgin for the most part because I have not met the right person who I want to lose it to. Right now, I'm not thinking about trying to get laid, because for one, it would make me desperate, and two, I've got plenty of time in my life to get laid, so I'm focusing on the important things such as college and getting a career, as well as save money w/ my current job.

Does any of this make sense?

 

[BXGemini20]

Being on a college dorm for 2 years and see almost everyone get action or hear about it does make you a bit upset a bit. I'm glad I'm virgin I just wish it wasn't made such a big deal of it. I doubt anyone wants to give a big man any action despite what I have seen on Lit. Maybe I went the gym so girls would fins me attractive. I usually just end up being a friend which at times I don't mind. Just want a girl who will like me.

 

[My Own Way]

I am interested to.

No fair Bio...you can't just pop in then disappear....you are not making me feel loved.....we are SO fighting...

 

[My Own Way]

See my opinion is this...it's not a big deal that you're a virgin unless you MAKE it a big deal. Frankly, no one will know unless they ask, and then it's your choice to tell them the truth or not. I mean, obviously it's different with someone you're with, planning on hooking up with or whatever and your friends, but other than that, it's no bodys business unless you make it their business.

As for everyone talking about it. We're a highly sexual society, which honestly is better than it was even 20 years ago when society considered Madonna satans child and vulgar let alone 50 years ago when sex was rarely even spoken about out loud with a few exceptions of course. I mean granted, maybe we've taken it a bit too far, but it is the way it is. If you sit quietly and listen maybe you'll learn some stuff that will help you when you do decide to have sex.

 

[HybridCrow]

Babe, as much as I would LOVE advice for when I DO start having a sexual relationship, the things that people talk to me about are NOT entirely about advice.

True, society today is as you say it is in the sexual world, but that doesn't mean those who haven't had sex yet and are virgins have to suffer by LISTENING to people go into details about their sex lives. Personally, if I wanted to hear or see anything about details, I'll just go straight to my room and pop in a porn flick.

Again, I'm NOT nor EVER trying to make a big deal out of being a virgin. When people make comments such as "You need to get laid." or they have to tell me about their sex lives to the point that I may as well be watching or reading a porno, it's NOT helping me out. I think THEY are the ones making a big deal about it.

Personally, if people want me to get laid that badly by saying these things, then they should do something about it. I for one, as much as I'm interested in getting laid, am not thinking about that. As I said before, I'm focusing more on my college education and my current job to save up money. If a girl comes along and it works out, then it happens. Until then, it'll happen when it happens.

In the meantime, I'll enjoy an occasional flirt here and there such as what's going on with the Lit. Community, and that's all I'm going to look at it as, just good natured flirting.

Any questions?

 

[My Own Way]

Babe, as much as I would LOVE advice for when I DO start having a sexual relationship, the things that people talk to me about are NOT entirely about advice.

True, society today is as you say it is in the sexual world, but that doesn't mean those who haven't had sex yet and are virgins have to suffer by LISTENING to people go into details about their sex lives. Personally, if I wanted to hear or see anything about details, I'll just go straight to my room and pop in a porn flick.

Again, I'm NOT nor EVER trying to make a big deal out of being a virgin. When people make comments such as "You need to get laid." or they have to tell me about their sex lives to the point that I may as well be watching or reading a porno, it's NOT helping me out. I think THEY are the ones making a big deal about it.

Personally, if people want me to get laid that badly by saying these things, then they should do something about it. I for one, as much as I'm interested in getting laid, am not thinking about that. As I said before, I'm focusing more on my college education and my current job to save up money. If a girl comes along and it works out, then it happens. Until then, it'll happen when it happens.

In the meantime, I'll enjoy an occasional flirt here and there such as what's going on with the Lit. Community, and that's all I'm going to look at it as, just good natured flirting.

Any questions?

Uh...no...no questions. Sorry. I didn't realize I wasn't supposed to offer my opinion on this matter...

 

[BXGemini20]

Babe, as much as I would LOVE advice for when I DO start having a sexual relationship, the things that people talk to me about are NOT entirely about advice.

True, society today is as you say it is in the sexual world, but that doesn't mean those who haven't had sex yet and are virgins have to suffer by LISTENING to people go into details about their sex lives. Personally, if I wanted to hear or see anything about details, I'll just go straight to my room and pop in a porn flick.

Again, I'm NOT nor EVER trying to make a big deal out of being a virgin. When people make comments such as "You need to get laid." or they have to tell me about their sex lives to the point that I may as well be watching or reading a porno, it's NOT helping me out. I think THEY are the ones making a big deal about it.

Personally, if people want me to get laid that badly by saying these things, then they should do something about it. I for one, as much as I'm interested in getting laid, am not thinking about that. As I said before, I'm focusing more on my college education and my current job to save up money. If a girl comes along and it works out, then it happens. Until then, it'll happen when it happens.

In the meantime, I'll enjoy an occasional flirt here and there such as what's going on with the Lit. Community, and that's all I'm going to look at it as, just good natured flirting.

Any questions?

That is the pure truth right there. I cosign with what Crow say.

 

[HybridCrow]

Uh...no...no questions. Sorry. I didn't realize I wasn't supposed to offer my opinion on this matter...

