Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[v_indigo]

First off, thank you all so much for being supportive yesterday. It was the toughest day I've had in a long time. Part of me hoped I was past such days... but deep down I knew better.

And thank you and hugs to everyone who shared stuff yesterday. It helps to know I'm not alone, and I hope it helps all of you too.

I'm doing okay-ish today. I don't feel like curling up into a ball in a dark room, and I'm going to work. So, small victories.

It looks like I'm going to have to ride this out for a bit. The psychiatrist doesn't want to change my meds since he thinks it is hormones and I could even out at any time. My therapist and I discussed coping strategies. One was avoiding the situations in which the intrusive dark thoughts are more frequent... which I already knew but... it triggers my anxiety to think of going without sex for a bit. Logically I know Hubby isn't with me just because of sex, and he probably won't mind a rest anyway, as my drive is higher than his, but my anxiety keeps making me question what I have to offer him if there isn't going to be sex for a while. It just plays into my thoughts of not deserving what I have and not feeling worthy of love.

Hubby and I talked about all this last night. He told me we'll do whatever we need to do to help me feel better. I love him for stuff like that and so much more, but it can also make me feel even more like I don't deserve him.

Anyway, at least those are negative thoughts I'm used to and know how to deal with. And that has to be better than the disturbing intrusive thoughts I don't know how to deal with, right?

Finding ways to deal with the negative shit in our heads is always a process. And what works this time might not work next time.
Brains are assholes.
But also I love your husband.

 

[lil_jenni]

But also I love your husband.

Guys on here always think he is lucky because I'm hypersexual and they think that is what they would want. But I know the reality and what I sometimes put him through. I'm the lucky one.

 

[v_indigo]

Guys on here always think he is lucky because I'm hypersexual and they think that is what they would want. But I know the reality and what I sometimes put him through. I'm the lucky one.

You just let me know when you need pictures of pretty girls

 

[v_indigo]

I am having a day.
My feelings are all over the place, and I all at once want to be drowning in people and also completely alone.
Yay.

 

[Christy2Cum]

I am having a day.
My feelings are all over the place, and I all at once want to be drowning in people and also completely alone.
Yay.

Aww, hun, I hate days like that, sending you virtual hugs and kisses.

 

[Yesok1]

I made a comment about my girlfriend. I kicked her out on Sunday because last minute she decided to stay at a friend's at house party.

I blamed her for having sex with someone else. It was the opposite. I pester her for sex so much, that she welcomed a bed without me in it.

Men automatically made comments and I joked it off. I know I'm wrong, I know I'm desperate, but people don't understand that women do have high sex drives.

It takes me to dark places. As shared yesterday. I'm on a sex ban until Saturday when we are away.

My self esteem is low, I only feel loved if I'm satisfying myself and Cumming with someone.

I emotionally attach very quickly and I met someone on here, and I don't think she's as into me as much as I thought. It's also sent me on an emotional roller coaster.

I cant handle it.

I've stepped away from talking to her. I'm trying to make it up with my RL girlfriend. But my mental capacity is all over the place.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I am having a day.
My feelings are all over the place, and I all at once want to be drowning in people and also completely alone.
Yay.

 

[Fullygrownbrat]

I need a Meghan Trainor meme that is just:

My name is: NO
My number is: NO
You need to let it go…

 

[Giftboy]

I'll start.
I've had so many terrible, demeaning encounters with men on Lit lately that it was honestly building to a dangerous crescendo. Well, my worst encounter occurred Monday night & it left me absolutely terrified & hyperventilating.

Fast forward to Tuesday night & I let all my online play guys know that I was taking a step back & needed "to re-establish peace & safety." Basically, a nice way of saying please don't message me until further notice while also giving a glimpse into the hell I've seen, right?

Well, even those guys who had yet to be problematic, sure took that as an invitation to start. Paraphrase of real interaction:
Me: I need space after several bad encounters & the worst one last night.
Him: Oh no, what happened?
Me: I don't want to cry, just know I need space.
Him: I understand.

NEXT DAY

Him: I know you don't want to talk to me because you need space, but can you hook me up with another woman I can sext with? I've just been so horny lately.


Why THE FUCK this man think I'm an online pimp now??
Like, fuck allll the way off.

