❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[morelikeasong]

I also bought an expensive (for me) vibrator with a clit suction appendage which just doesn’t do it for me.

I have a toy that’s a rabbit style clit sucker (inserting dildo portion and then arm with a clit sucker on it)… it’s awful. Should have included in toys I hate. If that’s the only clit sucker you’ve tried, I highlyyyy recommend one that only does that.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Yes!!! There’s a rabbit vibrator that has an app that collects data for you about vaginal contractions and graphs your masturbation sessions and intensities and orgasm patterns. So fucking cool. I want it so badly but I feel too guilty to spend that kind of money on something like that so I’ll just admire it from afar until my sugar daddy offers start rolling in

Oooh! This makes me think of something my friend has and it's a Kegels game. Where you have a um... insertable game controller and then an app has a stroller game on your phone a la Super Mario Bro. You squeeze to make the little guy jump. Which.... lol. I'll stop there but that piques my curiosity.

But I will add a plug (hehe) for people to review their sex toys in my review thread! Convince me I need another toy!

Do you need a plug? Is this the question? The answer is.... if you think you might, you do. Because.... mhmm

Any more details are for a PM

 

[morelikeasong]

Oooh! This makes me think of something my friend has and it's a Kegels game. Where you have a um... insertable game controller and then an app has a stroller game on your phone a la Super Mario Bro. You squeeze to make the little guy jump. Which.... lol. I'll stop there but that piques my curiosity.

Yessss I’ve heard of this one too! And I absolutely want it. Though, it won’t make me cum so it’s lower on the wishlist

Do you need a plug? Is this the question? The answer is.... if you think you might, you do. Because.... mhmm

I’ve got two sets silicone and stainless steel

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

Oooh! This makes me think of something my friend has and it's a Kegels game. Where you have a um... insertable game controller and then an app has a stroller game on your phone a la Super Mario Bro. You squeeze to make the little guy jump. Which.... lol. I'll stop there but that piques my curiosity.

I guess it was only a matter of time before the tech industry took on the ping pong ball show.

 

[morelikeasong]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Sure, I believe in it. I think people define it differently though. I see it as a friendship where one person desires romance and the other just wants friendship. I’ve definitely been both in that zone and “put” others in it. I think you can still be good friends as long as there are boundaries.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I can do FWB only in the online, very occasionally help each other get off because the stars aligned kind of way. And that’s very limited. Any consistency and I’ll either not be interested, or catch feelings.

IRL I slept with a platonic friend once and it was such a bad idea. The sex was awful

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

I have!
Never enemies to lovers though. I dig it in a novel but if I don’t like someone IRL, there’s a good reason.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Only on lit, not IRL. I don’t know what the key is for that. Forced proximity?

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

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[AtramentousRex]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

You are amazing PLP but never my mistress. The other way around though...*wiggles brows*

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

I wish this were not a thing. But I've spent a lot of time in it. I'm sure a lot of it was just that I didnt notice things and was never giving the correct responses, I'm an emo bitch who is complicated and intense. I think more friends probably should fuck. We would all be happier and more at peace. Love is The Way.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I have ended up in that position before. Every relationship starts that way for me in fact. I'm not sure what a platonic fwb would look like? STOP smoking crack!

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

No, but I also am not highly experienced in lust or love. There are things yet to discover.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Eh I was forced to keep living with my ex, and we tried to be friends, but it never worked out that way. You spend 10 years beside someone and you do grow close though. Even if you hate each other.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Yes. I don't know if it would affect our friendship. I'm pretty sure they know.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

The Friend Zone is a thing but I think it can be perceived very differently. Sometimes you just know anything beyond a friendly relationship wouldn't ultimately be a good or healthy idea, sometimes you respect a current relationship, sometimes you have to friends zone yourself because you need solo emotional time. Having that clear cut box can be a helpful way of compartmentalizing. When people get resentful about being someone's friend.... that's when problems arise.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

I have mixed feelings on this. I'm capable of sexy stuff with friends (gestures wildly at Lit) but my favorite stuff will usually involve feelings beyond friendship.
There's fun in an a little afternoon romp then high fiving and sending them on their way too. But it's got to be mutually platonic (aka non-romantic).

