why do nice finish always finish last?

[Superman2008]

I'm always helping people when asked. I always offer my help when its needed.

Certain people take that for granted. All I was saying is that I'm not gonna make myself as available because I find I get taken advantage of, and when I ask for help in return its not there.

I'm always told I'm a great guy and will find a woman. but that party line has gotten old and I feel like women are lying to me

Dude... You're not the only one. Hang in there.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Mercury is not relating to doing things in return for sexual favours. We just assume that because most of the talk has been focused on sex. He stated that people aren't there to help when he wants help in return: whether it be consultation on a matter or actual help (like moving helping move a couch).

Been there and done that. Many people will ask you for help and not return it, girls and guys. Just learn to cut, and move on -- you'll be surprised how many great people are waiting to be met when you distance yourself from toxic, lazy people, or one-sided friendships.

You'll know it when they're the type to badger you to come out with them, or message you when they haven't seen you in a while just to check in on your well being.

thanks thats what i meant, I'm not looking for sexual favors, would just be nice to be treated the same in return.

 

[AmatoriuS]

thanks thats what i meant, I'm not looking for sexual favors, would just be nice to be treated the same in return.

My point still stands though regardless of what reward you're after, people aren't obligated to be nice to you if you're nice to them is basically what I'm saying, if somebody isn't reciprocating anything with you then you should just walk away, the feeling of hitting a brick wall you're having is because you are hitting a brick wall with just a few people I imagine, branch out.

 

[Superman2008]

Exactly... WALK AWAY.

It's not worth the drama or the pain. You will find what you are looking for... Just takes time and sadly a LOT of mistakes.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Exactly... WALK AWAY.

It's not worth the drama or the pain. You will find what you are looking for... Just takes time and sadly a LOT of mistakes.

I'm getting better at it.


Having mechanical knowledge I've found many people take advantage of that, and sometimes only contact me when they need something fixed. I'm now beginning to say no.


and as far as the women thing goes, I think thats a lost cause.

 

[Superman2008]

I'm getting better at it.


Having mechanical knowledge I've found many people take advantage of that, and sometimes only contact me when they need something fixed. I'm now beginning to say no.


and as far as the women thing goes, I think thats a lost cause.

I know the feeling... I am 34, 35 in 2 weeks. At this point I just enjoy good conversation. I have no desire for anything more.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

I know the feeling... I am 34, 35 in 2 weeks. At this point I just enjoy good conversation. I have no desire for anything more.

yeah I realized the sex thing is just not gonna happen anymore and forget about an actual relationship.

 

[Dogoda]

A nice guy who can make a woman laugh has worked for me. Any ladies back me up on this one?

 

[Monica_112]

I like my men, and women, to have a little fire in their bellies. I like them to be kind, thoughtful, helpful of course but as soon as they become a walkover I get bored and walk. It's about self-respect, respect yourself and don't let people treat you like shit,

 

[GI_Joe]

I dunno, I like to think I'm a nice guy and I didn't finish last...nowhere near that actually

I have been a complete asshole before, but not to women, or if I am I say sorry right afterwards.

 

[Dogoda]

I like my men, and women, to have a little fire in their bellies. I like them to be kind, thoughtful, helpful of course but as soon as they become a walkover I get bored and walk. It's about self-respect, respect yourself and don't let people treat you like shit,

Well said.