Advice; Swingers/Adult Clubs

[djyak]

Alright, I was dying to get on here and tell you all how Friday night went at our first swingers club! Alot of details, so if you want more PM me it isn't too long and boring on here.

It was fantastic! Great club, classy, and friendly people. When we first got there, they manager gave us a tour, which was very nice to see all the layout. After, we hit the bar for drinks, and met a lot of people, and really "clicked" with two couples there while we had our drinks, and then decided to move into the lounge where videos were playing, (no nudity here), and after some heavy petting, hubby was all up in me with his hands. Then on to the showers and some sexy lingerie for fun in the rooms where others could watch us. We didn't swap or anything, but a lot of touching.

We had a great time, and everyone was very respectful and kind. We are soooo going back! PM if you want more, just too much to put on here, and I'll try to do responses on here too if questions are asked.

thanks so much for all of your help, it made it all the better.

tifani

 

[sarel101]

Well, I went to a club with a friend of mine last month and I thought I'd give a not so brief report. It was the first time for both of us. We're not a couple, just good friends and fuck buddies from time to time. Our intentions were not to swing with anyone, just to watch and have sex with each other while being watched.

The dress code at the club varies from night to night, with some nights being themed. Our night was a casual night. I wore slacks and a nice button down shirt. My friend wore a knit dress, stockings and boots. I also brought a silk robe and silk boxers for lounging and my friend brought a matching silk robe and a matching, simple thigh length slip.

We were required to arrive early for a brief orientation with the other newbies. It was a pretty large place and also has a nice outdoor patio, pool, garden and stream which would be great during the summer. The first area was called the safe zone. It contained the dining room and one bar, a game room/lounge and a set of bathrooms. Clothing was required and nothing more than heavy petting. They wanted to always have a place for someone to go and cool down if they were feeling uncomfortable. The owners were very clear about consent. Condoms were required if anyone other than your partner(s) that you arrived with got involved. Condoms, gloves and dams were required for any anal play. The night we were there was a strict no camera night.

The rest of the main floor was made up of several anything goes rooms. Anything from sofas, padded massage tables, elevated platforms, a few swings, etc.

The entire upper floor was small bedrooms with curtains on the doorways. Policy was that if the curtain was open, you were allowed to watch, or ask permission to join.

The basement had a small theater room, large indoor Roman bath that could hold about 40, and one large public and one small private dungeon.

Several changing rooms, lockers and showers on all floors.

We were a bit bashful at first so we headed into the darkened theater room where we watched a porno until we felt comfortable enough to start getting busy. We slipped into our loungewear and went into the public rooms moseyed around for a bit until we grabbed a sofa and went at it. It was so hot having people watch us.

One thing that I found to be interesting was that most of the women just assumed that it was ok to join in. The guys would all ask first or just lay a hand on a thigh or shoulder for a few seconds awaiting your response. The women would generally just start groping or sucking until someone asked them to stop. It was no big deal, a simple no and they would apologize and break away, I just thought it was interesting.

While my friend was giving me a blow job a gal came over started to rub my chest and pinch my nipples and kissing me. After a minute or so, I felt a bit weird, and just gently pushed her away. After my friend and I finished, we grbbed a quick shower and went upstairs and watched a little bit of the action going on in the rooms upstairs. One of the rooms was available so we snagged it for a quickie on the straight back desk chair. Got a whistle or two as people peeked in from the hall way.

Next we went downstairs to the large public dungeon. I've messed around with BDSM with some of my past partners, but my friend never had. She sat on my lap in her slip while we watched. There was what appeared to be two experienced female Doms. I started to finger my friend and a woman on a leash came over and started to suck my friend toes. Being a foot guy, that was really hot.

One of the Doms came over and started talking to us. She asked my friend if whe wanted to be tied up or spanked. My firend declined but said she'd let me take her over my knee with everyone watching. I gave her thirty good smacks with my hand, leaving her ass bright red and her pussy quite wet. I did ask the Dom to tie me over a horse for some spanking. Ten whacks with a leather paddle. I was really tempted to ask the Dom to peg me with a strap-on, but I chickened out. Perhaps next time!

