Alright I need some suggestions

[blue112]

So heres the skinny, Ive been together with this girl for about a year now, when we first got together things were hot and great, we broke up for a month or two and got back together and the sex wasnt all that great because well she wanted different things and didnt tell me so I never bothered, eventually she got pissed with me and told me and then we broke up again for a month and got back together again. now however because the sex was never really good for her, its stayed that way in her mind and as such she has no interest in it. Im more than willing and quite eager to do the things she told me she wanted but now she doesnt want them because sex isnt sex if its enjoyable to her.

we need to get past this wall because its going to end this relationship if we dont, what can we do to allow herself to enjoy the things she used to enjoy with other lovers? She knows Im eager to please her but it doesnt seem real because its not what shes used to.

Any thoughts out there?

 

[LadyJeanne]

Sigh. Does no one practice the art of seduction anymore? Let me re-post something I just posted in another thread:

Oh, you know what to do. Give her a goodbye kiss in the morning that will curl her toes...tell her how beautiful her hair looks in the sun...caress her cheek when you pass her chair...tell her how much her breasts turn you on...hug her as often as possible and run your hands along her body like a drunken sailor...take her on a date once a week where you look into her eyes and tell stupid jokes and make her laugh and tell her how lucky you are to have her in your life...

Show her that, to you, she's the most beautiful and beloved woman in the world.

If you treat your lady like she's special to you outside the bedroom, she'll trust you and relax inside the bedroom.

 

[blue112]

I bend over backwards trying to make her feel special

 

[SweetErika]

If you're trying your best and willing to do whatever you can to please her, you're doing your fair share to make it work. Why isn't she willing to start fresh from this point on? It might not be easy, but it's certainly not impossible. If you haven't already, ask her if she's willing to let go of the past and start exploring with you now. If she isn't, you need to ask yourself if you really want to be in a relationship with someone who looks at the past instead of the future.