❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[MrMakersMark]

You know how some countries have compulsory military service? I think the US should have a requirement that everyone should have to be bank tellers on a Friday, wait staff on a Saturday rush, retail workers during the holidays, etc. I think it would help greatly with the huge patience, kindness, and compassion deficit we have in our culture.

But.....Saturdays even???

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

I think it would help greatly with the huge patience, kindness, and compassion deficit we have in our culture.

I appreciate the people that do these things but if I am obligated to do it I will most likely end up in prison (I will be voting for someone else for president)

 

[CuriousCat89]

I so agree! Being a waitress will change your perspective on so much.

including eating at restaurants

 

[CuriousCat89]

I appreciate the people that do these things but if I am obligated to do it I will most likely end up in prison (I will be voting for someone else for president)

that's how I feel about teaching

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

that's how I feel about teaching

yeah I can't imagine dealing to much with todays youth. My kids were bad enough!

 

[Paul_Chance]

12.15.25

What are non-sexual things men/women do that turn you on?

Two things leaped to the front of my imagination:

Dancing of any sort.

Playing a musical instrument.

 

[seela]

12.15.25

What are non-sexual things men/women do that turn you on?

Stop and think

This, basically.

I also love it when people are very knowledgeable about something. It can be almost anything. I love to hear people talk about what they know and love, teaching me in the process. It kind of turns me into a puddle when I feel a little inferior and intimitated by someone's intellect. The trick is, thought, that the person must not actively be trying to make me feel that way. It they do, it becomes off putting.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

 

[UsuallyPresent]

Take care of yourself, the replacement plans more'n slightly suck.

Humanity are social animals, keep up those relationships, you'll need 'em.

Smoke shifters don't.

Ductwork can whistle. Loudly.

 

[cheekygirl75]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

Getting old is a scary prospect. Keep active as long as possible & take better care of myself (haven’t quite started that yet!). Stop attaching moral judgments to actions/non-actions that just are neutral. Learn how to forgive myself and let go - beating myself up constantly takes up too much energy.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Take care of yourself, the replacement plans more'n slightly suck.

Humanity are social animals, keep up those relationships, you'll need 'em.

Smoke shifters don't.

Ductwork can whistle. Loudly.

What is a smoke shifter?

 

[UsuallyPresent]

What is a smoke shifter?

It's like shore line, or prop wash, a non-existent joke of an item that you send newbies around to try to find. It's described as a large upside-down funnel that redirects campfire smoke up and away from your eyes....

 

[Paul_Chance]

It's like shore line, or prop wash, a non-existent joke of an item that you send newbies around to try to find. It's described as a large upside-down funnel that redirects campfire smoke up and away from your eyes....

Ahhhhh - well heck, let me go look for one…I’m sure I saw it over there somewhere.

Starts humming The Impossible Dream

 

[Wand3rlust]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

Recognise when you need help.
You knew it really. Dont let it take you so long.

Your happiness is in your hands. Noone else's.

Noone makes you feel. You choose how you feel and how you react, after a while. Choose to be happier. Let go of things better.

 

[Xerxes82]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

That 2025 can fuck right the hell off. Next!

More seriously:

To be more gracious and accepting of help. I'm too stubborn for my own good.

To continue to let go of the small stuff. Keeping chill is so much less work than being high strung.

 

[seela]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

Sourdough baking and knitting related lessons, mostly. Sorry if the answer is not profound enough.

Saying no is a little less scary now than it used to be, it’s been a major lesson to learn this year.

I also think I know better when it’s time to give up.

 

[MindYaBitness]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

I feel like this meme sums up my 2025 pretty well, and the attitude I'll be bringing to 2026

 

[Whiskeyjack]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

- Say "No" to the things that aren't in my best interest to do.
- Don't be anyone's second choice.
- Schedule time for reading instead of just relying on "whenever I get to it."
- Celebrate every punched Nazi
- Call your parents while they're still around.
- Life is going to get absurd. Enjoy the ride.

 

[dkak001]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

That 2025 was a shit show (for me), and no matter how hard you try, sometimes you just can't change things.
Trying to figure out what to do differently. Alas, I have no ideas on what or how to change anything meaningful.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

Now that 2025 has kindly fucked right off, I feel like I can think more clearly and here are just a few of the things I think I've learned or am coming to understand.

1. Timing - This is the number one thing. There are things you should do, people you should have more or less of in your life, things you work towards but getting the timing right is everything. Learning to not be hard on myself for failing to make things happen when it just wasn't the right thing and being okay waiting for the right time for good things has been really freeing. The right thing at the wrong time is just the wrong thing.

2. Quiet - Really getting comfortable with quiet, keeping my thoughts to myself and being generally okay with less hoopla. Maybe this is a getting older thing.

3. Expectations - Keeping them low for almost everyone has been a nice topic in therapy and one I kind of hated the idea of but when you hold your boundaries and remember you can't control how anyone else feels or what they do, you just stop worrying so much. I'll always make myself available for others when they make themselves available to me. I've just lost all chase. I know what I have to offer and what I'm worth as a person.

