wives of bi husbands

[Mikijl Dragon]

I will see if I can get my wife to post to this thread. If not I will dish out a few details.

I would love to see her point of view =)

 

[Raelena]

I will see if I can get my wife to post to this thread. If not I will dish out a few details.

I would love to see her point of view =)

Well here you go My Dearest. I knew he was Bi before he did. Or at least before he was willing to admit to himself . And definitly before he was willing to admit to anybody else, or willing to do anythng about it. He was so inhibited when I met him, it was like pulling eye teeth to get the man to do anything . But together we have taught each other alot. Needless to say we have a great sex life. And Now we have a fulltime partner living with us. For him a man he can be bi with and me someone I can watch him get his freak on with and I can have a threesome with when I want. It all works out.

That what you wanted to hear Love? *Kisses*

 

[wild175133]

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what is wrong with the boards i cant see all the replies unless i post something

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

posting more causes the boards to work better ... really it does.

She makes me sound like such a prude and I was on some points. Others not so much but I loved that she showed me a side of me that has generated some awsome experiences.

 

[wild175133]

just posting to see if there are any more replies

 

[EclecticDiversity]

Re: My CD fiance

When I first started dating my boyfriend, it was a long distance relationship online...he lived in san diego, and I lived in Napa, CA. He finally came to live with me and my parents house. I had no idea that he liked men as well. Until about the third or fourth night of his stay at my house. Me and him were out in the garage (where he stayed cuz dad wouldnt allow us to sleep in the same room) he told me to close my eyes. When he told me to open them he had put on my bra and underwear....at first he just wanted to see my reaction, whether I thought it was disgusting or I liked it, so he wouldnt feel as imbarrased and would just pass it off as him being silly if I foung it to be revolting. But I didnt. I loved it. I have always loved it when guys dressed up as women...and especially when men have sex with other men. When I told him I loved it, we started to have mad passionate sex right then and there...he started to feel really comfortable around me ever since....but he does like dick. But not just any dick, it has to be only when other men dress like women...it gives him such a hard on, he jacks off right then and there...which actually bothers me...I dont mind him dressing up, but when I see him getting a woody looking at other men in dresses it kills me inside, only because in order for me to get him hard, we have to have foreplay...and I cant visually stimulate him...I cry sometimes...so it is a bit of a conflict with me...sometimes I wish I had a dick so he would get a turned on more around me. Though he swears he doesnt want me to have a sex change, it just makes me feel like shit when he's sitting there jacking off looking at CD pics online. I dunno if any of you women have experienced the same thing as me, but I know it sux...it feels like I am constantly competing with these other men, needing to look better and stuff. Its a headache sometimes.

Wow, my heart goes out to you. you seem truly compassionate and sharing, so its sad, or at least tough, for you to go thru those feelings. Not saying dont deny them... But on the positive side, it would appear that the two of you DO have a lot going for you, in terms of sharing and honesty, about each others sexuality, so Good Luck! (And btw, your comments " have always loved it when guys dressed up as women...and especially when men have sex with other men. " are incredibly arousing, but NOT as much as your honesty about it!!!

 

[EclecticDiversity]

Mine has only told me, so far, that's he's curious. Does that count? lol It began w/him telling me that as a teenager he tried to suck his own cock, but never got farther than just the tip. He could shoot a load in his mouth and loved it. After 12 years of marriage we started checking out swinging. At first he said "NO!" to doing anything with another man, but after months of doing my tongue/fingers and assorted toys in his ass, he's now at the point that he's wondering how much better the real thing would feel! I'm in absolute heaven thinking about this! I can't wait for him to suck and be sucked, to fuck and be fucked by another hard cock. We're trying VERY hard to find bi couples to play with! I hope his first experience is WONDERFUL, and the first of hundreds! I will gladly clean another man's cum from his mouth or ass, if given the chance! Damn, now I need to go toy myself to death till he gets home!

Whoa, you GO GIRL! wow, never want to impose, but your attitude sounds like my dream Lady! I LOVE your ideas - would that all women were as in touch with their sexuality! would love to talk (unfortunately, may as well be on the other side of the world here, or i would be knocking on your door, saying lets meat for a drink, get aquainted, then spend 6 hours, devouring each other! i thing Nothing is more erotic than a lady turned onto, and turning her man bi - there is Nothing more liberating!

