❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I’m all for the sarcasm font! It would definitely come in handy.

I sometimes use pink as my sarcasm font color lol. I don't know why, but pink text feels like sarcasm for me.

 

[AmberLGreen]

04.01.22

The Stank Filter

How often do you read a message and apply your perceived feelings on the words? I use the word stank filter because that's what I call it with my mother. She can read a perfectly innocuous text and because of her stank mood, she reads it will all the attitude that wasn't intended.

Do your feelings towards the poster make their words immediately easier or harder to read? Do you hear the words in your head when you read them? Have you ever had a misunderstanding when words that you wrote sounded one way to you and the reader had a completely different interpretation? How do you handle this as a writer? A reader?

I have to admit that I am bad at this. How I read and write things depends on two things.

The first is my mood. If I am feeling happy (which is most of the time) I read and write things in that same way. What I write will be jovial and meant to be fun and I will read things in the same context. If I am feeling a little sorry for myself I might read into posts a little more personally and what I write, might be more targeted.

The second thing is the person. If I really get on well with a person, then what I write to them will be honest, fun, caring, thoughtful. If I don’t get on with them very well, my writings would be more cautious, not detailed, sometimes patronising. I would also read their writings in the same way.

With what I write, there is also the subject of how much I understand the reader to consider. There are some people that I don’t always get a feel for and this makes me wary of them. I am unlikely to post anything funny or personal directly towards them as I don’t know how they will respond. With these people, I will read what they post and see how that is read by others. This sometimes helps me to get a better feeling for the person.

Most of what I write is done so with innuendo, sarcasm and very tongue in cheek. I read most of what others post in the same way.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I completely agree with you, and I didn't express myself well - sorry.

Because I've had a couple of bad Lit experiences, including with catfish (which is why I mentioned them, although that was very, very unclear indeed) , I tend to be more suspicious of people here than is fair and reasonable of me.

And because I can be wary of people I don't know, I occasionally apply my shit filter to people who've just randomly triggered my Lit Spidey sens. Which is unfair, and pretty crap of me, and something I need to address.

But I agree completely. I can pick up on and apply tone to apparently neutral posts from people I know well. I'm not always right there either.

And now if you'll excuse me, my tin foil, colander and I have a date in my basement where we're going to hide from the 5G chemtrails.

Somehow I ended up in an anti-5G FB group. I really need to read the group names before I click "join" on the invitations. This one woman has gotten rid of her cellphone.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I completely agree with you, and I didn't express myself well - sorry.

Because I've had a couple of bad Lit experiences, including with catfish (which is why I mentioned them, although that was very, very unclear indeed) , I tend to be more suspicious of people here than is fair and reasonable of me.

And because I can be wary of people I don't know, I occasionally apply my shit filter to people who've just randomly triggered my Lit Spidey sens. Which is unfair, and pretty crap of me, and something I need to address.

But I agree completely. I can pick up on and apply tone to apparently neutral posts from people I know well. I'm not always right there either.

And now if you'll excuse me, my tin foil, colander and I have a date in my basement where we're going to hide from the 5G chemtrails.

It is only unfair and crappy if you are unwilling to acknowledge it, step back, and check yourself, to confirm if you are correct. You have developed a spideysense for a reason, and it is very valid reason. In my case, my douchdar exists for a reason, but I also acknowledge it has problems. Again, a certain manner of speaking which is overly formal in my opinion can trigger it, so I have to step back, maybe rephrase their words in my head, just to check myself. Also, how men speak to other women triggers it. I now acknowledge this problem every time, as I have witnessed this first hand in the reverse. I like male friends to tease me by tossing me a little smack talk, sarcasm, just giving me a little bit of a hard time. In many cases, calling me a cunt, or telling me to go fuck myself, or picking on my wording or grammar was just the right level of smack at the right time. Then other women snapped at them for being an ass to me, and I had to explain they were misinterpreting. Now, before I throw shade at any man for how he speaks to someone else, I ask that person if it is as over the line as I think or if there is something I am not seeing. This happened just yesterday. Of course, my initial well that was rude thought was correct, but I always ask.

You clearly acknowledge your filters failure, which means you must be checking it, so I suspect you are likely not being as unfair as you think, and not giving yourself enough credit.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I have to admit that I am bad at this. How I read and write things depends on two things.

