What's The State of the Board?

BDSM Moderators here have almost all been the sort best ignored or treated with a dollop of healthy disdain in order to remind them of that which they preach...they're just another poster with no super powers.

So, I guess I've learned the Mods here are still two-faced and passive-aggressive. (chuckle)

So kids....

Anything interesting going on?

Are newbies treated well?

Are returning oldies welcomed?
 
Lancecastor said:
BDSM Moderators here have almost all been the sort best ignored or treated with a dollop of healthy disdain in order to remind them of that which they preach...they're just another poster with no super powers.

So, I guess I've learned the Mods here are still two-faced and passive-aggressive. (chuckle)

So kids....

Anything interesting going on?

Are newbies treated well?

Are returning oldies welcomed?

Ok Lance, I'll bite..... bend over darlin.... Just kidding.

"Interesting" is in the eye of the beholder. What is interesting to one poster won't be to another. Nothing new there.

From what I've witnessed "newbies" are treated very well around here.

As an "oldie" I would have to say that I've been treated very well, when I've had the opportunity to post.

Thanks for askin snookums. ;)

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As far as I'm concerned I've never had any problems with any of the moderators of this forum, past or present. YMMV.
 
Um.... can someone point me to where I may find CF and PS bickering? I haven't found any of it yet.

As for the moderation - can't moderators have a little fun and engage themselves with the rest of the posters. I agree that moderators must set an example but from whay I have seen, the moderators have been quite even-handed and have been moderating very fairly posts and threads where they should be.

This is coming from a person who has experience with moderrating forums, even if the forum is nowhere near as large as this one.
 
Originally posted by Catalina
Good, then create some threads you will find of interest.

Well, ya know...

I'm walking a fine line between an interesting BDSM and a life that seems to be doing its best to exclude it at the moment. And without driving myself mad, I need to moderate that interest.

I find discussions are better when they draw on reality. At the moment, I can only draw on fantasy and memory.

So, somwhere in that muddle of my life and head, can I contribute constructively? And that's the trick. I would find it easy to be destructive in my frustration. Constructive is much much harder.

I think in all honesty, we have here a group with a dynamic membership, new people joining in, older members resenting having the SAME OLD conversation over and over... all of that contributes to a board that will wax and wane in interest.

I must say I prefer the slow periods to the periods when we all seem to descend into guttersniping though! Thankfully we haven't had one of those for a while.

Anyway, yeah, I'm bored. I'm bored with this period in my life. And that's showing in my level of contribution to the board. I don't think it will last -- I'm sure it won't. I just need to remain constructive, rather than destructive.
 
You make a good point ,FU...kinda like the old "If you can't say anything nice..."

I'm not sure I necessarily agree....the cathartic therapy of shouting and kicking a few things around might help you meet your next partner for all you know...but that's away from the topic.

This thread is starting to sound like one of those "cycles of the forum" things...which always sound fatalistic to me.

I think it'd be fun to generate something vibrant and new out of BDSM discussion...but then again, I've always liked the new thing.
 
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I may have a different perspective on this, being that I am also a Literotica moderator, but not here in BDSM Talk.

Lancecastor said:
BDSM forum moderators have always been far too involved, controlling and bossy for my taste anyway... certainly as compared to the way the other forums here are moderated....that is to say in a general way, I wouldn't be surprised to hear the current BDSM mods are heavy-handed.
I tried that in GLBT Chatter when that forum was originally started, because I thought I had this grand vision. Needless to say, it went over like a lead balloon, so I backed off.

Originally posted by Lancecastor
BDSM Moderators here have almost all been the sort best ignored or treated with a dollop of healthy disdain in order to remind them of that which they preach...they're just another poster with no super powers.
I disagree with your assessment of moderators pretty strongly. Have you seen my "About the role" sticky in GLBT Chatter? Yes, we are "just another poster" but obviously we do have "super powers." We can delete threads from public discussion altogether, for cryin' out loud, isn't that superpower enough? Plus moving personal ads to their appropriate forum, and I personally move a lot of threads from GLBT to How To because they're not really gay related, they're just about anal sex in general or whatever. Mods have a little bit more of a role in GLBT because that forum has a prohibition on gaybashing, and Queersetti and I get reports from time to time calling our attention to an inappropriate post or thread. And then there's the not permitted underage discussions, which mods in both GLBT and BDSM contend with. I wouldn't say we don't have superpowers. But as you'll see in my "About the role" thread, we are also members of the community and entitled to participate. It's not at all fair to ignore us because you don't agree with the fact that we've been trusted and given additional responsibility.

Originally posted by Xelebes
As for the moderation - can't moderators have a little fun and engage themselves with the rest of the posters. I agree that moderators must set an example but from whay I have seen, the moderators have been quite even-handed and have been moderating very fairly posts and threads where they should be.
Yes, exactly. Moderators should set an example for appropriate conduct within their own forum. Outside their moderation zone, they can say whatever the fuck they want. Inside, though, it's appropriate for mods to be able to rise above snipes at them and petty fighting. Several months ago we had issues over in GLBT Chatter where Queersetti felt attacked and felt the need to respond. I sent him a PM saying that wasn't really appropriate, and he agreed, and has backed off from responding to personal attacks since. We don't get involved in flame wars, it's not appropriate, but that doesn't mean we can't participate in normal discussions about topics relevant to our forum (BDSM and GLBT both).
 
