Women and porn (question for the ladies)

[M's girl]

What is also cool is that with that COOL post I became "Really Experienced" here at LIT.... go figure!

Maybe that could be a subtitle to the "Rated L" on my shirt? Ohwwww please?

 

[M's girl]

Well, leaqve to me to suggest a studio and then draw a blank on actual titles to suggest... I think with Elegant Angel and DVSX, I found their titles to be high quality, varied and there is a lot involvement from women behind the scenes. Belladonna did a lot of work for Elegant Angel, if memory serves, and she always seems to be a winner in terms of passion, intensity and variety, with men and women. I think in terms of seduction, teasing and passion, I find that they often have this, but then again this is a subjective view - what I find seductive or passionate, you might find still jumps into the action too quickly.

It's tough to recommend porn, especially from a man to a woman. Even though my wife has not actually watched any of my porn, she always jokes that she doesn't like a story or build-up to the action, instead noting that porn should just get to the action ASAP!

Ah, Belladonna..... my BF likes her very much but that is probably because she's into almost anything as far as I can see. She goes a bit too far for my taste sometimes (fisting, taking baseball bats anal, choking, that kind of stuff) but I do agree on the eagerness she shows which I like in the more regular scenes.

Don't get me wrong though.... I'm not a girl (woman, whatever ) who wants or needs extended stories to 'her' porn. On the contrary... but there is something between the never ending story and the "Open your ass 'cause a dick is coming up" from minute one. Maybe it's that I like to see more attention payed to the women. In most of the films now it's blowjobs and fucking, it eighter being regular, anal or DP. I like to see the women getting kissed, stroked, licked (oh yeah)... to make a long story short: seduced.

I like the European movies (French, Italian) because they leave some clothes on during the sex (and I don't mean just a bra or so). It's more natural and I think it is very sexy. I love the sight of a huge dick sticking from an unzipped pants. Do you know what I mean girls? Look for films by Salieri, for instance. Also the 'mood' in those films is often quite sultry.... is that the right word?

Okay, so you're probably right about the recommandations... definitions of passionate etc may differ... So how do you define passionate? To me it is if a person is really into the sex. You can see it in their eyes, you can see it in the way they move and they are more likely to use their hands and mouth by way of 'telling' the other person how horny they are. NOT sexy and passionate (but rather laughable) is when a woman starts moaning as if she's in some sort of screaming contest from the first moment a man puts his whatever somewhere without all the (or any.... these days!!) foreplay. It just is NOT natural, thus totally unrealistic. And I know porn movies are that anyway but hey, give the girls a break and at least try to make it somewhat appealing for them too!

Oké.... I'm babbling..... I'll stop....

 

[LibraStud]

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It's tough to recommend porn, especially from a man to a woman. Even though my wife has not actually watched any of my porn, she always jokes that she doesn't like a story or build-up to the action, instead noting that porn should just get to the action ASAP!

Just goes to show you how we are all different - most ladies I know prefer the build up to the action -- go figure!

 

[LibraStud]

You would prefer a white shirt with a green logo because.........?


By the way.... I think you should say something about women and porn since you're 'in this thread'.... haha. Don't you have anything you would like to share with us about this topic? Have your girlfriends always wanted to watch porn with you? Has it ever damaged a relationship for you and if so, in what way? Would you like to be able to talk to women about porn/sex without being in a relationship with them, just for the sake of "information" (really, not because you are horny or something...). I wish I could, although I can also see why it would be (heck, why it IS) difficult. That's why I started this thread here.

In the US, typically red means stop and green means go. I am wearing green
today.

I dont have a whole lot to share on this subject. I am very visually stimulated.
I did help a fem friend go to the X store once and rent her first set of video tapes.
I didnt realize it at the time but she was quite randy the whole time prior to walking thru the front door of the "X Place". When we got to her place all I remember is how we laughed about spending money on movies that we hardly even watched -- both of us being so ready.

I have a very difficult time sitting across from a woman and discussing porn. Its ok if I am not attracted to her, but if I am, my thoughts turn to fantasies.

 

[AppleBiter]

Just goes to show you how we are all different - most ladies I know prefer the build up to the action -- go figure!

