What does he want???

[Noor]

I lol'd at that, too.

Aside from the separating from the family bit, jacintexas pretty much has me all figured out.

Not sure what his point is, though.

she should run away now...

if your case, I am not sure how you will run away from yourself, but good luck

 

[JMohegan]

she should run away now...

if your case, I am not sure how you will run away from yourself, but good luck

That was just a little BDSM humor, Noor. Nothing to get worked up about.

 

[shy slave]

That was just a little BDSM humor, Noor. Nothing to get worked up about.

BDSM has humour

Learn something new everyday...

*wanders off pondering the concept of BDSM and humour in the same sentence*

 

[Noor]

That was just a little BDSM humor, Noor. Nothing to get worked up about.

I wasn't worked up, it was just a bit of Noor humour ;-)

 

[Private_Label]

Ok so I kind of got some information from him.

He is getting his phd, and the university gives him free tuition, if he teaches a class. So he keeps wanting me to take his class. Or making jokes about it. and of course I laugh, so he said he would love it if I was his student. So he told me "ever one has a fetish" and finally I said, yes, it would turn me on to be your student. because it would!!

I'm in agreement with the advice to NOT take his class. Universities have rules and should he get caught dating you (should you become his student) it could affect his free ride at the university.

WHAT DOES HE MEAN??

Only he can tell you that.

and what should I dare him to do.

I like the suggestion to dare him to sit down and have a serious discussion in total honesty, with no guessing games. Or just to answer your questions honestly for an hour with no mysterious "for me to know and you to find out" phrases. However the forfeit for if he accepts the dare and fails...

and no, we have not had sex yet, obviously.

Well, as long as you are legally entitled to make the choice, who am I to say you shouldn't be.

You are young, he is young (ok older than you yes, but still under 25 right?). If you find his actions make you attracted to him, then he has at least accomplished that.


On a different note... I'm not certain of this use of the word 'fetish.' If you want to take that to the extreme... I could say that I have a fetish for men because I'm heterosexual. You may enjoy the thrill of the unknown/feeling scared a bit, but you may not want it all the time or even most of the time. I'd also mention that what you are feeling may be "arousal" and not "fear" (hey, been there made that mistake myself when I was younger before I understood that was what my body was telling me!).


In order to find out what this man wants and what he means is to have a serious no game playing talk with him. Or continue his game playing and get your answers slowly as you two get to know each other.

We just want you to be safe, be mindful, and know that there are people at your university that can help you if you need it (the ombudsman's office, the head of your department, the dean of the college the guy is a TA, for example).

Be happy.