What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[MiaBabe23]

I think I remember that conversation. I don't think that was directed at you at all. I am not sure it was directed at anyone in particular. I am not an "If the shoe fits, wear it" kind of person. I tend to speak my mind, and sometimes I relate things to other situations I was in, in the past. I am sorry if I said something that was offensive. I don't feel that is a great reason to post about it in a mean way, but I also think that maybe this is a good place to do so, so I am not going to be upset about it. I am glad that in doing so you let me know where I went wrong.

I am trying to be more thoughtful about what I post because a lot of times I can say things, thinking about, maybe, past experiences, and then end up offending someone. I am blunt and have been going through a lot of personal life things that have been bad for the past year or so, which can affect my words. I believe on that day I learned that I will not be able to make next rent, so I am worried about being homeless. In saying that, certain aspects about fine tuning prose to the appropriate audience have been a bit off lately. I just don't get things the same as when I am not completely overburdened by stress. This is me trying to illustrate a context. Again, the words "toxic positivity" were not even directed at you.

To address the other issue, where there was a bit of argument about feeling good or bad about past relationships, I am inclined to think YMMV. Like, I am glad that someone can think of a person they were in a relationship with in good ways. That is healthy to be able to do that. What I took issue with at the time was that it was suggested that a relationship I had with a person no one here knows (he never posted on the forums) was a wonderful thing, without knowing that person, the details, or anything about the relationship. I made mention of this relationship before, in vague terms, and it ended two years ago. I feel, at this point, that the conversation with that person cleared up what she had meant, and I was able to share how I felt.

For me, for a very long time, I thought that this person did care about me, and I did focus on the good things, and that made me sadder. So, for me, being able to work through what had happened, process it, understand things differently, and not dwell on regrets helped. Everyone is different, and again, I am sorry if I offended. I am not super positive--it just isn't part of my worldview--and it is worse when I am super depressed. It's not a good excuse for offending someone, but it is my context. I also want to say that "always look on the bright side" is a trigger for me, because an abusive person in my life does that. So again, I apologize.

Nope, I wasn’t saying it was a wonderful thing
I was saying that I had the strong impression that you were cared about. I gained this impression from you having said previously - words to the effect of - you were valued. I didn’t deny the upset or unfairness
Not sure anyone was saying look on the bright side. We were all, including me, pleased for you to be able to vent and feel supported
I felt your verbal slap for having disagreed. I didn’t take offense, because clearly I’d not put my point across well enough, and/ or you weren’t in a place to disagree with my attempt at support in the friendly spirit it was intended
It happens. Sometimes things don’t land well
Doesn’t need to lead to grudges
I hope you feel supported and strong going forward

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Nope, I wasn’t saying it was a wonderful thing
I was saying that I had the strong impression that you were cared about. I gained this impression from you having said previously you were valued. I didn’t deny the upset or unfairness
Not sure anyone was saying look on the bright side. We were all, including me, pleased for you to be able to vent and feel supported
I felt your verbal slap for having disagreed. I didn’t take offense, because clearly I’d not put my point across well enough, and/ or you weren’t in a place to disagree with my attempt at support in the friendly spirit it was intended
It happens. Sometimes things don’t land well
Doesn’t need to lead to grudges

I think we might be talking about a different person. But it's irrelevant. I apologize for having offended you. I don't like Mean Girls stuff, so I was never aiming for that. I did feel personally attacked at the time because I was upset, but as I said when I thought things were resolved, I was happy to let it go. I hold no grudge and would be more than happy to move past this incident. I am also now confused, because I thought it was resolved but multiple people are posting about it. Again, apologies for offense to whomever I offended.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I think we might be talking about a different person. But it's irrelevant. I apologize for having offended you. I don't like Mean Girls stuff, so I was never aiming for that. I did feel personally attacked at the time because I was upset, but as I said when I thought things were resolved, I was happy to let it go. I hold no grudge and would be more than happy to move past this incident. I am also now confused, because I thought it was resolved but multiple people are posting about it. Again, apologies for offense to whomever I offended.

