Why do some sissies (maybe other men as well) do not want their cocks sucked?

[BillyWalrus]

Most of us sissies are masochists. We love feeling humiliated. And we like the humiliation that comes with being "used."

We generally like masculine, dominate, men, who want to use our holes to get off, but won't return the favor. It's so fucking hot. We enjoy that way more than getting sucked.

I'd rather not cum at all, or jerk off in front of him. That's super hot. I make him cum, and all I get to do is jerk off.

It might sound strange, but that's how many of us are.

I was thinking about it and it would feel very strange (not in a good way either), if my gf sucked me or gave me a handjob. It would feel completely wrong somehow as though we were trying to be different people.

 

[liqueur]

I was thinking about it and it would feel very strange (not in a good way either), if my gf sucked me or gave me a handjob. It would feel completely wrong somehow as though we were trying to be different people.

This! That's how I feel when men ask to suck me.

 

[Gregola]

Absolutely not. I don't identify as a female, so I don't think of my dick as a clit. It's a dick.
Most of us sissies are total bottoms. Total bottoms rarely want any kind of reciprocation. If you want mutual oral, you should find someone who is into that.

Good to know. Thanks

 

[Gregola]

(I'm only interested in women, men please don't DM me for sex/romance.)

I prefer to pleasure my partner and take control of her orgasm so she has several of them.

I am a difficult orgasm and until she learns my body she's got no chance of getting me off anyway.

I make it worth learning by making sure her toes are curled and she's thoroughly satisfied.

Nothing less fun than wanting to please your partner and she's awkwardly trying to bring you off and it's not happening.

Because 99 percent of all other guys would have cum by now, so if you have a difficult orgasm, she's got no idea, no plan B, none of her experience has prepared her for this.

So she keeps trying, because clearly, I just take a while. Nope.

I need something more, and I will tell you that in advance to avoid this very scenario.

I know, your technique is really good, and it is actually my body's stubborn issue. I am aware.

I just want to avoid this specific situation, where I can't please you, and you can't move on until you have pleased me.

Neither of us has any fun with this.

You know what turns me on? You cumming. The sounds you make when you're being fucked, fingered, licked, and sucked until you cum and cum and cum and cum.

That gets me about halfway there.

Then, I am a difficult but ACHIEVABLE orgasm and I can absolutely get myself the rest of the way there. Just let me touch you some more, this time, with my penis.

No worries. If that doesn't work I'll masturbate later, the orgasm will come. But first, your turn. And then after your turn, it's your turn. Then your turn again. Then your turn.

Finally, I think you deserve a turn to cum. It's been a few minutes since your last orgasm so it is clearly time.

See, that's hot to me.

You trying hard to suck and have something happen is not, especially after a few minutes. I know the rest of it will be just like those few minutes because, you already are giving it your best. I even told you I was difficult and you want to test yourself.

Have at it. I can tell a few minutes in it's not happening. I don't want to waste your time.

I'm thinking back to the dozen or so women I've had oral sex with, and they orgasmed and rarely did I do so. Maybe under 10 times in my life, whereas, I've given actually thousands of orgasms that way.

I do what I can do. If I can't cum, I lick and suck and fuck and finger, and I got really good at that instead.

Simple, simple. This is how my body works. I need a woman who enjoys pleasure.

You think that's automatic, it isn't, I've had plenty of women tell me they don't prefer to get pleasure, they prefer to give.

Uh oh.

I've had women tell me, they need to be the dom not the sub, and be in control.

Yeah, I know. You don't want sadism or masochism, I get it, I don't either. But if I'm not in control even slightly this train is never leaving the station.

You will sit on my face and let me lick you to 1 orgasm which is less good than I could give you if I had the freedom to move, and then get off because your experience tells you I'm done.

I wasn't done, get back here for more fun.

Anyway, that leads to handjobs and blowjobs and riding my cock before I'm ready and it goes nowhere unless we're imagining it.

Sorry, that isn't happening until hour 3. Which is why I don't cum often because people are busy and you need to be in the mood for a third hour of sex in a given day.

