Why Daddy?

[shy slave]

Somewhere there are two threads where Serijules and Etoile explain 'Daddy' really well.

I finally understand the dynamic of the use of the word thanks to them. Even if I am sure Serijules was close to strangling me for being so dense for such a long time.

Anyone know how to find those threads?, I have looked but without success.

 

[subtleone]

I could not call my Master Daddy but not because I despise it but because I use it in an everyday non Ds way, to our children I am still mummy and he is still daddy therefore if I were to use it within our Ds dynamic it would be wholly inappropriate as I certainly do not see him in the same way they do and would not like to confuse the two.

 

[planetqueen]

I've seen Mommy for femmes, Daddy for butches and those along the more masculine spectrum, even for femmes who freak out about "Mommy". For some reason I think "Mommy" creeps a lot of people out. But that's what makes it hot for me - I've love a girl to do those kinds of scenes with - the full on creepy loaded ones.

"Don't you want Mommy to think you love her?"

I love the way you think.

And as for the daddy/girl thing. Yep - my other half is butch and I call her daddy. Very sexy dynamic.

 

[secrets_within]

mid afternoon bump.......seems it's been too quiet here

 

[ecstaticsub]

My Dom asked me to call him Daddy because he didn't like Sir or Master. I admit it was a little difficult at first because I was very close to my father who passed away when I was 30. However, I called my father "Dad" (I probably called him Daddy when I was very little, but I don't remember) But after a while I got used to it and now really like it. Feels much more natural than any other title.


I certainly don't ever feel like his little girl. He can be very nurturing and he is older than me. But I am an adult and a don't feel like a child with him.

 

[HottieMama]

Hmmmm...Why Daddy? This is one of those questions that is almost impossible for me to answer coherently, but i am going to try anyway. "Daddy" to me is more than just a respectful title in a D/s relationship. For me, it describes a feeling that i get from someone as our relationship develops. It's about being cared for/about, loved, treasured, protected..etc...no matter what. Just like i love my Daddy unconditionally, He loves me unconditionally as well. It is not a word that comes out of my mouth easily, and i couldn't just call someone that because they told me to. (In fact, if a Dom told me to call him Daddy i probably never would. Daddy is earned with me.) i guess for me it is the ultimate term of endearment.

What i struggle with is myself as a "little girl." i don't indulge in age play at all. Most other "littles" that i have met know the age of their "little girl," and mine doesn't have an age. She is an ever-present part of my personality, evident in both big and little things. i haven't spent too much time analyzing it, and in the long run all that really matters is that Daddy and i have a relationship that benefits the both of us, but it is a bit frustrating to feel so different from others.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Somewhere there are two threads where Serijules and Etoile explain 'Daddy' really well.

I finally understand the dynamic of the use of the word thanks to them. Even if I am sure Serijules was close to strangling me for being so dense for such a long time.

Anyone know how to find those threads?, I have looked but without success.

link & bumped

 

[shy slave]

link & bumped

Hijack

/Hijack

 

[his_lilkitten]

Again I'm new here but find this interesting and a subject near and dear to my heart and lifestyle.

I recently met a Daddy Dom online (6 to 8 months) ago. And I finally found a way to describe the Dominating relationship I need and desire. It's in the D/g relationship. Labels don't matter, to me He is everything I need, a Master, a Dom, my loving Daddy and a man I love and respect. It doesn't matter if I call Him Master, Daddy or Sir.....it's still the same relationship.

There are times when I'm feeling the "need" to have "Daddy's" attention. I don't mean like my Father (whom I adore). But as the man I can reveal myself to and know I am loved, cared for, watched over, guided, taught, disciplined, loved and that I will always be His babygirl no matter what I have done.

 

[HottieMama]

Labels don't matter, to me He is everything I need, a Master, a Dom, my loving Daddy and a man I love and respect. It doesn't matter if I call Him Master, Daddy or Sir.....it's still the same relationship.

There are times when I'm feeling the "need" to have "Daddy's" attention. I don't mean like my Father (whom I adore). But as the man I can reveal myself to and know I am loved, cared for, watched over, guided, taught, disciplined, loved and that I will always be His babygirl no matter what I have done.

Ummm..yeah...THAT.....Precisely....

 

[secrets_within]

The previous posts sound about right for me too.

It's a feeling that one really can't explain but you know it when you feel it.

*waves to everyone*

 

[Gin_n_Tonic]

I actully hunted down my log in just to answer this question...

He just is Daddy it evolved to that just like the relashionship did.
None of it has to do with age play Im just his princess.
Calling him Daddy makes me comfterble, and it makes me happy. So its as simple as that.

sorry for the spelling I just got out of bed.

 

[secrets_within]

I actully hunted down my log in just to answer this question...

He just is Daddy it evolved to that just like the relashionship did.
None of it has to do with age play Im just his princess.
Calling him Daddy makes me comfterble, and it makes me happy. So its as simple as that.

sorry for the spelling I just got out of bed.

*hugs* I just got up from my nap, so i hear ya

 

[HB1965]

is a simply a name that suits us.

Exactly, In my case it's always been master or sir.

 

[Gin_n_Tonic]

The its simply the name that suits us quote is exsactly why i was trying to get across in my first post, but I didnt say it so neatly. So well said, and exsactly.

 

[JupitersGirl]

I am just beginning to explore this dynamic, none of my previous D/s relationships were with anyone who was interested in exploring this. The submissive that janey and I are involved with has expressed an interest/desire to develop that type of relationship with me.

The first time "Daddy" slipped out of her in play, I was struck by the power it had. It was whispered, almost unconsciously, inaudibly muttered. And there was a definite shift in energy that I felt between us. There was a surrendering in her. There is no other word to describe it. She crossed an emotional barrier with that barely spoken word, and she took a step closer to me.

I called her my precious little girl and rocked her in my arms. It just seemed to be the right thing to do.

There's definitely more to explore here!

Good god, I think I just melted!

For the longest time, I looked at this dynamic with skepticism, until I met a dominant who wanted to explore it. At first the word came stumbling from my lips, awkward and unfamiliar in that context. Soon it evoked precious memories of being nurtured and guided and disciplined with loving, but fierce, authority. It made surrender natural and heady and sharp.

I may want to explore it again ...