AH=Clique

[impressive]

Can't say I totally disagree with the first poster. It's not easy to not see it as a clique when you start posting and everything you say is "analysed" and scrutinized. Some even go as far as wondering out loud if you are not a troll or an alt of somebody not mature and adult enough to come forward.

All newbies have to start somewhere but if when we start posting everybody questions the validity of our identity.....really it's not easy.

Damned if we do. Damned if we don't.

We all came out to play with the newbie poster, who never came back. We didn't bite -- didn't even bark (much).

Getting "in" here is exactly like it is in any other group -- online or off. It can be intimidating at first, but if you don't get in the water, you'll never know if you really want to swim with this school of fishies or not.

This is, quite frankly, the most welcoming group of perverts I've ever encountered. (Okay, it's the only one.)

 

[pop_54]

I don't think it's any more clique-ish than any other group of people, to be honest, and it's probably less so than some.

Yes, there are inside jokes, etc., that aren't clear to everyone, or to those that haven't been around awhile, but again, that happens with any group of friends.

I was pretty much greeted with open arms when I joined, and I've seen others treated the same way. There have been some that have been ignored, but only after showing that that's what they deserved. I think, on a whole, new people are given every chance to join in, if that's what they choose to do.

Quite so cloudy dear, that has to be a lot of the problem with some new folks, they don't want to put effort into joining in... So many new peeps, (not you of course dear), have joined this forum over the years I've been here, I always put myself out to say welcome if I spot them, only to be completely ignored by 50% of them, come on newbies if you want to fit in, at least have the courtesy to aknowledge an oldie who says hello.

This thread poster has done very well anyway, looking through the list of people who've replied here, a number have never had the courtesy to speak to me even after an invite by way of a thread comment... I always ignore such people after the third attempt to be a friend.

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Quite so cloudy dear, that has to be a lot of the problem with some new folks, they don't want to put effort into joining in... So many new peeps, (not you of course dear), have joined this forum over the years I've been here, I always put myself out to say welcome if I spot them, only to be completely ignored by 50% of them, come on newbies if you want to fit in, at least have the courtesy to aknowledge an oldie who says hello.

This thread poster has done very well anyway, looking through the list of people who've replied here, a number have never had the courtesy to speak to me even after an invite by way of a thread comment... I always ignore such people after the third attempt to be a friend.

hey Pops

*HUGS*

 

[TheEarl]

Quite so cloudy dear, that has to be a lot of the problem with some new folks, they don't want to put effort into joining in... So many new peeps, (not you of course dear), have joined this forum over the years I've been here, I always put myself out to say welcome if I spot them, only to be completely ignored by 50% of them, come on newbies if you want to fit in, at least have the courtesy to aknowledge an oldie who says hello.

This thread poster has done very well anyway, looking through the list of people who've replied here, a number have never had the courtesy to speak to me even after an invite by way of a thread comment... I always ignore such people after the third attempt to be a friend.

Well I'm still hurt that you stopped flirting with me Pops.

The Earl

 

[wishfulthinking]

The AH strikes me as a clique. Go back to high school, junior high even, and then look here to the AH. Little groups are formed. And it seems to me that there are people favored and placed on a pedestal. And those who are weaker, they are ignored by others.

Is this really the atmosphere of the AH? Is this how it really should be?

Hi TF! It sometime feels to me that there are a lot of voices here, and on some days you just have to shout louder than usual to be heard!

Hey, Crim - you know I love you and have a great respect for your writing

 

[oggbashan]

This thread poster has done very well anyway, looking through the list of people who've replied here, a number have never had the courtesy to speak to me even after an invite by way of a thread comment... I always ignore such people after the third attempt to be a friend.

Pops,

I have no idea why people don't reply or respond to some of my posts. I don't draw any conclusions from silence. I assume either that they have said all they want on that thread or that their attention has been diverted to another topic. Even real life can get in the way of responding appropriately. All of us can be thread killers.

The writer of Slack Alice is never going to be anything less than a legend in the AH. Legends can be scary, not just to newbies.

Og

 

[pop_54]

Well I'm still hurt that you stopped flirting with me Pops.

The Earl

Earl you're here less than I am these days what chance do I stand of a flirt lover.