I know.

That's why I don't ask for oral, I control the orgasms, I don't expect sex every day. I prefer to serve.

When I get horny and pent up enough, things will work out the next time you want me to eat your pussy and suck your clit.

No worries. Hearing you moan and cumming on my face will unlock the week of desire and then it will be easy.

Just let it happen, don't force it. Many women are used to men who pop off in five seconds and they want to bring their sexual adventures to an end so they can watch TV or read a book or something and they think sucking will do the trick.

I wish it did, sweetie, I wish it did. You don't have to reciprocate. Just give me a kiss and a snuggle and we're done. I'll let you know if I am close, that will be the big green flag that doing anything to me will have an effect.

I know, tricky. I made it more than worth it to every partner who wanted sex, ever.

Wow! You are complex!. I don't think I've ever thought about any sex act as thoroug

(I'm only interested in women, men please don't DM me for sex/romance.)

I prefer to pleasure my partner and take control of her orgasm so she has several of them.

I am a difficult orgasm and until she learns my body she's got no chance of getting me off anyway.

I make it worth learning by making sure her toes are curled and she's thoroughly satisfied.

Nothing less fun than wanting to please your partner and she's awkwardly trying to bring you off and it's not happening.

Because 99 percent of all other guys would have cum by now, so if you have a difficult orgasm, she's got no idea, no plan B, none of her experience has prepared her for this.

So she keeps trying, because clearly, I just take a while. Nope.

I need something more, and I will tell you that in advance to avoid this very scenario.

I know, your technique is really good, and it is actually my body's stubborn issue. I am aware.

I just want to avoid this specific situation, where I can't please you, and you can't move on until you have pleased me.

Neither of us has any fun with this.

You know what turns me on? You cumming. The sounds you make when you're being fucked, fingered, licked, and sucked until you cum and cum and cum and cum.

That gets me about halfway there.

Then, I am a difficult but ACHIEVABLE orgasm and I can absolutely get myself the rest of the way there. Just let me touch you some more, this time, with my penis.

No worries. If that doesn't work I'll masturbate later, the orgasm will come. But first, your turn. And then after your turn, it's your turn. Then your turn again. Then your turn.

Finally, I think you deserve a turn to cum. It's been a few minutes since your last orgasm so it is clearly time.

See, that's hot to me.

You trying hard to suck and have something happen is not, especially after a few minutes. I know the rest of it will be just like those few minutes because, you already are giving it your best. I even told you I was difficult and you want to test yourself.

Have at it. I can tell a few minutes in it's not happening. I don't want to waste your time.

I'm thinking back to the dozen or so women I've had oral sex with, and they orgasmed and rarely did I do so. Maybe under 10 times in my life, whereas, I've given actually thousands of orgasms that way.

I do what I can do. If I can't cum, I lick and suck and fuck and finger, and I got really good at that instead.

Simple, simple. This is how my body works. I need a woman who enjoys pleasure.

You think that's automatic, it isn't, I've had plenty of women tell me they don't prefer to get pleasure, they prefer to give.

Uh oh.

I've had women tell me, they need to be the dom not the sub, and be in control.

Yeah, I know. You don't want sadism or masochism, I get it, I don't either. But if I'm not in control even slightly this train is never leaving the station.

You will sit on my face and let me lick you to 1 orgasm which is less good than I could give you if I had the freedom to move, and then get off because your experience tells you I'm done.

I wasn't done, get back here for more fun.

Anyway, that leads to handjobs and blowjobs and riding my cock before I'm ready and it goes nowhere unless we're imagining it.

Sorry, that isn't happening until hour 3. Which is why I don't cum often because people are busy and you need to be in the mood for a third hour of sex in a given day.

I know.

That's why I don't ask for oral, I control the orgasms, I don't expect sex every day. I prefer to serve.

When I get horny and pent up enough, things will work out the next time you want me to eat your pussy and suck your clit.

No worries. Hearing you moan and cumming on my face will unlock the week of desire and then it will be easy.

