SalaciousMonkey22
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Did I mention, no major fault lines where I moved too
What Are You Thinking? Continued 14
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FunLi
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Ugh. Adulting. Gotta love it. Car repairs and buying tires always annoy me. I’m a snack queeennnn so I’ll definitely do that!That's a long first session! But if your head is in the game, you'll be fine! Bring snacks, that pain makes my blood sugar go all fucky. I'll just be quietly jealous in the corner
Ah, I should make a playlist!!
It’s my left leg. Floral design she drew for me that’s starting at my hip and going down to a little under the knee. I’m honestly stoked, just nervous, haha.
Chillygirl
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That’s gonna be gorgeous! There’s a couple tender spots but not too bad! Hydrate before the appointment and definitely eat something.
barefootgirl69
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Just because you didn't like what someone said about you doesn't mean they're wrong. Maybe it would be a good thing to reflect and evaluate those words and your actions instead of getting mad.
And - like a good sermon on Sunday morning - this is for everyone in the congregation. If you feel this is for you, it probably is.
And - like a good sermon on Sunday morning - this is for everyone in the congregation. If you feel this is for you, it probably is.
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dawn_of_night
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*Preach*
I'm quoting you because this is the best message I've seen in a few days.... Weeks?? I mean. #goyoubarefootgirl
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Wait til winter. I’ll have an orange one on so I don’t get shot
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I hate Covid.
Apisto42
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Self reflection and self awareness are two things it never hurts to be reminded of.
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Yeah. I now know first hand that it sucks.
dawn_of_night
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Sucks trying to comfort someone you care about and saying the wrong thing
EctoJohn
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Same, but it's baffling.I sometimes think this too.
However.
I just keep posting and posting and posting.
I dunno how often lately I've thought, "Oh, this thread hasn't been posted on for 15 minutes, time for me to jump in."
Send... Oh, what the fuck? "New messages have been posted. View Them?" *headdesk*
barefootgirl69
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Usually it's wanting to Grey Rock my ex in that way and shut him up.
Chillygirl
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Well that too. Sometimes throwing a rock is the best move for either situation.Usually it's wanting to Grey Rock my ex in that way and shut him up.
barefootgirl69
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It's not that you've said the wrong thing, they just don't want to receive it, for whatever reason.Sucks trying to comfort someone you care about and saying the wrong thing
I said something the other night about enjoying the good memories of a failed relationship, and was told that "toxic positivity" is a thing.
Okay, so if I choose to remember the laughter and great conversations instead of the hurt of letting someone go, that's somehow a bad thing?
But, by all means, wallow in the hurt. I prefer to pick myself up and keep moving forward.
Probably not what you had in mind, but thanks for letting me vent!
It's not that you've said the wrong thing, they just don't want to receive it, for whatever reason.
I said something the other night about enjoying the good memories of a failed relationship, and was told that "toxic positivity" is a thing.
Okay, so if I choose to remember the laughter and great conversations instead of the hurt of letting someone go, that's somehow a bad thing?
But, by all means, wallow in the hurt. I prefer to pick myself up and keep moving forward.
Probably not what you had in mind, but thanks for letting me vent!
Yes, well said! And thought that at the time
Though on this occasion, I did say the wrong thing, tried humor when it wasn’t the right time…
Desiree_Radcliffe
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I think I remember that conversation. I don't think that was directed at you at all. I am not sure it was directed at anyone in particular. I am not an "If the shoe fits, wear it" kind of person. I tend to speak my mind, and sometimes I relate things to other situations I was in, in the past. I am sorry if I said something that was offensive. I don't feel that is a great reason to post about it in a mean way, but I also think that maybe this is a good place to do so, so I am not going to be upset about it. I am glad that in doing so you let me know where I went wrong.It's not that you've said the wrong thing, they just don't want to receive it, for whatever reason.
I said something the other night about enjoying the good memories of a failed relationship, and was told that "toxic positivity" is a thing.
Okay, so if I choose to remember the laughter and great conversations instead of the hurt of letting someone go, that's somehow a bad thing?
But, by all means, wallow in the hurt. I prefer to pick myself up and keep moving forward.
Probably not what you had in mind, but thanks for letting me vent!
I am trying to be more thoughtful about what I post because a lot of times I can say things, thinking about, maybe, past experiences, and then end up offending someone. I am blunt and have been going through a lot of personal life things that have been bad for the past year or so, which can affect my words. I believe on that day I learned that I will not be able to make next rent, so I am worried about being homeless. In saying that, certain aspects about fine tuning prose to the appropriate audience have been a bit off lately. I just don't get things the same as when I am not completely overburdened by stress. This is me trying to illustrate a context. Again, the words "toxic positivity" were not even directed at you.
To address the other issue, where there was a bit of argument about feeling good or bad about past relationships, I am inclined to think YMMV. Like, I am glad that someone can think of a person they were in a relationship with in good ways. That is healthy to be able to do that. What I took issue with at the time was that it was suggested that a relationship I had with a person no one here knows (he never posted on the forums) was a wonderful thing, without knowing that person, the details, or anything about the relationship. I made mention of this relationship before, in vague terms, and it ended two years ago. I feel, at this point, that the conversation with that person cleared up what she had meant, and I was able to share how I felt.
For me, for a very long time, I thought that this person did care about me, and I did focus on the good things, and that made me sadder. So, for me, being able to work through what had happened, process it, understand things differently, and not dwell on regrets helped. Everyone is different, and again, I am sorry if I offended. I am not super positive--it just isn't part of my worldview--and it is worse when I am super depressed. It's not a good excuse for offending someone, but it is my context. I also want to say that "always look on the bright side" is a trigger for me, because an abusive person in my life does that. So again, I apologize.
Chillygirl
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I don’t think any of it is clear, black and white, cut and dried. Everyone experiences things differently. And the general public is not privy to all the dirty details of a relationship. Most people only hear one side when there’s really 3…his, hers and the truth. I think the way a relationship ends is also a big factor. And yes we all hope after time we can look back and just see the happy times. Apologies and acknowledging your part in the hurt goes a long way in “looking at the bright side” or “wallowing in tears.”
Anyhow just my two cents after a really tough therapy session yesterday over this very subject.
Anyhow just my two cents after a really tough therapy session yesterday over this very subject.
Truegent_ZA
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