What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

i have...five christmas trees

time for the pitchforks and for me to be chased off of lit šŸ«¢
Wowow! Okay you beat me out. I guess I'm the that got spanked today, lol.

We're trying to do a tree per person. My home office has one and my clients love it
 
I wonder if the Politics Board here will ever end somebody's political career the way that other site looks like it is about to for that dude from NC.
 
I wonder if the Politics Board here will ever end somebody's political career the way that other site looks like it is about to for that dude from NC.
Would you want your Lit history, including private messages, to be leaked to the new media?
 
Wondering if I should use the laugh reaction.. or would that not be kind?šŸ¤”
Think I'll choose to be kind and just laugh to myself
 
Weird pissing contest on which gender is a worse baby or who is tougher when sick.

Perspective- having just recently had one of my oldest friends sicken and die this last summer, I don't find any of it amusing.

People get sick. Care for them. It's not funny.
Okay, I was trying to just ignore this sub-post, but itā€™s just making me more upset.

First though, I will say Iā€™m sorry for the loss of your friend. I also lost a friend who was close enough that I called her ā€œateā€ (pronounced ah-teh, older sister in Tagalog) for 20 years, to C19. She was one in a string of 11 deaths of of people I cared about in 11 months, including my brother, his wife, her brother-in-law, my aunt, my cousin, my brother-in-lawā€™s father whom Iā€™ve know since I was like 5, and several friends.

What you were referring to was a lighthearted conversation about ā€œman flu,ā€ in which men are overly dramatic when sick, and it was started by a man who admitted heā€™s a baby when sick, and we both specifically referred to ā€œlow-grade colds.ā€ In no way, shape or form did I or anyone else indicate someone sick shouldnā€™t be cared for, whether theyā€™re overly dramatic or not.

If you want to passive aggressively sub-post and get into it though, we can revisit the conversation from this very thread a few days ago, about how women absolutely do not receive an equal level of care, in medical settings or at home. Here in the states, medical professionals are letting miscarrying women bleed out and/or go septic and die because predominantly-male lawmakers are passing laws that make helping them an offense punishable by stripping their medical license and/or life in prison. Even before that, how women in the US have a considerably worse maternal mortality rate than other developed countries, especially for women of color. Or about how women are constantly under-treated for the same pains and symptoms as men because, and under-prescribed pain medication that could provide much-needed relief. Also, how men have a better outcome and survival rate than women because there are usually at least 1-2 women who will step up and care for them, even ex-wives, while female patients sit alone and unsupported in chemo and dialysis chairs. Or how men are six times more likely to leave their wife when sheā€™s facing a chronic or terminal condition. This is not just a statistic for me, as I mentioned in this thread the other day, it has happened to me with two different men who thought they wanted to spend forever with me, until they faced the reality of my health issues. The last one even said mid-breakup that the day he had to call 911 and I had to go to the ER was ā€œthe beginning of the endā€ for him.
So yeah, I did not and would not have said or implied that anyone who is sick should not be cared for, but I stand by the fact that women absolutely do not receive the same standard or care. And next time you want to twist my words around, donā€™t sub-post; quote or tag me.
 
Okay, I was trying to just ignore this sub-post, but itā€™s just making me more upset.

First though, I will say Iā€™m sorry for the loss of your friend. I also lost a friend who was close enough that I called her ā€œateā€ (pronounced ah-teh, older sister in Tagalog) for 20 years, to C19. She was one in a string of 11 deaths of of people I cared about in 11 months, including my brother, his wife, her brother-in-law, my aunt, my cousin, my brother-in-lawā€™s father whom Iā€™ve know since I was like 5, and several friends.

What you were referring to was a lighthearted conversation about ā€œman flu,ā€ in which men are overly dramatic when sick, and it was started by a man who admitted heā€™s a baby when sick, and we both specifically referred to ā€œlow-grade colds.ā€ In no way, shape or form did I or anyone else indicate someone sick shouldnā€™t be cared for, whether theyā€™re overly dramatic or not.

If you want to passive aggressively sub-post and get into it though, we can revisit the conversation from this very thread a few days ago, about how women absolutely do not receive an equal level of care, in medical settings or at home. Here in the states, medical professionals are letting miscarrying women bleed out and/or go septic and die because predominantly-male lawmakers are passing laws that make helping them an offense punishable by stripping their medical license and/or life in prison. Even before that, how women in the US have a considerably worse maternal mortality rate than other developed countries, especially for women of color. Or about how women are constantly under-treated for the same pains and symptoms as men because, and under-prescribed pain medication that could provide much-needed relief. Also, how men have a better outcome and survival rate than women because there are usually at least 1-2 women who will step up and care for them, even ex-wives, while female patients sit alone and unsupported in chemo and dialysis chairs. Or how men are six times more likely to leave their wife when sheā€™s facing a chronic or terminal condition. This is not just a statistic for me, as I mentioned in this thread the other day, it has happened to me with two different men who thought they wanted to spend forever with me, until they faced the reality of my health issues. The last one even said mid-breakup that the day he had to call 911 and I had to go to the ER was ā€œthe beginning of the endā€ for him.
So yeah, I did not and would not have said or implied that anyone who is sick should not be cared for, but I stand by the fact that women absolutely do not receive the same standard or care. And next time you want to twist my words around, donā€™t sub-post; quote or tag me.
As a footnote, it might be interesting to add this link about a 2016 study about birth control for men that was stopped because men reported side effects similar to those that women endure for birth control (pimples and depression, for instance). Something to think about.
 
that there is nothing that feels as good as a new undeniable connection...mmm
 
Yesss, the gender bias in the medical community is infuriating! Womenā€™s concerns are not taken as seriously, especially when it comes to under-prescribing painkillers, and especially especially in cases of women of color. Women of color are also so much more likely to have negative outcomes in childbirth too. And donā€™t even get me started on the male birth control trials that were abandoned because men couldnā€™t handle a fraction of the side effects caused by womenā€™s birth control pills!


Glad you and hubby are better now! šŸ’— Itā€™s honestly wonderful that you had the option of recovering in a nursing facility, but I feel like that is something that is very rare, probably pretty expensive / not covered by insurance in most cases. Also, sufficient help is not really available for a lot of lower-grade chronic conditions and ā€œinvisibleā€ disabilities.

It can be a lot for any one person to take on financial responsibilities and household chores and caring for themselves and other humans, whether they be children, aging parents or significant others. I think society tends to ingrain the need for us to be nurturing from the time that weā€™re little girls, in so many ways, from baby dolls to older sisters being expected to sacrifice their childhoods to take care of younger siblings, while way too many boys get served and coddled and grow up not knowing how to do their own laundry.

*Sigh* I think I may be ranting now, and am emotionally exhausted just thinking about all this and reliving the ways itā€™s taken effect. The bold part though So much that! ā¬†ļø

As a footnote, it might be interesting to add this link about a 2016 study about birth control for men that was stopped because men reported side effects similar to those that women endure for birth control (pimples and depression, for instance). Something to think about.
Thank you! I also mentioned that in last weekā€™s conversation here, but forgot to add it to the running list today.
 
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