❓ Inquiring Minds Want To Know - Discussion Thread

[midwestyankee]

I'll get right on it. I suspect a little pee might cut right through it and wash it all away.

Oh really? We should talk.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Oh really? We should talk.

<grabs my swim mask>

 

[midwestyankee]

<grabs my swim mask>

I could fix you up with a custom snorkel if you'd like.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I could fix you up with a custom snorkel if you'd like.

You think of everything.

 

[midwestyankee]

You think of everything.

And on that note, we now return to your regularly scheduled programming.

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

#41

Subversion

What about you subverts your kink's stereotype? Is it your gender, race, body type? In what areas in your kink do you wish you see more diversity break the stereotype?

Most people I know would be astonished to discover that I have a sex life, let alone that I have kinks, write erotica for kicks and play on a sex posting site. I straight laced, old AF, chunky, an unrepentant nerd, a grandfather ffs and a life long boy scout ( ...wherein I learned lots of knots).

People who really know me, know that I am socially progressive, not afraid of PDA, and an open book if you ask. But I mostly hide behind a gruff exterior. ( which covers a gruff interior).

 

[AnnieLit]

Most people I know would be astonished to discover that I have a sex life, let alone that I have kinks, write erotica for kicks and play on a sex posting site. I straight laced, old AF, chunky, an unrepentant nerd, a grandfather ffs and a life long boy scout ( ...wherein I learned lots of knots).

People who really know me, know that I am socially progressive, not afraid of PDA, and an open book if you ask. But I mostly hide behind a gruff exterior. ( which covers a gruff interior).

Come on, you are not THAT old!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Where's the diversity question? Is that in the other thread? Well anyway, here's some diversity for ya.

The first vid has got some definite strong points: homemade, Femdom, big soft curvy wife, awkward positioning moments, jaw clips on the headboard for that extra touch of realism, and if you listen closely, they do a bit of switching toward the end.
Only one major negative in my view, but i won't give any spoilers.
https://www.xvideos.com/video15329845/bbw_tells_hubby_how_she_wants_to_get_fucked


The second vid is pure, solid gold entertainment. . Don't skip the comments!
https://www.xvideos.com/video23262045/talking_dirty

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

The second vid is pure, solid gold entertainment. . Don't skip the comments!
https://www.xvideos.com/video23262045/talking_dirty

Lol!!!!

If I had a dollar for every time she said "Fuck my fat ass Joey".... I'd take us all to lunch.

That was priceless Honey.

 

[Mei5ter]

Lol!!!!

If I had a dollar for every time she said "Fuck my fat ass Joey".... I'd take us all to lunch.

That was priceless Honey.

That sounds like an episode of Friends which I somehow missed...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

That sounds like an episode of Friends which I somehow missed...

No one on Friends had a fat ass though....

 

[Paul_Chance]

Where's the diversity question? Is that in the other thread? Well anyway, here's some diversity for ya.

The first vid has got some definite strong points: homemade, Femdom, big soft curvy wife, awkward positioning moments, jaw clips on the headboard for that extra touch of realism, and if you listen closely, they do a bit of switching toward the end.
Only one major negative in my view, but i won't give any spoilers.
https://www.xvideos.com/video15329845/bbw_tells_hubby_how_she_wants_to_get_fucked


The second vid is pure, solid gold entertainment. . Don't skip the comments!
https://www.xvideos.com/video23262045/talking_dirty

"Slap my ass and get it over with." Hahahaha - truer words of love have never been spoken.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I laughed throughout the whole thing but completely lost my shit at, 'WRONG HOLE! WRONG HOLE!'

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I laughed throughout the whole thing but completely lost my shit at, 'WRONG HOLE! WRONG HOLE!'

Poor Joey... I really think he was trying his best!!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Come on, you are not THAT old!

Thank you Annie. You're a good friend

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Where's the diversity question? Is that in the other thread? Well anyway, here's some diversity for ya.

The first vid has got some definite strong points: homemade, Femdom, big soft curvy wife, awkward positioning moments, jaw clips on the headboard for that extra touch of realism, and if you listen closely, they do a bit of switching toward the end.
Only one major negative in my view, but i won't give any spoilers.
https://www.xvideos.com/video15329845/bbw_tells_hubby_how_she_wants_to_get_fucked


The second vid is pure, solid gold entertainment. . Don't skip the comments!
https://www.xvideos.com/video23262045/talking_dirty

That's entertainment. Thank you Honey.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

#42

#42

D/s as ____

Can you make an argument that D/s can be therapeutic? Can a healthy D/s relationship take the place of other healthy activities or motivators in your life? I.e. a personal trainer, teacher, manager, etc.