Not this lady. We are all different, that's for sure.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

Ah, Belladonna..... my BF likes her very much but that is probably because she's into almost anything as far as I can see. She goes a bit too far for my taste sometimes (fisting, taking baseball bats anal, choking, that kind of stuff) but I do agree on the eagerness she shows which I like in the more regular scenes.

Don't get me wrong though.... I'm not a girl (woman, whatever ) who wants or needs extended stories to 'her' porn. On the contrary... but there is something between the never ending story and the "Open your ass 'cause a dick is coming up" from minute one. Maybe it's that I like to see more attention payed to the women. In most of the films now it's blowjobs and fucking, it eighter being regular, anal or DP. I like to see the women getting kissed, stroked, licked (oh yeah)... to make a long story short: seduced.

I like the European movies (French, Italian) because they leave some clothes on during the sex (and I don't mean just a bra or so). It's more natural and I think it is very sexy. I love the sight of a huge dick sticking from an unzipped pants. Do you know what I mean girls? Look for films by Salieri, for instance. Also the 'mood' in those films is often quite sultry.... is that the right word?

Okay, so you're probably right about the recommandations... definitions of passionate etc may differ... So how do you define passionate? To me it is if a person is really into the sex. You can see it in their eyes, you can see it in the way they move and they are more likely to use their hands and mouth by way of 'telling' the other person how horny they are. NOT sexy and passionate (but rather laughable) is when a woman starts moaning as if she's in some sort of screaming contest from the first moment a man puts his whatever somewhere without all the (or any.... these days!!) foreplay. It just is NOT natural, thus totally unrealistic. And I know porn movies are that anyway but hey, give the girls a break and at least try to make it somewhat appealing for them too!

Oké.... I'm babbling..... I'll stop....

You make a lot of sense, M's girl, and I agree with you in your description of what can counted as "seduction". I need to feel that the woman is enjoying whatever action is being portrayed onscreen in order to enjoy it myself. It's always great to get some teasing, maybe stripping and some chemistry between the performers, male or female. I have some porn containing older women where even though the ladies are not the best looking or in the best shape, their enthusiasm and the chemistry with their partner makes the scene infectious and very arousing. Like you said, you can see it in their eyes, hear it in their voice and see it in their behavior, whether it is amateur or professional, and this makes the viewing experience more memorable (and the DVD a keeper!).

Belladonna... you have to love her for eagerness and I love her for all the anal action she has provided, but yep, sometimes she goes to far for me as well... just not into choking, pissing or her being pregnant in her recent releases. Call me a prude.

 

[M's girl]

You make a lot of sense, M's girl, and I agree with you in your description of what can counted as "seduction".

Belladonna... you have to love her for eagerness and I love her for all the anal action she has provided, but yep, sometimes she goes to far for me as well... just not into choking, pissing or her being pregnant in her recent releases. Call me a prude.

Well..... thank you, and I won't call you a prude

 

[bisexplicit]

I lesbian porn. Although a lot of it is crappy and geared towards men who will watch lesbian porn (seriously, what lesbians enjoy giving blowjobs to strap-ons? ), it is almost always better than straight porn.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

I lesbian porn. Although a lot of it is crappy and geared towards men who will watch lesbian porn (seriously, what lesbians enjoy giving blowjobs to strap-ons? ), it is almost always better than straight porn.

As a guy who also owns his share of lesbian porn, I have no idea why they have to include the ladies giving blow jobs to strap-ons. Who finds that arousing? Not me, just get to what the strap-on is actually there for! The Les Perversions series from Sineplex has provided some solid G/G action, but this may have too much tpy action for some fans. I recently purchased Evolution Erotica's all-girl 'Asseaters Unanimous', the 10th in the series but the first all-female, and thoroughly enjoyed its total focus on girl/girl rimming, with ample kissing, fondling action.

 

[M's girl]

...... seriously, what lesbians enjoy giving blowjobs to strap-ons? )

(I am..) not a lesbian, not even bi.... but that's what I always thought. This goes to proof again (who needed proof anyway?) that the whole porn industry is still focussed mainly on what men want to see, or what they THINK men want to see (as Chi-Guy already contributed). If a scene is done 'right', I guess along the lines of what Bisexplicit said, I also enjoy girl/girl scenes.

