What do women really look for in men?

[boston_bbw]

I am all about the arms and shoulders. I don't like them so muscley and bulky they cant even put them down by their sides.. and I don't like scrawney looking weaklings but just a natural looking definition and solid.

 

[pink swirl]

I have a thing for hands. I like to imagine where they might touch. Long slender fingers, thicker, rougher, large warm hands, tickling, stroking, probing, cupping, squeezing. They're all good.

 

[Cakegirl]

I had an argument about this with a good guy friend. He insists that women look at his crotch when they first meet him. (He also believes that all men are looking at him and want to fight him when we're in a bar.) My girlfriend and I insisted that 99% of the time, if a girl is actually checking him out, or finds him attractive enough to approach him, it's because of his chest, stomach, back or arms, or possibly his butt. He honestly thought we were MAD for thinking ANY of those places would be attractive on a man... HAHA LOL! I guess he just didn't have any idea what women are looking at... My girlfriend was then like "I like your chest best. Cakegirl, what do you like the most?" I was like "I like your arms, but my best friend told me she thinks you have a nice butt." Hahahahaha!

 

[Eilan]

I wasn't even thinking about this when I posted the other night:

My husband gets a kick out of the fact that I really like his hands. I think they're just beautiful--and I've told him so, even though it makes him cringe to hear the word "beautiful" applied to him. They're a little on the small side, but they're well-shaped and his nails always look nice--and I KNOW he doesn't get manicures or anything like that.

I like his forearms, too, which is odd because I never really paid attention to a man's forearms before I met him. They're big, but not TOO beefy; they just look strong. He's a cop, so he says it's from all those years of writing traffic tickets!

 

[lisasmurf]

I'm going to have to go with the "politically correct" answer as well. No guy, by looks alone has ever got me going. It has a lot to do with projected confidence and personality.

I'm personally immediately attracted to guys with great smiles and a good sense of humour. Although a set of pretty soulful eyes is one thing that really gets my attention. I think it has something to do with having dark eyes myself, like Fleatopia said.

she said it all as for me too

I found the more a guy is a real stud muffin the bigger jerk he is. He so into himself he forgets i'm around!

a guy with great smiles and a good sense of humour can make me laugh.. and to be just clean, takes a bath (shower) ever day or more! understand what a tooth brush is how to use it!...... ((( AND DOESN"T SMOKE!.... ))) he got be taller then me also i'm 5'7" I like over 6 foot......NOT to hairie sorry!

 

[Lynxie]

Quick hijack...
Which reminds me, Lynxie, when are yours going to make an appearance?

Well, there they are. I've already gotten some positive feedback on them, but I don't feel that they have the same flare that WW's and Erika's do (can boobs have flare?). Maybe this will become a work in progress...

 

[BXGemini20]

Well, there they are. I've already gotten some positive feedback on them, but I don't feel that they have the same flare that WW's and Erika's do (can boobs have flare?). Maybe this will become a work in progress...

Lovely AV, Lynxie though I like the other one better.

 

[SweetErika]

Well, there they are. I've already gotten some positive feedback on them, but I don't feel that they have the same flare that WW's and Erika's do (can boobs have flare?). Maybe this will become a work in progress...

Gorgeous!!! I think they do...thanks for sharing!

 

[Lynxie]

Lovely AV, Lynxie though I like the other one better.

That's just nipple withdrawal. You'll get over it.

 

[jupiter lilly]

Green eyes... *sigh* They make me melt.
I am definately attracted to guys with nice kissable full lips. I love chest hair, strong (not overly built) arms and a nice round ass that you can grab on to.

Overall body type, I love bigger guys...someone who's a bit soft in some areas, and cuddly like a teddy bear...but strong.

I love broken noses too...probably has a lot to do with the fact that I lust after hockey players. I don't go for pretty boys...I want someone masculine and a bit rough around the edges.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Let's get physical - you don't know how hard it is for me to answer this question. I married perhaps the most beautiful man I've ever seen. Just drop dead gorgeous. And the most cruel, evil, abusive person I've ever met as well.

That being said - ever since then I usually seek out not so good looking men. Of course - I can't say that in front of my S/O - but I have had a friend (the one I bought the vibator for) ask what I saw in him. Just so you know I am really not kidding when I say looks don't do a thing for me.

But if I had to pick physical attributes they would be - in order of importance:
Larger than me (don't want to look like Frick and Frack)
Bald with facial hair
Blonde hair - blue eyes
Chest hair - lots of body hair is great!
Good teeth

and most important - but not a physical trait - his voice. Doesn't have to be baritone - but that's an added plus.

 

[magentah]

it has got to be sense of humor ......

if anyone can make me laugh until my stomach hurts?....there's no bigger turn on in the world for me.....

 

[Guest]

And I don't mean personality-wise. Pure looks. What kind of guy gets the attention of you beautiful ladies?

I don't think it matters with most guys since all we really care about are a pair of tits and a pussy. But I'm guessing that you ladies are a bit more selective than we are. So what is it? And don't go all politically correct and say that guy's looks don't matter. That may happen after you get to know him, but what makes you get all wet when you see him from across the room for the first time?

Since we're only talking about the physical:

There is something about having a mustache. Hot dayum!!

I have it all. A kind man who's gentle, loving, a wonderful listener, awesome lover, a mustache AND goatee. I could go on but wouldn't want him to get an ego being on Lit himself. <chuckles>

MUSTACHE!!