Just let it happen, don't force it. Many women are used to men who pop off in five seconds and they want to bring their sexual adventures to an end so they can watch TV or read a book or something and they think sucking will do the trick.

I wish it did, sweetie, I wish it did. You don't have to reciprocate. Just give me a kiss and a snuggle and we're done. I'll let you know if I am close, that will be the big green flag that doing anything to me will have an effect.

I know, tricky. I made it more than worth it to every partner who wanted sex, ever.

Wow! You are very complex. I don't think I've ever thought of any sex act as thoroughly as you have. You are the master and I would love to learn from you.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I don't identify as “sissy” because of the baggage that porn has attached to the word. But I totally identify with everything you describe here.

I don't necessarily identify as a sissy, but I do enjoy playing that role with a dominate guy.
I am a submissive bottom, and I think what I described applies to most submissive bottoms.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I was thinking about it and it would feel very strange (not in a good way either), if my gf sucked me or gave me a handjob. It would feel completely wrong somehow as though we were trying to be different people.

It usually feels all wrong if a masculine man sucks me. Some can do it in a way that I enjoy, but most don't. I definitely don't want a guy making a big deal out of it, and actually being a cocksucker lol.
If someone wants to give me oral, I'd prefer they eat my ass.

 

[2tallpaul]

Because often sissies, or people who are questioning their gender, don't feel comfortable with their genitals and they may prefer to hide them altogether. They may be describing themselves as sissies because it fits where they are on their journey; maybe, given the hatred towards transgender people atm, they are frightened to call themself trans... or some other reason.
Having sex with a man can be affirming but not without complications. If you're seeing them again, then don't question their decision, but there might be other ways you can express you affection? Foot rub? Back massage?

As a sissy, a natural pleaser, beginning drained first provides me with better focus. If they know where to hit me inside, I'll climax(s). When we open the pool and the water is still cold, she likes to dump ice in the front of my suit and sit in the water for ten minutes. when I come out, there's not much to see as the scrotum hides and what is lift is smaller than my thumb. She and her bull(s) love the look. Her favorite bull is the husband of her best friend. They love to watch and I'm told to appreciate his size and energy as it took years to find him.

 

[Oshkosh60]

For thirty five years, I had men suck me, usually at an ABS. They usually asked what I was looking for..... I would be up front and say that i was looking to get blown, they might ask if sucked and I would tell them no. And thinking back, most didn't ask but i offered that to several just so they knew before we started. I guess it amazed me that so many were just looking for a feeder.

So a few years ago I decided that I might like to try sucking a cock...... and I run into the same thing you describe..... the last one was about a month ago. I thought it was going to be just a mutual jerk session and then he dropped to his knees and deep throated me.... it was amazing and I unloaded in his mouth. I felt in my pocket for a condom as I am still not good with swallowing cum from a total stranger.... and I kinda point and ask if he wanted me to reciprocate.... he shakes his head no, and told me he already had gotten what he wanted. And yeah, I think many of the men wanted to be a bit submissive to someone they perceived as being more dominant. It was their fantasy to suck for a tall strong guy I guess.

So while I have thought about sucking cock for a few years, two things stop me. Finding the person who is safe, sane and discreet. And my fear that I could become a cock sucking whore like so many of the men who have serviced me over the years.

 

[Sunnyade]

A friend of mine will suck me off multiple times without any reciprocation. He will relieve himself as I watch at the end of the session. Occasionally he will ask me to wank him until he comes on my stomach.

 

[Busy54]

For thirty five years, I had men suck me, usually at an ABS. They usually asked what I was looking for..... I would be up front and say that i was looking to get blown, they might ask if sucked and I would tell them no. And thinking back, most didn't ask but i offered that to several just so they knew before we started. I guess it amazed me that so many were just looking for a feeder.