Well you know what to do? Stop logging in. That's the solution to your blabbering.

 

[Giftboy]

Wherever two or more ladies try to hang out and enjoy good sexy conversation there will always be some man trying to bust down the door to see what we are up to!! I know cuz I have one such man that's wired that way!
Stick around @InCNCestBangPie

Get a life.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

You must be lost, @Giftboy . You're definitely dumb. Welp, you're about to get roasted by several women, so hope it was worth it.
Have a lovely day, mmkay?

 

[v_indigo]

You must be lost, @Giftboy . You're definitely dumb. Welp, you're about to get roasted by several women, so hope it was worth it.
Have a lovely day, mmkay?

It’s funny how he claims to be owned but behaves like this. Either he’s a shitty sub/slave, or his owners are shitty people.
Probably both.

 

[Yesok1]

Get a life.

Aww. Does the gift come with a gift receipt? It's a bit crap.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

It’s funny how he claims to be owned but behaves like this. Either he’s a shitty sub/slave, or his owners are shitty people.
Probably both.

Oh, it's definitely both. Alternative is that he's been stuck in that Dunce corner for so long, that he began creating a fantasy world where people actually wanted to be around him.

 

[Yesok1]

It’s funny how he claims to be owned but behaves like this. Either he’s a shitty sub/slave, or his owners are shitty people.
Probably both.

He got taken back to the shelter, as he couldn't be trained. Now he's escape looking for his forever home.

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

Well I didn’t know this thread existed - so I thought I would say hello, I’m Amanda - I see the safe space has been invaded by some tedious twats, but it does make it easier to add them to my ignore list before I have to interact with them.

I feel the pain of the highly sexed ladies - it’s an odd thing as a woman to be the more demanding partner.

 

[Yesok1]

Well I didn’t know this thread existed - so I thought I would say hello, I’m Amanda - I see the safe space has been invaded by some tedious twats, but it does make it easier to add them to my ignore list before I have to interact with them.

I feel the pain of the highly sexed ladies - it’s an odd thing as a woman to be the more demanding partner.

Lovely to see you here @AmandaKellyUK

It can ruin or make reputations. It can also feel as though you dived into the black abyss, where you lose yourself trying to find the light. There's no escape, and the glimmers you see are just reflections. You take hold and feel a sense of relief that never lasts as long as you hope.

 

[Strixaluco]

Welcome Amanda!

it’s an odd thing as a woman to be the more demanding partner

Unfortunately that doesn't even take being highly sexed. I'm more average I think, yet I've had 2 partners with far less sex drive.

 

[v_indigo]

Welcome Amanda!

Unfortunately that doesn't even take being highly sexed. I'm more average I think, yet I've had 2 partners with far less sex drive.

Mismatched sex drives are a real challenge, regardless of the stereotyping of the situation. And that does happen. Men are seen as having much higher sex drives than women, and there’s the whole ‘lesbian bed death’ cliche

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

Welcome Amanda!

Unfortunately that doesn't even take being highly sexed. I'm more average I think, yet I've had 2 partners with far less sex drive.

My partner is asexual so pairing up with me (I would describe myself as highly sexed) has been a challenge which got rough at times but we have survived it

 

[Fullygrownbrat]

It’s so frustrating to be a woman who has hit 40, and is so supercharged, and then to remember men hit that peak in their teens.

On the bright side, as least we make enough money at this age to buy nice toys!

 

[v_indigo]

It’s so frustrating to be a woman who has hit 40, and is so supercharged, and then to remember men hit that peak in their teens.

On the bright side, as least we make enough money at this age to buy nice toys!

Lelo has taken SO MUCH OF MY MONEY

 

[Fullygrownbrat]

I’m trying to abstain before my bedroom looks like it’s been decorated with a 70’s version of silicone toys. Just a mushroom forest over here!

 

[v_indigo]

I’m trying to abstain before my bedroom looks like it’s been decorated with a 70’s version of silicone toys. Just a mushroom forest over here!

Well, if there’s any you want to try, I probably have them

 

[Fullygrownbrat]

Well, if there’s any you want to try, I probably have them

I haven’t heard of Lelo, but maybe I’ll check and see!