What do you think dominants want in an online forum?

[Chris_Xavier]

I can't help it...

Please explain your "take on a real Dominant" comment?

Honestly - in an online community where the silly formality of speaking of oneself in the third person and groveling at the cyber-feet of anyone who announces themselves to be dominant isn't expected or encouraged, how do you expect submissive posters to interact with the community?

I see it a lot more at the CollarMe boards than here... women who beg forgiveness for even starting threads, or ask pardon for posting in the "Masters Forum", or always use the lower case/speak of themselves in the third person/act like frightened little birds rather than capable human beings who are also submissive. I find that behavior far less submissive than politely speaking one's mind...

The few pyls that I've run into that behave that usually wind up annoying me but then again maybe I'm not a Dom.. maybe I'm not heterosexual.. or maybe even gasp.. a male.. Wait..

Okay.. I just checked. I am a male.. so I guess the above suppositions are false as well.

Why do I come here? To learn.. laugh.. talk with like minded individuals and am grateful for the friendships I've forged.

Plus y'all need me here to keep the bunny in check..

 

[Kajira Callista]

Here is a question for submissives mostly, but all feel free to chime in.

I am sure there are many reasons, but I think it would be interesting to take a pulse from those of you who identify as submissives as to what you think in this regards.

What are some of the things you believe dominants want or like about being part of an online community? Why do you think a dominant would choose to be a part of or particpate in an online community?

Conversely what things do you think would tend to cause the reverse effect of this as well?

LOL You don't really want MY answer to this.

 

[RJMasters]

LOL You don't really want MY answer to this.

Sure I do. And ty for showing up

 

[BiBunny]

Plus y'all need me here to keep the bunny in check..

Such a thing is impossible for a mere man.

But I'm going to be serious for a moment. (Yeah, I know. *Gasp*) Why does it really matter if we have a consensus on who's "real" and who's not? I mean, I'm entitled to my opinion about who's real and who's not, and I can listen and ignore accordingly. Chris is entitled to his opinion about who's real and who's not, too, and that doesn't necessarily mean his list will be identical to mine. Seriously, the best thing to do is just take what you want to away from this place and leave the rest. Make serious use of the "Ignore" button if necessary. I mean, I'm sure I'm on a number of ignore lists, but, frankly, Scarlet....

 

[Kajira Callista]

Here is a question for submissives mostly, but all feel free to chime in.

I am sure there are many reasons, but I think it would be interesting to take a pulse from those of you who identify as submissives as to what you think in this regards.

What are some of the things you believe dominants want or like about being part of an online community? Why do you think a dominant would choose to be a part of or particpate in an online community?

Conversely what things do you think would tend to cause the reverse effect of this as well?

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I don't think dominants come to online communities to share knowledge...
they come to cast nets...
not all, but most.

 

[RJMasters]

Such a thing is impossible for a mere man.

But I'm going to be serious for a moment. (Yeah, I know. *Gasp*) Why does it really matter if we have a consensus on who's "real" and who's not? I mean, I'm entitled to my opinion about who's real and who's not, and I can listen and ignore accordingly. Chris is entitled to his opinion about who's real and who's not, too, and that doesn't necessarily mean his list will be identical to mine. Seriously, the best thing to do is just take what you want to away from this place and leave the rest. Make serious use of the "Ignore" button if necessary. I mean, I'm sure I'm on a number of ignore lists, but, frankly, Scarlet....

hmmmm...I am not so sure the focus of this discussion is about who is real or who isn't real....perhaps you mean, the reason why dominants would come here is because there are people who are here that appear or feel more real. I would agree on the latter.

"Seriously, the best thing to do is just take what you want to away from this place and leave the rest."

Do you think that dominants come mostly for what they get out of it or what they put into it?

 

[ecstaticsub]

I don't know why most Dominants come to this message board or any others. I know the major reason my Dom went on the message board where he and I met. That reason was to find someone like me. Now that he has me, he no longer goes on that message board or any others.

I am quite thankful that the Dominants who do come here share their views. It is always interesting to see how the other side thinks. Especially for myself because I am relatively new to D/s relationships. I'm constantly learning.

 

[RJMasters]

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I don't think dominants come to online communities to share knowledge...
they come to cast nets...
not all, but most.

Straight forward and honest.

Thinking about your answer I agree. I think net casting is a big reason why many dominants come to online communities. Sometimes even sharing knowledge is a type of, or way of, casting a net.

I also think many submissives like to be caught up, snared, and bound in those nets too.

 

[intothewoods]

I don't think what dominants want in an online forum is all that different from what submissives want. Most of us come here for information, conversation, and community.

As to those who come here to flirt, or even cyber or whatever, I don't particularly have a problem with them, as long as they're honest. Just don't pretend to be something you're not.

 

[graceanne]

they come to cast netz...

Cast her where? And wouldn't that piss her off? I wouldn't cast Netz anywhere.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Straight forward and honest.

Thinking about your answer I agree. I think net casting is a big reason why many dominants come to online communities. Sometimes even sharing knowledge is a type of, or way of, casting a net.

I also think many submissives like to be caught up, snared, and bound in those nets too.

*purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrssss as she pretends to try and untangle herself*

 

[Kajira Callista]

Cast her where? And wouldn't that piss her off? I wouldn't cast Netz anywhere.

that made me really lmao...tears n everything.

 

[BiBunny]

hmmmm...I am not so sure the focus of this discussion is about who is real or who isn't real....perhaps you mean, the reason why dominants would come here is because there are people who are here that appear or feel more real. I would agree on the latter.

"Seriously, the best thing to do is just take what you want to away from this place and leave the rest."

Do you think that dominants come mostly for what they get out of it or what they put into it?

Yeah, that's what I meant. I was in a hurry when I wrote that. I'm bad about knowing what I mean, but not being able to spit it out so other people know.

And I think that the get out/put in debate depends a lot on the experience of the dominant. Speaking personally, I don't have nearly the experience as a dominant as I do as a submissive. So I try to glean what I can from the other Dom/mes on the board, since, let's face it, most of them have more experience than I do. On the other hand, I like to contribute when I can to help others out (or just hear myself talk ) if at all possible.

Yeah, I'm rambling again. Sorry. I think I'll bow out now.

 

[graceanne]

that made me really lmao...tears n everything.

I still have 'the touch'.

 

[Luvkitty33]

I still have 'the touch'.

Just wanted to say that I love your new AV!!

 

[Homburg]

I have no bloody clue if I qualify as a 'real' Dom or not. *shrug* I'm here because I enjoy being here. Conversation, knowledge, various points of view holding forth on various issues, etc. And the occassional jpeg of avi file doesn't hurt

That said, a major reason for me is to gain perspective. When I look around at my RL peers, well, what I do is a touch different. Not a one of them is involved, and only one has a meaningful concept of what it is to be involved. So while I don't need justification or validation, it is handy to be able to gain some insight from the similar experiences of others.

Why here as opposed to Collarme or some other place? Desperation is a smell that offends me. It is less prevalent here.

 

[BiBunny]

Why here as opposed to Collarme or some other place? Desperation is a smell that offends me. It is less prevalent here.

Ditto.