why do nice finish always finish last?

[darkangel86]

Well maybe I'm just weird but the 'bad boys' just make me want to roll my eyes and run in the opposite direction.

Agreed! It is just an act to me. Being bad to cover up some insecurity. My two cents to the OP is just be you, lo e yourself and be happy and someone will come along. Self confidence is the key

 

[J D Danger]

But doesn't that right there, mean that he doesn't "finish" last? He eventually gets noticed for the good person that he is.

if he is lucky he gets noticed

but life is not a romantic comedy most often he gets stuck in the friends zone, learns to deal, finds another woman he cares for and the cycle starts all over again

 

[SassySheDevil]

if he is lucky he gets noticed

but life is not a romantic comedy most often he gets stuck in the friends zone, learns to deal, finds another woman he cares for and the cycle starts all over again

I married the nice guy 21 years ago. I keep him around

 

[J D Danger]

Agreed! It is just an act to me. Being bad to cover up some insecurity. My two cents to the OP is just be you, lo e yourself and be happy and someone will come along. Self confidence is the key

that is very true self-confidence is extremely sexy in both men and women

 

[darkangel86]

that is very true self-confidence is extremely sexy in both men and women

Exactly! Self-confidence just shines through, that is what makes a person attractive to another person.

 

[SmileyGirl]

you are not weird

smart

well spoken

and maybe rare

but not weird

I don't think I'm rare atall. I just think I treat people the way I would like to be treated
I'm opinionated and I wouldn't be involved with someone who wasn't respectful and a good person.
That goes for males and females. If you surround yoursekf with douchebags prepare to be treated like one.

 

[Kittehkarlene]

I have asked myself that same question a million times...being nice...what does that get us in the end....a hug a peck on the cheek...yet the moment we want more we are schuned because that would ruin the friendship. looking back, there are plenty of times I wish I hadn't been the nice guy but that's not the way I was raised..

Lol.

Implying you consider yourself nice when you PM me with all these weird sexual questions.

MFW .

 

[J D Danger]

I married the nice guy 21 years ago. I keep him around

he got lucky

I still believe everyone has a match out there, I even believe in soul mates but it is taking a long damn time to find mine and I am starting to see a pattern

I just do not know if the pattern means I have to change something in me or the type of women I am attracted to or the relationships I seek out

 

[darkangel86]

I am a nice guy... I have been fucked over so many times that at this point I have come to terms with the knowledge I am will be alone...

It used to piss me off.... now, Meh... I'll live.

If you accept that, then that is how it shall be.

 

[J D Danger]

I don't think I'm rare atall. I just think I treat people the way I would like to be treated
I'm opinionated and I wouldn't be involved with someone who wasn't respectful and a good person.
That goes for males and females. If you surround yoursekf with douchebags prepare to be treated like one.

all of the above makes you rare even if you do not see it

most people will grow out of the what is bad for me is what I want phrase so to speak

but in a lot of cases it takes time

 

[Superman2008]

you are not weird

smart

well spoken

and maybe rare

but not weird

Agreed.

 

[J D Danger]

Exactly! Self-confidence just shines through, that is what makes a person attractive to another person.

but confidence of any type is very fragile

 

[SmileyGirl]

all of the above makes you rare even if you do not see it

most people will grow out of the what is bad for me is what I want phrase so to speak

but in a lot of cases it takes time

It just makes me verrrry picky hehe

 

[darkangel86]

but confidence of any type is very fragile

True but that is life living amongst humans. People hurt other people, that is just a fact. But you have to pick yourself up, wipe of the dirt and keep on moving.

 

[Superman2008]

If you accept that, then that is how it shall be.

I accept the fact that I have had both bad luck and VERY poor taste in women over the years.

I would rather be alone then deal with the drama lol

 

[J D Danger]

It just makes me verrrry picky hehe

true very true

but we should all be a little more picky the way you seem to bes

 

[SassySheDevil]

he got lucky

I still believe everyone has a match out there, I even believe in soul mates but it is taking a long damn time to find mine and I am starting to see a pattern

I just do not know if the pattern means I have to change something in me or the type of women I am attracted to or the relationships I seek out

or maybe all of the above..

I was painfully shy growing up. It wasn't until my Sophmore year that I realized that was getting me no where. I had to make myself come out of my shell and be more social to meet different kinds of people, cause 2 shy people had horrible conversations.

My husband and I are opposite in MANY ways. It is that Opposite in us, that has kept us together. We balance each other out. We calm each other. He's outgoing in public settings, I'm more shy. He's reserved in how he talks to people, I am open mouth, spew it out. I will speak my mind, he will hold back. It has made us work

 

[darkangel86]

I accept the fact that I have had both bad luck and VERY poor taste in women over the years.

I would rather be alone then deal with the drama lol

I mean power to you if you are happy with that. Being alone is not a bad thing, but if you are lonely and alone, that is a problem.

 

[SmileyGirl]

or maybe all of the above..

I was painfully shy growing up. It wasn't until my Sophmore year that I realized that was getting me no where. I had to make myself come out of my shell and be more social to meet different kinds of people, cause 2 shy people had horrible conversations.

My husband and I are opposite in MANY ways. It is that Opposite in us, that has kept us together. We balance each other out. We calm each other. He's outgoing in public settings, I'm more shy. He's reserved in how he talks to people, I am open mouth, spew it out. I will speak my mind, he will hold back. It has made us work

This makes me

 

[J D Danger]

True but that is life living amongst humans. People hurt other people, that is just a fact. But you have to pick yourself up, wipe of the dirt and keep on moving.

I agree I just find the longer I am alone the harder and slower the moving on becomes

but I have to constantly remind myself to have more confidence, I am an introvert and I go after longshots and seemingly unattainable women

 

[Superman2008]

I mean power to you if you are happy with that. Being alone is not a bad thing, but if you are lonely and alone, that is a problem.

Sometimes I get a lil lonely... guess that's why I am on lit, like minded people. No drama, no BS... just fun.

How are ya Dark?

 

[SmileyGirl]

I agree I just find the longer I am alone the harder and slower the moving on becomes

but I have to constantly remind myself to have more confidence, I am an introvert and I go after longshots and seemingly unattainable women

Then maybe you have to change and go for a different kind of girl next time.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Sometimes I get a lil lonely... guess that's why I am on lit, like minded people. No drama, no BS... just fun.

How are ya Dark?

Haha smoooooooth Mr Superman.

 

[J D Danger]

or maybe all of the above..

I was painfully shy growing up. It wasn't until my Sophmore year that I realized that was getting me no where. I had to make myself come out of my shell and be more social to meet different kinds of people, cause 2 shy people had horrible conversations.

My husband and I are opposite in MANY ways. It is that Opposite in us, that has kept us together. We balance each other out. We calm each other. He's outgoing in public settings, I'm more shy. He's reserved in how he talks to people, I am open mouth, spew it out. I will speak my mind, he will hold back. It has made us work

it is still a constant battle to put myself out there

 

[J D Danger]

Then maybe you have to change and go for a different kind of girl next time.

there is no doubt I do but as with many things it is much easier said than done