Lancecastor said:

I think it'd be fun to generate something vibrant and new out of BDSM discussion...but then again, I've always liked the new thing.


Yes, it would.
As FU suggests, the people who have been here a while find the discussion redundant. After all, how many different topics are there concerning BDSM? Much like the GB, if you have been here long enough, the only interesting stuff is up to the minute current events, humor or flame wars.

So, I wonder, how to generate something "vibrant and new?"

What suggestions does anyone have?
 
Etoile said:
I may have a different perspective on this, being that I am also a Literotica moderator, but not here in BDSM Talk.


I share your perspective on moderating.

:rose:
 
I'd forgotten about the gaylez forum...you're right, that forum is moderated with a heavier hand than this one.

Perhaps the greater the level of "perversity" the more likely it is there will be conflict.

Or perhaps the more subnormal the topic the more sensitive the mods are likely to be due to their own emotional investment.

I wonder what would happen if a straight person moderated the gaylez board and a vanilla person moderated the kink forum?
 
FungiUg said:
Well, ya know...

I'm walking a fine line between an interesting BDSM and a life that seems to be doing its best to exclude it at the moment. And without driving myself mad, I need to moderate that interest.

I find discussions are better when they draw on reality. At the moment, I can only draw on fantasy and memory.

So, somwhere in that muddle of my life and head, can I contribute constructively? And that's the trick. I would find it easy to be destructive in my frustration. Constructive is much much harder.


As someone who is in what sounds like a similar rl situation, but is a relative newbie, it Would be a contribution to hear what you are trying or have tried.

Hell, even bitching can sometimes be cathartic for those who feel similar but are just reading from the sidelines. And, frankly, I wouldn't mind knowing what goes on in a Dom's mind, who isn't getting to, as it would be both interesting, since, occasional appearances to the contrary, I'm not a Dom, and it could help me find some perspective on my situation, from the other side.

Guessing that there might be others who share my view. Share yours?
:rose:
 
Ooooh, Etoile with "super powers". I don't know about you lot, but for some reason, that does it for me big time!

:devil:
 
Lancecastor said:
Perhaps the greater the level of "perversity" the more likely it is there will be conflict.

Hmmm... how do you measure perversity? I find it interesting that you assume "gaylez" (hang on, don't I know him?) is more perverse than BDSM.

Not sure I agree or disagree -- I think it would depend on the individual in question. But it was just an interesting thing that leapt out and made me go "hmmm..."
 
Phoenix Stone said:
Share yours?

Well... I do contribute. I just tend not to instigate much.

But hey, if I get loads of cute women begging me, I might reconsider. :D
 
Etoile already has super powers...she makes my big finger levitate, for example.
 
Lancecastor said:
Etoile already has super powers...she makes my big finger levitate, for example.
Wow, Lance. Thank you.
youloveme.gif
 
*chuckle* I suspect that is your normal reaction to anyone else who has some sort of "power" that you yourself do not possess.
 
FungiUg said:
*chuckle* I suspect that is your normal reaction to anyone else who has some sort of "power" that you yourself do not possess.
Wait, does that mean I shouldn't be flattered? I'm so confused!
 
Etoile said:
Wait, does that mean I shouldn't be flattered? I'm so confused!

Well, that was just my opinion. Feel free to ignore it and feel flattered.

On the other hand, you could just feel smug for possessing super powers that Lancecastor does not himself possess.

On the other other hand...
 
So, the state of the board is.... levitating dick jokes: funny.
 
Lancecastor said:
So, the state of the board is.... levitating dick jokes: funny.
I didn't say it was funny, I said it was flattering. I was serious.

Incidentally, when I was about 12 or 13 my parents figured out a great way to make me smile when they were taking pictures. My dad would just whisper "penis" in my ear. I'd blush and giggle, and the pictures always turned out great.
 
Etoile said:
I didn't say it was funny, I said it was flattering. I was serious.

Incidentally, when I was about 12 or 13 my parents figured out a great way to make me smile when they were taking pictures. My dad would just whisper "penis" in my ear. I'd blush and giggle, and the pictures always turned out great.

I was referring to the fourth horseman of the henny youngman apocalypse there...he repeated his dick joke twice to you.

As for me, I'm seriously flattered you were flattered, but we need to keep the facts in mind:

  • You're very good-looking.
  • You're kinky as hell.
  • You love exotic cars.

These are the sorts of things that give straight guys boners.

Please...use your powers for good.

No, evil.

Good evil.

No, evil good.
 
I find many things interesting here, especially as a lurker much, poster little, but get the feeling perhaps that should change. I'm amused moderators are now supposed to 'rise above' personal attacks...never realised they were super beings without feelings. Not allowed to be human anymore? When did it become bad to defend yourself, or is this a BDSM thing I missed? Pity there weren't others who reached out to a regular I know from this board when they went through a bad time, but there was only one who took the time. If she is what represents bad moderating and nasty person I must have missed somethin. Add I see a real commitment and personal contribution to the board, not boredom as some others have described feeling. As I said, it just amazes me at times how some people think and act. Thankfully it seams to be few, not many.
 
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