VE seeking advice

[AsylumSeeker]

Misdirection...Very Good

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[sr71plt]

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[sr71plt]

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Well, this posting of mine was relevant to the thread as the moderator has left it (as long the moderator's remarks about me and AsylumSeeker's last two postings on the previous page are left).

In this posting I simply asked Emerald Dragon if she was getting the drift of the posting behavior here.

For those who are curious about the two postings deleted, in AsylumSeeker's, he made an extreme gay-bashing remark and in mine I simply said there was a nut or two among the VEs. (I'm sure there are enough who read the remarks while they were up to verify that I'm not exaggerating.)

This is happening because you are sponsoring a vendetta war and setting a bad example, Lady C. I post quite naturally and nicely on this forum when not nuked (well, actually even then).

 

[sr71plt]

In case “someone,” who might be pursuing her own agenda in violation of the forum rules, needs a refresher on the forum rules:

1. You must be 18 years or older to read or participate at Literotica.

2. You may not post sexually explicit pictures or stories featuring anyone under 18 years old.

3. Do not post /hotlink copyrighted images or articles in their entirety.

4. You may not post personal information of other members or, for that matter, anyone else.

5. Do not threaten other users.

6. Any post or PM made with the intent of promoting another site or a product will be removed.

7. Please do not blatantly "advertise" for other websites in your signature.

8. You cannot use a URL/site address as your membername.

9. Flooding the forum with posts - or bumping old threads - with the intent of disrupting the forum is prohibited.

10. Please do not post audio that automatically plays itself on the forum

11. Please post content in the appropriate forum

12. We will not remove your posts or your account.

Anything else goes. You may post whatever you like. Consequently, so can everyone else. The administrators here don't believe they are anyone's parents nor are they anyone's Jiminy Cricket. It's not their responsibility to make sure that everyone on the site uses free speech responsibly. It's up to individual users to be responsible for themselves.

In short, we believe in the First Amendment, and offensive content will not be removed unless it breaks one of the rules.

 

[snooper]

In case “someone,” who might be pursuing her own agenda in violation of the forum rules, needs a refresher on the forum rules:

... list of rules omitted for space saving ...

Anything else goes. You may post whatever you like. Consequently, so can everyone else. The administrators here don't believe they are anyone's parents nor are they anyone's Jiminy Cricket. It's not their responsibility to make sure that everyone on the site uses free speech responsibly. It's up to individual users to be responsible for themselves.

In short, we believe in the First Amendment, and offensive content will not be removed unless it breaks one of the rules.

The word I have highlighted in red is a clear claim to be one of the owners of this site. If that were true I would wonder why (s)he has not posted as Laurel or Manu. Since the obvious answer is that sr71plt is NOT one of the owners of the site, it's back on my ignore list for her(him).

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

Ok guys this may get me on everyones hate list but I think you are all being a bit immature. I think that sr's comments were noteworthy. The personal comments directed at others, usually as tags on the end of posts were not. That goes for everyone else as well.

The noteworthy comments kinda got left in the dust when the arguements kicked in.

Personal opinions on the thread about the original post are great. Even if you don't agree with them. Personal digs need to be kept to a minimum. All that requires is a little self control and rereading what you are writing before you post.

Try to make your arguements about the threads and not about each other.

One of the original arguements was whether or not Sexylaila should have used a 'public forum' to ask for help in solving her dilema. Should it have been removed and the moderator offer advice? Should she have used another name so her writers were kept unaware? Don't know. I am one of her writers and I don't have a problem with it. But it was a valid question. Perhaps one way of gathering information should be editors polling their writers to get their opinion of the matter. Everyone keeps arging over what is best without taking into account the people it most impacts, the writers.

It was not an attack on the moderator of the sight, at least from this newbies point of view. Reguardless of what nasty things have been said in the past WE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO QUESTION DECISIONS MADE ON THE SITE. This provokes the question of why things are the way they are and how they could possibly be made better. Moderators work hard and have a thankless job unfortunately. We need to remember that they are people and not perfect. They are entitled to their opinion and but like all "authority" figures they are expected to be 'so much better than the rest of us'. We need to assume (dangerous I know) that they have a good reason for decisions that are made. But we should remember to use tact when asking why, of both moderators and everyone else.

This is exactly what I did with sr's comments and I got reasonable and focused replies.

It should be done in a less confrontational way and with a little more tact, but the core question is valid.

Just call me neutral in the whole buisness. Tact people tact!

by the way is there anyway to spellcheck here on the threads? I can't spell for shit.

