What do women really look for in men?

[Bobmi357]

I don't think it matters with most guys since all we really care about are a pair of tits and a pussy.

Whoa, I didn't notice this before.

I don't know what species male you represent, but its not the same species I belong to. Tits and pussy are not the first thing I look at. I've seen many a beautiful woman in my day that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because deep down, they are ugly people.

When you boil it all down to just two body parts, its all the same. Sure the size and shape may vary a little. But tits are tits and thats about it. I want a partner, not a fuck toy. If you want a fuck toy, then give them IQ tests before you screw them and pick only the low scorers.

I've been known to drool over the av's of WickedWoman and SweetErika, but that isn't just because of attractive boobie avs. Its because they have both demonstrated active, incisive minds behind their posts. Its just my humble opinion, but the mind and personality behind the "tits and pussy" are far more important. So speak for yourself. Quite a few of us men are more interested in the people behind the exterior.

 

[Bobmi357]

Quick hijack...
Which reminds me, Lynxie, when are yours going to make an appearance?

YES! WHEN?

 

[TirelessTongue]

Whoa, I didn't notice this before.

I don't know what species male you represent, but its not the same species I belong to. Tits and pussy are not the first thing I look at. I've seen many a beautiful woman in my day that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because deep down, they are ugly people.

When you boil it all down to just two body parts, its all the same. Sure the size and shape may vary a little. But tits are tits and thats about it. I want a partner, not a fuck toy. If you want a fuck toy, then give them IQ tests before you screw them and pick only the low scorers.

I've been known to drool over the av's of WickedWoman and SweetErika, but that isn't just because of attractive boobie avs. Its because they have both demonstrated active, incisive minds behind their posts. Its just my humble opinion, but the mind and personality behind the "tits and pussy" are far more important. So speak for yourself. Quite a few of us men are more interested in the people behind the exterior.

Excellent post ! Although I must say, good looks and good personality are very hard to find in a woman. Its usually one or the other nowadays. But I totally agree with Bob.

 

[MercyMia]

Whoa, I didn't notice this before.

I don't know what species male you represent, but its not the same species I belong to. Tits and pussy are not the first thing I look at. I've seen many a beautiful woman in my day that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because deep down, they are ugly people.

When you boil it all down to just two body parts, its all the same. Sure the size and shape may vary a little. But tits are tits and thats about it. I want a partner, not a fuck toy. If you want a fuck toy, then give them IQ tests before you screw them and pick only the low scorers.

I've been known to drool over the av's of WickedWoman and SweetErika, but that isn't just because of attractive boobie avs. Its because they have both demonstrated active, incisive minds behind their posts. Its just my humble opinion, but the mind and personality behind the "tits and pussy" are far more important. So speak for yourself. Quite a few of us men are more interested in the people behind the exterior.

That's one sexy attitude, Bobmi357.

All other things being equal (personality, IQ, smile, body build), I like men with kind eyes. It tells me that they love themselves enough to love other people with humane compassion.

 

[Quoll]

Originally Posted by SweetErika Quick hijack... Which reminds me, Lynxie, when are yours going to make an appearance?

YES! WHEN?

Indeed When?

 

[wicked woman]

You see? It's all about personality. Even Bob can land himself a spot next to some of the most gorgeous boobs on Lit

Lynxie...it's ALWAYS about the personality...as evidenced that very few of my lovers have been the 'tall, dark and handsome' combo...I was just trying to indulge the person who started the thread....


...and there is no 'even' Bob....Bob's a cutie...

 

[wicked woman]

Whoa, I didn't notice this before.

I don't know what species male you represent, but its not the same species I belong to. Tits and pussy are not the first thing I look at. I've seen many a beautiful woman in my day that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because deep down, they are ugly people.

When you boil it all down to just two body parts, its all the same. Sure the size and shape may vary a little. But tits are tits and thats about it. I want a partner, not a fuck toy. If you want a fuck toy, then give them IQ tests before you screw them and pick only the low scorers.

I've been known to drool over the av's of WickedWoman and SweetErika, but that isn't just because of attractive boobie avs. Its because they have both demonstrated active, incisive minds behind their posts. Its just my humble opinion, but the mind and personality behind the "tits and pussy" are far more important. So speak for yourself. Quite a few of us men are more interested in the people behind the exterior.

Nice, nice Bob but you're ignoring the original question...it basically said forget the politically correct answer...or in my interpretation, just the correct answer...that personality and the mind matters way more than looks...and comment on what physically attracts you in the opposite sex...say it's red heads Bob...please


May I call you Danny now? or DD?

 

[Lynxie]

Quick hijack...
Which reminds me, Lynxie, when are yours going to make an appearance?

Maybe as soon as this weekend...assuming I can find my flash card for my camera

 

[Lynxie]

Lynxie...it's ALWAYS about the personality...as evidenced that very few of my lovers have been the 'tall, dark and handsome' combo...I was just trying to indulge the person who started the thread....


