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[Endless_Night]

I've been thinking about the original question. Having been so focused on integrating some type of kink into my life I've gotten rather distracted from any other holy grails as far as sex. But...it would be unarguably nice to orgasm with ease. Or even become an orgasm expert!

< My brain is my best friend for D/s sex, but my own worst enemy in vanilla. >

This rings a bell with me, though I hadn't actually thought it through in any type of detail.

 

[midwestyankee]

I've been thinking about the original question. Having been so focused on integrating some type of kink into my life I've gotten rather distracted from any other holy grails as far as sex. But...it would be unarguably nice to orgasm with ease. Or even become an orgasm expert!



This rings a bell with me, though I hadn't actually thought it through in any type of detail.

Young man carrying a violin case: "Tell me, sir, how do you get to Carnegie Hall?"
Older man carrying a violin case: "Practice, practice, practice."

Might even work for a bell ringer.

 

[Endless_Night]

Young man carrying a violin case: "Tell me, sir, how do you get to Carnegie Hall?"
Older man carrying a violin case: "Practice, practice, practice."

Might even work for a bell ringer.

I'm sorry. Did you say something?

:kittypaw:

 

[kayte]

Hi there ~ Nice to see you in your digs here.

Have a fabulous week.

 

[midwestyankee]

Hi there ~ Nice to see you in your digs here.

Have a fabulous week.

Hey there, young lady! Glad you stopped in.

 

[kayte]

Hey there, young lady! Glad you stopped in.

Good morning sweetie, I like your latest thread. Happy Hump Day!

 

[midwestyankee]

It's been far too long since I've raised up anything of a dust storm. So...

Are you a starter or a reactor when it comes to sex? Are you the one who initiates or are you the one who waits to be pursued? If you're the initiator, what's your favorite approach? And if you're a reactor, what's the signal that always gets you to "Of course!"?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[SpunThings]

It's been far too long since I've raised up anything of a dust storm. So...

Are you a starter or a reactor when it comes to sex? Are you the one who initiates or are you the one who waits to be pursued? If you're the initiator, what's your favorite approach? And if you're a reactor, what's the signal that always gets you to "Of course!"?

He initiates. I'm the reactor and the pursued. There are a lot of things that he can do that get me excited, but I've chosen not to say no so those aren't required. Usually it has more to do with his body language and true intent behind his eyes rather than the act itself.

There are things I do to test the waters and also indicate to him that I'm interested. I get playful and kind of egg him on a little bit. He either takes the bait or not as he chooses.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[SpunThings]

There is a game my dogs play.

The little one, the one with more get up and go, comes in and runs around the bigger one, trying to insight her. In the game is is ALWAYS the one being chased but he is also always the initiator. Sometimes he has to worked quite hard to be prey. Some times the girl just isn't interested, or merely hops up and puts him in his place a bit, and then flops back down.

I find their relationship facisnating. In initiating, I do not feel like my game is so different from little dogs . It makes me no less prey in the game, than if I were the scent on a drag hunt.

Haha wow that description is really... familiar.

 

[midwestyankee]

Elle, I love the dogs' game. So many male-female interactions seem to follow a similar pattern.

 

[midwestyankee]

He initiates. I'm the reactor and the pursued. There are a lot of things that he can do that get me excited, but I've chosen not to say no so those aren't required. Usually it has more to do with his body language and true intent behind his eyes rather than the act itself.

There are things I do to test the waters and also indicate to him that I'm interested. I get playful and kind of egg him on a little bit. He either takes the bait or not as he chooses.

Thanks for chiming in. I especially liked reading your last sentences. They sound a lot like what I see as my ideal.

 

[midwestyankee]

Seela Bait

That which we call hooters, by any other name would make my schlong sing.

Linguistic analysis of why we say hooters, schlong, Johnson, jizz and other niceties.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

That which we call hooters, by any other name would make my schlong sing.

Linguistic analysis of why we say hooters, schlong, Johnson, jizz and other niceties.

I'm not sure this is good seela bait...
She probably knows it all already

 

[desertslave]

It's been far too long since I've raised up anything of a dust storm. So...

Are you a starter or a reactor when it comes to sex? Are you the one who initiates or are you the one who waits to be pursued? If you're the initiator, what's your favorite approach? And if you're a reactor, what's the signal that always gets you to "Of course!"?

I often ask...or wriggle, or grope. It's up to him to respond, of course. (I'm rarely disappointed.) When I'm the reactor almost anything will trip my trigger. I'm not shy, and still seem to have the same libido I had when I was {inappropriate for Lit standards}. :caning:

 

[SpunThings]

That which we call hooters, by any other name would make my schlong sing.

Linguistic analysis of why we say hooters, schlong, Johnson, jizz and other niceties.

That was very interesting. I love the study of language, and swears are just useful.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

That was very interesting. I love the study of language, and swears are just useful.

