What pissed you off today?

[Mz_Cunningham]

It *is* possible; however, one cannot tell, since she has no location listed. Given her age and the general tenor and construction of her posts, I am postulating that she likely is a native English speaker with an average American public high school education.

Really? Given her age and tone and post construction I would still assume that english isn't her first language.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Gandma has had her limit. She called mom crying saying she just couldn't take anymore. I can't say I blame her, two weeks, going on three, of your husband being in the hospital and spending near the whole time with him would make the best of us crack.

So this means mom has to go spend another day at the hospital, and not sneak away with me like we had hoped.

What pisses me off is that it doesn't have to be this way. Mom is one of 4 kids! The youngest I can understand, there's a warent out for him and the oldest (who put said warent out) has said that she would turn him in if he came up. The next youngest is just an asshole drunk who doesn't want to be bothered with this. But what pisses me off the most is mom's older sister. This woman washed the bloody sheets from my step father's bed every 4 hours for 6 days straight, and after she had one "bad night" with Grandpa, now she's all self obsorbed and can't deal with it. My mom has had 14 bad nights. And now when I need her, when she needs a break, we can't spend the day together because she's the only one of her siblings that will stay with him.

And what pisses me off even more is that I'm now feeling very selfish for wanting to spend the day with my mom when I'm having a hard time.

There's no need to feel selfish. You too are having to deal with your grandfather's condition, and moms are often the best source of comfort in this type of situation, not to mention that part of your reason for wanting time with her is to give *her* comfort. Do the best you can to make it easier for both of you. Perhaps you could bring her up a nice take-out from one of her favorite restaurants, even just a slice of tiramisu or other dessert, to eat in the waiting area or family lounge while you stay with grandpa for a little bit, just so she can "get away," even if only for 15 minutes or so. I can assure you that she will appreciate it far out of proportion with the effort it takes, and you will feel immeasurably better for having at least temporarily eased her load to some degree. s for you both.

ETA: And don't stress over her other sibs who don't seem to be "able to cope." It just adds more to your (and her) load, and does nothing to help. Besides -


karma *will* be visited....

 

[CandiCame]

Being stood up for lunch.

And it was such a lovely day to sit by the water and have something tasty to eat.

Funny though, guys understand that "it's fine" repeated over and over is code for 'this is definitely not fucking fine' but chicks don't seem to get it.

You can stick your promises of making it up, and visiting later up your ass, thanks.

I didn't know that either, but I'm a forward kind of person. If someone pisses me off, I tell them I'm pissed off. I would expect the same curtosy (sp?). I hate it when people do this, because I am NOT A FUCKING MIND READER WILLIAM!

Why didn't you just say, "this is not fucking fine"? I don't really know any guys who would think, "it's fine" over and over meant anything other then "it's fine".

 

[TarevaChine]

Funny though, guys understand that "it's fine" repeated over and over is code for 'this is definitely not fucking fine' but chicks don't seem to get it.

Your post reminded me of this:

It is always good to understand the art of communication.

WORDS WOMEN USE​

FINE - This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

FIVE MINUTES - If she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

NOTHING - This is the calm before the storm. This means "something," and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with 'Nothing' usually end in "Fine".

LOUD SIGH - This is not actually a word, but is a nonverbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot
and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing".

THAT'S OKAY - This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

THANKS - A woman is thanking you. Do not question it or faint. Just say you're welcome.

Oh, and before we forget
"Whatever"
...it's a woman's way of saying FUCK YOU!​

 

[Chiara_searches]

Yet another new poster who doesn't know the difference between "dominate" and "dominant."


Why can't they come up with something new to fuck up?

Even highly educated people can mess up. I have an advanced degree and a problem with homophones. I also type fairly fast. Sometimes I think the first half of a word as I'm formulating sentences in my head and then type the last half wrong...which I've actually done on dominant vs. dominate. However, I also spend a lot of time editing what I write...still, we don't always catch our own errors.

Perhaps the poster will see your remark and take better care next time.