So a few years ago I decided that I might like to try sucking a cock...... and I run into the same thing you describe..... the last one was about a month ago. I thought it was going to be just a mutual jerk session and then he dropped to his knees and deep throated me.... it was amazing and I unloaded in his mouth. I felt in my pocket for a condom as I am still not good with swallowing cum from a total stranger.... and I kinda point and ask if he wanted me to reciprocate.... he shakes his head no, and told me he already had gotten what he wanted. And yeah, I think many of the men wanted to be a bit submissive to someone they perceived as being more dominant. It was their fantasy to suck for a tall strong guy I guess.

So while I have thought about sucking cock for a few years, two things stop me. Finding the person who is safe, sane and discreet. And my fear that I could become a cock sucking whore like so many of the men who have serviced me over the years.

Where do I find men like you, Just feeders….. love it!

 

[gk6h]

Love giving pleasure

 

[drobert44]

Sissies are sub to alpha cock, I suck them all

 

[Oshkosh60]

Where do I find men like you, Just feeders….. love it!

Oh.... believe me , i think they are out there, but yes, identifying them is the key.

If guys knew they could get great head and not have to reciprocate..... they would jump in line in a heart beat as long as they could get away with it...... that the sessions could easily be arranged and if no one suspected that they liked having their cock sucked by another man.

I could do with one of each....... someone to feed and another to suck....... and for good measure the winning lottery ticket numbers

 

[FemboyforDaddyRP]

Femboy bottom here. I like getting my cock sucked but I'd much rather suck on a big cock and milk it for everything.. they won't even make it to my ass

 

[liqueur]

while I have thought about sucking cock for a few years, two things stop me. Finding the person who is safe, sane and discreet. And my fear that I could become a cock sucking whore like so many of the men who have serviced me over the years.

Hmmm... well, the disrespect is very much appreciated. I thrive on it.

 

[Oshkosh60]

Hmmm... well, the disrespect is very much appreciated. I thrive on it.

If I can't find one guy I would trust to suck....... it would be hell to have the addiction and not be able to satisfy the need.

How many guys on here sucked a cock ten, twenty, thirty, forty even fifty years ago...... and still wish to experience it again?

 

[liqueur]

If I can't find one guy I would trust to suck....... it would be hell to have the addiction and not be able to satisfy the need.

How many guys on here sucked a cock ten, twenty, thirty, forty even fifty years ago...... and still wish to experience it again?

I honestly can't see the problem. What is this trust you're concerned about? Physical safety? Disease? Or something else I'm not getting?

 

[Oshkosh60]

STD's

 

[liqueur]

STD's

Well, you're probably wise. I decided a number of years ago, after a discussion about it with my doctor, that the chance of contracting anything incurable by sucking alone was low enough to be worth the risk (to me!— this is not advice to anyone else.)

That said, if I were in a relationship, I would have decided differently, and as it is, I get tested regularly.

 

[Gregola]

It usually feels all wrong if a masculine man sucks me. Some can do it in a way that I enjoy, but most don't. I definitely don't want a guy making a big deal out of it, and actually being a cocksucker lol.
If someone wants to give me oral, I'd prefer they eat my ass.

I would oralize either male or female, and have enjoyed them both without feeling any sense of subordination.

 

[Gregola]

(I'm only interested in women, men please don't DM me for sex/romance.)

I prefer to pleasure my partner and take control of her orgasm so she has several of them.

I am a difficult orgasm and until she learns my body she's got no chance of getting me off anyway.

I make it worth learning by making sure her toes are curled and she's thoroughly satisfied.

Nothing less fun than wanting to please your partner and she's awkwardly trying to bring you off and it's not happening.

Because 99 percent of all other guys would have cum by now, so if you have a difficult orgasm, she's got no idea, no plan B, none of her experience has prepared her for this.

So she keeps trying, because clearly, I just take a while. Nope.

I need something more, and I will tell you that in advance to avoid this very scenario.

I know, your technique is really good, and it is actually my body's stubborn issue. I am aware.

I just want to avoid this specific situation, where I can't please you, and you can't move on until you have pleased me.

Neither of us has any fun with this.

You know what turns me on? You cumming. The sounds you make when you're being fucked, fingered, licked, and sucked until you cum and cum and cum and cum.

That gets me about halfway there.