Sweet toung kisses to the two of you, tasting of precum....
(Am attempting to post a pic of mine, having problems, Think, not positive yet, i Can send thru yahoo... would love to send if u want to see same for anyone else... and maybe someone can help me get over my tech. glitches.....

 

[wild175133]

just seeing if anyone has posted any more

 

[thawk]

As a married bi with limited experience, I attempted to discuss my bi interests with my wife but was quickly told if I were to have sex with a man to "not come home to me", end of discussion. I think it takes a very sexually adventurous woman (not my wife) to share her husband with someone else. You guys with wives or girlfriends that are open to your bi sexuality are truely lucky, so, treat them well.

 

[horndognslutpup]

I'm so sorry your honesty and openness were met with such a closed-minded ultimatum, of sorts. I don't know that I'd consider myself adventurous, but I do dearly love my husband for admitting that he was curious and me being able to support/push him to try the real thing. I love being able to make him cum (and cum hard!) by fantasizing about what another man or couple is doing to him. I've had the pleasure of watching his first cocksucking and his first strap-on, and loved every minute of it! Can't wait to see more and more! Screw what "everybody else" thinks, there ARE women out here, like me, who ADORE bi men and what they're open to doing! We DO love and appreciate you! Keep it cumming guys!

 

[wild175133]

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I'm so sorry your honesty and openness were met with such a closed-minded ultimatum, of sorts. I don't know that I'd consider myself adventurous, but I do dearly love my husband for admitting that he was curious and me being able to support/push him to try the real thing. I love being able to make him cum (and cum hard!) by fantasizing about what another man or couple is doing to him. I've had the pleasure of watching his first cocksucking and his first strap-on, and loved every minute of it! Can't wait to see more and more! Screw what "everybody else" thinks, there ARE women out here, like me, who ADORE bi men and what they're open to doing! We DO love and appreciate you! Keep it cumming guys!

how long did you and hubby discuss this before he had his first experience and could you tell us how it happened (his first experience sucking that is)

 

[gingermango]

To the married bi men does your wife know if not what is keeping you from telling her about your desires and are you comfortable hiding this side of you from her and what would she do if she found out?

My wife knows of my bi-curiosity and I know of hers, although so far we haven't acted on it - except that I've seen her and her current crush dance together a few times and clubs, feeling each other up and grinding to the extent that guys were coming over to watch.

My bi-curiosity is kind of like Aaron's (aarons_godess's boyfriend) - I only want to mess around with a guy while I, he or both of us is cross-dressing and preferably while my wife and/or his female partner is watching, participating, directing the action, etc. When I'm not dressed, I can appreciate a sexy male body and personality but I'm not particularly turned on, most of the time.

Unitl recently it was never but over the last year or so I've started having sexually arousing thoughts abotu a few men (Orland Bloom, for one, the guy who plays Clark Kent on "Smallville", a few others). Most recently I actually got tongue-tied when I met my son's boy's soccer coach, who's 15 and looks like a 20 year old . . . ) So anyway, maybe I'm just becoming more comfortable with what I like and what turns me on as I get older.

We haven't yet acted out my bi-fantasies at all although my wife's crush has a boyfriend who is pretty damn hot. Every time we get together, my wife will tell me later, "Which would you like better - him in your mouth or up your ass? Hmmm???" and so forth. It's really getting hard to not make a pass at him! I know his girlfriend would be very cool with it; she confessed to me that she hopes he's bi himself but she hasn't yet asked him.

 

[horndognslutpup]

Re: re

how long did you and hubby discuss this before he had his first experience and could you tell us how it happened (his first experience sucking that is)

Wow, I've gotta do some thinking on this... Don't really remember the progression of events or timeframe leading up to his first cock, but maybe I can give you a rough draft here.

I think he'd known for years? maybe that bi or gay male sex turned me on. The porno books he found under the mattress when he changed the sheets one time could've been a clue, lol! Anyway, when we started swinging and played w/a girlfriend of mine as our 1st fmf we also started discussing what we wanted/didn't want to do during playtime. He outright said he wouldn't do anythign w/another guy. Well, damn.. I played it lowkey, and said "Ok, Honey" cuz what else could I say? I didnl't want to pressure him and make him NEVER want it.

