Are you dominant or submissive

[msub50some]

Also very submissive, though I doubt that comes as a surprise to anyone.

 

[vidmin]

sub bottom bi guy here

 

[Lars_F]

Interesting my math seems to show more sub than dom here. Is being sub the better fantasy?

 

[Gentledom45]

Very much Dom

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Interesting my math seems to show more sub than dom here. Is being sub the better fantasy?

My theory is that submissive men are more likely to post in these kinds of threads, partly as a way of advertising themselves and increasing their chances of finding a partner.

Dominant men seem to have less of a need to advertise.

 

[Lars_F]

My theory is that submissive men are more likely to post in these kinds of threads, partly as a way of advertising themselves and increasing their chances of finding a partner.

Dominant men seem to have less of a need to advertise.

That makes sense, I am a little new to the D/s scene. Trying to learn and understand.

I assume by partner you mean Dom.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

That makes sense, I am a little new to the D/s scene. Trying to learn and understand.

I assume by partner you mean Dom.

Welcome, Lars! This is a good place to learn.

Yes. Dom for a male, Domme for a female. submissives always seem to outnumber dominants.

 

[Lars_F]

Welcome, Lars! This is a good place to learn.

Yes. Dom for a male, Domme for a female. submissives always seem to outnumber dominants.

Thank you, it seems there may be a need for caring active Doms or Dommes. I would think most men want Domme. Where I bet woman are open to either.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

Sexually dominate. Very laid back outside of the bedroom.

 

[mboy69]

I'm a submissive muscular slave

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

As an aside, Lars, you may get more interaction if you put some key information in your signature. Women especially like to know a little bit about who they're talking to beforehand.

Try something short but helpful like,

Late-20's bi male, currently exploring D/s from both sides of the slash.

~OR~

Mid-30's straight male, curious about femdom and male submission in the bedroom.

~OR~

Early 40's male, interested in discovering what it takes to be a Dom, and what makes a lifestyle relationship work.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Sexually dominate. Very laid back outside of the bedroom.

Not to be a cunt, but 'dominate' is a verb. Dominant is an adjective, and the correct word for this context.

 

[Lars_F]

As an aside, Lars, you may get more interaction if you put some key information in your signature. Women especially like to know a little bit about who they're talking to beforehand.

Try something short but helpful like,

Late-20's bi male, currently exploring D/s from both sides of the slash.

~OR~

Mid-30's straight male, curious about femdom and male submission in the bedroom.

~OR~

Early 40's male, interested in discovering what it takes to be a Dom, and what makes a lifestyle relationship work.

Thank you. Will add a little something to help things along. I was trying to add something to my profile but that does not work. going to steal and adapt part..thank you. Would love to PM for more help .

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

Not to be a cunt, but 'dominate' is a verb. Dominant is an adjective, and the correct word for this context.

Voice text. It happens.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Voice text. It happens.

But they're pronounced differently.

 

[KentuckyDom1971]

But they're pronounced differently.

Lol. Voice text isn’t that accurate.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Lol. Voice text isn’t that accurate.

Wow, I guess not!

 

[OldbutHorny]

Dominant.

 

[Wishingbox]

I’m not sure yet. I haven’t been in a relationship that explores this. Though I’d probably lean more sub from what I can tell.

 

[Farawyn]

Not to be a cunt, but 'dominate' is a verb. Dominant is an adjective, and the correct word for this context.

You cunt.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

You cunt.

Twat

 

[Blue]

My theory is that submissive men are more likely to post in these kinds of threads, partly as a way of advertising themselves and increasing their chances of finding a partner.

Dominant men seem to have less of a need to advertise.

If that is true it might be down to the the increased scarcity of what those men are looking for. More demand = stronger competition = more advertising.

It was a while ago but I read some study on psychology today that surveyed people (I remember that it excluded switches so the results will obviously be a bit off) who self-described as into all this and something like 96% of female respondents said they were exclusively submissive and the figure for men was about 25%. If we assume that figure totally accurately reflects reality, and there's an equal number of men and women involved in bdsm, and everybody is straight, then it would mean there's only enough theoretically applicable partners for 20% of the S-Male demographic while for D-Males there's an excess supply of candidates.

Even though I really doubt those figures I just gave are anywhere close to reality I wouldn't be at all surprised if it turned out there is more in-group competition between submissive men than dominant men which might be why you see more adverts from them.

 

[Lars_F]

If that is true it might be down to the the increased scarcity of what those men are looking for. More demand = stronger competition = more advertising.

It was a while ago but I read some study on psychology today that surveyed people (I remember that it excluded switches so the results will obviously be a bit off) who self-described as into all this and something like 96% of female respondents said they were exclusively submissive and the figure for men was about 25%. If we assume that figure totally accurately reflects reality, and there's an equal number of men and women involved in bdsm, and everybody is straight, then it would mean there's only enough theoretically applicable partners for 20% of the S-Male demographic while for D-Males there's an excess supply of candidates.

Even though I really doubt those figures I just gave are anywhere close to reality I wouldn't be at all surprised if it turned out there is more in-group competition between submissive men than dominant men which might be why you see more adverts from them.

I think this may come down to some old school traditional male female roles. I think in a survey most men would say they were Dominant because they feel they should be ( a little like going to the doctor and saying they are fine). And a lot of women may say they are submissive for a lot of the same reason. In talking to people it seems when actually in the throws of the scene (sorry if that is not correct) they are more willing to assume a less traditional role to what society has taught them. Submissive male and Dominant females. I think the need for female attention for some men would lead them to advertise more.

In here (Lit) I think a certain amount of anonymity give men the chance to be submissive and reach out for that attention.

Just a thoughts based on some conversations and some reading, I am no way any type of expert only some thought as I try to learn more.

 

[sazzyslut69]

I refer to myself as a slut... defo submissive!

 

[BadAmy]

Depends on who I speak with.