...and there is no 'even' Bob....Bob's a cutie...

I never said he wasn't...I just like teasing him

And my boobs are my homework assignment for the weekend. I promise I'll get a new AV up. That should make all those men who prefer tits over brains quite happy.

 

[wicked woman]

I never said he wasn't...I just like teasing him

And my boobs are my homework assignment for the weekend. I promise I'll get a new AV up. That should make all those men who prefer tits over brains quite happy.

woo hoo.....not just the men... ...but who said anything about choosing???

 

[phoenix1224]

If I had to choose between a man who was a bit overweight and one who was a bit underweight, I'd choose the overweight one. That said, TOO overweight is not good - I want someone who's going to be ALIVE to spend the rest of his life with me!

But if he drops dead of a heart attack NEXT WEEK (and you're still with him), then he HAS spent the rest of his life with you...

 

[Bobmi357]

Nice, nice Bob but you're ignoring the original question...it basically said forget the politically correct answer...or in my interpretation, just the correct answer...that personality and the mind matters way more than looks...and comment on what physically attracts you in the opposite sex...say it's red heads Bob...please


May I call you Danny now? or DD?

I ignored the original question because (a) being a man and strictly hetero in orientation, I don't look at men. And (b) forget the "political correctness" crap. Its plain old courtesy. Its not politically correct to see the person inside, its the just right thing to do.

Red Heads? Hmmmm Never tried one before. Are you volunteering? But seriously, I've always been a bit partial to brunettes.

 

[Kissophile]

Like Bob, I can only answer the question on the table from my own perspective, which is male. Still, I had lunch today with a good friend who I consider attractive in a very classic way. His features are chiseled, he has bright and energetic eyes, and his smile is completely genuine.

I also agree with Bob in saying that hardly all men consider are tits and a pussy. First off, unless you do your woman shopping at the Bada Bing club, you aren't likely to be able to choose based on the looks of her pussy or her tits. Clothing has a way of making you look at the whole woman.

One of the great things about the internet is the possibility of choosing to get acquainted with someone because you like the mind behind her posts (say, in a place like Lit). I'm hardly a stand-in for Cary Grant and if I were looking for someone, I'd want her to get to know me on the basis of how I think - and not just for the intellectual quality of it either. In a place like this it's fairly easy to see who has compassion, who thinks things through a little before they speak, and who has a sense of humor.

That said, it also helps to have a good vocabulary.

 

[h_i_s]

As far as body type goes, a man with a whimpy skinny body, or who is not at least half a foot taller just won't 'do it' for me. i'm quite petite (5'2" & 98 lbs)and naturally slender myself yet i prefer a man who is somewhat fit (i'm not talking obese here by any means) but not scrawny, as well as a bit taller. i'm confident about my size, and enjoy the feeling of contrast in size as He holds me close. Broad shoulders and a tight butt are always a plus.

¸,ø¤º°sinn0cent°º¤ø,¸ proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND

 

[Eilan]

I`m not sure whether to be happy this didn`t cause a flame war or to be sad that all the women seemed to accept this as a given.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I chose to ignore it.

 

[Quoll]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I chose to ignore it.

Well I probably could have but it`s the whole attitude thing, even though it was probably said in jest it`s those sort of statements that stick.

Where`s your AV ? You have lurked long enough to earn one, don`t mean to be pushy but......

 

[phoenix6666]

Sorry!

To Bob and quoll and any others who I may have offended:

I'm really sorry for whatever misgivings and hurt you may have felt towards my statement. I honestly didn't intend to offend anyone or anything by my off-color remark. My personality is such that I usually make as many self-deprecating remarks as I can in order to make the situation more light and not as tense as it could be. Usually I ask questions that many people would have a hard time answering for any number of reasons and have found that people do relax quite a bit when they find out I have a sense of humor and know how to make fun of myself. The remark was made with no malice or intention of categorizing you as a neanderthal or cro-magnon man or any other lower lifeform such as myself with base emotions and wants. I'm sure all of you are highly erudite and civilized and I apologize deeply for ANY OFFENSE you have felt as well as any loss of character you may have experienced from reading my post.

For the record, I do enjoy personality and intelligence more than physical beauty. I look at women as equals and not objects.

I promise in the future that I will be much more careful when posting and try to make sure that whatever comments I make reflect upon me and me alone.

Once again, I can't state enough how deeply sorry I am for whatever pain you may have felt from the remark. And I hope that this apology will go and smooth things over so that I may still be welcome here. This is a great community and I would like very much to be apart of it but it seems that I have gotten off on the wrong foot with many of you. Again, I'm very sorry.