The first is my mood. If I am feeling happy (which is most of the time) I read and write things in that same way. What I write will be jovial and meant to be fun and I will read things in the same context. If I am feeling a little sorry for myself I might read into posts a little more personally and what I write, might be more targeted.

The second thing is the person. If I really get on well with a person, then what I write to them will be honest, fun, caring, thoughtful. If I don’t get on with them very well, my writings would be more cautious, not detailed, sometimes patronising. I would also read their writings in the same way.

With what I write, there is also the subject of how much I understand the reader to consider. There are some people that I don’t always get a feel for and this makes me wary of them. I am unlikely to post anything funny or personal directly towards them as I don’t know how they will respond. With these people, I will read what they post and see how that is read by others. This sometimes helps me to get a better feeling for the person.

Most of what I write is done so with innuendo, sarcasm and very tongue in cheek. I read most of what others post in the same way.

All of this and sometimes I go a bit too far and assume they've read it negatively so I start qualifying my statements then I remind myself "you already told them this, step away"

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

04.01.22

The Stank Filter

How often do you read a message and apply your perceived feelings on the words? I use the word stank filter because that's what I call it with my mother. She can read a perfectly innocuous text and because of her stank mood, she reads it will all the attitude that wasn't intended.

Do your feelings towards the poster make their words immediately easier or harder to read? Do you hear the words in your head when you read them? Have you ever had a misunderstanding when words that you wrote sounded one way to you and the reader had a completely different interpretation? How do you handle this as a writer? A reader?

I'm so glad everyone understood what I meant by this question.

I really try not to but I know I do occasionally do this. It's worse when I'm having a disagreement or I know someone doesn't care for me. I've also taken someone's words in a hurtful way that wasn't intended. Then I sit around for 12 hours feeling sad until I just ask and then I feel less sad and more stupid for not just clearing the air.

BUT I have been on the other end of this more times than I care to name. Where I've posted something innocuous (or so I thought) and I have people read it with a negative connotation that wasn't there or missed a joking tone or just assumed something was about them or their situations when it wasn't. I hate when this happens. Not because I hate explaining myself. I would always prefer to clear up any misunderstanding that I can but because it always reminds me how limiting text on a screen can be. This is why I will always prefer voices.

I do think emojis can go a way towards helping clarify tone. A or helps a lot when I'm trying to figure out what to make out of what some of ya'll are talking about.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I'm so glad everyone understood what I meant by this question.

I really try not to but I know I do occasionally do this. It's worse when I'm having a disagreement or I know someone doesn't care for me. I've also taken someone's words in a hurtful way that wasn't intended. Then I sit around for 12 hours feeling sad until I just ask and then I feel less sad and more stupid for not just clearing the air.

BUT I have been on the other end of this more times than I care to name. Where I've posted something innocuous (or so I thought) and I have people read it with a negative connotation that wasn't there or missed a joking tone or just assumed something was about them or their situations when it wasn't. I hate when this happens. Not because I hate explaining myself. I would always prefer to clear up any misunderstanding that I can but because it always reminds me how limiting text on a screen can be. This is why I will always prefer voices.

I do think emojis can go a way towards helping clarify tone. A or helps a lot when I'm trying to figure out what to make out of what some of ya'll are talking about.

I've had some biases on here that after sitting back and thinking about it, I don't know why I have them. So yes, I've been guilty of the stank filter. I'm trying my best to do away with all that and judge people by my interactions and not go off of what I have been told. I'm now going to call this "removing the stank", so thanks for that!

 

[Orchidea73]

I would always prefer to clear up any misunderstanding that I can but because it always reminds me how limiting text on a screen can be. This is why I will always prefer voices.

And now, we have the reaction features too, as if text was not enough to confuse us. lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

And now, we have the reaction features too, as if text was not enough to confuse us. lol

That's so true. I appreciate the people who clarify "I liked your post because of the meatloaf recipe and not the part where your parakeet died."

 

[AmberLGreen]

That's so true. I appreciate the people who clarify "I liked your post because of the meatloaf recipe and not the part where your parakeet died."

You made parakeet meatloaf! Wish I had caught that recipe now

 

[Orchidea73]

That's so true. I appreciate the people who clarify "I liked your post because of the meatloaf recipe and not the part where your parakeet died."

