Anal sex, reality v pornography depiction

[Treeview]

The sensations, the nerve endings, being so full… always a slow start but fuckkkk when it gets going - I like it hard and deep. I’ve had many anal partners and not many have the right patience or technique right.
I do wear a plug most of the time too which helps

The Lovers who have liked anal tell me that guys need to let the Lady do what she likes and guys do what you’re told.

 

[grumpyoldperv]

My wife has only done it a few times in the last 20+ years. The last time, I had her get on top cowgirl style. i pulled her cheeks apart as she controlled the entry. Slowly, she took more each stroke until I was fully buried in her ass. Then she rode up and down at her own speed/depth. She said it hurt less but still refused ever to do it again. that was 10 years ago.

Now the side piece/cheating woman, she was very submissive. To the point of doing anything to make me happy. I often would use her pussy to lube my dick and then force it into her ass. She never once complained. Even though I knew it had to be painful, I kept waiting for her to say something. When I asked her about it, she simply said if that is what I wanted she would accept it.

 

[LMWM321]

My wife has taken me anally about 6 times in over 35 yrs of being together. And even though I'm extremely girthy (6 1/4" - about the girth of a tube formed by a dollar bill) it isn't outright painful. BUT it does take a lot of working up to it. ..Starting with a finger, then two, then three, then a butt plug, etc.. and nearly a full tube of lube. My wife very much enjoys having a finger in her ass, so I'm pretty sure that if my girth didn't necessitate so much foreplay and prep, she'd want anal sex fairly regularly. But since it does, it's a very rare activity for us.

As for myself (a straight man), I find the feeling of being pegged incredibly pleasurable. So much so, I have a hard time understanding why any guy wouldn't enjoy it. Assuming his partner goes slowly and uses lots of lube.

As for anal sex in Porn? Just awful... Ignore what you see... Porn is the absolute worse at informing people of what women like and of how men should behave during sex. I shudder when I think of a young, sexually-naive person peeking at Porn and coming away with the impression that women enjoy gagging on dicks till they nearly vomit, and that men behave like fucking brutes - angrily pounding away with a grimace on his face and a hand around the woman's neck... Ugh!!

Most porn makes sex look like an anger-fueled act for men and scary as fucking hell for women. Seriously.. the fucking worst - 99% of it, anyway.

 

[Luvloosepussy]

I have been with 19-20 women and have had anal with 8 or 9 most of those have been cheating spouses and a couple from my teenage years. The thing I have found is you have to go slow and methodical to start with and if you incorporate rimming and some fingering and take your time it is way more enjoyable for her and not she enjoys it she will let you do it again and again. I had two were total butt sluts and bot much prep for them one was a catholic girl who didn’t want the risk of getting pregnant so no vaginal with her only oral and anal and another one as a 40yo married woman who had always wanted anal but her husband thought it was nasty and she loved it.

As for the mess and the pain there may be a small bit of mess unless you have communicated and they have done a clean out and then it is pretty clean. Pain should be very minimal if you have prepped her there may be some slight stinging but nothing major.

I myself enjoy being pegged ALOT and have came just from it alone without touching my cock (thank goodness for an old gf on that )

What we don’t see in the porn is them getting themselves cleaned and stretched before they ever start. All we ever see is the fun part of a big thick cock sliding in and him pounding her. So you can’t really rely on porn at all. Though it is fun to watch watch and get everyone worked up and maybe into trying it

 

[Glassnslate]

I love anal sex!!! When it’s done right it’s incredible… lots of lube and take your time initially then fuck it hard and deep for me!!!

I love a DP with dildos and would love one for real

 

[StrongMaster7]

I do not have much experience in this area. However, porn star Nina Hartley does. She says that before any anal scene she prepares by taking TWO enemas to make sure she is empty.

Based on my limited experience, lube and patience are important. Having the ‘receiver’ relax is also VERY important.

My first time, I was going slowly trying not to hurt her. She got impatient and started telling me to ‘just shove it in’ and ‘make it hurt’. I did and she cried out in pain and told me she loved it. I wish I could have lasted more than three pumps.

 

[KatieKulka32]

IRL the cocks are more likely to be the size of an actual dick and not a police baton. It always seems like in porn the girl is taking a massive cock in her butt.