I agree. I don't believe that any words are "bad" and that there is some tally somewhere against your soul for using any word at all They are just tools of expressionism. And as the article points out, some are more harshly pointed than others

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

This sort of, with the reserve that any word used hatefully to cause hurt can be 'bad' I think....in the intent rTher than the word. There are also some words that are inappropriate for user group. For example.......I don't think ( literotica prohibited user group) need to know the word meaning of 'dildo' for example, where as other words that are comfortable, biologically correct and allow them to feel without shame and to express transgression of boundary are very much needed.

Oh definitely. Hurtful, hateful words are "bad".
As to who needs to know what, I go back and forth on that. Little kids should know all about sex, but I don't want to be the one to explain it to them They do not necessarily need to know about proclivities do they?
Yep, where's the line...

 

[gamegamale]

It's been far too long since I've raised up anything of a dust storm. So...

Are you a starter or a reactor when it comes to sex? Are you the one who initiates or are you the one who waits to be pursued? If you're the initiator, what's your favorite approach? And if you're a reactor, what's the signal that always gets you to "Of course!"?

All to often I find myself initiating carnal activities...with myself. But, considering I live alone it's to be expected.

For this reason, I prefer to socialize with women my own age or older...they are much more agressive and less inhibited.

This I learned decades ago when I was a young(er) single guy dating women who were my senior. As one passionate ladies said to me, "Let's not waste time...I can talk while we're fucking."

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[midwestyankee]

I'm not sure this is good seela bait...
She probably knows it all already

Actually, I think the odds that she'll learn at least something are better than 50/50.

That was very interesting. I love the study of language, and swears are just useful.

I do, too (did it professionally, sort of, for several years) and it's always fascinating to see what the new researchers are up to these days. So much more freedom than we used to have to study "naughty" things.

I agree. I don't believe that any words are "bad" and that there is some tally somewhere against your soul for using any word at all They are just tools of expressionism. And as the article points out, some are more harshly pointed than others

If there's an Accountant in the Sky, I'll owe more than one eternity. So be it.

This sort of, with the reserve that any word used hatefully to cause hurt can be 'bad' I think....in the intent rTher than the word. There are also some words that are inappropriate for user group. For example.......I don't think ( literotica prohibited user group) need to know the word meaning of 'dildo' for example, where as other words that are comfortable, biologically correct and allow them to feel without shame and to express transgression of boundary are very much needed.

I think this is the root of disagreement over using the word "cunt." Many believe that it can't possibly be said in a loving manner. I disagree.

Oh definitely. Hurtful, hateful words are "bad".
As to who needs to know what, I go back and forth on that. Little kids should know all about sex, but I don't want to be the one to explain it to them They do not necessarily need to know about proclivities do they?
Yep, where's the line...

Little kid: "Great Aunt Collar, could you teach me sex?"
GAC: "Oh, dear, aren't you a little young at 5 years old?"
LK: "I don't think so. My kindygarden teacher said it's good to be curious."
GAC: "I see. Well, it's how two people who REALLY like each other make each other feel REALLY good, using their bodies."
LK: "You mean like kisses and stuff? Gross!"
GAC: "Yes, exactly. Doesn't that help?"
LK: "No. I just want to know how to spell it. I'll ask my Dad."

 

[midwestyankee]

I often ask...or wriggle, or grope. It's up to him to respond, of course. (I'm rarely disappointed.) When I'm the reactor almost anything will trip my trigger. I'm not shy, and still seem to have the same libido I had when I was {inappropriate for Lit standards}. :caning:

Groping would work with me. I don't always take hints well.

All to often I find myself initiating carnal activities...with myself. But, considering I live alone it's to be expected.

For this reason, I prefer to socialize with women my own age or older...they are much more agressive and less inhibited.

This I learned decades ago when I was a young(er) single guy dating women who were my senior. As one passionate ladies said to me, "Let's not waste time...I can talk while we're fucking."

I find that if I don't initiate when I'm alone, nothing happens. I feel very much abandoned at those times.

LOVE the quote from your older friend.

 

[Endless_Night]

It's been far too long since I've raised up anything of a dust storm. So...

Are you a starter or a reactor when it comes to sex? Are you the one who initiates or are you the one who waits to be pursued? If you're the initiator, what's your favorite approach? And if you're a reactor, what's the signal that always gets you to "Of course!"?

A little late to the game, but....

Before reading some of the replies I would have said that I was always a reactor. I like to be pursued. It's fun. And arousing. It makes me feel sexy, and desirable. Besides, I am very...awkward about expressing what I want verbally. It's embarrassing.

Reacting, being pursued, those just work for me.

However, I do have a bratty side. I'd say it is definitely an initiating tool. Pestering, agitating, being...unreasonable and, errr, foot stompy. Ultimately, whether the ball gets picked up is not my decision. But I do, in my own way, initiate.