Just the other day it happened that someone reacted to a comment I wrote, and I didn't understand the meaning of it. I took a screenshot and send it to Fara, asking, why is this person reacting like that? Needless to say that she wasn't of much use. lol

 

[AmberLGreen]

I did. And don't call me Meatloaf.
Bats out of hell fly too fast. Parakeets are slower.

And it is harder for them to get “Out of the frying pan”

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Just the other day it happened that someone reacted to a comment I wrote, and I didn't understand the meaning of it. I took a screenshot and send it to Fara, asking, why is this person reacting like that? Needless to say that she wasn't of much use. lol

Going back and reviewing all of my reactions to your posts...
Keep in mind sometimes I'm trying to click one emoji and the mouse chooses something else. If I'm not paying attention, I wouldn't know to fix it.

 

[Orchidea73]

Going back and reviewing all of my reactions to your posts...
Keep in mind sometimes I'm trying to click one emoji and the mouse chooses something else. If I'm not paying attention, I wouldn't know to fix it.

Nah, don't be silly. a) it wasn't you. b) it was just this time.
Emojis are easier to understand, because "like", "love", "laugh" are simply to get and associated with a positive feeling. It's just that in this case I didn't thought my comment required any kind of "reaction". Anyway, I didn't lost too much time thinking about it. But PLP comments about texting reminded me of it. And I'm like her too, I much prefer voice.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

Nah, don't be silly. a) it wasn't you. b) it was just this time.
Emojis are easier to understand, because "like", "love", "laugh" are simply to get and associated with a positive feeling. It's just that in this case I didn't thought my comment required any kind of "reaction". Anyway, I didn't lost too much time thinking about it. But PLP comments about texting reminded me of it. And I'm like her too, I much prefer voice.

Sometime I love someone's comment, but I hate the stupid happy heart eyes. I wish it was just a heart.

 

[Orchidea73]

Sometime I love someone's comment, but I hate the stupid happy heart eyes. I wish it was just a heart.

I gave you a "happy heart eyes", just because you love it. lol

Yeah, I would like "heart" better too.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

I gave you a "happy heart eyes", just because you love it. lol

Yeah, I would like "heart" better too.

I see that sarcasm font. lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Sometime I love someone's comment, but I hate the stupid happy heart eyes. I wish it was just a heart.

Ugh I totally agree.

 

[Orchidea73]

Ugh I totally agree.

Here is another one for you. lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Here is another one for you. lol

And just to be a really ungrateful brat.... the laughter emoji is laughing WAY to hard. It's not always tears and wet britches.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It is at my age.

People will think you're one of the ancient ones.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

04.26.22

How much of your enjoyment of Lit has to do with your interaction with other Litsters? Could you happily post without much direct interaction? Do you have the best fun when your core groups is all here? What kind of interaction is the most enjoyable for you?

 

[cheekygirl75]

04.26.22

How much of your enjoyment of Lit has to do with your interaction with other Litsters? Could you happily post without much direct interaction? Do you have the best fun when your core groups is all here? What kind of interaction is the most enjoyable for you?

I’d say all of my enjoyment here is because of interaction with others. It doesn’t have to be a core group, I’m always open to meeting someone new if they’re posting something interesting and we have a good vibe… though of course, being an introvert, that’s sometimes easier for me with people I’ve gotten to know a bit - either from directly talking or just seeing their posts around.

As for what kind… all kinds can be fun, depending on the people! The chaos thread is a good example - it’s alternately silly, dirty, friendly, serious, intellectual, etc., a little bit of everything.

 

[Dribble]

04.26.22

How much of your enjoyment of Lit has to do with your interaction with other Litsters? Could you happily post without much direct interaction? Do you have the best fun when your core groups is all here? What kind of interaction is the most enjoyable for you?

This has changed with time. There was once a time...when things were much more real...and it was fun interacting with the members. Now...it is nothing but 10...maybe 15 minutes a day...passing time while I wait for more important things. Plus the new format sucks on my phone.

 

[Karabare]

04.26.22

How much of your enjoyment of Lit has to do with your interaction with other Litsters? Could you happily post without much direct interaction? Do you have the best fun when your core groups is all here? What kind of interaction is the most enjoyable for you?

Probably all my enjoyment of Lit is due to interaction with others. Several litsters have become true friends. I like when people I know are around but get along with most people in general. I enjoy the banter and learning the quirks of others.