Are you dominant or submissive

[Just2Kinky]

I am more submissive... most of the time.
On a rare day, I can switch but the problem is that I suck at being dominant.
Rather be told what to do by partners of any gender.

 

[MuscleDaddy]

I am definitely dominant. One of the things I’ve never been able to work out to my own satisfaction is how much of that is my inherent personality and how much os a response to events in my childhood…. Anytime my sex life it has involved having someone else in control leads to panic attacks.

 

[Goldenfinger]

Definitely submissive. Didn’t know I could get more submissive than I was.

 

[dawn0282]

For the right very specific type of guy I can be submissive both in and out of the bedroom. But, in general, I have too strong of a personality to be anything but bossy with a guy outside the bedroom and I find myself topping from the bottom in the bedroom, because I still crave a semblance of submission, even if I am orchestrating. I'm a control freak in my day to day life and find I need control taken to really enjoy myself to the fullest.

 

[trevorness]

I was reminded of how submission turns me on today getting a haircut, and my stylist, a tall solid gal with buzzed hair would turn me head this way and that, tell me not to move. Oh right I like that…

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

I was reminded of how submission turns me on today getting a haircut, and my stylist, a tall solid gal with buzzed hair would turn me head this way and that, tell me not to move. Oh right I like that…

Oh yeah, I'd hope she'd wrap the neck strip real tight and tell me how she was going to cut it. Or better still, just get to it and let the result speak for itself!

 

[Tinyharold46]

Definitely submissive, whatever and however you want.

 

[JamieJ424]

I tend to be submissive. It is something I am working on.

This is an interesting reply. It implies submissiveness is a weakness. I definitely don’t see it that way at all.

It’s about control. Dominants want to have it, submissives want to relinquish it. Neither is inherently better or stronger than the other, and both should have an underlying desire to please their partner.

Dominance is not inherently rough or violent or cruel or demeaning. And submission is not inherently weak or subservient or meek or fearful. They CAN be those things, but that is up to the partners and how they want to structure their dynamic. And it can change daily, hourly, yearly.

Personally, I identify as a dominant. For me it stems from a desire to take care of someone else’s needs, nurture and guide, snd yes, control. It’s not, as I said, a strength, but rather a pattern of brokenness. I am completely uncoachable and unreceptive to direction because I always think I know better. I’m unable to passively receive care or affection, I have to claim it, take it, direct it. In the bedroom, if my partner does anything I haven’t specifically instructed, I am unable to respond to it. To a vanilla lover I am a giant asshole, which is why I absolutely need a submissive partner.

 

[Subb_7]

Submissive

 

[Queenserena]

Submissive

Definitely Dominant

 

[arrogantslut]

I seem to good both ways. More submissive with men but dominant with certain ladies.

 

[Dom70]

gentleman dominant

 

[Spanky1372]

Dominant gentleman

 

[Just2Kinky]

Submissive to men and women. Moreso to bossy women, but willing to be TOLD what to do by both.

 

[Nevadasubby]

I have tried being a switch but am more comfortable being submissive

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Most definitely submissive

I can feel my mind and body resonate whenever I find myself in the presence of a strong woman, and that goes back to include certain teachers I had 70 years ago in grade school! I hear a humming in my ears and a weakness in my joints whenever I'm with women like that, and I feel a great need to gratefully accept humiliation from one in exchange for experiencing how she exerts that dominance over me.

Had I not met my wife when I did, I now wonder how I might have survived just trying to exist on the edge of something like that.

 

[nutoseen]

Both.

 

[wallstreetguy]

Very, very Dominant.

 

[SeeMeRolling]

I am coming to realize that I am more of a switch. I am also coming to realize that the only opportunities to experience either “side” is online. Which while it has it moments and can be enjoyable, isnt really fulfilling.

Which leaves me with a conundrum. Is it worth seeking out online fulfillment when at some point it will leave me wanting more?

Just once I would like to experience what my avatar conveys, but I really think that is just going to be a fantasy in my mind.

 

[Miss_Leo]

Mostly submissive but I like to switch for a change or if I'm in mood to be in control.

 

[Pad_Foot]

Switch w/o humiliation

 

[ClitlickerMaster]

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[jaysonfrommars_del]

This is an interesting reply. It implies submissiveness is a weakness. I definitely don’t see it that way at all.

It’s about control. Dominants want to have it, submissives want to relinquish it. Neither is inherently better or stronger than the other, and both should have an underlying desire to please their partner.

Dominance is not inherently rough or violent or cruel or demeaning. And submission is not inherently weak or subservient or meek or fearful. They CAN be those things, but that is up to the partners and how they want to structure their dynamic. And it can change daily, hourly, yearly.

Personally, I identify as a dominant. For me it stems from a desire to take care of someone else’s needs, nurture and guide, snd yes, control. It’s not, as I said, a strength, but rather a pattern of brokenness. I am completely uncoachable and unreceptive to direction because I always think I know better. I’m unable to passively receive care or affection, I have to claim it, take it, direct it. In the bedroom, if my partner does anything I haven’t specifically instructed, I am unable to respond to it. To a vanilla lover I am a giant asshole, which is why I absolutely need a submissive partner.

^^^^^ THIS RIGHT HERE IS PERFECT!!! ^^^^^

As someone who is primarily strongly dominant, I couldn’t agree more. Dominance and submission is about creating balance between the two. And you can only push your boundaries from a place of deep mutual respect and trust. A dom’s “ownership” of their sub also includes being responsible for their well being, including check-ins and aftercare. You can’t expect anyone to truly submit without complete trust.

 

[Miss_Leo]

^^^^^ THIS RIGHT HERE IS PERFECT!!! ^^^^^

As someone who is primarily strongly dominant, I couldn’t agree more. Dominance and submission is about creating balance between the two. And you can only push your boundaries from a place of deep mutual respect and trust. A dom’s “ownership” of their sub also includes being responsible for their well being, including check-ins and aftercare. You can’t expect anyone to truly submit without complete trust.

Then does being a dom means that you are in control of every areas regarding your sub, even taking control over their personal life?

 

[FrankLee99]

Dominant

Dominant