 

[LadyJeanne]

I like a mischievous, knowing look in a man's eyes when he's smiling at me.

*swoon*

 

[Guest]

I like a mischievous, knowing look in a man's eyes when he's smiling at me.

*swoon*

Ditto that!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Ditto that!

ditto the mustache and goatee too!

 

[Guest]

ditto the mustache and goatee too!

What a ride

 

[Quoll]

A recent scientific study found that the kind of male a woman finds
attractive can differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle.

For instance, if she is ovulating she is attracted to men with rugged and
masculine features. And if she is menstruating, she is likely to prefer a man doused in petrol and set on fire, with scissors shoved deep
into his temple and a cricket stump jammed up his arse. Further studies
are expected.

 

[sassykat]

And I don't mean personality-wise. Pure looks. What kind of guy gets the attention of you beautiful ladies?

I don't think it matters with most guys since all we really care about are a pair of tits and a pussy. But I'm guessing that you ladies are a bit more selective than we are. So what is it? And don't go all politically correct and say that guy's looks don't matter. That may happen after you get to know him, but what makes you get all wet when you see him from across the room for the first time?

Actually, a guys looks don't matter to me...it is personality, smile, which i guess might be considered as looks, and how he acts around you when you first meet. Usually you can tell if all he wants is pussy or if he wants to get to know you. I have been fooled before but normally I have a pretty good instinct about such things. However, it does usually come down to that one thing, the pussy and what it gives or doesn't. Some men seem to not want any adversity to go along with getting that pussy. If things don't always go there way, they fly...but there is also the man that realizes that men and women don't think alike and they can work together to figure out what it is that both want...and sometimes it isn't just pussy...it is a friend, lover and sex partner.

 

[Guest]

A recent scientific study found that the kind of male a woman finds
attractive can differ depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle.

For instance, if she is ovulating she is attracted to men with rugged and
masculine features. And if she is menstruating, she is likely to prefer a man doused in petrol and set on fire, with scissors shoved deep
into his temple and a cricket stump jammed up his arse. Further studies
are expected.

And isn't it the truth?

Thanks for the laugh!

 

[Stefani]

I'm 5'11" so have always had a thing for tall guys. He could sound like Daffy Duck, but if he's 6'5", i'll probably agree to go out with him... at least once.

Dated a professional hockey player for a while. He was probably the most attractive man I've ever dated. 6'5", 240 pounds, and sort of reminded me of a broad-shouldered, mustached, young Tom Selleck. Incredible in bed too. Also sang in a band. *heart goes pitter pat*

I know it's stupid, but i refuse to date men who are shorter than me. There is a really nice Italian guy that's been chasing me for the last year, constantly asking me out, but i refuse him, simply because he's 5'6". Dumb, I know, but we all have our preferences.

Steffie

 

[Eilan]

Dumb, I know, but we all have our preferences.

It's not dumb--it's how you feel. The responses that we women have made to this thread illustrate that, when it comes to men, we all have certain physical features that really get us going. Or not.

For me, facial hair would probably be a deal-breaker. I've always been drawn to clean-shaven men--I don't know why. For the past 27 years, my husband has had a job that requires him to be clean-shaven. On his days off, he doesn't go near a razor, unless he's off for an extended period of time (and even then he can go for only about 9-10 days before the itching drives him crazy). I think it's sexy when he has a bit of stubble, but I really don't think I'd want him to grow a beard. If he decides to when he retires, though, I'm sure I'll deal with it just fine.

On a side note, there are some men who, in my opinion, look better with facial hair. The guy who played Aragorn in The Lord of the Rings movies is one of them.

I don't know that my husband would be considered physically attractive by other women. It doesn't really matter to me. I sure don't mind seeing his face first thing in the morning!

 

[EarnestImp]

another study

Another study showed that women who consider themselves good looking are drawn to rugged masculine men, but plainer women tend to like their men somewhat more feminine.

The researchers speculated that good looking women are confident of their ability to keep a masculine man from wandering, but plainer women instinctively know that a less rugged guy will stick around.

Similarly, good looking men are likely to find ultra-feminine women (small nose and chin, big eyes) attractive. Ultra-masculine men and ultra-feminine women are likely to be pushed in their respective directions by relatively large amounts of sex hormones. An ultra-masculine man is likely to have a strong constitution because testosterone suppresses the immune system, so anyone who can thrive with a high testosterone level probably has good genes.

Look here for the BBC story.

You can test yourself at this lab but only if you have a Microsoft browser.

 

[Stefani]

On a side note, there are some men who, in my opinion, look better with facial hair. The guy who played Aragorn in The Lord of the Rings movies is one of them.

I don't know that my husband would be considered physically attractive by other women. It doesn't really matter to me. I sure don't mind seeing his face first thing in the morning!

I wouldn't push Aragorn out of bed. ;-) Though it's strange, i've seen the same actor, Viggio (?), in another film where he was a blonde, and I didn't think he was as attractive. But he does look good with slightly long hair, which a lot of men can't pull off.

Eilan, you're lucky to have a good man to wake up to in the morning. It's great that you're happy with him. Most of the married people i know want to be single, and single people like me want to be married. Is anyone ever satisfied? *sigh*

 

[amraam840]

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