Why do guys like to come in the mouth?

[LadyJeanne]

Bah, I don't buy it. She's not rejecting the guy, she's rejecting the big glob of snot he just shot in her mouth. I don't know, you'd think this would really bothering me, being the oversensitive, overemotional guy I am, but I could really give a rat's ass.

That brings up another good point? Why is it that only the macho guys seem to have feelings of rejection when their partners don't swallow? Why is it that these are the only guys who also seem to worry about how big their cock's are? Is there a correlation?

TBK, do you think it's 'macho' that causes these issues, or inexperience? More specificially, is it due to a lack of long-term relationship-type experiences?

I have a theory that the guys who are most concerned about cock size and/or feel rejected if she does X, are guys who have not been in long term, loving and commited relationships - just hook-ups or very short relationships. The long term relationships would give them a chance to understand the woman they're with (and she understands the guy she's with), they're more likely to talk about these issues in a non-judgmental way, and there's more to the relationship than just what happens during sex.

When there's communication, understanding, and sex is a part of an overall loving relationship, I think there would be fewer feelings of inadequacy.

 

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[rosco rathbone]

Compelling someone to swallow a gob of nasty slime is very hot to me. Aspects of power and humiliation.

 

[phoenix1224]

TBK, do you think it's 'macho' that causes these issues, or inexperience? More specificially, is it due to a lack of long-term relationship-type experiences?

Personally, I think that it has more to do with insecurity than anything else... Their overly "macho" attitude is just an overcompensation for a sense of intellectual/emotional/etc. inadequecies.

Or, perhaps, the ovelry "macho" attitude stems from an insecurity about their small dicks.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I think you're right to a certain extent, but I still think their are guys out there, ones that have been in long term relationships, that are still hung up on cock size. I think it's part of their self-image, and it's important to them to maintain that self-image.

I have a good friend that is like this. To this day, he still makes comments about his big cock (size of which I cannot verify) and he's been doing this since we were in college 25+ years ago. But everything with him is image....his car, his clothes, etc. In fact everyone in the crowd of friends makes jokes to him right to his face, but it doesn't matter to him. He has to constantly mention is 'big boner' or whatever he's calling it that day. It's become quite a joke with the rest of us.

But he is a lot of fun to hang out with regardless of this.

It's almost like the cock becomes a third party in the relationship with a guy like that. So exhausting to be with, always trying to reassure him of his adequacy.

It reminds me of a Sex and the City episode where Charlotte finally explodes at her husband after a long time of dealing with his ED problems. She says something like,

"Penis, penis, penis! TREY! I'm tired of being married to your penis. I'm a person! And this is supposed to be a relationship! And I am DONE walking on eggshells. Ooooooo, don't talk about moving in, in front of the penis cause it might go soft. And, and the penis likes this and the penis doesn't like that and THE PENIS WANTS TO BE MEASURED!"

 

[LadyJeanne]

Personally, I think that it has more to do with insecurity than anything else... Their overly "macho" attitude is just an overcompensation for a sense of intellectual/emotional/etc. inadequecies.

Or, perhaps, the ovelry "macho" attitude stems from an insecurity about their small dicks.

It's probably very much like what women feel about their weight (even more than breast size issues). No matter what a guy might say about how sexy she is, a woman often still frets and worries about her weight.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

It's probably very much like what women feel about their weight (even more than breast size issues). No matter what a guy might say about how sexy she is, a woman often still frets and worries about her weight.

I think you're right. it is insecurity that causes this, but I've also noticed that the insecure ones tend to cover up their flaws with blustering machismo and generally crude behavior. Personally the only time I ever worried about this was in high school, but then again I was still coming into my own in general. By the time I got into any kind physical relationship I had reached a point where my self confidence was solid.

I wonder though if maybe it's because I spent more time learning to please a woman before I worried about getting pleasure myself. My first real long term physical relationship was pretty bad and basically she wouldn't do shit to me, so I spent my efforts exploring her. I was fine with that I think it built sexual confidence on how she reacted to my giving her pleasure.

Hell maybe I'm jsut grateful to actually be getting blown. Of the women I've been with they fall into two categories: I either NEVER got head, or it just wasn't that good. I can honestly say that the only woman who has ever gotten me off completely with her oral skills is my wife. She good, but it has nothing to do with technique, it's all attitude. She wants to please me, she wants to make me explode. Sometimes she doesn't want to swallow, and sometimes(though rarely) she doens' want me to cum in her mouth. Still though she genuinely wants to please me and she's totally into what she's doing.

After that kind of effort, that kind of attention, whether she spits or swallows isn't going to affect my pleasure. For me though, it's not about domination or humiliation or power. That's part of the macho attitude I'm talking about. You've already cum, your orgasm has past, who gives a shit?

I don't need her to validate my manliness by swallowing my semen. I'll get my ego boosts from her screams while i'm going down on her, thank you.

 

[Lappdog]

Compelling someone to swallow a gob of nasty slime is very hot to me. Aspects of power and humiliation.

I really appreciate erotic, romantic depictions of love~


Lapp

 

[TBKahuna123]

I really appreciate erotic, romantic depictions of love~


Lapp

LOL. It's like an epidemic around here these days.