 

[Glassnslate]

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[CurvyCumslut75]

Did you get any volunteers to help with a real DP after posting this? Couldn’t help but smile when I read this.

Sadly not…

 

[Treeview]

Sadly not…

I’m ready Wish the Bat Jet was flight ready

 

[Glassnslate]

Sadly not…

My hand is up

 

[CurvyCumslut75]

My hand is up

My inbox is open…

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife's only anal experience was forced with no lube, and it was terribly painful. She shudders when it is mentioned.

 

[Cob083]

All I'm going to say is that you will be hard pressed to find any women that would be willing to do what those women you see in those porn scenes doing. They are doing so because they are being paid money to. They literally sleep with anyone and do anything for the dollar. This is why I advise other men to not watch porn because its not a reflection of real life.

 

[LMWM321]

This is why I advise other men to not watch porn because its not a reflection of real life.

There is nothing wrong with deriving pleasure from watching two people fucking. But so much of porn is highly problematic. For starters, misogyny and non-consent are widely regarded as loathsome behaviors IRL, but in Porn, they are normalized as kinks. And after watching enough of it, people become unfazed by it.

 

[Islander55]

One suggestion for women doing it for the first time. Have him sit in a chair and you mount him. You control the entry and the pace. Of course you still want lots of lube and need to relax your anus to take him in. The first time I did anal was doggy and the guy was on the smaller side so no problems. Anal is not something I do often but it can be a fun change of pace and I have had orgasms from just the anal fucking though usually I need to play with my clit.

 

[Mike130]

Of the roughly 50 women I’ve been with, about 5 have asked for anal. My last girlfriend was a bit loose, probably due to a well hung ex husband, so she actually preferred anal. Wife is not into it. I’m ambivalent but I like doggy, basically the same view.

 

[Glassnslate]

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[Live4themoments]

One suggestion for women doing it for the first time. Have him sit in a chair and you mount him. You control the entry and the pace. Of course you still want lots of lube and need to relax your anus to take him in. The first time I did anal was doggy and the guy was on the smaller side so no problems. Anal is not something I do often but it can be a fun change of pace and I have had orgasms from just the anal fucking though usually I need to play with my clit.

Another option for first timers is to do doggy style and have her push back into you, She can control the depth, how fast, how hard and so on at her own pace. Sometimes she pushes back into me, stops, holds still for several seconds, then push again. For me the most difficult thing is holding still, not pushing it into her when my natural urges tell me to. Of course, the next difficult thing may be not to cum until she is totally relaxed and grinding into me.

 

[Islander55]

Another option for first timers is to do doggy style and have her push back into you, She can control the depth, how fast, how hard and so on at her own pace. Sometimes she pushes back into me, stops, holds still for several seconds, then push again. For me the most difficult thing is holding still, not pushing it into her when my natural urges tell me to. Of course, the next difficult thing may be not to cum until she is totally relaxed and grinding into me.

 

[Treeview]

I do not have much experience in this area. However, porn star Nina Hartley does. She says that before any anal scene she prepares by taking TWO enemas to make sure she is empty.

Based on my limited experience, lube and patience are important. Having the ‘receiver’ relax is also VERY important.

My first time, I was going slowly trying not to hurt her. She got impatient and started telling me to ‘just shove it in’ and ‘make it hurt’. I did and she cried out in pain and told me she loved it. I wish I could have lasted more than three pumps.

If Nina. Hartley is talking I’m listening

 

[Glassnslate]

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[Islander55]

I like me mounting him as he has nothing to do but sit that and let me ride his cock. Often after I cum, we will need to change position so he can get off too. By then I am fully ready for him to fuck me.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Spooning can be a really good position to try anal as well.

This is my wife's preference for starting. Once she gets fully into it, we switch to other positions. She finds spooning most comfortable for the initial penetration.

 

[Live4themoments]

I like me mounting him as he has nothing to do but sit that and let me ride his cock. Often after I cum, we will need to change position so he can get off too. By then I am fully ready for him to fuck me.

I love the idea of me just sitting back, hands behind my head, eyes closed, doing nothing lol. Throw in a bag of chips resting on my chest and I'm all set. Wouldn't you need strong legs/thighs muscles to only go down a little at a time though?