 

[Darkniciad]

by the way is there anyway to spellcheck here on the threads? I can't spell for shit.

Not built into the board, but new versions of Firefox have a built in spell check that isn't too bad.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

cool

Not built into the board, but new versions of Firefox have a built in spell check that isn't too bad.

Firefox? Is that a program? I just use the computer, my hubby is the one that takes them apart, loads stuff onto them ect.

It is kinda funny because he has a very expensive computer that he uses for online gaming and I use it to play solitare. Hehehe. He just shakes his head.

Thank you for the tactfull reply!!

Later.

 

[sr71plt]

The word I have highlighted in red is a clear claim to be one of the owners of this site. If that were true I would wonder why (s)he has not posted as Laurel or Manu. Since the obvious answer is that sr71plt is NOT one of the owners of the site, it's back on my ignore list for her(him).

I don't understand your point, Snooper. The sentence you highlight is in the forum rules themselves (put there by the owners of the site). It isn't a comment from me--it's text of the forum rules. The whole bolded section is quoting the forum rules.

Could you explain what you mean, Snopper?

 

[LadyCibelle]

Everyone keeps arging over what is best without taking into account the people it most impacts, the writers.

It was not an attack on the moderator of the sight, at least from this newbies point of view. Reguardless of what nasty things have been said in the past WE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO QUESTION DECISIONS MADE ON THE SITE. This provokes the question of why things are the way they are and how they could possibly be made better. Moderators work hard and have a thankless job unfortunately. We need to remember that they are people and not perfect. They are entitled to their opinion and but like all "authority" figures they are expected to be 'so much better than the rest of us'. We need to assume (dangerous I know) that they have a good reason for decisions that are made. But we should remember to use tact when asking why, of both moderators and everyone else.

This is exactly what I did with sr's comments and I got reasonable and focused replies.

It should be done in a less confrontational way and with a little more tact, but the core question is valid.

Just call me neutral in the whole buisness. Tact people tact!

by the way is there anyway to spellcheck here on the threads? I can't spell for shit.

The points that I've bolded on your comments are below.

That's exactly it! Laila did what she did for the good of her writer...but one unmentionable person decided to take it upon himself to make her feel like shit about it. Well sorry, for that person, but I won't let him piss and shit on anyone who comes with a valid question just because he happens not to agree with that person.

Dear heart. You're new and as such I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you haven't read every single post that this 'person' has done, if you had you'd see what everyone who had any contact with 'him' saw.

Tact? Lol, that's too funny. That 'person' doesn't even know the meaning of that word, dear. That 'person' doesn't believe in tact or playing nicely with others; that 'person' only wants to be on top of everybody else and look down 'his' nose at them.

Once again, I'll take into account your newness in dealing with that person, but be aware to never disagree with him or tell him to his face he's wrong.....you'll be put into the 'gangbangers' group if you do.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

The points that I've bolded on your comments are below.

That's exactly it! Laila did what she did for the good of her writer...but one unmentionable person decided to take it upon himself to make her feel like shit about it. Well sorry, for that person, but I won't let him piss and shit on anyone who comes with a valid question just because he happens not to agree with that person.

Dear heart. You're new and as such I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you haven't read every single post that this 'person' has done, if you had you'd see what everyone who had any contact with 'him' saw.

Tact? Lol, that's too funny. That 'person' doesn't even know the meaning of that word, dear. That 'person' doesn't believe in tact or playing nicely with others; that 'person' only wants to be on top of everybody else and look down 'his' nose at them.

Once again, I'll take into account your newness in dealing with that person, but be aware to never disagree with him or tell him to his face he's wrong.....you'll be put into the 'gangbangers' group if you do.

To take your arguements one by one.

1) sr was perfectly civil to his comments to laila. I went back and read them. The posting that started the war was sr's comment #17 that responded to your comment #15 about being bitchy ect when you need to be. Your response on #21 started the shooting.

It is not that he disagreed with Laila and her question, it was that he disagreed with you about how you handled the situation as moderator.

After lailas post on #20 I see no indication that she was insulted or hurt by any of the comments posted. She thanked everyone for their advice and comments. The thread could have been closed at that point and perhaps a new one started about privacy issues and such that had been raised.

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Please don't call me dear heart or dear. I guess I don't know you well enough to know if that is just your style but it kinda came off as a maiden aunt repremanding a pre-adolecent for being stupid.

