❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[FormerAllStar2]

05.03.25

Let's Talk Toys!

What was the first adult toy you bought (for yourself or a partner)?

I bought my partner a small g spot vibrator on the recommendation of the lady at the shop. Partner didn’t like it for its intended purpose, but she enjoyed using it on her clit. I’ve used it on the underside of my shaft a handful of times and it’s not terrible.

Has your collection changed since then?

We’ve only added a wand since then. We both prefer it.

Do you like incorporating toys with partners or do you prefer them during solo time only?

Generally they’re just for solo time. We use the wand together every now and then, but not super often. She’s also very private about masturbation, so I don’t get to watch that often…though I really enjoy the show.

Is there a toy you hated or would definitely not recommend?

Didn’t hate it, but the g-spot vibe was just ok.

Is there something you'd like to put on a Wishlist?

I’d like to try a sleeve. Something simple with easy cleanup. Wouldn’t mind trying a remote vibe, either.

Are there any toys you have questions about how they work?

Not really.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

You are good to us!

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Not really. I don't like that term because I'm an awesome friend and I want people to be happy to be one of mine. Oh I get the feels for my friends all the time - the joys of being demisexual - but I deal with it by never saying anything because I worry I'll ruin things.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I've had a couple of fwb type of deals. They aren't ideal for me but they service a need. Somewhere between random hook ups (which I hate) and dating (which I don't have time for). In fact a guy I knew a couple of years ago has got back in touch and I'm just working out my feelings around that whole thing as to whether I want to start up again or try and meet someone new.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

I love Friends to Lovers! That's the dream for me (once I get over my "I'm gonna ruin everything" panic). I've had friends where we've done a whole will they, won't they thing and eventually decided friends suited us better.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

I have not. I think I could though if it wasn't a toxic relationship.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Yup! It's something I worry about a fair bit. There's been a lot of flirty banter (which I love!) but I'm not great at reading if it's fun flirting or something more and I don't want to risk jeopardising an amazing friendship if I'm wrong.
I don't know if they know and I'm kinda nervous about knowing the answer.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

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Honesty is almost always the best policy. *nod*nod*nod*

 

[AtramentousRex]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

You are good to us!

Not really. I don't like that term because I'm an awesome friend and I want people to be happy to be one of mine. Oh I get the feels for my friends all the time - the joys of being demisexual - but I deal with it by never saying anything because I worry I'll ruin things.

I've had a couple of fwb type of deals. They aren't ideal for me but they service a need. Somewhere between random hook ups (which I hate) and dating (which I don't have time for). In fact a guy I knew a couple of years ago has got back in touch and I'm just working out my feelings around that whole thing as to whether I want to start up again or try and meet someone new.

I love Friends to Lovers! That's the dream for me (once I get over my "I'm gonna ruin everything" panic). I've had friends where we've done a whole will they, won't they thing and eventually decided friends suited us better.

I have not. I think I could though if it wasn't a toxic relationship.

Yup! It's something I worry about a fair bit. There's been a lot of flirty banter (which I love!) but I'm not great at reading if it's fun flirting or something more and I don't want to risk jeopardising an amazing friendship if I'm wrong.
I don't know if they know and I'm kinda nervous about knowing the answer.

I'm going to answer this one later, but I wanted to say that I relate very much Miss Tulip.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

'kinda benevolent' mebbee?

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off

Is it a thing? Yes. Are there people I've "friend zone'd" or have done the same to me, deliberately or evolved-into? Yep.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I don't recall a sexual relationship I've been in that wasn't started as friends, barring a couple one-night-stands. As to 'platonic FWB' I guess I need a definition - platonic to me is non-sexual, so what benefits are you thinking of? Pool rights? Standing access to the liquor cabinet?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

See above - most of my relationships started as friends. As I'm not into revenge-sex or pity-sex outside roleplaying, I don't think enemy-to-lover would work, but I'll admit enemy-to-friend-to-lover MIGHT happen. Have to be pretty exceptional circumstances tho!