Have you ever experienced this dynamic? Would you like to? Do you recommend this or is it creating a dependency on someone else?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

#42

D/s as ____

Can you make an argument that D/s can be therapeutic? Can a healthy D/s relationship take the place of other healthy activities or motivators in your life? I.e. a personal trainer, teacher, manager, etc.

Have you ever experienced this dynamic? Would you like to? Do you recommend this or is it creating a dependency on someone else?

Great question!

My short answer is yes, yes (again, because i fucking love it), yes, and healthy balance is crucial.

 

[seela]

Nope.

 

[AnnieLit]

#42

D/s as ____

Can you make an argument that D/s can be therapeutic? Can a healthy D/s relationship take the place of other healthy activities or motivators in your life? I.e. a personal trainer, teacher, manager, etc.

1. Have you ever experienced this dynamic?
2. Would you like to?
3. Do you recommend this or is it creating a dependency on someone else?

1. Not outside of the scene. But there yes, with the right man and the right mood I go into "tell me what to do and I will try my best to obey, no matter what" mod pretty fast.

2. As an everyday lifestyle - no. Neither on D, nor on s side. I am not looking for somebody to make the most of life decisions for me. Equally I am not looking to take on that much responsibility for another person's life. I have kids for that

3. Can't recommend, since I never tried.
But as far as dependency goes... Any long-term relationship creates dependency. If it is a perfectly vanilla married couple, they still depend on each other for emotional, financial, motivational and any other possible support. Or at least they do if it is a good, working marriage.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hetero porn shot for women.. That I would LOVE to see. I guess, the Game of Thrones will do for now

Some of the stuff at xconfessions ain't bad.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I think any good relationship where you're allowed to be who you are and are completely accepted and loved (no matter how the acceptance and love might look like to the outsiders) is good for you and can be therapeutic as such. A good relationship usually makes people want to become better versions of themselves, at least for a little while. D/s makes no difference there.

...

And I definitely, definitely don't think people should use D/s as a form of therapy when it comes to anything serious, like mental health issues. I think it's just insane. It can lead to people being trapped in a shitty relationship in a heartbeat. Just, no.

Basically all this. I've read some accounts of sexual assault survivors using CNC for catharsis, and I can see that working for the right person with the right handling. But in general... I don't want to speak for others, but at least for myself I can't see BDSM acting as therapy.

 

[AnnieLit]

Some of the stuff at xconfessions ain't bad.

Thank you! Will check it out tonight.

 

[QuasiSemiDemiEsqueIsh]

#42

D/s as ____

Can you make an argument that D/s can be therapeutic? Can a healthy D/s relationship take the place of other healthy activities or motivators in your life? I.e. a personal trainer, teacher, manager, etc.

Have you ever experienced this dynamic? Would you like to? Do you recommend this or is it creating a dependency on someone else?

Yes, I believe D/s can be therapeutic. However, I think it works best when it augments the healthy activities, rather than replacing them.

I have C-PTSD, and being submissive helps me with that. Being able to go into “sub-mode” and give up my rigidly-held self-control for a while is like finding a raft when you’ve been treading water all day just to stay afloat. However, I would never use it to replace actual therapy with a mental health professional, because you never know when your raft is going to sink and leave you having to tread water again.

For me, D/s as therapy isn’t a good idea, but D/s as part of my support system outside of therapy is tremendously helpful and maybe even essential.

 

[Blase]

Can you make an argument that D/s can be therapeutic?

I think that D/s is often therapeutic. It's quite common for partners to tell me that they have unresolved feelings of guilt, shame or helplessness associated with their sexuality - And I do believe that playing in a controlled situation under the guidance of a trusted partner can give people a chance to safely evoke and revisit those feelings so that they can hopefully, with time, be resolved.

But let me add the obvious: It's possible in any sort of relationship, kinky or otherwise, to find yourself with a partner whose needs you're not qualified to deal with. And there's no one answer to the question of how to recognize such a person or situation.