Are you dominant or submissive

[LouisianaWild]

I tend to be submissive. My happiness is pleasing my partner. With that though I can be dominant. If my partner wants certain things that would make me the dominant one I will because it makes them happy. But, if I had to choose...submissive.

 

[Mei5ter]

Neither of these is a label which would define me usefully. But, on balance, I'd say yes.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I'm domissive.

Submissant?

Yes.

Neither of these is a label which would define me usefully. But, on balance, I'd say yes.

Interesting. I wonder if it varies based on the nature of the relationship?
My wife was extremely submissive and attracted to bad boy types of men who used her and treated her badly. With me, she’s pushy and demanding. Go figure.

People generally seek polarity in their relationships. I often find myself unintentionally moving into my masculine energy with men I feel couldn't dominate me, or pushing men I wish would dominate me. It's not particularly healthy, obviously, I need to be more self-aware and use my words. But the point is that someone I perceive as being too close to me on the spectrum triggers me to move away from that place in order to attain polarity and thus, balance.

 

[steve6161]

I enjoy being submissive and being dominant more fun that why

 

[Acktion]

I’m not YOUR sub. I’m his. It’s rare I get into that stage where I want to let go my control. When I do, I’m all in. Devoted.

It was the pineapple on my pizza while wearing my white "roach killers" wasn't it?

 

[Bewleybrother]

Wi-fi

 

[Acktion]

Interesting. I wonder if it varies based on the nature of the relationship?
My wife was extremely submissive and attracted to bad boy types of men who used her and treated her badly. With me, she’s pushy and demanding. Go figure.

Just saw this...

I don't know, other than "it's complicated."

My wife of two and a half decades was first married to a man for just short of two decades who abused her psychologically and emotionally as well as physically when he wasn't neglecting her. Like so many do who are raised to that and believe it is their lot in this life.

I've been told I put off... maybe not "bad boy" so much as "dangerous" vibe at first blush. (Which I don't understand since I'm just a big marshmallow. A pineapple-flavored marshmallow. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.)

But, once she came under my care and tutelage, she blossomed. Going back to college to get her B.A. Taking on an actual career with a plan and goals versus the jobs she'd settled for to get a paycheck up to that point.

However, here's the kicker. Two kickers.

First, he wasn't into BDSM at all but was more vanilla than DQ soft-serve. He was just an egocentric abusive ass who had little thought for anyone or anything beyond himself.

Second, after she surrendered to my care and tutelage, absolutely no one else would have ever guessed that "The Iron Bitch" even could submit.

(Well, except for one gal she told tales out of school to. Which ended up maybe backfiring a bit when that one came out of our shower and dropped her towel and begged me to teach her. )

(Or maybe not, since I've long been suspicious about certain factors involved there...)

Any road, my point (as much as I ever have one) is that I'm not sure it can be simplified as the concatenation of factors is just too sweeping and broad. She fought back (as well as she could) against her family growing up and him during her first marriage, only to relax into my Mastery like a purring kitten.

 

[Replicant2018]

I enjoy being an online sub . Quite the release

 

[ThePhun1]

Ditto

I am a hetroflexable male switch with strong submissive tendencies
At least that is what all those tests tell me
Sometimes it is very liberating to be a slut

 

[ThePhun1]

Can good little sluts Earn extra credit Sir?

ha looks like topping from the bottom to me,however bonus points for politeness

 

[KinzyTaylor]

.....

 

[ofmu55]

Dom, specifically a sadistic one.

 

[aya_amano]

I'm very submissive...

but I will only obey when I trust the other person. When I do, I comply with almost everything he'll ask me to do.

 

[AshleeP96]

I am a natural submissive. I agree that trust is necessary for the fulfillment of both and for safety, but once I have that with someone I’ll do just about anything they tell me to do. My only rule going in - consenting adult humans - which is kind of a no brainer. Aside from that, I’m up for anything. I think that’s what makes me a good sub.

 

[SunshineSam218]

I am submissive, I learned this a few years ago. Just was too embarrassed to admit this because of the way I was brought up....

My father was always very very strict and constantly brought up religion and anytime something aroused me, I felt guilty for liking it and tried to push the thought away. No matter what I did, the thoughts kept getting more intense and it was hard for me to ignore.

I'm very accepting of it now. I've never tried anything as of yet, but I would love to someday, online or in real life. Right now I'm just being patient until I find that person who I can connect with and feel safe with.

 

[Phun4u2]

Submissive or dominant?

Submissive if that's okay.

 

[Writer20]

Dominant

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Sexy flexy, baby!

 

[brittneydanger]

Very submissive. I like to thrown on the bed, tossed around and be dominated by more than 1 person.

 

[SouthFloridaDom]

Hello

Dominant

 

[MysteriousRyu]

I'm a Switch

 

[Feather0121]

Submissive all the way

 

[Goldenfinger]

Submissive

 

[jerryb1966]

Definitely a Dom

 

[Gln1517]

I have been both but find I am far more relaxed in subspace. I sometimes have surprised myself at how far I have gone while being submissive.