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Most the time, if we stay in the same general area/circles of friends? Those where they or I moved on from the surroundings, much less frequently mostly due to lack of contact. There are a couple exceptions where there's NO friendship left or possible tho'.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

If I could and know I wouldn't damage the friendship, I'd have several. However I don't think that's the case most of the time, and I value friendships a lot where possible.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Do I believe you can like someone and have no desire to fuck them? Absolutely. I don’t agree with the connotation of “friend zone” as a negative thing but I think it exists as a state of being. I never become friends with anyone expecting more than friendship. And I don’t think I’ve ever been friends with anyone where I felt I wanted or needed more than they were willing to give? So I don’t know that I’ve ever been imbalanced like that? I think I have been friends with people who wanted more than I wanted to give and usually that’s been fine, though I have had incidents where I didn’t feel they were respecting boundaries and that cause some hurt.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

For good or ill I don’t do casual sex very well. I’d rather just be friends.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Not really. I’ve been friendly with people and had that grow into more. But if sexual attraction is present on my end that gets dealt with one way or another before I reach a point where I’d call someone a friend. And I’ve never really had an opportunity or reason to reassess that situation afterwards.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

I’ve only ever had a couple breakups and no. We l’ve gone our separate ways.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Not really. I like being friends with people . It’s usually pretty satisfying, as I said, I’m not good at casual and there’s only so many intense relationships I can handle . I’m good.

But I mean, I always like seeing boobs.

 

[BongoGal]

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation?

At this stage of my life, I find FWB relationships to be my preferred way of
doing things. I am happy as a loner, but I am not antisocial, and I am also unceasingly horny. I have no interest in the entangling ties of a boyfriend or (yikes) husband, but I do very much enjoy friendly interactions with guys for dinner, conversation, TV, wine, sexual relations, and then saying goodnight and sleeping in our separate beds a mile or two apart. There is no need to maintain romance. There is no need to call the next day and say how much you enjoyed the night before. It is more like, “I’m free on Sunday, so if you want to meet up, shoot me a text.”

For the past year or so, I have had one FWB. He is cool, and we get along great, but I do wish that I could go back to the situation I was in during the six months before Covid hit. Back then I had two concurrent FWBs. I look back fondly at how good I had it.

 

[QwertyMaster]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Do I believe in the friend zone? Yes, I absolutely believe it is a thing. I also believe that people put themselves in there. I think doing that to yourself is a stupid idea but people do it. Take your shot and if you get shut down, get over it. If you can't get over it then it's a good idea to back away, at least until you can move on.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

Never had one and I wouldn't say I never would but it is extremely unlikely. Love and sex are just too connected in my mind for that to be stable for long. I have in the past, and could see myself again in the future, been in a cyber FWB situation but that only works for me because there is much less intimacy.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

I haven't but I think it is both the ideal and the dream for me. I think enemies to lovers is extremely rare and almost always a bad idea, irl.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

No. I don't have many friendships and none of them could use a little spice. I'd thought about it in the past but not in years.

 

[BongoGal]

Do you like incorporating toys with partners or do you prefer them during solo time only?

Until a couple of weeks ago, I hadn’t used a toy with a partner in maybe a decade. We hadn’t seen each other for about a month, and we took turns teasing each other about our masturbatory habits over those weeks. He asked if sex toys filled the void for me. I replied honestly that I used them only twice in that past month. He expressed curiosity about them, and not wanting to be a prude about it, I brought out my modest collection to show him. He was very interested, and I could tell that he had never seen and discussed sex toys with a woman before. There were hints of asking for some show and tell, but I put that off until after dinner and drinks. (A bit of booze might soothe my nerves about such a display.). In the end, there was no show, but he did use a vibe on me. We were ‘getting it on' doggy-style when he said something about wanting to use the vibrator on me. I said sure. He reached for it and grabbed it….but he couldn’t turn it on. I had to do it. It was an unfortunate pause, but when he reached beneath us and found the right spot…oh my goodness.

Later on, I used the same toy on him. That was definitely his first time doing that.

 

[cheekygirl75]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

I believe it’s possible for there to be more desire on one side than the other, but hate the term the “friend zone”. To me, it means the one who wants a romantic relationship is not dealing with the reality of the other person not being interested and just getting more and more resentful. If you’re feeling it, shoot your shot and if it doesn’t work out, deal with your feelings. Maybe that means you can’t be friends any more, but don’t make it the other person’s problem.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

No, I don’t think so. I’ve tried a one night stand and it just wasn’t enjoyable. I need to have some connection and I don’t see how that wouldn’t turn into something more.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

I haven’t, but would love a friends to lovers experience! Not so much enemies to lovers.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

No, I haven’t.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Not currently.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I've very much enjoying the diversity of answers on this one!

 

[CuriousRick]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Yes I believe. I have been friend zoned more times then I care to remember.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I have never been in a FWB situation. Isn't a platonic FWB just friends?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Never

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

I have not.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Yes I do have a few situations I would like to spice up. I think one does know.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Isn't a platonic FWB just friends?

Lol I think I meant - Non-romantic instead of platonic.

Words are hard!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

There are friends that I’m not particularly attracted to…until I am. I don’t think sexual attraction is an absolute. For me strong feelings for friends have the potential to evolve into physical attraction. There have been plenty of times where something sexual or romantic surprised me coming from what I thought was a platonic relationship. And a number of them turned out to be very enjoyable and positive experiences.