I wonder if there's serious research out there on what percentage of women watch porn, because I'm certain it's large and still growing. And if they (the porn industry people.... ) know that then I wonder why they haven't changed the way porn was made.... or have they?

OK, there are a few women who are producing films right now (Randall, Kelly and I'm sure there are more) and are doing a fine job in my opinion, but sometimes I seriously consider going into the business myself (as a director/producer) to (contribute to) make better porn, haha...

 

[Eilan]

I lesbian porn. Although a lot of it is crappy and geared towards men who will watch lesbian porn (seriously, what lesbians enjoy giving blowjobs to strap-ons? ), it is almost always better than straight porn.

It makes as much sense as porn queens who wear high heels during sex. I just don't get that, but then I don't wear heels, period, so I suppose I couldn't be expected to get it.

 

[M's girl]

It makes as much sense as porn queens who wear high heels during sex. I just don't get that, but then I don't wear heels, period, so I suppose I couldn't be expected to get it.

Hmmmm.... I get the high heels.... but to a certain extend. I like sex with (some) clothes on, including shoes, from time to time. But what they wear in most of the porn movies gets beyond me too.

 

[Eilan]

Hmmmm.... I get the high heels.... but to a certain extend.

I'm a klutz, so heels are beyond me.

 

[M's girl]

I'm a klutz, so heels are beyond me.

Looking up "klutz" in the dictionary....... Hey! It's not even in there! But I can sort of imagine what it is.... I don't see you as a klutz...

 

[karndav]

I used to be very uncomfortable watching porn or when my husband did. I felt I couldn't "compete" with it. I don't feel that way anymore. It doesn't bother me when he watches it and I watch it with him.

I have no problem with the people who make it and feel I could be friends with anyone. I really try hard not to judge people at all because I have been in a situation where people have judged me without having known the situation.

There is no particular type I prefer and always let my husband pick out the films although if possible I prefer something with some kind of plot. (kinda hard to find though! LOL!)

 

[bisexplicit]

It makes as much sense as porn queens who wear high heels during sex. I just don't get that, but then I don't wear heels, period, so I suppose I couldn't be expected to get it.

haha, Yeah, I can't imagine wanting to be that uncomfortable during sex.

 

[bisexplicit]

(I am..) not a lesbian, not even bi.... but that's what I always thought. This goes to proof again (who needed proof anyway?) that the whole porn industry is still focussed mainly on what men want to see, or what they THINK men want to see (as Chi-Guy already contributed). If a scene is done 'right', I guess along the lines of what Bisexplicit said, I also enjoy girl/girl scenes.

I wonder if there's serious research out there on what percentage of women watch porn, because I'm certain it's large and still growing. And if they (the porn industry people.... ) know that then I wonder why they haven't changed the way porn was made.... or have they?

OK, there are a few women who are producing films right now (Randall, Kelly and I'm sure there are more) and are doing a fine job in my opinion, but sometimes I seriously consider going into the business myself (as a director/producer) to (contribute to) make better porn, haha...

I've heard that there is porn out there that is made for women by women, but I think its a small specialty amount and much harder to find then stuff made for men.
And personally, I think people think that romance novels are what women use. Which makes me laugh, 'cause thats not what I want at all.

 

[Equinoxe]

seriously, what lesbians enjoy giving blowjobs to strap-ons?

There are actually women who do that outside of porn, but that's generally a BDSM sort of thing. In most porn though, I think the reasons for it are quite different and I think they've been spelt out clearly in this thread. I'm not terribly interested in strap-ons in general, but I find that particular act ridiculous at best (and offensive at worst, but then I can occasionally be a tad militant).

And now it occurs to me that you and I have spoken before, oddly enough about strap-ons.

 

[M's girl]

....... I felt I couldn't "compete" with it. I don't feel that way anymore.

Karen.... you can NEVER compete with it.... Nor should you want to. It's a fantasy, it's fiction! It's people who do this because they get payed for it very well! If your man (or any other man for that matter) should ever expect you to be exactly like those girls in the films just try this: put on a SUPERMAN movie (Spiderman, Gladiator, Terminator and the likes will do too) and expect the same from your partner after that! Case closed!

