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PrettyLilPussy19
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#49
#49
Continuing Education
How important is it to you personally to educate yourself on your kinks? If you subscribe to a label, do you thoroughly research it before you "let it stick" or do you things just feel right?
If you like the educational side of kink - what is your preferred method of learning? how has is changed your views? what are the downsides, if any?
#49
Continuing Education
How important is it to you personally to educate yourself on your kinks? If you subscribe to a label, do you thoroughly research it before you "let it stick" or do you things just feel right?
If you like the educational side of kink - what is your preferred method of learning? how has is changed your views? what are the downsides, if any?
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AlwaysFara
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Labs. Hands on. With stats and power point and graphs.
I usually feel it, do it first, then educate after. I’m lucky to be with someone very experienced, who communicates well regarding my limits and my needs.
I have to say, Lit USED to be a place I could go. There were many amazing, experienced, well-read women here in this forum, who posted often and well. Most of them have flown the coop. I miss it. I miss their voices. I tend to ask cookie and a few other ladies way too many questions, as a result.
I do read up, especially in regards to safety.
I don’t read too much on the “why” of what I like. I used to. I don’t, anymore. I don’t need to know anyone else’s opinion on that.
I tend to read about anything I'm interested in, and kink is no exception. Once I fell into the world of D/s after meeting a submissive partner on Lit, I definitely learned from people here and on one or two other sites. I also found the book The Loving Dominant to be helpful.
I do have to emphasize that without the support and patience of my first partner, who had experience while I had none, I doubt I would ever have even begun exploring in that direction.
MaBelle3120
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I'm a curious girl, always have been, especially when it comes to something I feel is personal, like kinks and labels. I read everything I can find and use that information to help guide me in how I want to identify, so for me, the education part of it is essential.
My preferred method of learning was first to research, and then eventually start talking to other people that enjoyed that kink and adopted those labels. In my case, it happened to be DD/lg. Eventually, I found a place online where there was a large community of people interested in DD/lg, and that helped me to understand how the research I had done actually played out in practice. I think talking to a large number of people helped because it provided many perspectives on what DD/lg looks like for different couples.
TANSTAAFL58
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Hot AF.
Thanks Fara.
Because some of my kinks could potentially cause physical harm if done wrong, I have tried to learn as much as I can Bondage for example: if done wrong can cause an injury. A while back a number of us admires some stunning ropemarks in a picture until someone pointed out that the ties were actually not applied correctly. Impact play: she prefers a rather mild open handed spanking. If she were to ask for a flogging, I wouldn't just go out and buy a flogger or whip and start flailing away.
You can find anything on the 'net. I get my ropework instruction from Two Knotty Boys http://www.knottyboys.com/ and the Duchy https://www.theduchy.com/ for example. The downside is there's not really an instructor to ask questions of. I checked: the Adult Education department of our local Board of Education has no kink classes.
Here in the Queen's Bush (that's what the British Colonial Office called this little corner of Ontario in the 1840s), there are no meet-ups or get togethers for kinky people, so that simply is not an option.
Apisto42
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“This is my cum. There are many others like it, but this one is mine. My cum is my best friend. It is my life. I must master it as I must master my life. Without me, my cum is useless. Without my cum, I am useless. I must fire my cum true. I must shoot straighter than my enemy, who is trying to out breed me. I must breed her before he breeds her. I will. Before God I swear this creed: my cum and myself are defenders of my country. We are the masters of our enemy. We are the saviors of my life. So be it, until there is no enemy, but peace. Amen.”
Cum play is fun. It’s hot.
Spit? Not a turn on for me, but I love hot sloppy kisses and I don’t mind her leaving a trail down my body.
Period sex- super slippery, messy, fun. Don’t mind the flavor.
Pee play - I don’t get the turn on here. Maybe it’s childhood memories of sneaking up on people and pissing on their leg, but it’s a joke, not sexy for me.
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Hold up. Were you a Marine?
Either way, thanks for ruining the Creed for me! We paraphrase it all the time and now, this version will be in my head.
