LillianDevereux
Time softens memory…
- Joined
- Mar 22, 2024
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You hit the spot! Physically indeed we all can get relief in our private moments. But the mind is a different thing all together. Besides it is becoming increasingly difficult for me in finding a “Man for all Seasons” at this stage of my life. My priorities have shifted a lot and I am looking for so many additional things as part of the package. Many of my dates also came with a lot of baggage which made me not to pursue those relationships any further. So I keep in living ‘Behind the Gate’ here in Palm Springs in my mid-century home and with ever reoccurring hyper romantic fantasies. Hope floats.Well, I still don’t know how to feel about other relationships. Lost my wife 18 months ago after 41 years married and memories still override any thoughts of a new person in my life. Perhaps more time is needed, perhaps no amount of time will change that. The thing I miss the most is the intellectual discussions we would have. Don’t get me wrong, the lovemaking and also raw sex were great, and dearly missed as well.
Physically I can get relief by myself when the urge arises. But the mind needs feeding. This is the aspect of a relationship that I most miss, and most desire. I guess I am hopeful that at some point providence will provide me with a woman who will be able to share mind and body, although I am not actively seeking.
The British poet Wordsworth often referred to that good emotion is recollected in tranquility.' I think of this phrase often when I write some of my comments here at LIT. When I was at Wellesley, I frequently repeated that Wordsworth quote, but never questioned its validity. I now wonder if it's really possible to recollect emotion in tranquility. When I begin to write about these people with whom I shared so many adventures, my tranquility quickly dissipates and I find myself becoming excited from the recollection of the experiences, as if they were happening again here and now. I would like to think that I might obtain some degree of objectivity at this point in my life, but I don't know if that will happen. Best...lilly!