I'm not trying to be mean. My post the other day and my posts today weren't about you...although, I did bring that comment up.

@Chillygirl made a good point in how things ending can determine how we feel about things. I'm paraphrasing.

 

[MiaBabe23]

I think we might be talking about a different person. But it's irrelevant. I apologize for having offended you. I don't like Mean Girls stuff, so I was never aiming for that. I did feel personally attacked at the time because I was upset, but as I said when I thought things were resolved, I was happy to let it go. I hold no grudge and would be more than happy to move past this incident. I am also now confused, because I thought it was resolved but multiple people are posting about it. Again, apologies for offense to whomever I offended.

Agreed, it’s unfortunate that when upset, support can be feel like being misunderstood or disregarded - I’ve been there myself plenty of times. I’ve been very fortunate that people have been patient about that, I’m sure you’ll find the same
Hope you feel stronger and supported going forward

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I'm not trying to be mean. My post the other day and my posts today weren't about you...although, I did bring that comment up.

@Chillygirl made a good point in how things ending can determine how we feel about things. I'm paraphrasing.

Fair. I missed the context, clearly. I just worry about offending people. I don't want anyone to be offended, or if they do, I want to make it right. Thanks. I am going to go silent in this thread for the rest of this evening. I hope everyone has a good evening.

 

[drobert44]

Hoping to take some pictures of a pool in Bordeaux today, it’s 0600.

 

[lacandy]

I’m glad I don’t have Tua on my fantasy team (but hope that he’s okay - might be time to think about retiring)

 

[barefootgirl69]

Fair. I missed the context, clearly. I just worry about offending people. I don't want anyone to be offended, or if they do, I want to make it right. Thanks. I am going to go silent in this thread for the rest of this evening. I hope everyone has a good evening.

Just so we're clear, you weren't offensive.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

It's too fucking quiet in here, now.

 

[EbersMoll]

Wordle beckons

 

[Taegul]

Why sleep through the night when I can make it "just" a nap instead and completely F my day tomorrow?

*sigh*

 

[RideFl71]

I have my first one scheduled for next month..first of two 4 hour sessions.

Sometimes I think I shouldn’t go by the whole ‘go big or go home’ motto, because I’m nervous as heck

Hydrate and try and not get any sun on that spot. Bring water and snacks. Don't be afraid of asking to stop. Also I wouldn't recommend any numbing cream unless at the very end.. It seems to hurt more when it wears off.

But you'll be ok.. And I'd love to see it when it's done. ❤

 

[summer_reine]

I'm thinking that if AI creates true human teleporters I can forgive it for making my art worthless.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

That's it submitted this time. Bye all.

 

[MiaBabe23]

That's it submitted this time. Bye all.

You’re not serious…?

 

[MiaBabe23]

It’s feels sooo cold, need to be spooned rn!!

 

[Kraken_96]

It’s feels sooo cold, need to be spooned rn!!

Best I can do is a spork

But also, the exact same. Start a spoon train pls!

 

[~Elizabeth~]

Hope you're happy for driving off a dear person.

 

[Kraken_96]

Hope you're happy for driving off a dear person.

Genuinely if I have, sorry - goof too often for anyone's good

I'll send a hot mocha and heated blanket as penance

 

[MiaBabe23]

Genuinely if I have, sorry - goof too often for anyone's good

I'll send a hot mocha and heated blanket as penance

I may be wrong, but assume that was about above

 

[Kraken_96]

I may be wrong, but assume that was about above

It was, but think I may have attached @~Elizabeth~'s comment as a response to mine rather than a standalone.

Further sorry if I misread that Will send additional mochas as needed

 

[Wand3rlust]

This place.... *shakes head*....

 

[crazychemgirl]

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[Shymidwestgirl]

I forgot my raisins…..

 

[mellowyellows]

I should have played hooky and taken the day off.