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I would LOVE to be able to educate myself as much as I would like. There are several sex shops here with regular classes from rope work to electro stim. One has a kink brunch scheduled. I just do not have the time to go to everything I want. There’s also a university with an excellent program in human sexuality. Which would be AWESOME. I’m skeptical of self-proclaimed ‘sex educators’ who don’t have credentials. I’m not an educator but I would love to know all the things.
My preferred method would be a hands on class. Or an open discussion class.
I read a lot about sex toy R&D. Teledildonics, people!
I tend to research things I don’t understand more than anything else. For example, I read waaaay too much about how to be with someone that is poly when I am not. But, with a lot of the things you can read, they often aren’t written by people with any accreditation, and to me, that matters.
The only thing that I read, though, that made anything stick was O. It was a huge turn on for me, and still is.
Apisto42
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No, but I stayed at a holiday inn.
Either way, thanks for ruining the Creed for me! We paraphrase it all the time and now, this version will be in my head.
Most excellent. The plan is working.
Wild_Honey_66
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Eh. At this point, I'm pretty comfortable with my kinks, and don't really feel a need for ongoing education.
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Apisto42
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BREAKING NEWS (a year ago):
https://www.vice.com/amp/en_us/article/ne55x8/teledildonics-patent-has-expired
AveryElle
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You can snicker.
Then let your partner control your vibrator from 3500 miles away. Not so funny then
PrettyLilPussy19
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You can snicker.
Then let your partner control your vibrator from 3500 miles away. Not so funny then
I think we know what we're putting on our Christmas list
AveryElle
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I give it them two enthusiastic thumbs up. At least, I can with the hands free one!
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OMG I have to know, was Teledildonics ever on the New York Stock Exchange? I wonder if their stock ever exploded or "retreated"?
(sorry, bad joke probably - been looking into diversifying our 401k's recently lol)
(sorry, bad joke probably - been looking into diversifying our 401k's recently lol)
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Thumbs where?
2 thumbs up
Apisto42
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To be a kink, I really need to learn everything about it I can. Otherwise it’s just a passing fancy. What if I think I’m doing it right but I’m really just an idiot? <insert “yes, Apisto, you’re really just an idiot” jokes here>
I don’t care for labels as I find them rather restrictive. I’m much more of a “if it feels good go for it” kind of person.
Learning - hands on is best, but reading about it a lot first is not a bad idea. The trouble with only reading about it first without dipping your cock in the water is that you may build erroneous ideas about what/how you and your partner(s) may really want. Flexibility and adaptability within a given kink work better for me.
Thom_the_gleeman
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I am finding out itis really important... I will admit I have made a few slips over the years thinking I knew what I was about when it came to my kinks, only now I have learned to gather a bit mor information
Lit really helps,as there is a topic on anything on this site, and the stories help even more, because if a story turns me on, I know the acts described in it are of interest to me
Love,
Thom
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#50!!!
#50 (submitted)
If you identify as a Dom do you have a fantasy of being dominated? Being tied, humiliated, spanked... or how would it look? If you are a male Dom would you like to experience being pegged?
For subs would you want to top if a Dom asked you to?
#50 (submitted)
If you identify as a Dom do you have a fantasy of being dominated? Being tied, humiliated, spanked... or how would it look? If you are a male Dom would you like to experience being pegged?
For subs would you want to top if a Dom asked you to?
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AlwaysFara
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I will give you my short sub answer.
No. Not on your life.
Would I do it if he told me/asked me to?
Yes.
I don’t want to, though.
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i do identify as a Dom and I know I don't much like the idea of me being tied, humiliated, or spanked.
I have had some real life friends that were Dommes and we usually get along fine as long as they respect me much like id try to respect a subs wishes. For me to be pegged it would need to be one hell of a sub that I was very involved with because i doubt it would do much for me.
I have known Doms to let a sub do many things to them. They still felt like they were in charge and things were still within their limits so why not? I believe a Dom or a sub should really enjoy what ever it os they are into. If they try something and they don't like it they should speak up just like anyone else. Limits do tend to be pushed sometimes and i've seen some people like things they didn't think they would at one time. But it could go the other way also.
I think having good Boundary's is a good idea for both Dom and sub. A Dom shouldn't try to make a sub do a thing they know they don't like and A Dom cant be expected to stay with someone if they don't like to do the same things. it just doesn't work for anyone in a relationship like that.
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