4. People that can rock with you in the hardest of times are more valuable than gold.

5. Sometimes you aren't in the mood to masturbate but you should always take the opportunity because you'll always be happy you did

Oh and so so so much about art

 

[Paul_Chance]

What did I learn in 2025.

In no particular order:

Death is a sudden thing. It’s like a cat stalking its prey. It waits. It watches. It pounces. Either it gets us or it doesn’t. Then the game starts all over again.

Patience is a hard skill, but invaluable in all things. It’s often amazing the number of things that can be resolved by allowing the patient passage of time.

Some of your friends will step up when you need them. Some of them will fade away. You’ll never know the reason why. Just keep loving them even as they fade away.

Semi-random oral sex will do a lot to improve peoples moods. It’s okay to go down on your friends. All of them. Tell them a stranger on the internet told you it was okay.

In 2026 may all beings know happiness and be free from suffering.

 

[birdy]

12.29.25

What lessons are you leaving 2025 with??

1. Discomfort is no longer a signal to stop—it’s a signal to listen. 2025 taught me that unease isn’t danger; it’s information. When something felt off (relationships, communities, creative paths) i finally stopped gaslighting mtself into “it’s fine.” i learned that clarity often arrives after sitting with the discomfort, not before.

2. I don’t actually fit where I’ve been trying to belong—and that’s not a flaw. I've spent too much energy trying to contort myself to fit spaces that once felt safe or familiar. 2025 made it painfully obvious: shrinking myself is more exhausting than standing alone. The lesson wasn’t “try harder,” it was “stop auditioning.”

3. Starting over is not failure—it’s integrity.
2025 stripped away the illusion that continuity equals success. I learned that beginning again can be an act of self-respect. Staying somewhere misaligned just to avoid the word restart was the real loss.

4. I can hold tenderness and toughness at the same time. This was a big one. I learned i don’t have to choose between being kind and being firm, compassionate and holding boundaries, gentle and honest. 2025 demanded that I stop confusing empathy with self-abandonment.

6. Not being understood immediately doesn’t mean I'm wrong. I learned how often I preemptively explained, softened, or translated myself to be palatable. Last year pushed back, and I started to see that resonance matters more than approval—and that the right people don’t require a disclaimer.

7. I am allowed to want more—without justifying it.
More depth. More alignment. More meaning. More joy. 2025 challenged the quiet voice that said, “This should be enough.” I learned that gratitude doesn’t require self-denial.

8. Avoidance costs more than honesty. Delaying hard conversations, decisions, or endings didn’t spare pain—it compounded it. The lesson was sharp but clean: short-term discomfort is cheaper than long-term resentment.

2025 was a big year for me in many ways. This prompt made me realize how much I went through last year and, wow! I am proud of my personal growth and change.

 

[velona]

1. Discomfort is no longer a signal to stop—it’s a signal to listen. 2025 taught me that unease isn’t danger; it’s information. When something felt off (relationships, communities, creative paths) i finally stopped gaslighting mtself into “it’s fine.” i learned that clarity often arrives after sitting with the discomfort, not before.

2. I don’t actually fit where I’ve been trying to belong—and that’s not a flaw. I've spent too much energy trying to contort myself to fit spaces that once felt safe or familiar. 2025 made it painfully obvious: shrinking myself is more exhausting than standing alone. The lesson wasn’t “try harder,” it was “stop auditioning.”

3. Starting over is not failure—it’s integrity.
2025 stripped away the illusion that continuity equals success. I learned that beginning again can be an act of self-respect. Staying somewhere misaligned just to avoid the word restart was the real loss.

4. I can hold tenderness and toughness at the same time. This was a big one. I learned i don’t have to choose between being kind and being firm, compassionate and holding boundaries, gentle and honest. 2025 demanded that I stop confusing empathy with self-abandonment.

6. Not being understood immediately doesn’t mean I'm wrong. I learned how often I preemptively explained, softened, or translated myself to be palatable. Last year pushed back, and I started to see that resonance matters more than approval—and that the right people don’t require a disclaimer.

7. I am allowed to want more—without justifying it.
More depth. More alignment. More meaning. More joy. 2025 challenged the quiet voice that said, “This should be enough.” I learned that gratitude doesn’t require self-denial.

8. Avoidance costs more than honesty. Delaying hard conversations, decisions, or endings didn’t spare pain—it compounded it. The lesson was sharp but clean: short-term discomfort is cheaper than long-term resentment.

2025 was a big year for me in many ways. This prompt made me realize how much I went through last year and, wow! I am proud of my personal growth and change.

These are all amazing and so well articulated!

Numbers 2 and 7 particularly resonated with me. Thank you for sharing these

 

[Wand3rlust]

@birdy Loved this.

I think there is some thing in this that everyone can relate to.

Well done you. And keep it up. The journey is just as important as the destination

 

[birdy]

@birdy Loved this.

I think there is some thing in this that everyone can relate to.

Well done you. And keep it up. The journey is just as important as the destination

Thanks! 2025 was a helluva year. I'm hoping for more peace this year.