No, don't be sorry. You wanted to know why it sounded such a big deal between Gemini and me when it came to the virginity issue. I simply gave you the best answer I could for MY side of the ordeal and hopefully I didn't sound harsh or offensive.

Like a girl once told me, I like to try and cover my bases.

 

[My Own Way]

No, don't be sorry. You wanted to know why it sounded such a big deal between Gemini and me when it came to the virginity issue. I simply gave you the best answer I could for MY side of the ordeal and hopefully I didn't sound harsh or offensive.

Like a girl once told me, I like to try and cover my bases.

No. I was just curious why it is such a sore point with many people over the age of 18. To me, it's really not that big of a deal...It was a very general based question not pointed at anyone specifically. Why is there a social stigma of sorts placed upon people who remain virgins into their 20's? Why do people act when they find out either like you're planning on joining a religious order or there's something wrong with you? Why is it made out to be such a big deal?

 

[BXGemini20]

No. I was just curious why it is such a sore point with many people over the age of 18. To me, it's really not that big of a deal...It was a very general based question not pointed at anyone specifically. Why is there a social stigma of sorts placed upon people who remain virgins into their 20's? Why do people act when they find out either like you're planning on joining a religious order or there's something wrong with you? Why is it made out to be such a big deal?

It is a soceity issue. You are conditioned to believe that you must lose your virginity at 18 or you suck. That mindset is hard to break. Enough talk of virginity. I need to study.

 

[HybridCrow]

It is a soceity issue. You are conditioned to believe that you must lose your virginity at 18 or you suck. That mindset is hard to break. Enough talk of virginity. I need to study.

I think I'm going to agree with Gemini on this, but not 100 percent. I tend to have a way with words, and I would say more than once I use the wrong words.

I need to clarify that when I said "everybody", I really meant the MAJORITY of people do what they do as I explained before, but the MINORITY of the people (i.e. family members, people I know who lost their virginity and regret it, etc.) tell me that it is a good thing I haven't lost my virginity and I should wait for the right person to come along that I want to spend my life with. Also known as the "wait until you're married" speech.

ALSO, and it has been going on for quite a long time now, but some of my family members like to tease me about being single and never having a girlfriend. How do they tease me? Well, they always ask me, "Are you a homosexual?"

No, nobody in my family are racists, sexists, biased, etc. that I'm aware of. It's all just joking around. At times I feel down about it, even though they're just kidding around.

I have nothing against homosexuals and lesbians. I respect them and the sexuality they have chosen. Everyone has their rights to be and feel what they want. I personally, at least right now, have chosen to be a heterosexual.


So... basically the answer you would most likely be looking for is that the reason it's such a big deal is that it is a current social stereotype.

It's great that you don't see a big deal of it, MyOwn. And as I've said, and will always say, I wasn't trying to make a big deal out of it.

 

[phdbio]

Wow

I had no idea that i was a church well mabye not church mabye just a soap factory with loads of extra boxes around just waiting to be stood on...You know guys as hard as you try to blame the way you feel on a component of sociality and the mores and norms of a society the only reason you are constantly questioning this virginity is because of your own thoughts coupled with rivers of hormones flowing through your endocrine system. everyone needs to calm down and just let it go..

and my if we are fighting i wish you would have let me known i would have made more jello

 

[My Own Way]

I had no idea that i was a church well mabye not church mabye just a soap factory with loads of extra boxes around just waiting to be stood on...You know guys as hard as you try to blame the way you feel on a component of sociality and the mores and norms of a society the only reason you are constantly questioning this virginity is because of your own thoughts coupled with rivers of hormones flowing through your endocrine system. everyone needs to calm down and just let it go..

and my if we are fighting i wish you would have let me known i would have made more jello

Yeah...thanks for showing up NOW Bio after I got bitched at by half the people on this thread for asking a simple question...

Oooooo Jello?? That sound yummy....only if you promise to clean me up when we're done

 

[phdbio]

yeah ill clean you up...let me just run to the store and buy a hose..

sorry about waiting so long to show up...don't let your faithful bitch at you...its just not right. just get them back somehow..i have no idea how right now but i will come up with something

Yeah...thanks for showing up NOW Bio after I got bitched at by half the people on this thread for asking a simple question...

Oooooo Jello?? That sound yummy....only if you promise to clean me up when we're done

 

[HybridCrow]

...You know guys as hard as you try to blame the way you feel on a component of sociality and the mores and norms of a society the only reason you are constantly questioning this virginity is because of your own thoughts coupled with rivers of hormones flowing through your endocrine system. everyone needs to calm down and just let it go...

One FINAL thought about this issue and towards your response, I was also NOT blaming society, but rather, it IS a social stereotype. It's called "peer pressure", therefore it is social. Whenever a discussion, question, topic, etc. comes up and it would involve a response, I never, or try not to, place a blame on anyone. However, I try to only place my experiences into my response and only hope for no confusion, but rather, understanding of the point that I am making and where I am coming from.

Don't worry, I guess as a MyOwn loyal, I'm still around. I wasn't trying to bitch her out. As I said, only trying to get my point across from experiences.

I love ya, MyOwn. You know I would worship the ground you walk on with those great legs of yours.