I watched him one time slip his own finger in his ass while he masturbated for me as a part of foreplay. I told him how much it turned me on! We progressed to me fingering him and getting some strong orgasms (his) from it. Then came the small toys, and eventually the bigger, more realistic cock-sized and shaped vibes. During these many months I was also talking to bi guys online and let hubby know that it turned me on. He'd read the IM's and emails and didn't seem at all upset or turned off. I asked all my bi male friends if the toys and him reading the IM's was a good sign and they all basically said "DUH!" and to give it time for him to want more...

As we've started playing with couples I've purposely searched out curious and bi couples as potential playmates. The couple that we played with a few weeks ago had a curious hubby! While my hubby and the lady were fucking Hubby #2 stuck his cock in front of my hubby's face and my darling husband sucked it! Hubby #2 also sucked my husband's but neither of the guys stuck with it long enough to cum. About a week ago we played with another couple whose wife had a strap-on and wasn't afraid to use it! She fucked me AND my hubby while he fucked me on my back! Mind-blowing experience for BOTH of us!

My wonderful husband WANTS to fuck another guy, and be fucked by him! He was also disappointed that the cocksucking didn't lead to a cumshot, and wants to do that again! How can I NOT ADORE this wonderful man of mine?????? He's VERY receptive to us getting our own strap-on someday when we can afford it, and reading my IM's with other bi men always gives him a hard-on!

If I didn't answer everything you wanted to know, email/pm/or IM me at Yahoo as tiredmommyx4. I love talking about my husband--and him reading it and getting hard, LOL! Gotta go for now!

 

[daisey69]

Just found this thread

Wow, I am SO interested in finally getting my man with aanother guy.........but to be honest, he keeps sending mixed signals. Little background here.....He is the BIGGEST homophobe I know, and personally , it discusts me ( I have no tollerance for bigetry and narrow mindness)

During sex he has mentioned about wanting me to teach him how to suck a cock, and even hinted around to fuccking another man while the other guy is fucking me................But after teh sex is oover......it's like nothing was ever said. I feel like he is teasing me and I can't stand it. I love to give him head , smell his balls and lick his ass with penetration with my tounge ( yep, it is a nice long one ) but there are MANY times when this repulses him. He has even asked me about maybe getting a strap on and fucking him with it ( ok at this point I can't take it anymore, I am unable to stop cumming)

SO I guess what I am trying to say, is that even thought we have 'touched' on the subject.....I am NOT sure of his REAL position on it. ( Does he say this to get me out of control in the sack, so he can blame the 'chance happeing' on me? Is he interested, but because of religious upbringing and homophobia, can he not allow it to go any further? )

We have had other guys join us for MMF ..........but alll the attention was on me, having my needs met ( Did I mention I can be hard to satisfy?) There was no contact between him and the other man.....with the exception to having their cocks rub together thru me while fucking. There was one time where they both tried to get in my pussy at the same time......while the idea made me cum just thinking about it ....the reallity of it was it was to uncomfortable and a no-go.

Once and only once we were drinking and he said I could do whatever I wanted to him ( you know the way...I knew right away what he ment) anyhow I ended up behind him holding my tiny dildo and I fucked his ass while I rubbed his cock..................he had a great orgasm, and I couldn't wait I came almost upon insertion but that was 8 years ago..........and I am still looking for more.

Any of you have some good advice/suggestions for me?

 

[gingermango]

daisey69 -

The sad fact is that guys think with their gonads; we'll say almost anything when we're horny. The only way to know for sure if he's really interested is to ask him when you guys AREN'T all hot and bothered. Check out some guy and make a comment about it when you're out in public to gauge his reaction. Does he blow you off? Does he roll his eyes? Does he make a homophobic remark?

Better yet, while you guys are having a pleasant, unpressured situation some time, ask him about it. Tell him, with no games and mincing around it, that you want to see him with another guy and hot it makes you. Ask him how that makes him feel and then ask him pointedly if it turns him on ONLY as fantasy material for dirty talk while you're having sex or if it turns him on as a potential reality.

This is the way my wife and I have discussed it and although I'm still a "bi-virgin", I'm pretty sure I won't be for long. We're both very ready to do this and I expect we will, sooner rather than later.