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Please don't assume that I can not make my own judgements based on what I read. I am not going to pre-judge anyone simply based on their history with other people. I am an adult and I can make my own decisions, for better or worse, about the people I converse with. If I make a bad one I have only myself to blame and I am not so thin skinned that I can't shrug off a negative posting about me. If I was that thin skinned I think writing stories for lit would be a no no. (refering to the thread on the worst feedback given)

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I disagree with people all the time and I am not going to avoid sr on that basis. If I run into a problem with it I hope that he and I can resolve it amicably. Or just agree to disagree. Like I said, I hope to resolve my differences with tact and politeness. That doesn't mean that I am going to avoid disagreements with anyone, or not present my case to make them better understand me and my point of view.



So far I am enjoying literotica very much and I am also enjoying the interact tion with others on various threads. Call me a true newbie but this is my first time playing with stuff like this and I like it for the most part.

 

[LadyCibelle]

But I did disagree with him. I just didn't toss it in his face. My polite arguement made him think about it and he agreed with my slant on the issue.

Yes I am new. But I would like to start off on a good note with everyone and keep it that way. Rest assured that I will try to be tactfull with my comments and hope that people can treat me the same way. You never know, maybe an old dog can learn new tricks.


I remain an eternal optimist.

Emerald

Optimism is good....I wish you to never be confronted with 'his' bad side, then.

 

[sr71plt]

Firefox? Is that a program? I just use the computer, my hubby is the one that takes them apart, loads stuff onto them ect.

It is kinda funny because he has a very expensive computer that he uses for online gaming and I use it to play solitare. Hehehe. He just shakes his head.

Thank you for the tactfull reply!!

Later.

You also could compose your posts in your computer wordprocessing program, spellcheck them there, and then cut and past onto the board.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

You also could compose your posts in your computer wordprocessing program, spellcheck them there, and then cut and past onto the board.

I never thought of that.

How do you alter a quote so you can interject comments at the paragraph you are refering to?

And how do you pull in more than one quote to your reply.

Is it all cut and paste??

 

[sr71plt]

I never thought of that.

How do you alter a quote so you can interject comments at the paragraph you are refering to?

And how do you pull in more than one quote to your reply.

Is it all cut and paste??

I'm sure there is an easy method. But when I do it, I cut and paste the quote openers and quote closers.

 

[Emerald_Dragon]

I'm sure there is an easy method. But when I do it, I cut and paste the quote openers and quote closers.

cool, I will have to try it out and see if I can make it work.

Thanks

 

[Guest]

I never thought of that.

How do you alter a quote so you can interject comments at the paragraph you are refering to?

And how do you pull in more than one quote to your reply.

Is it all cut and paste??

Welcome, Emerald.

Cut and paste work for me.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

It's All Good

Backing up my HD tonight and mailing off my PC in the morning for a keyboard replacement (I have a laptop). I'll be back in 7-14 business days. Later ya'll! (First time I'm making those extended-warranty companies cough it up!)

 

[snooper]

I never thought of that.

How do you alter a quote so you can interject comments at the paragraph you are refering to?

And how do you pull in more than one quote to your reply.

Is it all cut and paste??

Welcome, Emerald.

Cut and paste work for me.

Yes; there is no easy way, but as you see, they can be nested if necessary.

 

[palisa]

I never thought of that.

How do you alter a quote so you can interject comments at the paragraph you are refering to?

You can just start typing inside the quote, although it's better, I think, to go back and put your added text in a different color and/or font and/or size to make it stand out and avoid having a touchy poster think you've altered his quote for nefarious purposes.

And how do you pull in more than one quote to your reply.

Is it all cut and paste??

Some BBS software has a multiquote feature, so you can just click on a box in each post you want to quote and dump them into a reply. This software evidently doesn't, as the other posters noted, so cut and paste it is. You can manually add the [ QUOTE=some_posters_name ], then cut and paste the text, and then add the [ /QUOTE ] (without the spaces, which I put in to avoid creating a real quote here) at the end so the quote appears in the standard box.

 

[snooper]

You can just start typing inside the quote, although it's better, I think, to go back and put your added text in a different color and/or font and/or size to make it stand out and avoid having a touchy poster think you've altered his quote for nefarious purposes.

Some BBS software has a multiquote feature, so you can just click on a box in each post you want to quote and dump them into a reply...

I just copy the whole quote box several times and split the text between the copies ...

... This software evidently doesn't, as the other posters noted, so cut and paste it is. ...

.. then put my comments between the truncated quotes. No it doesn't.

... You can manually add the [ QUOTE=some_posters_name ], then cut and paste the text, and then add the [ /QUOTE ]...

It can get very messy at times.

... (without the spaces, which I put in to avoid creating a real quote here) ...

Very wise.