 

[Chiara_searches]

Gandma has had her limit. She called mom crying saying she just couldn't take anymore. I can't say I blame her, two weeks, going on three, of your husband being in the hospital and spending near the whole time with him would make the best of us crack.

So this means mom has to go spend another day at the hospital, and not sneak away with me like we had hoped.

What pisses me off is that it doesn't have to be this way. Mom is one of 4 kids! The youngest I can understand, there's a warent out for him and the oldest (who put said warent out) has said that she would turn him in if he came up. The next youngest is just an asshole drunk who doesn't want to be bothered with this. But what pisses me off the most is mom's older sister. This woman washed the bloody sheets from my step father's bed every 4 hours for 6 days straight, and after she had one "bad night" with Grandpa, now she's all self obsorbed and can't deal with it. My mom has had 14 bad nights. And now when I need her, when she needs a break, we can't spend the day together because she's the only one of her siblings that will stay with him.

And what pisses me off even more is that I'm now feeling very selfish for wanting to spend the day with my mom when I'm having a hard time.

Hang in there Wenchie. I think it's a good sign that you are self-aware enough to express these concerns and not self-centered in terms of recognizing right now it just can't be the way you need it. You shouldn't feel selfish for having a need; forcing others to bend to your need would be the selfish act.

 

[midwestyankee]

Even highly educated people can mess up. I have an advanced degree and a problem with homophones. I also type fairly fast. Sometimes I think the first half of a word as I'm formulating sentences in my head and then type the last half wrong...which I've actually done on dominant vs. dominate. However, I also spend a lot of time editing what I write...still, we don't always catch our own errors.

Perhaps the poster will see your remark and take better care next time.

Actually, while your explanation holds for many people, it's not the case in point. The poster to which SirW refers has seen a correction of her error in a follow-up post and failed to notice the difference.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Even highly educated people can mess up. I have an advanced degree and a problem with homophones. I also type fairly fast. Sometimes I think the first half of a word as I'm formulating sentences in my head and then type the last half wrong...which I've actually done on dominant vs. dominate. However, I also spend a lot of time editing what I write...still, we don't always catch our own errors.

Perhaps the poster will see your remark and take better care next time.

Actually, while your explanation holds for many people, it's not the case in point. The poster to which SirW refers has seen a correction of her error in a follow-up post and failed to notice the difference.

So you won't have to chase it down

I am submissive and now I have a dominate man in my life, problem is I have no idea what I am doing. I am young and unexperienced at this. Can someone please help me?

If *he* says he's "a dominate man," lose him in the nearest ice crevasse. If he doesn't know the difference between "dominate" (a verb) and "dominant" (adjective or noun), he isn't one. <snip>

I am the one saying he is dominate. I may not be experienced, but I can tell by the way he acts.

And thanks, Yank, for getting a concise version of my response in before I even had the chance

 

[Chiara_searches]

Actually, while your explanation holds for many people, it's not the case in point. The poster to which SirW refers has seen a correction of her error in a follow-up post and failed to notice the difference.

Gotcha...my mistake for not going further back to find exactly what he was discussing. Apologies to all. I guess I also liked the excuse of declaring (again) my homophone problem so people forgive me when they find my errors.

 

[Skytripper]

Regarding the dominate vs dominant issue:

It may seem a quibble about the difference, a mere mistake in typing or pronunciation, but to a "D"ominant to whom the error applies, it may not be. As a submissive, the poster may find it prudent, both in speech and in writing, to understand the difference and use the words correctly. The OP did ask for help.

 

[Chiara_searches]

So you won't have to chase it down

Thanks ~ I amend my position and agree whole heartedly that people need to pull their heads out of those proverbial places. It's just rude to not even invest the time to "read" what someone posts in reply....and sort of rude for me to not seek the answer before commenting in the first place. Again, apologies.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Thanks ~ I amend my position and agree whole heartedly that people need to pull their heads out of those proverbial places. It's just rude to not even invest the time to "read" what someone posts in reply....and sort of rude for me to not seek the answer before commenting in the first place. Again, apologies.

Nah... there are too many threads to "seek the answer" when it's not specified.