We went back to the main play rooms and I remined my friend about her ongoing fantasy of being fingered by strangers. So she stripped down and stretched out on ond of the padded tables and I blindfolded her with the belt from her robe. Men & women alike took turns fingering her until she was on the edge and I fingered and ate her out until she climaxed. She told me that it was my turn and I couldn't get up on the table fast enough. Lord only knows how many people took turns jacking me off. I'm straight and I could tell when a guy was stroking me, but I didn't care. Then my firend finished me off by sucking my dick and fingering my ass. Or at least that's what I thought. When I took off my blindfold, it was my friend on my cock but some other woman with two fingers in my ass and cupping my balls in her other hand.

By this time were were both exhausted, so we hit the shower and headed back to our hotel room where we collapsed. Bottom line it was fucking incredible. The downside was that it was for enough away that we had to make a weekend trip out of it and it was an expensive little trip, but it was worth it. If neither one of us are in a relationship come summer, we're heading back to have a romp in the outdoor areas.

 

[djyak]

Sounds like you guys had fun. Later when I get home, I'll type up someting about our latest escapades to the club. We are frequent members now!

Tifani

 

[djyak]

Oh.....I could get very specific. First let me see if I could answer some of your questions, and maybe heighten your "member" a bit, then we can talk more about the things we've done in the clubs.

Yes, as the showers are big and encased in glass, which looks into the lounge. As we climbed in and we began soaping each other up, some people came closer to the windows to watch us. Very exciting, getting my nipples hard just thinking about it. The voyeurism part is very intriguing.

We don't swap, but we do love to fuck in front of others, it's a big turn on for us. Yes, my pussy got sooo wet being watched, and seeing women finger themselves, men jerkng watching us. We did let a few touch us as we were in this one booth/room wiht openings all around us so that people could reach in and touch. They were rubbing his chest, legs, cupping his balls as I rode him. I was holding onto a bar attached to the ceiling and these hands untied my lingerie, pulling the straps down my shoulders and arms ,exposing my tits and very, very erect nipples. They started to circle them, roll and pinch them too. I was soooo fucking wet hubby said I was running down his bals. One hand kept trying to get thier finger in my ass, couldn't help but lean forward more and allow some access.

After a couple of fuck sessions, we'd return to the showers, and I'd change into another outfit. My first was a red satin lingerie, tight fitting and just barely covered my pussy with a slit up to my belly, heels of course. I love it because the saitn feels great on my nipples. Second was black stockings, heels, garter, no panties, no bra. I love feeling all the eyes on me as we walk, leering in a seductive manner. One of the parts I loved the most is being watched, but love changing outfits and seeing people's reactions.

After our second time back, we got bolder, and I did let a couple of guys suck on my nipples, rub them a bit.

I have more details......

Tifani

 

[sweetnessuk]

My first time at a swinging club

My first time was in 2009. I went wearing white trousers and a very low cut top, thinking I was under dressed. I walked in and saw all the women wearing pvc dresses and and one girl was wearing a lacy minimal thong and tiny bra. So my advice, just let it all hang out and let your hair down hehehe. The smaller swinging clubs tend to attract more casual dressed people but the larger ones, just let yourself go, dressing sexy makes you feel more sexy. I wasn't sure how to present myself when I first went. Take it easy, and just go with the flow. Don't jump into anything and just allow everybody else to follow. Have natter with them in the kitchen or the lounge, make yourself known. Go into one of the rooms, have a play with your husband, start to make eye contact around you, show that you're interested and the rest will follow. If they don't, then it's just not the right kind of people for you.

Just let it all out hehehe

 

[DuckLover]

Oh.....I could get very specific.

I have more details......

Tifani

Tifani, I'm thrilled to hear that you guys have had such great experiences, and I DEFINITELY want to hear those additional details!

 

[DuckLover]

I've only been once, but it was a good experience, and I'd love to go again. We were dating non-exclusively but neither was really seeing anyone else and the idea had come up while chatting and excited us both. We did some research on local options and found a place that looked promising. We had several conversations beforehand about expectations, desires, fears, and limits. Going in, the plan was no intercourse with others, but anything else was OK as long as we were together and felt comfortable with it.

