❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.15.26

(Too late for a happy new year??)

What is something you give that you with you wish you got in return? (i.e. how are you a friend to others in a way that you wish someone was a friend to you? how do you care for someone that you wish you got cared for in return?)
What is something someone gives you that you want to be better at giving others?

 

[EvaLane]

01.15.26

(Too late for a happy new year??)

I try not to impose the standards I have for myself onto my friends, but it’s much harder in practice rather than theory

I care for people by remembering them. Small mundane things, like breakfast preferences. Medium-importance things like their names, jobs

and the super duper important things like that one story from their childhood that led to them being super into a niche hobby that perfectly makes sense as to who they are as a person now.

So when I’m forgotten about sooooo casually - a huge insecurity happens within me and the relationship and I just can’t help but back up.

Shared vulnerability can’t be overstated in any of my relationships - friendships or flirtations or whatever the hell is happening here.

What is something someone gives you that you want to be better at giving others?

Reality checks. Definitely.

 

[Dribble]

Oh girl....these questions are tough. Not because I don't know...but because they are a little too raw.

Unconditional love. I have had people that loved me. But it was never unconditional. Guess...that is because I am not sure I know how either?

For friends? I don't struggle here. I leave doors open. I am there if they need me. But I do have regrets losing touch with those I care about. I used to save everything online. Pics...phone numbers...addresses...birthdays...their kids birthdays. Then something happens...a phone dies...or computer dies...it has my passwords...fuck...and everything is gone. So I have gone back to the old fashioned black book. .

 

[Canbe4fun]

01.15.26

(Too late for a happy new year??)

What is something you give that you with you wish you got in return? (i.e. how are you a friend to others in a way that you wish someone was a friend to you?

Happy New Year!

I like to Live in the notion of doing/serving others without a thought to reciprocation. I have been lucky in having friends since the first grade, don’t speak for years, have a chance to say hello to them, without fail it’s like no time has passed.

I’m not pias, I just don’t like to put me in the center cause it can make it harder to dig out of a hole of my making.

how do you care for someone that you wish you got cared for in return?)

I think it’s just best to do. I’m sure there are those who I may not seek out to help because the return wasn’t attempted after many occasions of trying to support them. But if they asked for help, I wouldn’t say no, or sure but you need to do this first…always be who you are, if you serve, serve

What is something someone gives you that you want to be better at giving others?

Birthdays. I don’t prioritize mine, so I hurt those I care about. Part is memory issues too, I will spend the week before telling my self remember to do this Friday. And of course Friday at 10 pm, I’m 4 inches tall. Or worse with Time zones someone will remind me it’s their birthday…and I’m 4 inches tall…even my kids, and I was there lol

I can’t explain why this isn’t easy, but I need to do better…

 

[cheekygirl75]

01.15.26

(Too late for a happy new year??)

What is something you give that you with you wish you got in return? (i.e. how are you a friend to others in a way that you wish someone was a friend to you? how do you care for someone that you wish you got cared for in return?)
What is something someone gives you that you want to be better at giving others?

Happy New Year!

I can’t think of anything I give that I don’t get back… I think I’m pretty non-judgmental, but I feel like my friends are too. Maybe not some of my family… I could wish some of them were less judgmental. But that’s not necessarily about how they care for me, more so just their world outlook. Maybe I’ll come back to this as nothing is coming to me, really.

For what I wish I were better at giving people, I have to steal other answers - a reality check and remembering significant dates.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

Happy New Year, and many more to come!

While we humans generally have a huge amount of potential in common, effectively no one develops exactly like anyone else. Thus, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, desires and dislikes to bring to a relationship, be that loving, friendly, co-worker, head-nod on the daily transport, what have you. To my mind, it seems like many of the stronger relationships develop when one side's strengths (mostly) dovetail with another's weaknesses, and vice versa. However, it is much more common for common interests to drive the formation of a relationship. This has the effect of tiering relationships - someone you get along great with watching sports at a bar, or cheering at a kid's event as proud parents, often does not lead to a stronger 'level' of relationships. It is completely possible that someone you get along with at one level is utterly unable to tie at another tier, and that goes both ways - A good coworker you'd never date, or a loved one who you have little in common with with regard to daily interests/motivation.

The best, of course, are those rare diamonds of relationships which are both.

In my opinion, 'course - YMMV.