Anal sex, reality v pornography depiction

[Burstplayer]

You raise an interesting point… That men, including straight men, seem to enjoy something going up their butt more than women do.

If I were to ask my wife if I could fuck her ass, there would be 50 no’s before there is a yes. But if she asked if she could pegg me, my answer every time would be, "of course you can - we'll do it tonight.” Actually, I'd be willing to stop whatever I'm doing and do it that very moment

Why do you suppose that is?

I'd say it's mostly the prostate and the unique pleasure it produces to just men, once you understand it, embrace it and crave it. The other factor I think is that I've found men are just more willing and adventurous sex partners than woman as a whole, not all obviously.

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Have you considered that the other 97+ just didn't enjoy anal sex - with you?
But enjoyed it otherwise.

Not suggesting that has been the case for an instant, but a 'hit rate' of less than 3% does seem unusually low.

Wouldn't know as I didn't have anal sex with any of those women. It wasn't something I ever suggested with any of my sexual partners because I was never bothered about it. Anal is very much a 'take it or leave it' sex act for me. If the woman wants to do it, I'm happy to oblige, but it's a long way down the pecking order.
There's also the fact that the majority of my sexual partners were one night stands, I haven't had 100+ girlfriends. I wouldn't imagine the majority of women look to get fucked in the ass on their first sexual encounter with someone, let alone someone they'd only met that night.

 

[LeeKee]

I've often wondered whether the way sex acts in porn reflect any form of reality.
I find anal a particularly interesting subject, as a heterosexual man who has been with quite a few more than 100 women, I've only ever been with 3 who genuinely enjoyed anal intercourse (for one lady it was second only to giving head as her favorite).
What are the experiences of others?

of the women ive been with, more liked or wanted it than didnt. And the didnt category was only like 25% so...told me alot.

 

[klippert]

Porn is a movie.. scripted... preparation. reality. 90% heat of the moment..

 

[Glassnslate]

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[lowcollar]

The ease of anal usually depends on your experience level. I have been pegged hundreds of times. She can just shove it in if it's lubed well. I have been with three women who loved it when they were in the right mood.

 

[AlleeDreap]

I used to assume it worked like it does in sex anime—effortless, instant, and super clean—but the reality was way different. My partner and I had to learn the hard way that communication, real prep, and going slow are everything. Porn doesn’t show the clumsy parts, so a lot of expectations get built on myths. We laughed through most of our first try because it was so far from the fantasy.

 

[BillyWalrus]

The ease of anal usually depends on your experience level. I have been pegged hundreds of times. She can just shove it in if it's lubed well. I have been with three women who loved it when they were in the right mood.

Quite right. It's not that big a deal. A little lube and then up the ass!

 

[HampshireBoy]

This is my wife's preference for starting. Once she gets fully into it, we switch to other positions. She finds spooning most comfortable for the initial penetration.

This was exactly my experience with a FWB, who was the first woman I successfully fucked in the arse. We were spooning, she positioned my cock and told me to push gently, after some resistance I slipped in easy. She really enjoyed the difference and it became a regular thing, often spoon fuck first then change position. As to mess, we had my semen flow out of her bum afterwards mixed with faecal matter and make a mess a couple of times but that was it. She did normally feel the need to go the toilet pretty soon afterwards.

 

[BlueChamisa]

Somewhat to my surprise, given the number of women (and some men) I’ve been with, I’ve only had anal sex with my wife of almost 30 years (I was always interested in anal, but thanks to childhood conditioning I believed ALL my sexual desires were terrible and women only “put up” with sex because they have to; no surprise I never asked).

My wife loves it, and comes especially hard with my cock in her ass and a big dildo in her pussy while using a vibe (on her stomach). But we only do maybe 4-5 times a year because, as she says, “it’s a production.”

Going slow and gradually, using tons of lube (I’m 7 inches long and almost 6 1/2 inches in girth) and ALWAYS going at her pace, according to what she needs and wants.

Almost always, by the time she’s reaching orgasm, she really WANTS me to go hard, as in (mostly boring, phony and misogynistic) anal porn, and by the time I’m coming, it’s a wild ride.

I would love her to peg me. But she says “it’s too violent”?!? She will use dildos by hand, but I still crave being fucked by her (and at some point, a man … working on it).

 

[KentBloke63]

I love anal sex!!! When it’s done right it’s incredible… lots of lube and take your time initially then fuck it hard and deep for me!!!

I love a DP with dildos and would love one for real

My ex wife, the same. Once she’d relaxed into it, bang as hard and as fast as possible..

 

[TonyF862]

I don't know why everyone keeps mentioning the mess and the pain. If there is a mess and pain, you are doing something wrong. I have been fucked in the ass by my gf many times and there is a little discomfort at the beginning but no pain. Never any mess either.

Do you have a specific way you prep?

 

[BillyWalrus]

Do you have a specific way you prep?

Most of the time I am very clean so I don't need to do anything at all. She puts a little lube on her cock and shoves it in.

The few times where I feel I might not be, I use a bulb syringe to shoot some water up my ass. That will usually clean anything out that is up there. If necessary I repeat the process until the water comes back out clean.

 

[TonyF862]

Most of the time I am very clean so I don't need to do anything at all. She puts a little lube on her cock and shoves it in.

The few times where I feel I might not be, I use a bulb syringe to shoot some water up my ass. That will usually clean anything out that is up there. If necessary I repeat the process until the water comes back out clean.

I think some/many of us find we are not clean “most of the time” and require much more prep.

I have yet to find the exact timing. I’ve tried the technique you described (this seems to to help for sure , but can just make me feel bloated, and can often lead to additional BM’s). I’ve fried high fiber the day before, etc.

 

[BillyWalrus]

I think some/many of us find we are not clean “most of the time” and require much more prep.

I have yet to find the exact timing. I’ve tried the technique you described (this seems to to help for sure , but can just make me feel bloated, and can often lead to additional BM’s). I’ve fried high fiber the day before, etc.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7318623/

 

[JT1999]

It always feels like a lot of effort but I enjoy it on the odd occasion we do it. I need the bullet vibe though. It was always one of those things I didn't want to try, then after seeing it in porn and hearing about other people enjoying it I thought I'd like to at least see what the fuss was about. Normal PIV sex is better.

 

[KinkStevens]

Gotta love a good butt fuck.