But again, the bedroom is not the place for this kind of conversation. Too many hormones loosening too many brain cells! Good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

[EclecticDiversity]

Daisy69

Wow, I am SO interested in finally getting my man with aanother guy.........but to be honest, he keeps sending mixed signals. Little background here.....He is the BIGGEST homophobe I know, and personally , it discusts me ( I have no tollerance for bigetry and narrow mindness)

During sex he has mentioned about wanting me to teach him how to suck a cock, and even hinted around to fuccking another man while the other guy is fucking me................But after teh sex is oover......it's like nothing was ever said. I feel like he is teasing me and I can't stand it. I love to give him head , smell his balls and lick his ass with penetration with my tounge ( yep, it is a nice long one ) but there are MANY times when this repulses him. He has even asked me about maybe getting a strap on and fucking him with it ( ok at this point I can't take it anymore, I am unable to stop cumming)

SO I guess what I am trying to say, is that even thought we have 'touched' on the subject.....I am NOT sure of his REAL position on it. ( Does he say this to get me out of control in the sack, so he can blame the 'chance happeing' on me? Is he interested, but because of religious upbringing and homophobia, can he not allow it to go any further? )

We have had other guys join us for MMF ..........but alll the attention was on me, having my needs met ( Did I mention I can be hard to satisfy?) There was no contact between him and the other man.....with the exception to having their cocks rub together thru me while fucking. There was one time where they both tried to get in my pussy at the same time......while the idea made me cum just thinking about it ....the reallity of it was it was to uncomfortable and a no-go.

Once and only once we were drinking and he said I could do whatever I wanted to him ( you know the way...I knew right away what he ment) anyhow I ended up behind him holding my tiny dildo and I fucked his ass while I rubbed his cock..................he had a great orgasm, and I couldn't wait I came almost upon insertion but that was 8 years ago..........and I am still looking for more.

Any of you have some good advice/suggestions for me?

My heart (not to mention my dripping precum cock) goes out to you, Daisy. I think Ginger said it pretty well. You have to talk to him, finding the right time. "Better yet, while you guys are having a pleasant, unpressured situation some time, ask him about it. Tell him, with no games and mincing around it, that you want to see him with another guy and hot it makes you. Ask him how that makes him feel and then ask him pointedly if it turns him on ONLY as fantasy material for dirty talk while you're having sex or if it turns him on as a potential reality.

But again, the bedroom is not the place for this kind of conversation. Too many hormones loosening too many brain cells! Good luck and let us know how it goes.""

Strange as it does sound, the bedroom is not the place for this conversation - he's absolutely right.

I gave my ex, Endless hints... found the magazine "Options" (if anyone remembers it - it was HOT for a long time, endless stories of couples exploring MMF, 1st times, etc). Porn of MMF. "Giving of myself totally- in the bedroom, after she had been riding me on top, me wrapping my legs around her waist, simulating fucking me, kissing her immediately after her sucking me, rubbing precum on her nipples, Endlessly sucking them, (though i needed NO incentive to spend and hours just giving her nipples and breasts attention, am Very oral). She was willing in anal sex, and i also could spend an hour just having her sit on my face, but "its disgusting" when i tried to tounge her ass.......

I share, in the Mis-Communication.... because she never addressed the hints... I Never brought it up. So my bad here.

Point is, and i hate to say it, IF ITs been Eight Years.... and you mention some of his other character traits (homophobia, possible bigoty and basic intollerance).... how good are the other aspects of your relationship? I truly believe, the absolute #1 reason for success or failure in a relationship/marriage.... is COMMUNICATION, or Lack thereof.... At all costs, DON'T stop talking!

Good luck to you - you sound Wonderful, and deliciously Hot. PLEASE feel free to PM me. (Oh and btw, YOU TOO Ginger, and where are you, Horndog? PM me

 

[wild175133]

great replies so far

doesn't any one find it strange that we very often end up with the wrong person as our lover and has any one ever wondered why that is

with bi men i think it is because we end up living a lie not being honest with the ones we love and cheirsh but also dishonest with our selves in that we deny who and what we are to our selves. how can we be honest with our mates if we can not be honest with our selves

once you have accepted your self for who you are the hard part is coming out to the ones you love you don't need to come out to the whole world but your wife has a right to know your inner thoughts so as to better to understand you at your worst times

for the wives they need to know because their husband is bi that does not mean they less committed to them and their family and if his love for you is truly strong enough he will always be there for you and the family through good times and especeally the bad times

good strait forward comunication is the key here. it will be the hardest thing many couples will attempt to do in their relationship but if it is succesfull the benifits will be emense