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

I love a little FTL moment - that kind of "whoa! I see this person in a totally new and unexpected way". Enemies to Lovers might be best in books but who doesn't want a little hate fuck every now and then? Way better than apology sex.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Sure, one of my best friends in life went from friends to lovers to friends again. She and I were able to communicate and chalk it up to life and make a commitment to our friendship which I am eternally grateful for. I think this is usually easiest when Life is the break up factor and not someone being a POS.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Oh gosh..... wouldn't that be fun?

I am particularly bad at first moves and I need flares and glow sticks and moving signs and a notarized letter before I'm sure someone is into me. I think everyone just being nice. (Hell, I've been married for 15+ years and I think he's just tolerating me most days )

 

[AlpineFresco]

05.06.25

Friends and Fuckery

Let’s talk all the ways that friends can overlap with the sexy stuff. I’ve made an easy list of questions for you all this time for I am a kind and benevolent Inquiry Mistress.

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Is it the friendzone when you like someone but you know they're not available so you're perfectly happy to enjoy a good friendship? I had that back in the UK, at least until the attraction faded. Didn't feel like a negative at all - good friendships are wonderful and sometimes a relationship just isn't possible.
Enemies to lovers... that's not a real thing, is it?
I have managed a good friendship after we split, yes. Neither of us felt slighted by the other, the decision to split was mutual, honestly the chemistry was never amazing, but we both made a strong effort to keep our friendship present.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

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Oh gosh..... wouldn't that be fun?

I am particularly bad at first moves and I need flares and glow sticks and moving signs and a notarized letter before I'm sure someone is into me. I think everyone just being nice. (Hell, I've been married for 15+ years and I think he's just tolerating me most days )

You both have all the flares and glow sticks to be as spicy as you want. Just sayin’

 

[AlpineFresco]

God the number of you people who are all 'omg I don't know, I need flares and signals'

Use your damn words, most people even if they say no will find it flattering and charming. Good heavens!
And I say this as someone who has had his fair share of rejections. It was never that bad.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

You both have all the flares and glow sticks to be as spicy as you want. Just sayin’

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God the number of you people who are all 'omg I don't know, I need flares and signals'

Use your damn words, most people even if they say no will find it flattering and charming. Good heavens!
And I say this as someone who has had his fair share of rejections. It was never that bad.

Hey hey.... boys are easy. Girls are feral and scary. I don't want to get bit! Ok... I do a little

 

[AlpineFresco]

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Hey hey.... boys are easy. Girls are feral and scary. I don't want to get bit! Ok... I do a little

Legit, most of the women I know are really gunshy about asking anyone out.
Now lesbian dating (and I can only stress, from what I have observed and heard friends discuss) is hilarious - omg does she like me? I don't know. I can't tell. We're on a date. Yes we spent the night together. I have no clue, maybe she's just being friendly!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Legit, most of the women I know are really gunshy about asking anyone out.
Now lesbian dating (and I can only stress, from what I have observed and heard friends discuss) is hilarious - omg does she like me? I don't know. I can't tell. We're on a date. Yes we spent the night together. I have no clue, maybe she's just being friendly!

I legit posted this perfect misspelled meme yesterday

 

[Whiskeyjack]

You both have all the flares and glow sticks to be as spicy as you want. Just sayin’

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Legit, most of the women I know are really gunshy about asking anyone out.
Now lesbian dating (and I can only stress, from what I have observed and heard friends discuss) is hilarious - omg does she like me? I don't know. I can't tell. We're on a date. Yes we spent the night together. I have no clue, maybe she's just being friendly!

I genuinely never know plus I can also easily convince myself that flirting and playing one day was just a fluke and they obviously just want to go to regency era formality and never speak of it again... Until they do.

