Wife wants to date other men

[KarennaC]

karenna: considering my post was quoted in its entirety, i kinda doubt it, to be honest. :>

ed

Yeah, that's what I was thinking, but... so was its comment addressed to you or me? I got out of an abusive marriage and am pretty open about that, so I thought it was speaking to me, but since it quoted your post, it doesn't seem so.

Maybe I'm the one who's confused. lol

 

[silverwhisper]

hell, maybe we're just all confused. :>

ed

 

[bisolom]

Wife wants me to agree for her to date other men ,
She says she loves me and wants us to stay together
but wants me to allow her .
She says its a stage she is going through.
Does any one have advise they can give me on this

If you need advice on what to do in this situation, that's probably why she needs to date other men. Show some backbone, be a man and tell her "fuck no!" Then make love to her till you've fucked that silly idea right out of her head.

 

[pplwatching]

REMEMBER: Jesus Christ said that he was the END of the LAW (including all "Old Testament" laws handed down by God), and that from then on, we have, if we are Christian, been responsable for treating one another as we would have ourselves treated . . .

I have to admit, I'm pretty far behind the power curve in the religion department so I had to go look this up. What I found doesn't appear to agree with you.

(Matthew 5:17-20) 17 Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. 18 I tell you the truth, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. 19 Anyone who breaks one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do the same will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. 20 For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.

I have never sat down and read the bible, so I can't really comment except to ask where you read that Jesus said he was the end of the law?

 

[jedclampet69]

This is a hard one to give advise on...l have been in two relationships where this has worked for the both of us...(the second was with a partner l married and was with for 14 years)...

The first experience l had on this playing feild was when both of us were very young..She strayed and was caught..l was of course jealous and hurt but at the same time when ever l thought of her indiscreation l was extremely excited sexually..l had a constant erection as l thought of it day and night..thus l encouraged her to see the same guy again and l couldnt wait for her to come home and we had a great night ourselves....thus she was encouraged to play with others from that monment on...

lf you do not have any feelings of excitment over her just asking then maybe it is not for you... lt does require a lot of respect and trust from both parties..and of course both have to be happy with the programe...

lt is very important that the lines are drawm as for example would you like her to involve family members,friends or just complete strangers etc:...

A hard one but just to accept in order not to lose her maybe a little hard to have success with this type of arrangement..l myself found it and her sexually pleasurable and exciting in both relationships...

And of course she must be just deisring the sexuality of her play mates which takes a special lady not to get overly involved emotionally...

l just want to say you both must be happy with the chosen path in order for your relationship to continue to be loving lasting and a happy one...good luck to the both of you...

 

[subgirl2]

If you need advice on what to do in this situation, that's probably why she needs to date other men. Show some backbone, be a man and tell her "fuck no!" Then make love to her till you've fucked that silly idea right out of her head.

I agree totally with Bisolom. Generally, women's sexual feelings are tied into their emotional feelings. If she wants sex with someone else then she could be losing her feelings towards you. Be careful. If she is doing it for sexual kicks, then she may get emotionally involved with another guy. Either way, it is dangerous territory. Women do not think like men. Men can jump into bed with anyone and not feel emotionally attached and don't think how it hurts his partner and sees nothing wrong with it. Women just don't think like that. Trust me.

 

[Eilan]

Women do not think like men. Men can jump into bed with anyone and not feel emotionally attached and don't think how it hurts his partner and sees nothing wrong with it. Women just don't think like that. Trust me.

I think some women can separate sex and love, and some men can't.

 

[Somehowyou]

You're the reason America was stupid enough to elect that criminal, George Bush. You're the quasi-religious, bigoted American Right, the Ku Klux Klan member, the Jew-hater, the secret Nazi admirer. Your sickness has turned the world against the United States.

The man who started this thread is in need of sound advice, not the 1930s driveling hatred you disseminate.

this was his opinion. Why turn it into a political thing. What the hell does this have to do with Bush or the price of tea in China? Who says your right?

 

[newtoforums]

I shall be blunt:

This is the most cowardly nonsense I have ever read on the internet in my life.

Not only should you ignore this thing which intruded with his ludicrous notions of it being acceptable to let your wife convene with other men, but you should consider him worthy of contempt, as I do.

"Confident in your sexuality". Nonsense! A man does not let others take his property. Only a slave permits robbery!

A woman is not a man's property. But what type of man would actually do this?

You did give him the right advice. He should dump her. Or maybe date other women.

You're the reason America was stupid enough to elect that criminal, George Bush. You're the quasi-religious, bigoted American Right, the Ku Klux Klan member, the Jew-hater, the secret Nazi admirer. Your sickness has turned the world against the United States.

The man who started this thread is in need of sound advice, not the 1930s driveling hatred you disseminate.

While he does have backward views expecting your wife to be loyal does not make you a nazi.

last i checked she took a vow.

 

[MALIBUMAN666]

Well this thread certainly seems to have created some heated discussion!

Blimey.

It's a shame the OP has seemingly disappeared, I would be very interested to know wether his wife was up for him playing the field too, or if this was to be a one sided arrangement.

A lot of the responses here have been incredibly judgemental (or in the case of Hussar, just... a bit silly really).

I'm trying to imagine how I would feel if my wife asked me the same question. It's really tough. I've been happily married for 16 years and we are extremely close.

On the one hand I think the simple fact that she's asked rather than just cheated suggests that she puts more value in the relationship than she's maybe being given credit for.

On the other hand, while I might fantasise (and if you've read my stories you will know that I have) about such a situation, I know deep down that there is no way I could allow it. Not because I own my wife, but because I could not handle the mental anguish. For me it would not even matter if she told me I was free to play with whoever I wished, that is not the issue.

If she truly wanted to fuck other men (women I'm not sure about, but it would certainly bother me a lot less) then I would have to say that I think I would suggest that we should divorce. Not because I hated her, but because if that is what she truly wanted then I would rather she had the freedom to do what she wished and I could move on to someone who was only interested in me.