 

[pop_54]

hey Pops

*HUGS*

Now that's what I call a reply As always a lovely hug from Colly.

*UGE-UGS* back to you dear.

 

[pop_54]

Pops,

I have no idea why people don't reply or respond to some of my posts. I don't draw any conclusions from silence. I assume either that they have said all they want on that thread or that their attention has been diverted to another topic. Even real life can get in the way of responding appropriately. All of us can be thread killers.

The writer of Slack Alice is never going to be anything less than a legend in the AH. Legends can be scary, not just to newbies.

Og

Ah none of us respond to threads that aren't of interest oggie, we'd wind up making some unrelated quipp, that would be hi-jacking and heaven forbid. No the ones I mean are those you or I or whoever make a direct remark inviting a reply only to be ignored.

 

[TheEarl]

Earl you're here less than I am these days what chance do I stand of a flirt lover.

Oh come on. I'm still here, despite work. I'm just hurt that you don't notice me. You don't love me anymore! <sniff>

What threadjack?

The Earl

 

[Black Tulip]

Not me. The ones who aren't medicated need help.

I worry about all five of them.

You spoiling for a fight?
Me, myself and I do not like to be made fun off!

http://www.addis-welt.de/smilie/smilie/snowman/laugh.gif

Somebody looking for a place to get a warm welcome? Go here:

Newbie Support Forum

 

[Black Tulip]

Ah none of us respond to threads that aren't of interest oggie, we'd wind up making some unrelated quipp, that would be hi-jacking and heaven forbid. No the ones I mean are those you or I or whoever make a direct remark inviting a reply only to be ignored.

That really happens???

http://www.addis-welt.de/smilie/smilie/snowman/shocked.gif

Seriously though, I sometimes have the inclination to respond but then I see the thread has already moved on by 5 pages. LOL
Life passes me by, even on the internet. * sigh*

http://www.addis-welt.de/smilie/smilie/snowman/laugh.gif

 

[Guest]

 

[eric shawn listo]

OK, let's put this clique thing to a test. This will prove there's no clique onca nad for all. Somebody respond to this.

Now.

I'm waiting.

Waiting....

waitin...

Shit, I forgot to post it!

OK, here goes.

 

[Guest]

OK, let's put this clique thing to a test. This will prove there's no clique onca nad for all. Somebody respond to this.

Now.

I'm waiting.

Waiting....

waitin...

Shit, I forgot to post it!

OK, here goes.

 

[eric shawn listo]

Too cool for school! see, no clique!

 

[cantdog]

That tears it-- it's a clique. She responded right away. We're fucking doomed. Maybe medication is the answer?

Nah. A human would have to be pretty fiercely medicated to avoid being involved in cliquish behavior. Unconsciousness, for instance, might help, but anything less, I think you'll still find it.

Online you got less to lose being friendly, but that doesn't mean people take the trouble, most places. I mean, I get grumpy, too, but for the most part, we do all right here. People sorta figured the poster for an alias, but there is a lot of that sort of game play here.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

Too cool for school! see, no clique!

Too damn right!!!

 

[Guest]

too cliquish for me! No one responded and praised my insightful posts.

i'm outa here.

I did, didn't I?

I probably respond to way too much, in fact. Even when people might not want me to. How else do you think I've got such a bloody high post count? Mouthy cow.

*goes back to check thread. Might be gone a while*

 

[Shock Chick]

People sorta figured the poster for an alias, but there is a lot of that sort of game play here.

There is?

Bloody hell, some people, eh?

Oh, and that Lou. Yeah, I think so, too. Too bloody quick for her own good sometimes. Needs sorting out.

Hmmm, I wonder who's gonna do that?

 

[Guest]

(One woman threadjack! )

 

[Guest]

 

[NoJo]

There is?

Bloody hell, some people, eh?

Oh, and that Lou. Yeah, I think so, too. Too bloody quick for her own good sometimes. Needs sorting out.

Hmmm, I wonder who's gonna do that?

How nice to see you, shock.

 

[Shock Chick]

Just another sign that the weekend is upon us. Where do you hide Mon-Thurs, Shocky?

Lou's backside.

How nice to see you, shock.

Very nice to see you, too, Joseph. He who rumbled me, way back when.

Bastard.