Why do women like anal sex?

[Treeview]

Something that they are excited that a woman will do for them.

It's not about the taboo aspect of anal. Its about the rarity of anal sex

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Well in a more extreme example, a person who prefaces a racist comment with the phrase "I'm not racist, but..." might still very well be racist. Just because a person says a thing isn't a thing, doesn't mean it's not that thing.

Your wife can say there is no power dynamic but there is a power dynamic whenever you interact with a person. Factors of age, wealth and status always, no matter what, play a role in the way you interact with people in the world.

And my point is that submission in any case is degrading to varying degrees. And I don't think degradation and submission is inherently bad either. Just that when one person puts themselves in a dominant position of control over another, they are raising their profile while reducing the other's.

Well in a more extreme example, a person who prefaces a racist comment with the phrase "I'm not racist, but..." might still very well be racist. Just because a person says a thing isn't a thing, doesn't mean it's not that thing.

Your wife can say there is no power dynamic but there is a power dynamic whenever you interact with a person. Factors of age, wealth and status always, no matter what, play a role in the way you interact with people in the world.

And my point is that submission in any case is degrading to varying degrees. And I don't think degradation and submission is inherently bad either. Just that when one person puts themselves in a dominant position of control over another, they are raising their profile while reducing the other's.

Thats if you believe people people have different worths !! I for one believe people are actually all equal. We as humans have basically little worth in the long run . Virtual no human makes a difference in this world that matters 100 years later to society. So no one has power over me and I have 0 power over anyone unless they give it to me

 

[LMWM321]

Because I have confidence in myself as an educated woman who has studied this topic.

So, your response to this ?

She asserts that there are nerves around the anus and deep within that have NO known purpose other than sexual arousal. And this is FAR from the first time I've heard this point being made.

Why do women get out of anal sex

 

[Britva415]

it's likely to be quite painful regardless of the amount of lube and it won't give her any pleasure on its own. How is that not degrading?

Well, sometimes the situation doesn’t match what you’re describing. Maybe you aren’t one of those people who can do it without pain and with pleasure, but we exist, and don’t find it degrading. Not to do it nor to receive it. What if you allowed us to tell our lived experience, instead of projecting degradation onto people who don’t experience it.

 

[mousberry]

So, your response to this ?

She asserts that there are nerves around the anus and deep within that have NO known purpose other than sexual arousal. And this is FAR from the first time I've heard this point being made.

Why do women get out of anal sex

You have nerves all over your body. The existence of nerves in and around the anus doesn't demand that it be seen as a sexual organ. The sexual pleasure is projected by the imagination, which involves some level of submission and domination.

Thats if you believe people people have different worths !! I for one believe people are actually all equal. We as humans have basically little worth in the long run . Virtual no human makes a difference in this world that matters 100 years later to society. So no one has power over me and I have 0 power over anyone unless they give it to me

A person larger than you with more muscles has more power than you. I believe everyone should be treated equally too but real life doesn't always play out that way.

 

[liqueur]

I have no idea who these people are or what they say. Their existence as 'feminists' doesn't mean anything to me personally.

No, of course you don't. If you were on FetLife, you could find them yourself. If you aren't, then even if I did the research for you, and sent you links, you still couldn't see them because it's a members-only site.

The reason— the only reason— I mentioned their feminism is because I don't think they would take kindly to being told that they couldn't simply enjoy anal sex; that if they enjoyed it, that would have to indicate they were harboring some secret submissive or degradative tendencies.

If you were able to relay their arguments that would be more helpful.

But that is the whole point, don't you see? They're not making “arguments.” They're simply stating what they like. Which in my opinion, is what you should be doing.

 

[mousberry]

No, of course you don't. If you were on FetLife, you could find them yourself. If you aren't, them even if I did the research for you, and sent you links, you still couldn't see them because it's a members-only site.

The reason— the only reason— I mentioned their feminism is because I don't think they would take kindly to being told that they couldn't simply enjoy anal sex; that if they enjoyed it, that would have to indicate they were harboring some secret submissive or degradative tendencies.

Erm I don't much care if they don't take kindly to it lol. I don't take kindly to men pretending their desire to perforate the anuses of women is some benevolent quest to generously donate their pleasure to the gentler sex.

Just to be clear because there is risk of someone misinterpreting, I don't think there is any issue as long as all parties are consenting but to pretend it's anything other than an expression of domination is dishonest and quite frankly manipulative.

 

[LMWM321]

I don't take kindly to men pretending their desire to perforate the anuses of women is some benevolent quest to generously donate their pleasure to the gentler sex.

Perforate? As in cause damage? Gross.

I think you should simply say it's not for you and call it a day.

 

[mousberry]

Perforate? As in cause damage? Gross.

I think you should simply say it's not for you and call it a day.

Assuming you don't have a very small penis you are doing damage every time you penetrate

 

[LMWM321]

Assuming you don't have a very small penis you are doing damage every time you penetrate

Not true. Where do you get this stuff? At this point I think your'e just a troll. Good bye

 

[mousberry]

Not true. Where do you get this stuff? At this point I think your'e just a troll. Good bye

You are forcing an object into a hole which is designed only for an exit. Small tears are common even with generous lubrication. Long term and repetitive anal sex risks weakening the sphincter. This is factual.

I feel sorry for the women that you have lied to in order to satisfy this fetish.

 

[Islander55]

Bingo

I take it that you appreciate a woman that will take it for her guy. I will say it is something I will not do for a large cock but am fine with average cocks.

 

[Islander55]

It's not about the taboo aspect of anal. Its about the rarity of anal sex

Is it really that rare. It seems that quite a few women will do it at least once in awhile.

 

[Treeview]

Is it really that rare. It seems that quite a few women will do it at least once in awhile.

FOrtunately, not too rare

 

[Islander55]

FOrtunately, not too rare

I take it you like to slip into her back door.

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Erm I don't much care if they don't take kindly to it lol. I don't take kindly to men pretending their desire to perforate the anuses of women is some benevolent quest to generously donate their pleasure to the gentler sex.

Just to be clear because there is risk of someone misinterpreting, I don't think there is any issue as long as all parties are consenting but to pretend it's anything other than an expression of domination is dishonest and quite frankly manipulative.

Liberal psychobabble

 

[mousberry]

Liberal psychobabble

Grow up

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Erm I don't much care if they don't take kindly to it lol. I don't take kindly to men pretending their desire to perforate the anuses of women is some benevolent quest to generously donate their pleasure to the gentler sex.

Just to be clear because there is risk of someone misinterpreting, I don't think there is any issue as long as all parties are consenting but to pretend it's anything other than an expression of domination is dishonest and quite frankly manipulative.

Thankfully you speak for all women so the godamn men here get it

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Grow up

Not much time left for me to do that thanks I’ll try but

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Grow up

You should start a post about all the things you speak for the women of the world

 

[mousberry]

You should start a post about all the things you speak for the women of the world

Next time my dog is hungry I'll be sure to ask your opinion

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Next time my dog is hungry I'll be sure to ask your opinion

Seriously?? Tell us all you speak for women us dumb fuck men need your help

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

No fucking way that’s the only thing you speak for them??? No way

 

[Pavlovsdog6862]

Please enlighten us

 

[Treeview]

I take it you like to slip into her back door.

Yes....any time I can