I have no problem being friends with someone where one of us is attracted and the other is not (or not as much.) As long as it doesn’t become a constant topic or detrimental to someone’s mental health, I don’t think it’s even that noteworthy. We all have people we’ve been attracted to that aren’t appropriate to act on, so we keep ourselves in check. It doesn’t seem that different.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I have indeed. I’m not one for one night stands or truly casual hookups (I’ve failed the few times I’ve tried ) because the connection is what makes it great for me, so non romantic FWB is my version of casual. When done right, it can be amazing and a great way to experiment without as much pressure. You’re already friends and trust each other, so sex is just another layer to the friendship.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Yes and yes, although the latter was more dislike than true enemies. Friends to lovers can make for some of the best and most intense relationships.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

I have although over time I eventually lost touch with most of them. I’m just bad at keeping in regular contact with friends and that has nothing to do with whether we were in a relationship previously. It’s something I’m trying to improve.

I think there are two things that are necessary to stay friends. The first is that you actually like and respect each other. I’m often surprised how many people (I’ve had one of these myself) end up in relationships where those things were never really there to begin with. They’re certainly not going to manifest for the first time after a breakup The second is that you have to both be largely over each other. I think it’s hard to really be a true friend if you’re still working through romantic feelings, so there likely needs to be some space and time before you can evolve into the friend space without ulterior motives or secret longing.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

No, but that’s because I flirt with half my friends so the door is already cracked open? There are plenty that I think might be fun to add some spice to, but it’s all about timing and circumstances. I think just knowing there could be potential if things lined up just right keeps life interesting.

 

[StillRain]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Friendships zone is real, and once you’re in it it’s a tough removal process. I have been friend zoned. I have also friend zoned people plenty of times.

I think you can be friends if the desire balance is off, but you need to keep your desire to yourself. Box it up.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

Yep. Usually fine but can get the feels.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

No. Lovers to enemies, maybe.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Yes, my ex husband I am still the one he turns to almost always. The same can’t be said in return, but we are on a pretty friendly path after a million years married.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

I have friendships that have ended for reasons I’ve not been made privy toand that’s maddening. I’m just longing right along though.

 

[EvaLane]

I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Do I believe in the friend zone? Sureeee, about as much as I believe men suffer more from colds. It’s mostly placebo, but definitely a male-dominated narrative.

If we’re going by the standard definition, I’ve probably friendzoned just about everyone I’ve spoken to on Lit

It gets tricky here because I genuinely enjoy the forums, and some days I don’t have the energy for private messages. I try to be clear about that, but it still creates distance. Andddd let’s be honest, there’s always that quiet assumption floating around: that I’m e-banging everyone except them. Which, yeah… doesn’t really help.

How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

On Lit, that’s basically the only “relationship” model that works for me. I’ve made it very clear I’m not romantically interested in anyone here, even the rare few I’ve moved off-site with.

But sometimes it starts to feel like I’m stuck in the “I don’t want kids” conversation. People don’t believe you. They assume you’ll change your mind, or that they’ll be the exception. Spoiler: they won’t. They haven’t.

If I could get my emotional tubes tied, I would. Unfortunately, I think the closest thing is a lobotomy, but I’m open to less invasive suggestions.

Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Friends to Loverssss, eh, sureee, but it’s usually the unrequited kind that flips out of nowhere. Suddenly they’re interested and I’m… not. It’s a pattern I’ve been trying to break for ages.

But what I really want is an Enemies to Lovers arc. Unfortunately, I’m tragically likeable

So… open door for anyone who just can’t stand me. I get it, I’m super annoying and basic. Gross. Let’s talk about it

Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

lol!

Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Don’t say all of them don’t say all of them don’t say all of them don’t say all of them don’t say all of them don’t say all of them

Part of the problem, isn’t it? Ahhhhhhhh

By now, the ones who want to feed me or be fed by me already know the rhythm. I wait until they need to feel something again, and they wait until I do. It’s not ideal, but it works. For people like us, it has to.

 

[morelikeasong]

Friends and Fuckery

I’m about to get caught up on a few sets of questions that I’ve missed because it’s rainy and I’m bored and I feel like blathering on about myself apparently.

Please accept this as a token of apology for the incoming deluge.

 

[morelikeasong]

04.22.25

You've discovered lamp, you've rubbed it just right and out cums a genie! You get three wishes!!

No wishing for more wishes. No wishing for endless amounts of anything.

What do you wish for? You get one bonus wish strictly Lit related - what is your Lit wish?

Wow! Genie cum! Is it blue?