Interestingly, during all the planning phase, she was excited but really nervous and wavering, so I was the one saying "This will be good; let's do it." Once we arrive though, she was fired up and ready, and _I_ got really nervous - our first 10 minutes or so was sitting in a corner with her reassuring me that "This will be good; let's do it." Heh - go teamwork!

We actually had a lot of fun just watching, chatting with people, and getting comfortable. She did a bit of pole dancing with a woman we hit it off with, though her husband seemed lukewarm about being there. Later, my date and I had a blast fucking each other silly in the public playroom while that woman and her husband did the same beside us. They left the room and club before we finished and there was never any crossover, which mildly disappointed 3 of us. We didn't connect with anyone else that night.

Beforehand, we'd reassured ourselves that regardless of the outcome, and even if the place was a dud, we'd come home and have some awesome one-on-one sex, and that part of the plan absolutely happened - we were both so turned on from the experience that we only stopped due to exhaustion!

 

[bharman4102]

We're visiting the west coast later this summer, LA all the way up to Seattle. Anyone recommend a club for beginners?

 

[gxnn]

I do not know when we can have such service available in my country.
Perhaps the corrupt officials of communist party have done things like that, but we poor lower class people have been honored by this enjoyment.

 

[SweetErika]

We're visiting the west coast later this summer, LA all the way up to Seattle. Anyone recommend a club for beginners?

In Seattle, check out the Center for Sex Positive Culture. There are events daily, and you can email the director (Allena) beforehand to ask to be guested in since you'll just be visiting the area.

There are Swingers clubs, too, of course, but the CSPC is your best bet for variety (sex, different kinks, BDSM, poly, erotic massage, workshops, etc.) and reasonable prices for the events.

I do not know when we can have such service available in my country.
Perhaps the corrupt officials of communist party have done things like that, but we poor lower class people have been honored by this enjoyment.

Since when do poor, lower class people in China have internet access, know how to get around the government filters and speak exceptional English?

 

[gxnn]

In Seattle, check out the Center for Sex Positive Culture. There are events daily, and you can email the director (Allena) beforehand to ask to be guested in since you'll just be visiting the area.

There are Swingers clubs, too, of course, but the CSPC is your best bet for variety (sex, different kinks, BDSM, poly, erotic massage, workshops, etc.) and reasonable prices for the events.


Since when do poor, lower class people in China have internet access, know how to get around the government filters and speak exceptional English?

Since the silly boy of Facebook made a silly decision to marry a Chinese girl he met outside a toilet

 

[shewantsmore]

Since the silly boy of Facebook made a silly decision to marry a Chinese girl he met outside a toilet

is that real,someone did that?

 

[bharman4102]

Definitely an interesting experience. And the emotions run from "are we really going to this" to "wtf am i doing here" to "i cant believe what we did last night!"

 

[Somehowyou]

I have been in clubs for days in a row without doing anything but having a drink and talk with regulars. In time you can quite safely tell who is promiscuous and who is more of the "faithful" and picky kind. .

Yes I often go to sex clubs looking for faithful picky hookers.

I You take a risk every time you drive in your car. Heck you take a certain risk soon you get out of the bed in the morning. If you are smart and careful that risk is diminished. Same applies for swinger club, one night stand or even a long term relationship. You cant avoid all the risks in life. Common sense and not getting lost in fantasy about horny bodies jumping on heap right from the entrance can help a bit though.

Amen...its about risk assessment and from there probablility and statistics.

I think this guy made a good point. If I have to don a dental damn and everything else is going to be covered with rubber I think I will stay home and jack off to some porn.

How many layers of rubber do people typically wear anyway? Giving a guy a BL while he is wearing a condom and you are wearing a dental dam does not sound like fun. Maybe the pleasure is seeing all the eye candy and having sex with your partner with an audience? I guess it would be a nice night out for a couple and the thought that you could potentially end up swapping some day and you are looking for the perfect couple is probably exciting