after 26yrs how do you fix it

[whitedriver2]

I've been with my wife for 26yrs and I still love her dearly.but my ultimate lover and best friend have faded to the abyss and nothing helps.The lover that in days past would rock my world to my core now says " I'm tired" or "It is late and I have to work tomorrow (part time 4hrs big deal)" But I can still remember the days of YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!! or her screems of FORGET WORK WE WILL LIVE ON LOVE!! (and tonys pizza).We used to just lay and talk for hours,Anywhere and before we had kids I MEAN ANYWHERE!! I asked if perhaps it is me?Or is see fallen out of love with me but she says her life would not be worth living without me in it. She even went as far to suggest a discreet short term affair. (she said the workout would be good for me and it would'nt hurt the other girl ether,and besides you are fixed and I could use the rest). I made the mistake of asking if she wanted a divorce and my god you would have thought I asked if I could just shoot her and be done with it.
People say Spice things up (witch is how I found this site by the way )but being we both had wonderfuly sexural minds with almost no limits,so me have tried or already done most anything you could think of (except pain,water sports,and most farm animales) so what do think I should do? I honorabley ask for your advice.
































































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[Kylan]

I've been with my wife for 26yrs and I still love her dearly.but my ultimate lover and best friend have faded to the abyss and nothing helps.The lover that in days past would rock my world to my core now says " I'm tired" or "It is late and I have to work tomorrow (part time 4hrs big deal)" But I can still remember the days of YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!!! or her screems of FORGET WORK WE WILL LIVE ON LOVE!! (and tonys pizza).We used to just lay and talk for hours,Anywhere and before we had kids I MEAN ANYWHERE!! I asked if perhaps it is me?Or is see fallen out of love with me but she says her life would not be worth living without me in it. She even went as far to suggest a discreet short term affair. (she said the workout would be good for me and it would'nt hurt the other girl ether,and besides you are fixed and I could use the rest). I made the mistake of asking if she wanted a divorce and my god you would have thought I asked if I could just shoot her and be done with it.
People say Spice things up (witch is how I found this site by the way )but being we both had wonderfuly sexural minds with almost no limits,so me have tried or already done most anything you could think of (except pain,water sports,and most farm animales) so what do think I should do? I honorabley ask for your advice. '

Perhaps a visit to the gynaecologist is in order for your wife. There may be blood/hormone levels at the root of her loss of desire.

I feel adding spice to your life may not necessarily increase her need or want for your attention, especially if you don't take her pursuits outside of your sex-life seriously. Four hours of work is sometimes a 'big deal'.

Oh, and try pain.

@>,-'Kylan,-'​

 

[fun2kissamy]

I agree with visiting the doctor. I think people underestimate what inadequate hormone levels can do to a woman...or their marriage.

At the risk of sounding cliche, have you tried counseling?

I am sorry for your pain. 26 years is a long time and worth investing a little more time in. *hug*

 

[Sassyfrass]

If you don't mind me asking....
How old is your wife
How old are your kids ?

 

[done_got_old]

Have you ever thought that maybe she is tired?

Has she been a working mother/wife for 26 years? Four hours can be a big deal if it's four stressful hours and come home to a man who says, 'big deal'. What are you doing to lighten the load at home? Do you wait for her to come home from her four hour 'big deal' job to get dinner on the table? Does she do the majority (or all) of the laundry and cleaning? If your kids are still home and in school does she do the parent/teacher conferences alone? Does she she to it that the kids get to their activities? Does she help with the homework too?


After she's made sure there's no medical problem and you spice up the romance department then look in the mirror. Do what you need to do to make her want you. Also try doing things with your wife that she enjoys. Looking at television in the same room might not work. Court your wife the same way you did before you were married.

DGO

 

[Tonka]

I would bet dollars to donuts low testosterone levels are the issue.