 

[drtynswt]

Could it be because some of us women like them to?

 

[Zmey]

Could it be because some of us women like them to?

Simple and to the point. I never been able to ejaculate during oral sex. It's not a top priority to me. I would like to be able to just to satisfy woman I'm with... It's like a prise that she gets for a job well done

 

[AndrewCormac]

I love when a girl wants me to come in her mouth because I think it's more intimate and also almost more practical. If i just shoot everywhere, then there's the awkward "i have to go clean up, you wait here" feeling. If she swallows it all, it's much cleaner and you can go right to cuddling.

As for the cum shot issue, I don't really like coming on a girl's face, I feel like it makes her pretty face dirty with man juice... bleh. But I do loooove coming on her tits for some reason... and watching her face while I do it.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

My girlfriend asked me yesterday why guys like to come in the mouth. I couldn't think of a good answer so I'm forwarding the question to the guys here (the ladies view is most welcome as well).

If this have already been answered in the swallowing thread I apologize, I'm just to lazy to read all off the 733 posts there

I know I'm coming to this conversation pretty late, and like you I'm too damn lazy to read every post, so my apologies if this has already been noted.

In an interview with Howard Stern, Jessica Hahn described how she gives blowjobs. There was a great deal of tongue play, the standard licking and sucking, some hand stroking, deep-throating, short-storking and so on. When she finally "allowed" her lover to reach orgasm she ALWAYS made sure to swallow because it guarantees zero interruption of his pleasure with no mess to clean up afterwards. She does something that I love almost as much as the orgasm; she stays down there! Once he's done she doesn't pop up and move on to something else sexual or otherwise. She keeps her mouth on her lover's cock and uses her lips and tongue to continue massaging it, suckling it, and on occasion they even both fall asleep while she has it in her mouth like a pacifier.

In the end, its pure, uninterrupted pleasure that's taken well beyond what far too many women seem to know is possible.

The truth is that any guy can cum all over himself when he masturbates. If a woman isn't going to swallow, she may as well not even be there.

 

[TBKahuna123]

The truth is that any guy can cum all over himself when he masturbates. If a woman isn't going to swallow, she may as well not even be there.

Ah bullshit. Forgive me if I don't take Jessica Hahn's advice on the Howard Stern show seriously.

 

[Eilan]

She does something that I love almost as much as the orgasm; she stays down there! Once he's done she doesn't pop up and move on to something else sexual or otherwise.

That's all well and good if one's partner likes it, but my once my husband had an orgasm, he gets extremely ticklish and sensitive and the last thing that he wants is for me to keep my mouth on his cock.

Other people's mileage may vary.

 

[midwestyankee]

That's all well and good if one's partner likes it, but my once my husband had an orgasm, he gets extremely ticklish and sensitive and the last thing that he wants is for me to keep my mouth on his cock.

Other people's mileage may vary.

"Mileage?" What an extreme form of turning this into a size thread!

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Ah bullshit. Forgive me if I don't take Jessica Hahn's advice on the Howard Stern show seriously.

I'm fairly certain I didn't say it was her advice, but rather her technique. I've experienced this technique a number of times, though not from Hahn, and can easily testify to just how good the whole experience is.

I'd highly recommend it to any male who likes blowjobs. If you're a male who doesn't like blowjobs, well, ya got nothin' to say either way, anyway.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

That's all well and good if one's partner likes it, but my once my husband had an orgasm, he gets extremely ticklish and sensitive and the last thing that he wants is for me to keep my mouth on his cock.

Other people's mileage may vary.

I'm hearin' ya there. My wife gets the same way after I've brought her to orgasm orally. Sometimes its even painful for her if I keep licking her. I found some techniques that got around all that, though. Now the only thing she has a problem with is holding her legs open for extended periods of time. We've found a way or two around that as well.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'm fairly certain I didn't say it was her advice, but rather her technique. I've experienced this technique a number of times, though not from Hahn, and can easily testify to just how good the whole experience is.

I'd highly recommend it to any male who likes blowjobs. If you're a male who doesn't like blowjobs, well, ya got nothin' to say either way, anyway.

As I reread this, I think Eilan is right. i'm the same what as her husband. My wife does a little light licking afterwards, but she knows she has to be very careful.

If a woman isn't going to swallow, she may as well not even be there.

This is what I was saing Bullshit too. I just ran the two statements together into one comment.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

As I reread this, I think Eilan is right. i'm the same what as her husband. My wife does a little light licking afterwards, but she knows she has to be very careful.



This is what I was saing Bullshit too. I just ran the two statements together into one comment.

I was wonderin' 'bout that. This thread would go off on a whole different tangent if we got into that, though.

Bowing out to not be rude.

 

[londonrobert]

Plenty of cum in mouth here...in fact there is cum everywhere..

http://www.facialforums.co.uk

 

[flacple36]

hmm to swallow or not...........

guess I will add my two cents. Personally I didn't enjoy it all with my ex hubby he drank alot and his always tasted nasty. Now with my b/f I love it, I enjoy giving him oral. Spitting to me is a waste of all your effort, I mean if you are going to give him a mind blowing blowjob, why spit the reward out or have them dump on your face.

 

[waynerobertson]

Because

it's there.

 

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