What do you think dominants want in an online forum?

[BiBunny]

From my point of view, the inherent insincerity of deference based on nothing more than knowledge that someone ID's as Dominant is really, really offputting.

There's no value to me in respect that hasn't been earned, and frankly I lose respect very quickly for those who offer it without good cause.

Good cause for respect, in my book, is character based. It has absolutely nothing to do with sexual preference or the role I choose in intimate relationships.

You said that a lot better than I did.

 

[JMohegan]

You said that a lot better than I did.

Must be 'cause I'm Dominant.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

GRACIE

Whazzat on your back? You being attacked by a feather boa?

 

[BiBunny]

Must be 'cause I'm Dominant.

Yes, of course, that has to be why, Grandest Lord On High. *Simpers*

 

[graceanne]

GRACIE

Whazzat on your back? You being attacked by a feather boa?

Great, now you're seeing things. I think your doctor should check your dosage.

 

[RJMasters]

CUTIEMOUSE

Shrews are what I see on this board. Shrill, naggy, scolding females. They do their best to dominate the debate. And their aggression isnt congruent with what they claim to be.

The behavior may be a conditioned response to get spanked, I dont know. I suspect it is. But getting your ass paddled is an appetite, not the hallmark of submission. Its simply gluttony for punishment.

Do you have a problem with their intelligence, their ability to articulate well, and/or thier agressiveness?

See I make a distinction. While I might in some ways agree to the aggression aspect at times, I have always appreciated when a submissive woman can articulate her thoughts, opinions and feelings in a well stated and organized manner.

I am unimpressed with those who run around lifting their skirts and giggling when the skirt chasers chase them around. I am also unimpressed with a person who is just a bully regardless whether they identify as dominant or submissive.

A dominant who is intimadated when a submissive expressing herself has some serious self confidence issues, much like those who have a hard time admitting when they are wrong.

I know and understand the intent of the point you are making, but such a blanket statement is hardly helpful, and it is serious lacking in maturity. Why do I say that? Because a person who only points out problems, whines and complains is typically a person who doesn't accept personal responsibility, who often is close minded stunting any personal growth, and has unrealistic expectations which are based more on fantasy than reality.

Catalina, Bandit, Rebecca, Furry, CM, ADR, CW, Pita OSG, Shy, KC (Whom I miss a lot on these boards) Are but a handful of women who I respect as submissives and make this site worth coming to. Very different women with unique life circumstances and outlooks, all blessed with an abundance of common sense and intelligence. When they do participate, what they have to share is always articulated well and appreciated by me. And instead of being intimadated by them, I have learned from them, I have grown, and I am a better man today than I was the day I stepped foot on this board because of them and their influence.

Maybe you will get this and maybe you won't, but when attempting to deal with what you precieve to be a hornets nest, it is ill advised to charge headlong swing a stick recklessly. The end result never helps to resolve any real issues and is only likely to stir up a hornets nest.

Seriously, get off the computer and go for a walk and get some persepctive. Your virtual flatulence stinks.

 

[RJMasters]

Because I'm a fairly active guy, and due to the inherent drawbacks of online communication, most of my social interaction takes place in RL - where my preference is usually for mixed interaction, i.e., social events involving both kinky and non-kinky friends.

For me, the biggest positive of online communication is the speed and convenience. I can pop on when I have a minute or two free, and then pop off. To leave you this message, I don't have to worry about interrupting you when you're eating dinner, helping your kids with their homework, etc. We can have an entire conversation (albeit in slow motion!) without aligning schedules or picking a time & place.

The primary drawback to online communication is the absence of audio & visual clues. It's ridiculously easy to misunderstand and/or to be misunderstood.

Comparing Lit as a BDSM-focused venue to RL BDSM-focused venues, I'd say that two benefits to Lit are the absence of protocol expectations and the relative absence of roleplay in all but an easily-avoided group of threads.