 

[Quoll]

To Bob and quoll and any others who I may have offended:

I'm really sorry for whatever misgivings and hurt you may have felt towards my statement. I honestly didn't intend to offend anyone or anything by my off-color remark. My personality is such that I usually make as many self-deprecating remarks as I can in order to make the situation more light and not as tense as it could be. Usually I ask questions that many people would have a hard time answering for any number of reasons and have found that people do relax quite a bit when they find out I have a sense of humor and know how to make fun of myself. The remark was made with no malice or intention of categorizing you as a neanderthal or cro-magnon man or any other lower lifeform such as myself with base emotions and wants. I'm sure all of you are highly erudite and civilized and I apologize deeply for ANY OFFENSE you have felt as well as any loss of character you may have experienced from reading my post.

For the record, I do enjoy personality and intelligence more than physical beauty. I look at women as equals and not objects.

I promise in the future that I will be much more careful when posting and try to make sure that whatever comments I make reflect upon me and me alone.

Once again, I can't state enough how deeply sorry I am for whatever pain you may have felt from the remark. And I hope that this apology will go and smooth things over so that I may still be welcome here. This is a great community and I would like very much to be apart of it but it seems that I have gotten off on the wrong foot with many of you. Again, I'm very sorry.

Wow phoenix6666 that was almost one of the most believable apologies I have ever read and while I fully understand that the statement was made in jest and it is patently obvious that you yourself are no monosyllabic troglodyte.
It is merely the statement itself I found offensive, many things said in jest tend to be taken as truth by some of our lesser informed visitors, (you must have read some of those posts). Blah blah blah wordy explanation about the denigrating of members of society etc etc. No need to apologise to me.
Much prefer self deprecating humour to it`s close cousin self defecating humour.

 

[Bobmi357]

Phoenix,
There are people here that will swear this is a porn website, and in a way I guess it might be. But I like to think this is much more than that, more like a way of exploring human sexuality without the crass low nature of porn becoming involved.

98% of the people here are willing to discuss all sorts of issues, and we do fool around. The problem we often have is the remaining 2% that float in, post an obnoxious message that pisses people off and float out never to be seen again. Or worse, stick around annoying people.

I'll accept your apology and offer my own personal Welcome to Lit. I realize you may have been joking, but try to remember in the future that its not always easy to tell when someone is joking from a post. A have a great bunch of people here, and for the most part, they are willing to answer questions and discuss issues relating to problems you may be encountering. For my own part I'll offer my own apology right back at you. I shouldn't have jumped on your comments, we all have a tendency to look at people with low post counts and mutter "Troll".

So welcome to Lit, and welcome to the How To Cafe, one of the best behaved subboards on lit.

 

[Alyx]

While looks really don't play a part in my conscious thinking about a guy, I know they do play a small roll. So I looked at my husband and thought about this thread. You know what I realized? I got EXACTLY what I was looking for! WooHoo! Yay me! Those things are:

Confidence
A fantastic sense of humor (that man keeps me laughing!)
Intelligence
The ability to communicate well
Never shies away from painful subjects or problems that need to be addressed
Loves to cuddle, touch and hug.
Is a complete nerd, and damn proud of it!

But since the original poster is insisting on the purely physical:

On the looks side, he fits everything I find attractive. Dark hair, beautiful eyes (Hazel/green. I never liked dark eyes), large strong hands, a tight, cute ass and the most stunning pair of lips I have ever seen or felt (and he knows how to use them!).

~Sigh~ Damn, I'm a lucky woman!

 

[Bobmi357]

DAMN! Now I'm blushing!

 

[sweetness83]

My boyfriend fulfils all the main points I look for (physically and otherwise) in a man:

- knowing eyes + eyelashes that send me to pieces!
- crooked sexy grin
- air of confidence/arrogance

Non-looks-wise, he has to be intelligent, and absolutely *has* to know his way around a computer (benchmark). Sense of humour must be wry, I don't find guys that crack jokes constantly attractive. I also can't stand guys that try too hard to please..

 

[Eilan]

Where`s your AV ? You have lurked long enough to earn one, don`t mean to be pushy but......

I'm workin' on it!

I was so anxious to get to 100 posts, and now that I'm there I haven't had time to do anything about it. Thought I'd get my hubby to help me take some pics tonight. He got me this nice digital camera for Christmas and we haven't put it to good use yet. I know my av doesn't HAVE to be of me, but. . .

 

[Quoll]

I'm workin' on it!

I was so anxious to get to 100 posts, and now that I'm there I haven't had time to do anything about it. Thought I'd get my hubby to help me take some pics tonight. He got me this nice digital camera for Christmas and we haven't put it to good use yet. I know my av doesn't HAVE to be of me, but. . .

That`s ok didn`t mean to pressure you...............
Is it up yet?
Hmm free or fettered!

 

[Munachi]

I can never completely say what I like about someone when I really like them, but despite this, of course looks are important. Personality is too, to like someone both has to be alright. Some guys I see and I know I would never like them, no matter how nice they are.

As appearantly most others here I do prefer darker guys, and not too thin. There are also some light haired guys I really find good looking though, a lot has to do with a specific colour combination, and... well, as I said I usually can't put it into words, but if you'd present me a group of guys, the percentage of those I would even consider having anything with would be very low.