 

[wild175133]

Re: Just found this thread

Wow, I am SO interested in finally getting my man with aanother guy.........but to be honest, he keeps sending mixed signals. Little background here.....He is the BIGGEST homophobe I know, and personally , it discusts me ( I have no tollerance for bigetry and narrow mindness)

During sex he has mentioned about wanting me to teach him how to suck a cock, and even hinted around to fuccking another man while the other guy is fucking me................But after teh sex is oover......it's like nothing was ever said. I feel like he is teasing me and I can't stand it. I love to give him head , smell his balls and lick his ass with penetration with my tounge ( yep, it is a nice long one ) but there are MANY times when this repulses him. He has even asked me about maybe getting a strap on and fucking him with it ( ok at this point I can't take it anymore, I am unable to stop cumming)

SO I guess what I am trying to say, is that even thought we have 'touched' on the subject.....I am NOT sure of his REAL position on it. ( Does he say this to get me out of control in the sack, so he can blame the 'chance happeing' on me? Is he interested, but because of religious upbringing and homophobia, can he not allow it to go any further? )

We have had other guys join us for MMF ..........but alll the attention was on me, having my needs met ( Did I mention I can be hard to satisfy?) There was no contact between him and the other man.....with the exception to having their cocks rub together thru me while fucking. There was one time where they both tried to get in my pussy at the same time......while the idea made me cum just thinking about it ....the reallity of it was it was to uncomfortable and a no-go.

Once and only once we were drinking and he said I could do whatever I wanted to him ( you know the way...I knew right away what he ment) anyhow I ended up behind him holding my tiny dildo and I fucked his ass while I rubbed his cock..................he had a great orgasm, and I couldn't wait I came almost upon insertion but that was 8 years ago..........and I am still looking for more.

Any of you have some good advice/suggestions for me?

would love to know if you got the chance to calmly and reationally discuss this with him and see if you could straiten out your mixed signal problem please let us know

 

[merlin63]

i am a married 41 male who has been bi since i was 15. i have had some gay experinces. my wife of 13 yrs now told me when we got married that there was no way she would ever touch another woman sexual. well things changed. just last week she called me at work and told me that her friend told her how sexual attracted she was to my wife well now it has been 6 days and they have had a lot of fun in bed. well i have confused my feelings of this and it has turned our love makeing thru the roof and i also confused my bi side. she is happy that i have admited this. so the story will continual later

 

[wild175133]

i am a married 41 male who has been bi since i was 15. i have had some gay experinces. my wife of 13 yrs now told me when we got married that there was no way she would ever touch another woman sexual. well things changed. just last week she called me at work and told me that her friend told her how sexual attracted she was to my wife well now it has been 6 days and they have had a lot of fun in bed. well i have confused my feelings of this and it has turned our love makeing thru the roof and i also confused my bi side. she is happy that i have admited this. so the story will continual later

when did you tell your wife about your bi side and how has she accepted it and have you had any exp since you been married

 

[merlin63]

she told me she was attracted to g/f and they were going to have sex. then i came out and told her that i was bi and that i have had some experinces with men. she accepted it happly

 

[catsr2wild]

Re: Re: Re: wives of bi husbands

Originally posted by rl_dylan
Just stopped by, soooooooooooo
wild thing - - - has that ever happened? My "male" fantasy also

No its never happened for me...

 

[rl_dylan]

Re: Re: Re: Re: wives of bi husbands

No its never happened for me...

I guess we can keeping dreaming, fantasizing and hoping

 

[daisey69]

No updates.....

Well, He has been working so much lately that is a mute point at this time. I have mentioned my interest in it a few times, but he gets a concerned look on his facce and raises his eyebrows, then says nothing. I guess it will just remain a fantasy for me. Which isn't entirely a horrible thing I guess....... things always go perfectly in our fantasies, unlike real life. If it is to happen, It will in due time.

 

[wild175133]

Re: No updates.....

Well, He has been working so much lately that is a mute point at this time. I have mentioned my interest in it a few times, but he gets a concerned look on his facce and raises his eyebrows, then says nothing. I guess it will just remain a fantasy for me. Which isn't entirely a horrible thing I guess....... things always go perfectly in our fantasies, unlike real life. If it is to happen, It will in due time.

have you ever talked about this with any of your girl friends and if you have what did they think of it