Three wishes:
1. All people to feel a strong sense of belonging and community
2. Equitable distribution system for the world’s resources
3. No more mosquitos

Lit wish:
1. True block/ignore feature so when you put someone on ignore, they can’t see your content

 

[Whiskeyjack]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Absolutely. I crush hard on just about everyone. The desire balance is always off. But I can hang out, have a conversation, and not constantly be mentally undressing all the women I'm friends with. I'm just occasionally mentally undressing them.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

Tried it once, had some fun, but I inevitably caught feels. She didn't. We're still friends. But the benefits haven't been a part of our friendship in decades.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

All of my romantic partners have started as friends first.
Never had an enemies to lovers arc. Not that I've had many enemies. But of the women I've had disagreeable encounters with, I think the number of them I'd like to fuck is zero.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Oh, yes! I make an excellent ex-boyfriend! For me, that meant, a clean break staying away and giving her space for a good year or two (unless she initiates contact), and then just letting them know that no matter what's going on or who they're with, I'm rooting for them and want them to have their best possible life. One of my closest friends is a now-platonic ex, and we just work way better that way. (also, another one of my closest friends is one of my wife's ex's, but that's a different question).

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Of course! And yes, most of them know. I'm not good at keeping my pervy thoughts a secret.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I’m about to get caught up on a few sets of questions that I’ve missed because it’s rainy and I’m bored and I feel like blathering on about myself apparently.

Please accept this as a token of apology for the incoming deluge.

Gifts get you bonus points

 

[morelikeasong]

04.25.25

Trust

Do you think once trust is lost it can be won back? What would it take? Have you ever lost someone’s trust and gained it back? Have you ever decided to trust someone again after they lost your trust? Do you trust easily? What kind of things make you lose trust in someone?

(And because this is Lit - I don’t just mean “cheating”. Loss of trust can mean a LOT of things.)

Hmm, do I trust easily? I think in some, occasionally naïve ways, I’m too trusting. But in others, I’m not nearly trusting enough. I’m a bit closed off when it comes to certain aspects of myself.

One of the biggest things I’m working on is trusting the people in my life and letting myself share my true thoughts/feelings/wants/needs. This is 100% a me problem and not a function of someone needing to earn my trust or my being skeptical about their individual trustworthiness. That’s maybe a different level of trust than this set of questions is getting at.

Yes, I do think trust can be earned back. Of course there’s things someone can do to try to demonstrate trustworthiness but ultimately it takes a surrender and forgiveness from trust-er.

I mentioned this in another thread recently but in high school my best friend slept with the guy I had been “in love” with (my best guy friend, major crush). I was devastated and I cut her out of my life completely for a couple months. One day, I picked up the phone and called her to ask her to go see a movie with me. I told her I forgave her and never wanted to talk about it again. That was it for me. I had weighed out if I wanted to keep the friendship or if I thought it was dead. When I decided I wanted the friendship, I just had to move past it. That was, of course, much simpler than a lot of questions of trust that adults run into. But, she’s still my best friend to this day.

I haven’t been in a lot of situations where I’ve broken someone’s trust, I don’t think. My mom’s, a million times in my teen years. That’s the main thing that comes to mind.

Well… there’s my existence on lit, too

 

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04.28.25

What's a life lesson that you wish someone had taught you earlier?

How to be truly honest with myself and others, be assertive, set boundaries, and prioritize myself.

 

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Financial literacy and investing. I think it should be taught as a class starting in grade school.

Right?! I still need someone to teach me now

 

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05.03.25

Let's Talk Toys!

What was the first adult toy you bought (for yourself or a partner)?

When I was in college I bought a vibrator. It was very basic. Not this one, but very similar. The end of it twisted to turn on/increase vibration.
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Has your collection changed since then?

Ohhhhh yeah. I have an arsenal.

Do you like incorporating toys with partners or do you prefer them during solo time only?

Both! I don’t incorporate them as much with my partner as I’d like to but I very much enjoy when we do.

Is there a toy you hated or would definitely not recommend?

There have been toys that I didn’t like, but it’s hard to say what will work for someone else. I really don’t like the Lovense Nora. It doesn’t work for my anatomy positioning. Other people love it but it was an expensive waste of money for me.

Is there something you'd like to put on a Wishlist?

Yes!!! There’s a rabbit vibrator that has an app that collects data for you about vaginal contractions and graphs your masturbation sessions and intensities and orgasm patterns. So fucking cool. I want it so badly but I feel too guilty to spend that kind of money on something like that so I’ll just admire it from afar until my sugar daddy offers start rolling in

Are there any toys you have questions about how they work?

I don’t think so

But I will add a plug (hehe) for people to review their sex toys in my review thread! Convince me I need another toy!