In RL venues organized by BDSM aficionados for BDSM aficionados, I have found that it's really hard to avoid Dominants who refer to themselves as something like "Sir Spectacular" (and behave accordingly) and submissives who behave in a cloyingly deferential way to multiple non-partners, simply because they ID on the Top side.

To me, the atmosphere in RL BDSM-focused events can sometimes feel like a very odd form of group roleplay. Hard to describe, but bizarre to experience if group roleplay isn't really your thing.

Thanks JM, as usual a "V" ring.

 

[Netzach]

Your virtual flatulence stinks.

I'm telling you, jackoff material of the finest order, super hawt for some people. Would not want a black light in that dank little mommy's basement, the spooge stains would be like, massive.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

RJMASTERS

I think you wandered into the deep end of the pool. Turn back while you can.

 

[graceanne]

I'm telling you, jackoff material of the finest order, super hawt for some people.

Nah, he just doesn't have a life, so he comes here to aggravate people. If we ignore him he'll go away. In the meantime I get to laugh at him, cause he's SO obvious.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

NETNAZI youre just ticked cause I'm not a butt boy like RJ

 

[RJMasters]

Gee JBJ

I don't know what to say.

I'm hurt.

And all this time I thought we were going to be good friends.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

BB

Your reaction is about what I expected.

 

[graceanne]

Gee JBJ

I don't know what to say.

I'm hurt.

And all this time I thought we were going to be good friends.

Don't worry. *pats back* Other trolls will come along.

 

[A Desert Rose]

James fella, you should start a thread on this topic and stop derailing this one.

Or maybe you're afraid it will be the party you throw that no one attends?



And thank you for the mention RJ. You're a kind guy.

 

[BiBunny]

Gee JBJ

I don't know what to say.

I'm hurt.

And all this time I thought we were going to be good friends.

*Snort*

"Does this mean you're not my friend anymore? You know, Ed, if I thought you weren't my friend, I don't think I could bear it."

*Bunny goes off to drool over Val Kilmer in Tombstone yet again*

 

[RJMasters]

Don't worry. *pats back* Other trolls will come along.

Hope springs eternal

 

[RJMasters]

I'm telling you, jackoff material of the finest order, super hawt for some people. Would not want a black light in that dank little mommy's basement, the spooge stains would be like, massive.

After reading this I couldn't help but think of the line form Macbeth...

Out damn'd spot! Out!

 

[RJMasters]

thank you for the mention RJ. You're a kind guy.

Meant every word.

 

[RJMasters]

*Snort*

"Does this mean you're not my friend anymore? You know, Ed, if I thought you weren't my friend, I don't think I could bear it."

*Bunny goes off to drool over Val Kilmer in Tombstone yet again*

Chuckles. That was a great movie. One of my favs for the one liners in it.

 

[BiBunny]

Chuckles. That was a great movie. One of my favs for the one liners in it.

Doc Holliday is my dream Dom. I have a thread about it around here somewhere. The educated, cultured, badass Southern gentleman. I get this funny twitch every time I hear him say, "I'm your huckleberry." *Sigh* I love that movie and quote it entirely too damned much.

/end hijack

 

[RJMasters]

Doc Holliday is my dream Dom. I have a thread about it around here somewhere. The educated, cultured, badass Southern gentleman. I get this funny twitch every time I hear him say, "I'm your huckleberry." *Sigh* I love that movie and quote it entirely too damned much.

/end hijack

"Why ringo....you look like someone just walked over your grave...."

one of my favorite parts though was when ringo was twitching after he had been shot in the head..and he(doc) leans in and says...you're no daisy....you're no daisy tat'all...

 

[BiBunny]

"Why ringo....you look like someone just walked over your grave...."

one of my favorite parts though was when ringo was twitching after he had been shot in the head..and he(doc) leans in and says...you're no daisy....you're no daisy tat'all...

*Starts sweating, drooling, panting, and making incoherent noises*

 

[Xelebes]

Dominants and, more importantly, sadists like dealing pain. They post on the GB.

 

[Netzach]

Oh, no, that's masochism.
I've tried that, it's not as much fun for me.