Then, I am a difficult but ACHIEVABLE orgasm and I can absolutely get myself the rest of the way there. Just let me touch you some more, this time, with my penis.

No worries. If that doesn't work I'll masturbate later, the orgasm will come. But first, your turn. And then after your turn, it's your turn. Then your turn again. Then your turn.

Finally, I think you deserve a turn to cum. It's been a few minutes since your last orgasm so it is clearly time.

See, that's hot to me.

You trying hard to suck and have something happen is not, especially after a few minutes. I know the rest of it will be just like those few minutes because, you already are giving it your best. I even told you I was difficult and you want to test yourself.

Have at it. I can tell a few minutes in it's not happening. I don't want to waste your time.

I'm thinking back to the dozen or so women I've had oral sex with, and they orgasmed and rarely did I do so. Maybe under 10 times in my life, whereas, I've given actually thousands of orgasms that way.

I do what I can do. If I can't cum, I lick and suck and fuck and finger, and I got really good at that instead.

Simple, simple. This is how my body works. I need a woman who enjoys pleasure.

You think that's automatic, it isn't, I've had plenty of women tell me they don't prefer to get pleasure, they prefer to give.

Uh oh.

I've had women tell me, they need to be the dom not the sub, and be in control.

Yeah, I know. You don't want sadism or masochism, I get it, I don't either. But if I'm not in control even slightly this train is never leaving the station.

You will sit on my face and let me lick you to 1 orgasm which is less good than I could give you if I had the freedom to move, and then get off because your experience tells you I'm done.

I wasn't done, get back here for more fun.

Anyway, that leads to handjobs and blowjobs and riding my cock before I'm ready and it goes nowhere unless we're imagining it.

Sorry, that isn't happening until hour 3. Which is why I don't cum often because people are busy and you need to be in the mood for a third hour of sex in a given day.

I know.

That's why I don't ask for oral, I control the orgasms, I don't expect sex every day. I prefer to serve.

When I get horny and pent up enough, things will work out the next time you want me to eat your pussy and suck your clit.

No worries. Hearing you moan and cumming on my face will unlock the week of desire and then it will be easy.

Just let it happen, don't force it. Many women are used to men who pop off in five seconds and they want to bring their sexual adventures to an end so they can watch TV or read a book or something and they think sucking will do the trick.

I wish it did, sweetie, I wish it did. You don't have to reciprocate. Just give me a kiss and a snuggle and we're done. I'll let you know if I am close, that will be the big green flag that doing anything to me will have an effect.

I know, tricky. I made it more than worth it to every partner who wanted sex, ever.

I understand you are not interested in men. I would thoroughly enjoy you if you made love to me and NARRATED your thoughts and feelings before, during, and after each act/phase with the same sensuousness as you describe above. That would be incredibly sexy!

 

[Sounding22]

Well, you're probably wise. I decided a number of years ago, after a discussion about it with my doctor, that the chance of contracting anything incurable by sucking alone was low enough to be worth the risk (to me!— this is not advice to anyone else.)

That said, if I were in a relationship, I would have decided differently, and as it is, I get tested regularly.

You’re a good sissy and deserve extra spankings

 

[Gregola]

Most of us sissies are masochists. We love feeling humiliated. And we like the humiliation that comes with being "used."

We generally like masculine, dominate, men, who want to use our holes to get off, but won't return the favor. It's so fucking hot. We enjoy that way more than getting sucked.

I'd rather not cum at all, or jerk off in front of him. That's super hot. I make him cum, and all I get to do is jerk off.

It might sound strange, but that's how many of us are.

I accept, but have difficulty understanding.

 

[Sounding22]

Sissy has been my way of life from being called a sissy from a grandparent to when I go out with 4 ladies and myself. The waitress says 4 ladies and one gentleman. They correct her and tell her 5 ladies

 

[Gregola]

Sissy has been my way of life from being called a sissy from a grandparent to when I go out with 4 ladies and myself. The waitress says 4 ladies and one gentleman. They correct her and tell her 5 ladies

I am happy for you that they all accept you.