anal fascination

[stale]

I think my wife is getting a little distrot because I seem to have a growing anal fascination. I don't view it as a problem, but more and more I find that I can't get off unless I've got my wife's sweet butt staring me down. Actually I should restate that when I've got full view, I almost explode. My wife lets me have anal sex (or our best attempt at it) as my birthday present, and since the one and only time, I keep reliving the joy.

Is this unhealthy? Or is there some way I can make things better with my wife?

Don't get me wrong, we are still happily married, and have a healthy sex life. I just don't want her to think that the only way I find her erotic is thru the backdoor.

 

[Bobmi357]

I think my wife is getting a little distrot because I seem to have a growing anal fascination. I don't view it as a problem, but more and more I find that I can't get off unless I've got my wife's sweet butt staring me down. Actually I should restate that when I've got full view, I almost explode. My wife lets me have anal sex (or our best attempt at it) as my birthday present, and since the one and only time, I keep reliving the joy.

Is this unhealthy? Or is there some way I can make things better with my wife?

Don't get me wrong, we are still happily married, and have a healthy sex life. I just don't want her to think that the only way I find her erotic is thru the backdoor.

Fixation, obsession, what ever you want to call it, its not really a healthy thing. During my first marriage, my wife gave me a total of 2 blowjobs that lasted for about 20 seconds each. The sensations where totally unlike anything I had experienced before. And since she had been the ONLY woman I had been with, I fixated on those sensations. It was an unhealthy fixation and served as yet another sour point festering between us. Especially since I would give her oral sex and she never reciprocated.

When I met my second wife, and had my first real blowjob in my life, I was astounded. But I quickly realized that blowjobs are not the end all, be all, of existance. My wife's blowjobs are something to be cherished and while I do wish she'd do it more often, I wouldn't get angry or annoyed if she didn't.

The point here is to realize that its not good to fixate on just one aspect of your sex life or your partner. Your wife is more than a collection of parts for you to enjoy. And thats part of the problem we men have. We tend to have trouble seeing beyond the boobs, or the cute butt and seeing the person. Spend a more effort in pleasing her and if she's a normal sane individual (and I assume she is), she'll realize what you're doing and reciprocate by spending more time pleasing you.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

Bobmi357 speaks the truth!

I have the same issue as Stale, in fact my wife actually noted this over the summer. Our sex life has never burned up the highways, as there is a huge gap in our sex drive and sexual curiosity. And I have had an ass fascination for as long as I can remember. But over this past summer, when our sex life was picking up again after a 3 month drought, we had anal sex 3 times in one month and my wife noted that she felt I was becoming a bit too focused on it. She felt I had an 'agenda' each time we were having sex and despite my protestations, I knew deep down that I wanted anal sex as often as possible and thought it could happen almost every time. I thought she was enjoying it as much as I, but I was wrong, she said it really does nothing for her. She rarely complained about rimming or fingering until afterwards and then seemed like she would shift her ass away from my tongue or fingers when they entered that area. I am bit bummed by it.

I have never been a guy who would force someone to do something they don't like, but the other side is that in a committed relationship, sexually speaking, it often happens that one partner will indulge the other, even if it a specific act is not their favorite (whether it's oral, anal, lingerie, toys, etc), so why not with this?

I find many apsects of my wife sexy. She does not find herself sexy, I am trying to help her with that. But still, it is the ass for me which does it best and I don't see that changing any time soon!