Am I wasting my time?

[collar_corset]

I've been seeing this guy for a few months now, he lives about a hundred miles away and he's currently visiting me for a week.

He's 7 years younger than me, and a virgin and as yet we haven't managed to have sex yet, although he did spank me beautifully the other day which made me very happy

I decided last night that enough was enough (big mistake) and he then told me he had problems getting horny. I do and don't want to talk about it with him, but the worst part is I think I am in serious danger of falling in love with him, but cannot live without sex.

He's fantastic in other ways, he's a great kisser, he helps me out around the house, he's quiet and he's very skilled with his hands but I don't know if it's going to be enough.

Another problem is I'm bloody moving in 5 days (which I only found out very recently ) so we don't have the time to just relax and enjoy each other.

It also doesn't help that I can't control myself, and short of being tied to the bed (oh gods, I wish) I can't keep my hands off him.

I'm so bloody frustrated

 

[shiny5437]

I decided last night that enough was enough (big mistake) and he then told me he had problems getting horny. I do and don't want to talk about it with him (

Couple of questions - firstly when he says problems getting horny do you mean physically eg get an erection, or in a more general sense of getting turned on, passionate, lustful, etc.

Secondly "I do and don't want to talk about it with him" - not sure what you mean by this?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Open, non-judgemental discussion is the only way forwards here. If you go into a long distance thing with this guy while these issues are unresolved there'll only be resentment and disappointment down the line. Presumably your man would prefer not to have trouble getting aroused (whatever he specifically means by that) so maybe a check-up with his GP is the next obvious step, to rule out any medical issues. If he won't even agree to that, I think you're on to a non-starter here. You can be supportive and understanding but you can't force him to confront issues that he doesn't want to address.

 

[RawHumor]

If you mean that your sexual level is that much higher than his (e.g. you're highly sexual and hes' very much not), then I'm afraid I'd have to suggest moving on, because that won't likely ever change, and you'll wind up even more frustrated.

 

[collar_corset]

Couple of questions - firstly when he says problems getting horny do you mean physically eg get an erection, or in a more general sense of getting turned on, passionate, lustful, etc.

Secondly "I do and don't want to talk about it with him" - not sure what you mean by this?

Well, it was really an erection problem, but it seems to have rectified itself! The irony is, I used to spend a lot of money on sexy undies and a pair of white cotton knickers from Primark seemed to do the trick. Although, once the condom went on it went a bit downhill!

Secondly, I do want to talk about it, but I don't want to come across as a sex maniac, even though I know he does know that I am.

Things are getting better, now I need to practise putting condoms on again

 

[xander1083]

you better talk to him very seriously on that matter

 

[infinity706]

Well, it was really an erection problem, but it seems to have rectified itself! The irony is, I used to spend a lot of money on sexy undies and a pair of white cotton knickers from Primark seemed to do the trick. Although, once the condom went on it went a bit downhill!

Secondly, I do want to talk about it, but I don't want to come across as a sex maniac, even though I know he does know that I am.

Things are getting better, now I need to practise putting condoms on again

Well, you could place it on the tip and roll it on with your mouth. That would certainly help things along.

 

[silverwhisper]

collar corset, without knowing your age, the age difference you mention isn't terribly meaningful.

how long have you actually known this guy?

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