No apologies necessary.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I didn't know that either, but I'm a forward kind of person. If someone pisses me off, I tell them I'm pissed off. I would expect the same curtosy (sp?). I hate it when people do this, because I am NOT A FUCKING MIND READER WILLIAM!

Why didn't you just say, "this is not fucking fine"? I don't really know any guys who would think, "it's fine" over and over meant anything other then "it's fine".

It's all in the tone.

You can tell.

Mind you, the other half always knows when I say I'm fine, and I'm not. To the point where he's pulled the car over to make me talk about my lack of fine-ness. So maybe it's just him

Your post reminded me of this:

It is always good to understand the art of communication.

WORDS WOMEN USE​

FINE - This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

FIVE MINUTES - If she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

NOTHING - This is the calm before the storm. This means "something," and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with 'Nothing' usually end in "Fine".

LOUD SIGH - This is not actually a word, but is a nonverbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot
and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing".

THAT'S OKAY - This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

THANKS - A woman is thanking you. Do not question it or faint. Just say you're welcome.

Oh, and before we forget
"Whatever"
...it's a woman's way of saying FUCK YOU!​

Muahahahahahahaha

 

[Lilac_Sky]

howling, growling dogs
crickets
stomping, loud neighbors
inconsiderate people
leaking faucets
broken shower heads
bright lights shining in windows at night

 

[redslady]

howling, growling dogs
crickets
stomping, loud neighbors
inconsiderate people
leaking faucets
broken shower heads
bright lights shining in windows at night

Sending ear plugs and room darkening shades your way. Complete with the "been there, done that" Tshirt.

 

[shy slave]

I had to look up what 'ruminant' meant.

Wenchie - There are people all over the globe sending you thoughts and energy. Look after yourself

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I had to look up what 'ruminant' meant.
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And that's fine. You haven't spent the last many years in the same building as two and a half years of veterinary students. You're not trying to relate to them or get them to bring their problems to you. This is the same guy who wrote a research paper on what stresses us out and while I ahven't read it (not published yet), the article about it did not mention our GIGANTIC student debt once.

Yah no. My friends may not be therapists, but at least they know where I'm bloody coming from.

 

[shewantsmore]

Friends are ok but you dont want them around you all the time,,especially when you feel trapped and need some space

 

[PatchIsMe]

A phone call to come pick up the dog I gave away 2 months ago from the police dpt. Apparently the people I thought were going to take care of him abandoned him! Assholes.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Friends are ok but you dont want them around you all the time,,especially when you feel trapped and need some space

This is true, but that's not usually an issue with my friends. If anything, we maintain too much space from each other.

If i'm having specific stress to my field, I want to talk to someone who understands where I'm coming from. It sounds to me like he wouldn't even understand what I was talking about. hell, if I'm having stress outside my field, I want to talk to someone who understands what else I have to juggle. He doesn't.


And Patch, that's terrible. I'm sorry your trust was betrayed that way.

 

[o2bebd]

howling, growling dogs
crickets
stomping, loud neighbors
inconsiderate people
leaking faucets
broken shower heads
bright lights shining in windows at night

I work in apartment management- I will talk to your neighbors. Send out the grounds crew to kill the crickets. Send out maintenance to fix the faucet and shower head and get new blinds put in for the window. Hugs!

 

[sereneone4u]

not pleasing him

 

[bhndblueyes88]

rabbit chewed apart my doona!! >:[

 

[cfuhrer]

rabbit chewed apart my doona!! >:[

See now, rumenant I knew but doona sent me to google.
Was your bunn nesting?
I love bunns!

 

[bhndblueyes88]

See now, rumenant I knew but doona sent me to google.
Was your bunn nesting?
I love bunns!

maybe that was his goal...but he's mostly just destructive. don't get me wrong, i love the fuzzball! but he chooses to chew pretty much everything he's point blank not allowed to chew. I go and get him substitutes for these things (he has his own blanket, his own soft wood chews, etc...etc...) aaaaand he still prefers what he's not supposed to chew.

And I didn't know doona either until I started dating an australian XD