Oh, I know you've come to realize that already, good for you. Just wanted to take the opportunity to give this example....

 

[M's girl]

And personally, I think people think that romance novels are what women use. Which makes me laugh, 'cause thats not what I want at all.

Not here on LIT they don't! But in real life? You could be right, well, I hope not actually! LOL.... Misconception # 236 about the female sexual experience....

 

[M's girl]

There are actually women who do that outside of porn, but that's generally a BDSM sort of thing. In most porn though, I think the reasons for it are quite different and I think they've been spelt out clearly in this thread. I'm not terribly interested in strap-ons in general, but I find that particular act ridiculous at best (and offensive at worst, but then I can occasionally be a tad militant).

And now it occurs to me that you and I have spoken before, oddly enough about strap-ons.

Offensive....? Well.... we have a nice set of toys laying around the bed from time to time but in the end hardly ever use them. I mean... when you've got the real thing at hand....? But we do have a strap on, a vibrator and several dildo's, cockrings, you name it. It's fun.... sometimes.... But giving my dildo a blowjob? Haha, I don't think so (plus they taste horrible too!)

 

[Equinoxe]

Offensive....?

Long story, but suffice it to say, I find that there are certain implications in the act of performing oral sex upon a strap-on, both as it exists in the behaviour of actual people and as it exists in pornographic films, which do not sit well with me. I try not to concern myself with it though, since I do not participate in either, it is other people's business and all.

Well.... we have a nice set of toys laying around the bed from time to time but in the end hardly ever use them. I mean... when you've got the real thing at hand....? But we do have a strap on, a vibrator and several dildo's, cockrings, you name it. It's fun.... sometimes.... But giving my dildo a blowjob? Haha, I don't think so (plus they taste horrible too!)

I'm not a fan of toys in general, though I understand why others enjoy them, but I especially have no interest in fellating a strap-on nor in wearing one to be fellated by someone else.

 

[Elenia26]

F 29 here.

Are you watching porn (movies)

Hell yeah.

what genre do you prefer

Teen, mostly, (18 + of course). Power plays. Also...don't know what to call this, but ones with a little character roleplaying. I saw one that was all set in beatnik clubs of the 1960's/70's, and everyone dressed the part...liked it because it was interesting.

or even which porn stars, what kind of 'action' etc

I adore Peter North. And Dale DeBone. Other than that I don't know many names. I like the women in my porn to have normal-sized breasts, though.

If you don't like watching porn movies yourself, do you mind if your partner does so; do you feel comfortable with that?

Moot point; I watch with him.

Do you believe in the "porn especially made for women" thing? There are films out there with that 'label' I know.
I've never seen any, what are they? Where do I get some? Linky, please?

What do you think about the women (and men) who are working in the porn industry? Would you be friends with them and feel comfortable enough to tell other friends who they are and what they do?
I might judiciously censor their professions to people who I knew couldn't handle it. Other than that I wouldn't have any problem.

I love porn. My collection these days is bigger than my SO's. One of the gifts I gave him for his birthday was Teen Crush, and I had two porn DVDs under my Christmas tree last year.

I do hate the bloody 10-minute blowjob, though.

 

[Elenia26]

Hmmmm.... I get the high heels.... but to a certain extend. I like sex with (some) clothes on, including shoes, from time to time. But what they wear in most of the porn movies gets beyond me too.

AND I wish they would take it off fucking s-l-o-w-e-r. We do NOT need to be bare-ass nekkid 30 seconds into the blowjob, please. Reveal what you've got, entice me, tease me.

Sheesh.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

AND I wish they would take it off fucking s-l-o-w-e-r. We do NOT need to be bare-ass nekkid 30 seconds into the blowjob, please. Reveal what you've got, entice me, tease me.

Sheesh.

However, sometimes, when some of us might be in a hurry to get the good stuff, I hate delays....

But then the slow striptease can be incredible to watch, all leading up to the action. And I am actually not that big a fan of watching blow jobs in general either, which I know sounds strange coming from a guy!