My two experiences with women here started when they each approached me and even after some truly delicious moments there's still a part of my brain that says they chose me to experiment with because I'm safe, rather than because they actually wanted me.

But I think mostly I never make a move because I am genuinely happy with all of my friendships. If something were to naturally evolve then amazing but if not then I still have a great friend so either way, I win.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

A-hem.

 

[AlpineFresco]

A good friendship is worth its weight in gold, right?

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

The only time I have a problem with "The Friend Zone" is when a 3rd Party decides someone should be put in the friend zone, and tries to imply the person has ulterior or inappropriate intentions which makes the person they are "trying to protect" begin to question the friendship. While yes, I am speaking from experience, both as the one "friend zoned" and the one who they were trying to manipulate to put someone else in the "friend zone", I have witnessed it happen with others to devastating effect, creating feelings of jealousy and or cheating in a Spouse or close friend.

Does Friend Zone have a place and a purpose, sure. I've attended the weddings of people I have been friend zoned by, and still have friends that have helped me out of bad situations and joked at the time, "I'm still not going to sleep with you". So to that answer, yes, I can survive in the friend zone. There have also been times where being in the friend zone gave me a new perspective on the person, and I did realize we would not make as good a friends as I had first thought. I have also put people in the friend zone that stayed good friends until life drifted us apart.

I have also been friend zoned, by someone I friend zoned, and when they found out I hadn't been interested to start with, made them upset because, their intentions had changed as time went on.

In short, like everything in life, there are good and bad things depending on how it is used/abused.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

How comfortable? It would depend on the situation, especially if one of us was already in a relationship, open or not, before my first wife and I started dating, we had become friends with benefits. I moved away, then when I moved back to the area, we were both looking to get into a relationship.

Yes, I have had a purely platonic FWB relationship. How you might ask? We were both in a bad place, neither of us could afford the rent for our own place, but were striking out on finding rooms to rent. Together, we landed a Studio apartment. We lived together, sharing a double bed, open bathroom, studio apartment for 3 months. Slept together nightly, sometimes showered together if we were both running late. There was nothing sexual or romantic about it, but, we both got the benefits of our mutual concern for each other's well being.

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Yes, see above about my first wife.
Nope, anyone that falls in the "Enemies" catagory, means I just avoid them like the plague.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

My First Wife. We didn't get divorced because we wanted to, we ended up being pushed apart because of circumstances beyound our control, but, in other people's control. Even 33 years later, we have bounced around the idea of getting back together, but, realize it would no longer work, we are two different people now.

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

no, but that is due to health issues, I stopped looking for real life spice a couple of years ago, and now enjoy the spice of writing and RPing.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

The only time I have a problem with "The Friend Zone" is when a 3rd Party decides someone should be put in the friend zone, and tries to imply the person has ulterior or inappropriate intentions which makes the person they are "trying to protect" begin to question the friendship. While yes, I am speaking from experience, both as the one "friend zoned" and the one who they were trying to manipulate to put someone else in the "friend zone", I have witnessed it happen with others to devastating effect, creating feelings of jealousy and or cheating in a Spouse or close friend.

Does Friend Zone have a place and a purpose, sure. I've attended the weddings of people I have been friend zoned by, and still have friends that have helped me out of bad situations and joked at the time, "I'm still not going to sleep with you". So to that answer, yes, I can survive in the friend zone. There have also been times where being in the friend zone gave me a new perspective on the person, and I did realize we would not make as good a friends as I had first thought. I have also put people in the friend zone that stayed good friends until life drifted us apart.

I have also been friend zoned, by someone I friend zoned, and when they found out I hadn't been interested to start with, made them upset because, their intentions had changed as time went on.

In short, like everything in life, there are good and bad things depending on how it is used/abused.


How comfortable? It would depend on the situation, especially if one of us was already in a relationship, open or not, before my first wife and I started dating, we had become friends with benefits. I moved away, then when I moved back to the area, we were both looking to get into a relationship.

Yes, I have had a purely platonic FWB relationship. How you might ask? We were both in a bad place, neither of us could afford the rent for our own place, but were striking out on finding rooms to rent. Together, we landed a Studio apartment. We lived together, sharing a double bed, open bathroom, studio apartment for 3 months. Slept together nightly, sometimes showered together if we were both running late. There was nothing sexual or romantic about it, but, we both got the benefits of our mutual concern for each other's well being.


Yes, see above about my first wife.
Nope, anyone that falls in the "Enemies" catagory, means I just avoid them like the plague.

My First Wife. We didn't get divorced because we wanted to, we ended up being pushed apart because of circumstances beyound our control, but, in other people's control. Even 33 years later, we have bounced around the idea of getting back together, but, realize it would no longer work, we are two different people now.

no, but that is due to health issues, I stopped looking for real life spice a couple of years ago, and now enjoy the spice of writing and RPing.

Well hello you! It's been a while! Nice to see you around Ink.

 

[Jim1855]

• Do you believe in the 'friend zone’? Have you ever friend zoned anyone or been friendzoned? Can you be good friends with someone where the desire balance is off?

Yes. Definitely feel like it. Yes.

• How comfortable would you be in a FWB (friends with benefits) situation? Have you ever had a purely platonic FWB?

It depends on the person.
How would that practically work?

• Using a little romance novel parlance - have you ever experienced your own Friends to Lovers arc? (While we’re here - what about Enemies to Lovers???)

Not yet......
However a good family friend's sister did.

• Have you ever been able to manage a good friendship with someone after a breakup? What was your key to success?

Again not yet......

• Do you have any friendships that you’d like to add a little spice to but are unsure of how that would affect your friendship? Do they know?

Again not yet......
So no I guess.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

Well hello you! It's been a while! Nice to see you around Ink.

it is very nice to be remembered! I stay away when my mental health is bad, I tend to say stupid things and piss people off and become a general unwelcome entity when I don't put myself in timeout. I have though, snuck in from time to time just to see how the place is holding up!

btw: something your toy recommendations reminded me of
https://www.lovense.com/mission-2-best-touch-sense-vibrating-dildo-with-suction-cup

 

[Booboobear84]

I am particularly bad at first moves and I need flares and glow sticks and moving signs and a notarized letter before I'm sure someone is into me. I think everyone just being nice. (Hell, I've been married for 15+ years and I think he's just tolerating me most days )

I often say that if you are interested in me use a really big clue stick. 1) I don't want screw up a relationship over a misperception so tend to be conservative, 2) Mostly I find it hard to believe people are interested in me that way, been true all of my life.

 

[EvaLane]

btw: something your toy recommendations reminded me of
https://www.lovense.com/mission-2-best-touch-sense-vibrating-dildo-with-suction-cup

Ok I’m buying this, surely this will be the one, right you guys? Right? Right????

 

[jason28053]

When I was in college I bought a vibrator. It was very basic. Not this one, but very similar. The end of it twisted to turn on/increase vibration.
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Ohhhhh yeah. I have an arsenal.

Both! I don’t incorporate them as much with my partner as I’d like to but I very much enjoy when we do.

There have been toys that I didn’t like, but it’s hard to say what will work for someone else. I really don’t like the Lovense Nora. It doesn’t work for my anatomy positioning. Other people love it but it was an expensive waste of money for me.

Yes!!! There’s a rabbit vibrator that has an app that collects data for you about vaginal contractions and graphs your masturbation sessions and intensities and orgasm patterns. So fucking cool. I want it so badly but I feel too guilty to spend that kind of money on something like that so I’ll just admire it from afar until my sugar daddy offers start rolling in

I don’t think so

But I will add a plug (hehe) for people to review their sex toys in my review thread! Convince me I need another toy!

Did you ask Santa for said toy? I know him btw

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

Ok I’m buying this, surely this will be the one, right you guys? Right? Right????

remember to buy the expanded games package to get the most out of your gaming experience